Ukwenza ijenali, umkhuba wokubhala wansuku zonke, kungaphezu nje kokusebenza kokubhala. Le ndlela enamandla yokuthuthuka komuntu siqu ikuvumela ukuthi uhlole imicabango yakho, imizwa kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho ngendlela ehlelekile. Kulesi sihloko, sizongena emhlabeni wokunyathelisa ukuze siqonde izici zawo eziningi kanye nomthelela wawo enhlalakahleni yengqondo nengokomzwelo.
Kuyini ukwenza ijenali?
Ukwenza ijenali kuwuhlobo lwenkulumo ebhaliwe yomuntu siqu ehlanganisa njalo ukubhala phansi imicabango yomuntu, imizwa kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe. Ngokungafani nedayari yendabuko evamise ukugxila ekuxoxeni kabusha imicimbi yansuku zonke, ukubhala ngejenali kujula ngokukhuthaza ukuzindla okujulile nokuzihlola.
Lo mkhuba ungathatha izinhlobo ezahlukene:
UCristina unikeza iseshini yomuntu ngamunye ukukusiza uphume ekulawulweni okuhlukumezayo futhi wakhe impilo yakho kabusha.
- Ukubhala kwamahhala: sibhala konke okufika emqondweni ngaphandle kokuhlolwa
- Imibuzo evela njalo: siphendula imibuzo efanayo nsuku zonke ukuze silandele intuthuko yayo
- Ukuhlela umgomo: sisebenzisa ijenali ukuze sichaze futhi silandelele imigomo yethu
- Ukuvezwa kwemizwa: siyayiqaphela futhi siyihlaziye imizwa yethu
Ukuloba kungenziwa ngesandla ebhukwini lokubhalela noma ngedijithali, kuye ngokuthandwa ngabanye. Okubalulekile ukuthola indlela evumelana nawe kanye nokugcina ukujwayela okuthile ekusebenzeni.
Izinzuzo zokubhala ngempilo yengqondo
Ukwenza ijenali kunikeza izinzuzo eziningi zempilo yengqondo kanye nokuphila kahle ngokomzwelo. Lo mkhuba ikuvumela ukuthi:
- Cacisa imicabango nemizwa yakho: Ngokubhala phansi lokho okusezingqondweni zethu, ngokuvamile singakuqonda kangcono lokho esikuzwa ngempela. Ukubhala ijenali kusiza ukususa imicabango edidayo futhi kukhombe imizwa engaphansi.
- Yehlisa ukucindezeleka futhiukukhathazeka : Ukubhala okuvamile kukuvumela ukuthi ukhulule ukungezwani okunqwabelene futhi uthole umbono ngezimo ezicindezelayo. Ngokuveza izinto ezisikhathazayo ephepheni, sivame ukukubheka kalula.
- Thuthukisa ukuzazi: Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, umkhuba wokubhala ijenali usisiza ukuba sizazi kangcono. Sibona kalula izindlela zethu zokucabanga, ukusabela kwethu ngokomzwelo kanye nokuziphatha kwethu okuphindaphindayo.
- Khuthaza ubuhlakani: Ukubhala kwamahhala, okungenakwahlulela kukhuthaza ukuvela kwemibono emisha nezixazululo zokudala ezinkingeni zethu.
- Thuthukisa inkumbulo namakhono okuqonda: Ukubhala phansi okuhlangenwe nakho kwakho kusiza ukukugxilisa enkumbulweni yakho futhi uthuthukise amakhono akho okuhlaziya nawokuhlanganisa.
Ukubhala njengethuluzi lokuzihlola
Enye yamandla amakhulu ejenali yikhono layo lokukhuthaza ukuzihlola kanye nokuzazi. Ngokubhala njalo, sifunda uku:
- Khomba amanani akho nezinto eziza kuqala
- Bona amandla akho nobuthakathaka bakho
- Qonda izisusa zakho ezijulile
- Hlaziya ukusabela kwakho ngokomzwelo
- Qaphela amaphethini akho okucabanga anciphisa
Lokhu kuzihlola kusivumela ukuba sithole ukuqonda mayelana nokuthi singobani ngempela nokuthi sifunani empilweni. Ukwenza ijenali kube yithuluzi elinamandla lokuzithuthukisa komuntu siqu kanye noshintsho lwangaphakathi.
Iqhaza lokubhala ijenali ekulawuleni imizwa
Ukwenza ijenali kudlala indima ebalulekile ekulawuleni imizwa. Ihlinzeka ngendawo ephephile yokuveza nokuhlola imizwa, ngisho naleyo enzima kakhulu. Ngokubhala ngendlela esizizwa ngayo, singakwazi:
- Khomba kangcono futhi usho imizwa yakho
- Ukuqonda izimbangela zokusabela okuthile kwemizwelo
- Hlehla ezimeni ezikhungethwe yimizwa
- Thola izindlela ezakhayo zokulawula imizwa yakho
- Thuthukisa ubuhlakani bakho bemizwa
Ngakho leliphephabhuku liba isifuba esithule, esihlale sitholakala ukuze samukele imizwa yethu ngaphandle kokwahlulela. Lo mkhuba ukusiza ukuthi uthuthukise ubudlelwano obunempilo nobulinganiselayo ngemizwa yakho.
Ukwenza ijenali njengethuluzi lokuxazulula izinkinga
Ngaphandle kokuhlola imizwa, ukubhala ngejenali kungasebenza njengethuluzi eliphathekayo lokuxazulula izinkinga nokwenza izinqumo. Ngokubhala ngesimo esiyinkimbinkimbi, ungakwazi:
- Cacisa izici ezihlukene zenkinga
- Hlola ongakhetha kukho
- Kala ubuhle nobubi besixazululo ngasinye
- Thola izinto eziza kuqala kuwe kanye nezindinganiso zakho
- Hlela izinyathelo eziqinile zokuxazulula inkinga
Ukubhala kukuvumela ukuthi uhlele ukucabanga kwakho futhi ubhekane nezinselele ngendlela ehlelekile necabangelayo. Kuyasiza ukubalekela umbuthano ononya wokukhukhuma okungakhiqizi futhi uthathe isinyathelo ngendlela eyakhayo.
Izinhlobo ezahlukene zamajenali
Kunezindlela eziningi zokubhala, ngayinye inezici zayo ezithile:
- I-Gratitude Journal: Sibhala phansi izinto esibonga ngazo nsuku zonke. Lo mkhuba usiza ukuhlakulela isimo sengqondo esihle futhi wazise injabulo encane yokuphila kwansuku zonke.
- Ijenali yezinhlamvu: Le ndlela ihlanganisa ukuhlela kanye nokuhlola introspection ibe isistimu ehlelekile futhi eyenziwe ngokwezifiso.
- Ijenali yobuciko: Sihlanganisa imibhalo nezinto ezibonakalayo (imidwebo, amakholaji, njll.) ukuze siveze ubuhlakani bethu.
- Ijenali yephupho: Sibhala phansi amaphupho ethu lapho sivuka ukuze sihlole ukuquleka kwethu.
- Idayari yokuhamba: Sirekhoda okuhlangenwe nakho kwethu nokuzindla phakathi nohambo, noma lwangempela noma lwangaphakathi.
Wonke umuntu angazama izinhlobo ezihlukene zokubhala ukuze athole leyo ebafanele kakhulu.
Ukubhala ngomongo wokwelapha
Ochwepheshe abaningi bezempilo yengqondo bayaqaphela izinzuzo zokubhala iphephabhuku futhi bakuhlanganise ezindleleni zabo zokwelapha. Lo mkhuba ungaba usizo ikakhulukazi ku:
- Qedela umsebenzi wokwelapha wakudala
- Khuthaza ukuzihlola phakathi kwamaseshini
- Landelela izinguquko zesimo nezimpawu
- Khomba amaphethini okuziphatha aphindelelayo noma angokomzwelo
- Yakha amasu okubhekana nokucindezeleka lapho ubhekene nokucindezeleka
Ukwenza ijenali akuthathi indawo Ukwelapha ochwepheshe uma kwenzeka kuba nokuphazamiseka kwengqondo okukhulu, kodwa kungakha umphelelisi obalulekile ohlelweni lokuphulukisa nokukhula komuntu siqu.
Ukubhala izindaba lapho ubhekene nobudlelwano obunobuthi
Kumongo wobudlelwano nomuntu ohlanekezela i-narcissistic noma onobuthi, ukubhala kwephephandaba kungadlala indima ebalulekile. Ikuvumela ukuthi:
- Qaphela ukushintshashintsha kobudlelwane okungenampilo
- Thola izidingo zakho kanye nemikhawulo
- Ukuveza imizwa evalelwe endaweni ephephile
- Thola izwi lakho futhi uqinise ukuzethemba kwakho
- Hlela izinguquko ezibonakalayo ukuze uthuthukise isimo sakho
Ukubhala kunikeza isikhala sokuzindla nokukhuluma ngokukhululekile, kubaluleke kakhulu lapho uzizwa ungafaneleki noma ukhohlisiwe ebuhlotsheni. Kukusiza ukuthi uthole ihange elingaphakathi futhi uphinde ukwazi ukulawula impilo yakho.
Izinselelo zokubhala
Nakuba ukwenza ijenali kuwumkhuba onenzuzo, kungase futhi kuveze izinselele ezithile:
- Ubunzima bokugcina njalo
- Ukwesaba ukubhekana nemizwa enzima
- I-Perfectionism engavimba inkulumo ezenzakalelayo
- Ukusaba ukuthi kukhona ozofunda iphephandaba lakhe
- Ukuthambekela kokunyenyeza kunokuthola izixazululo
Kubalulekile ukubhekana nalezi zinselele ngomusa futhi uthole amasu okuzinqoba, ukuze uzuze ngokugcwele ezinzuzweni zokuloba.
I-bibliographic reference on journaling
Nazi izikhombo zesayensi eziyisikhombisa ngesiFulentshi ngendaba yokubhala:
- U-Baikie, K.A., & Wilhelm, K. (2005). “Izinzuzo zokubhala ngokucacile empilweni yomzimba nengqondo. » I-Canadian Journal of Psychiatry, 50 (5), 245-251.
- Pennebaker, J. W. (1997). “Ukubhala Ukuphulukisa: Ukusuka Esambulweni Somzwelo Kuya Kwezempilo.” » Ijenali yesiFulentshi yePsychosomatics, 12 (2), 35-52.
- Smyth, J.M. (1998). “Imiphumela yokubhala obala empilweni: ukuhlaziywa kwe-meta.” » Psychology and Health, 13 (1), 1-26.
- I-Lepore, S.J., & Smyth, J.M. (2002). “Idayari njengethuluzi lokwelapha: imibono kanye nezicelo. » I-Clinical Psychology kanye ne-Psychopathology, 7 (3), 215-230.
- Frattaroli, J. (2006). “Imiphumela yokubhala obala empilweni: ukubuyekezwa kwezincwadi.” » I-European Journal of Applied Psychology, 56 (3), 131-139.
- Creswell, J.D., Lam, S., Stanton, A.L., & Taylor, S.E. “Ukunciphisa Ukucindezeleka Ngokubhala Okucacile: Izindlela Nezicelo.” » Ijenali yamazwe ngamazwe yeStress Psychology, 24 (2), 85-102.
- U-Guérin, F., & Fortin, M. (2012). “Ijenali yokudala: ithuluzi lokukhuluma nokuzithuthukisa komuntu siqu. » I-Quebec Journal of Psychology, 33 (1), 45-60.
Lezi zihloko zihlola izinzuzo zokubhala ngempilo yengqondo nengokomzimba, kanye nezinhlelo zayo zokwelapha.
Isiphetho
Sengiphetha, ukubhala ngejenali kungaphezu nje komkhuba wokubhala. Kuyithuluzi elinamandla lokuzithuthukisa elikuvumela ukuthi uhlole imicabango yakho, uphathe imizwa yakho futhi uvuse ubuhlakani bakho. Ukuthi ukucacisa izinjongo zakho, ukuxazulula izinkinga noma ukuzazi kangcono, lo mkhuba unikeza isikhala esibalulekile sokuzindla nokuveza imizwa yakho. Ngokuhlanganisa ukubhalwa kwezindaba ezimpilweni zethu zansuku zonke, sizinika izindlela zokukhula, ukuguquka kanye nokuphila impilo enokuqaphela kakhulu negculisekile.
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