Indlela yokusiza umuntu isisulu somuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic : Isidingo sokusiza isisulu siwumuzwa womuntu ojulile. Yingakho sibona isidingo sokusiza umuntu ohluphekayo. Nawa amathiphu angcono kakhulu okwenza othandekayo wakho aphume ezintanjeni ze-narcissistic pervert.
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Ungasiza kanjani isisulu somuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic? 6 amathiphu
Nazi izindlela ezahlukene zokusiza a isisulu somuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic :
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UCristina unikeza iseshini yomuntu ngamunye ukukusiza uphume ekulawulweni okuhlukumezayo futhi wakhe impilo yakho kabusha.
- Vula amehlo esisulu
- Khetha ingxoxo ezolile ukuze uthole ukwethenjwa kwakhe
- Isikhumbuzo esiqhubekayo samaqiniso
- Yiba nesineke futhi unqume
- Gwema ukwahlulela isisulu
- Khuthaza futhi usekele isisulu ngesikhathi sokwakha kabusha
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1. Vula amehlo esisulu
Isisulu sivame ukuhamba abafuna ukuhlala ne-narcissistic pervert. Usekude nokuqaphela uhlangothi olunobuthi lomlingani wakhe. Yingakho umbono wangaphandle uwusizo. Uzokwazi ukuhlaziya isimo futhi ubhekane nesisulu ngesimo saso sangempela. Ukuze lokho, gwema izindlela zobudlova, ubuntu bakhe buthaka ngenxa ye-PN.
2. Khetha ingxoxo ezolile ukuze uthole ukwethenjwa nguye
Kudingeka uzinike isikhathi sokukhuluma nomuntu omthandayo. Lena indlela yokuthola ukwethenjwa kwabo ukuze bathulule isifuba kuwe. Uma inhliziyo yakhe isivulekile, menze axoxe ngesimo sakhe ukuze abone ukuthi empeleni ukusiphi isimo. Ungasheshi ukhethe amagama ozowasebenzisa ngobuhlakani.
3. Isikhumbuzi esiqhubekayo samaqiniso
Lokhu kuhilela ukugcina ingqondo yomngane wakho iphapheme. Kufanele wazi ukuthi nakuba ukwazile ukuvula amehlo esisulu, lokhu akwanele. Angangabaza ngisho noma amaqiniso ephambi kwamehlo akhe. Angase aqale ukuzizwa enecala futhi azikholelwe ukuthi unephutha ngokuqondene ne-PN. Yingakho-ke kumele umkhumbuze ngalokho ahlukumezeka khona ne-narcissist. Ungambonisa ukuthi kungani umkhohlisi we-narcissistic uyasizonda isisulu sakhe.
4. Yiba nesineke futhi unqume
Kungenzeka ukuthi usizo olunikeza isisulu luzotholwa ngendlela ehlukile. Ukusabela kwakhe kokuqala kuzoba ukukuxwaya, ufuna ukuhlala ephika. Ngakho-ke kufanele ume ngokuqinile noma ngabe amagama athile angalimaza. Umhlukumezi uzozama ukunikeza udumo kumhlukumezi wakhe kunawe.
5. Gwema ukwahlulela isisulu
Ungasheshi ekuthuthukeni kwakho futhi ungahluleli othandekayo wakho. Kulula ukungena kulolu gibe bese uthi isisulu siyisiwula kakhulu. Khumbula ukuthi isisulu ngumuntu ophukile ngokwengqondo. Ukuthi kufanele sibe nozwelo nesineke kuye.
6. Khuthaza futhi usekele isisulu ngesikhathi sokwakha kabusha
Uma isisulu sesikhululiwe ekubanjweni kwe-narcissistic pervert, ungayeki imizamo yakho. Kuleli qophelo, usizo lwakho lusazodingeka yisisulu. Yiqiniso, angaphendukela kusazi sokusebenza kwengqondo noma isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo, kufanele futhi azwe usizo kanye nokuba khona komuntu oseduze naye.
Ungasibona kanjani isisulu se-narcissistic pervert?
I-Narcissistic perversion yenza ngobuqili, njalo isemithunzini. Umuntu ohlanekezelwe uzobukeka emsulwa emphakathini. Uyofihla uhlangothi lwakhe olumnyama futhi enze okubi ethunzini. Isifihla-buso sakhe sigqokwa kahle kangangokuthi isisulu asikwazi ukubhoboza isilwane saso isikhathi eside. Nansi imikhondo okufanele uyiqaphele:
- Isisulu sizoba kude kakhulu nabathandekayo baso. Ngakho-ke inkululeko yakhe inciphe kakhulu.
- Ubuntu bakhe buya ngokuya busulwa. Kancane kancane ulahlekelwa ubuyena.
- Ushintsho olukhulu ebuntwini luyokwenzeka, ukhathazeka kakhulu.
- Izinkinga zokukhathazeka, ukucindezeleka noma izifo zengqondo ingavela kumuntu.
- Ukuphazamiseka okuthile kwengqondo kulandela ukusetshenziswa kwezindlela ezithile ezifana ukukhanyisa igesi kusuka ku-PN kungase kuvele.
Ungalindi i-SOS eqondile evela kumhlukunyezwa ukuthi ithathe isinyathelo.
Iluphi usizo olunganikezwa isisulu somuntu ohlanekezelekayo we-narcissistic?
Ngakho, ungamsiza kanjani umuntu oyisisulu sokukhohlisa? Kulokhu, kunezinhlobo ezahlukene zosizo ezingenzeka:
- Lalelisisa, kumele ube yisilaleli esihle ukuze wazi isimo somuntu ohlukunyeziwe. Laba bakamuva bangaba nobunzima ngoba bavame ukuba nokudideka okukhulu.
- Gcina ukuma kwakho kunobungani ngangokunokwenzeka ukuze ungadonseli ukunaka komnakekeli kuwe. Ukuziveza ngokuqondile njengophikisana ne-PN kuzobenza basolise nakakhulu.
- Nikeza isisulu indawo lapho bengakwazi ukuzakha kabusha. Ukumsiza aphume ehhokweni lakhe akwanele, kubalulekile ukuba khona ukuze umsize avuke.
Yini ongayisho kumuntu othandekayo oyisisulu se-narcissistic pervert?
Ezikhathini ezibucayi kanjalo, ngezinye izikhathi kuba nzima ukuthola igama elifanele. Ngempela, kufanele ube nobuhlakani, ngoba izisulu zinobuntu bazo. Ngakho-ke, indlela yokusiza owesifazane oyisisulu se-narcissistic pervert izohluka endleleni yecala lendoda. Kodwa nansi imisho embalwa yokuqala ukuguqulwa nesisulu:
- Yini ofuna ukukhuluma ngayo, yini ekukhathazayo kakhulu okwamanje?
- Uzizwa kanjani “ngegama lembuka”?
- Ingabe uyazibika izinguquko esimweni sakho?
- Ingabe ujabule ngempela?
Ubani ongaba isisulu somuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic?
Ayikho iphrofayili yangempela yesisulu edinga usizo olukhethekile. I-narcissist izokhetha isisulu esithandayo. Umkhohlisi, nokho, uzovuna abantu abanemibandela ethile.
- Abantu abaphethe i-aura enhle namandla aqinile.
- Labo abangenangqondo nabathanda ngokuzithandela, futhi ikakhulukazi labo abathintekayo savior syndrome (nansi a ukuhlolwa kwe-savior syndrome). I-manipulator izothatha ukubonakala komuntu obuthakathaka.
- Abantu abahlukanisiwe nabasulwa. Ubunzima buzoba ngaphansi nakakhulu ku-narcissist kuleli cala.
Ingabe singashintsha noma siphathe i-narcissistic pervert?
Ukufuna ukwelapha umuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic kuwumsebenzi oyingozi. Sikweluleka ukuthi ungakhethi lesi sixazululo. Khumbula ukuthi i-PN i ubuntu obunobuthi futhi ngenxa yalokho kucekela phansi kakhulu. Gwema ukunamathela kulo mhlukumezi, izisombululo ezinjengokuthi ungenza kanjani umuntu ohlanekezelekayo othandweni? Kufanele zikhishwe engqondweni yakho. I-narcissist iyaqaphela imvelo yayo futhi iyathokoza ngayo. Ukungenelela kochwepheshe kuphela kungasiza.
Ireferensi yezincwadi ukusiza isisulu sokuhlanekezela kwe-narcissistic
Nazi izikhombo zebhayibheli eziyisikhombisa endikimbeni ethi “Ukusiza isisulu somuntu ohlanekezelekayo we-narcissistic”:
- Olivier, J. (2016). Ama-Manipulators ansuku zonke: qonda futhi wenze. Izinhlobo ze-Eyrolles.
- Grosjean, S. (2017). I-Narcissistic perverts: ukuqonda ukwenza. Editions de l’Homme.
- Dulac, M. (2019). Izisulu zama-manipulators: ukuphula ukuthula. Larousse Editions.
- Cohen, M. (2015). Ukuphuma ekulawuleni: umhlahlandlela wezisulu zama-manipulators. Izinguqulo Zokuqala.
- Kern, M. (2018). Ukuhlukunyezwa kokuziphatha emsebenzini: ukuqonda nokwenza. Dunod Editions.
- Simeon, J. (2020). I-narcissistic pervert: ukuqonda nokuphulukisa. Marabout Editions.
- Binet, J. (2017). Ubudlelwano obunobuthi: zihlonze, ziqonde futhi uzikhulule. Ama-Solar Editions.
Lezi zithenjwa kufanele zikunikeze isisekelo esihle sokuhlola isihloko nokusiza izisulu zama-narcissistic perverts.
Isiphetho
Sengiphetha, ukusiza umuntu ohlukunyezwe yi-narcissistic pervert kudinga isineke, uzwela kanye nendlela yokunakekela. Ngokuvula amehlo othandekayo wakho kubuthi besimo sakhe, umnikeze indawo ephephile yokuziveza, futhi usekele indlela yakhe yokululama, ungenza umehluko wangempela. Khumbula ukuthi zonke izinyathelo zale nqubo zibalulekile futhi ukusekela kwakho okuqhubekayo kubalulekile ukuze umsize aphinde athole amandla kanye nobunikazi bakhe. Ngokwenza ngozwelo nangenhlonipho, usiza ukunqamula umjikelezo wokukhohlisa futhi unikeze inhlansi yethemba kulabo abakudinga kakhulu.
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