Umbuzo othi “Ingabe kufanele ushiye umlutha wotshwala?” “umbuzo obuhlungu abantu abaningi ababhekana nawo. Lesi sinqumo sihilela izici eziningi ezingokomzwelo, ezingokoqobo nezokuziphatha. Ake sihlole izici ezihlukene zale nkinga eyinkimbinkimbi ukuze siqonde kangcono izindaba ezihilelekile esimweni esinjalo.
Izici eziyinhloko zotshwala
Utshwala ngokuvamile ubonisa izici ezilandelayo:
Izimpawu zokuziphatha
- Ukulahlekelwa ukulawula ukusetshenziswa kotshwala
- Ukungakwazi ukukhawulela inani elisetshenzisiwe
- Ukusetshenziswa okukodwa noma okufihliwe
- Ukunganakwa kwemisebenzi yobungcweti noma yomndeni
- Ukuzihlukanisa emphakathini okuqhubekayo
- Ukuziphatha okunolaka noma okucasulayo uma kungadliwe
Izimpawu ezibonakalayo
- Ukuthuthumela, ikakhulukazi ekuseni
- Ukuphazamiseka kokulala
- Isifiso sokudla nesisindo siyashintsha
- Ububomvu bobuso nezihlathi
- Izinkinga zokugaya eziphindaphindayo
- Ukukhathala okungapheliyo
Izimpawu zengqondo
- Ukuphika umlutha
- Ukuzifela ngotshwala
- Ukukhathazeka nokudangala
- Ukuzizwa unecala
- Ukushintshashintsha kwemizwa okuphawulekayo
- Ubunzima bokugxila
Izinselele zokuhlala notshwala
Ukuhlala notshwala kunezinselele eziningi zansuku zonke:
UCristina unikeza iseshini yomuntu ngamunye ukukusiza uphume ekulawulweni okuhlukumezayo futhi wakhe impilo yakho kabusha.
- Ukungazinzi ngokomzwelo
- Izinkinga zokuxhumana
- Izinkinga zezimali
- Ukunganakwa kwezibopho
- Ukuziphatha okungalindelekile
Lezi zinselele zingabuqeda kancane kancane ubudlelwano kanye nempilo yengqondo yomlingani.
Umthelela empilweni yengqondo yozakwethu
Ukuhlala eduze nomlutha wotshwala kungaba nomthelela omubi empilweni yengqondo:
- Ukucindezeleka okungapheli
- Ukukhathazeka njalo
- Ingozi eyengeziwe yokucindezeleka
- Yehlisa ukuzethemba
- Ukuzihlukanisa emphakathini
Lezi zinkinga zingaqhubeka ngisho noma ubuhlobo buphelile, okugqamisa ubucayi besimo.
Imiphumela ekuphileni komkhaya
Ukudakwa kuthinta sonke isakhiwo somndeni:
- Ukuphazanyiswa kwezinqubo zansuku zonke
- Ukungezwani nokungqubuzana njalo
- Ukungazinzi kwezimali
- Ukunganakwa kwabazali
- Ukuhlukumezeka kwezingane
Ngakho-ke isinqumo sokushiya noma cha sihilela ukucabangela umthelela kuwo wonke amalungu omkhaya.
Ingozi yodlame lwasekhaya
Ukuxhumana phakathi kotshwala nobudlova basekhaya kuyisici esibalulekile okufanele sicatshangelwe:
- Utshwala bunganciphisa izithiyo
- Kungase kubhebhethekise ukuthambekela okunolaka
- Ingozi ye ubudlova obungokomzimba noma ukwanda ngokomzwelo
Ukuphepha komuntu siqu kanye nokwezingane kufanele kube yinto ehamba phambili ekuthathweni kwezinqumo.
Izinselele Zokubuyisela
Ngaphambi kokuthatha isinqumo sokuhamba, udinga ukuqonda izinselele zokuthola kabusha:
- Kuyinqubo ende futhi enzima
- Ukubuyela emuva kuvamile
- Ukwesekwa kwabaseduze kwakho kubalulekile
- Ukuqapha kwezokwelapha kanye nezengqondo ngokuvamile kuyadingeka
Ithemba lokululama lingase libe nomthelela esinqumweni sokuhlala noma sokuhamba.
Umthelela wokwehlukana kwezomnotho nezenhlalo
Ukushiya umlutha wotshwala kungaba nemiphumela yezomnotho nezenhlalo:
- Izinkinga zezimali ezihlobene nokuhlukana
- Izinguquko esimweni somphakathi
- Udinga ukwakha kabusha inethiwekhi yosekelo
- Izinselele ezihlobene nokuba umzali oyedwa, uma zikhona
Lezi zici ezingokoqobo kufanele zicatshangelwe esinqumweni.
Ingabe kufanele umshiye umuntu onesifo sokuphuza utshwala? Izindlela zengqondo ezenza isinqumo sibe nzima
Izindlela ezimbalwa ezingokwengqondo zingenza isinqumo sokushiya sibe nzima:
- Ukuzimela
- Ukuphika ubucayi besimo
- Amahloni nomuzwa wecala
- Ithemba eliqhubekayo loshintsho
Ukubona lezi zindlela kubalulekile ekwenzeni isinqumo unolwazi.
Ukubaluleka kokuzigcina
Lapho ubhekene notshwala bomlingani, ukuzivikela kubalulekile:
- Misa imingcele ecacile
- Beka kuqala eyakho impilo yengqondo nengokomzimba
- Ungadebeseleli izidingo zakho nezifiso zakho
Ngezinye izikhathi ukuzivikela kungase kudinge ukushiya ubuhlobo.
Izinketho zokwelapha ngaphambi kokuhlukana
Ngaphambi kokuthatha isinqumo sokushiya, izinketho ezithile zokwelapha zingacatshangelwa:
- Ukwelashwa ngakunye kwabo bobabili ozakwethu
- Izindlela zokwelapha zabashadile
- Amaqembu okusekela abathandekayo botshwala
- Izinhlelo zokuqeda ubuthi botshwala
Ukusebenza kwalezi zindlela kungase kube nomthelela esinqumweni sokuhlala noma sokuhamba.
Izici ezingokomthetho okufanele zicatshangelwe
Isinqumo sokushiya siphakamisa imibuzo ebalulekile yezomthetho:
- Ukunakekela izingane
- Ukuhlukaniswa kwempahla
- Izinqubo zesehlukaniso noma zokuhlukanisa
- Imiyalelo yokuvikela uma kunesidingo
Lezi zici ezingokomthetho kufanele zibhekwe lapho kuthathwa izinqumo.
Umthelela wesikhathi eside ezinganeni
Emibhangqwaneni enezingane, umthelela wesikhathi eside kubo uyisici esibalulekile:
- Ingozi yokuhlukumezeka ngokomzwelo
- Izinkinga zokuziphatha okungenzeka
- Umthelela embonweni wabo wesikhathi esizayo ngobudlelwano
- Ingozi yokukhiqizwa kabusha kwamaphethini omndeni
Isinqumo kufanele sicabangele inhlalakahle yesikhathi eside yezingane.
Amathemba okubuyisana
Amathuba okubuyisana esikhathini esizayo angase abe nomthelela esinqumweni:
- Ukululama kungenzeka kodwa kunzima
- Ubudlelwano bungavela buqinisiwe
- Ukubuyisana kuthatha isikhathi nomzamo nhlangothi zombili
Kufanele sihlole ngokwangempela amathuba okubuyisana okuyimpumelelo.
Indima yokusekelwa kwangaphandle esinqumweni
Ukwesekwa kwangaphandle kungadlala indima ebalulekile ohlelweni lokuthatha izinqumo:
- Iseluleko sochwepheshe (ababelaphi, abeluleki)
- Ukusekelwa okuvela emndenini nakubangane
- Amaqembu okusekela abathandekayo botshwala
- Izinsiza Zomphakathi
Lokhu kusekelwa kungasiza ekwenzeni isinqumo esinolwazi oluthe xaxa futhi sisisebenzise.
Isikhombo seBhayibheli ngesihloko esithi “ingabe kufanele simshiye umlutha wotshwala? »
Nazi izikhombo zebhayibheli eziyisikhombisa, ezigxile endikimbeni yokushiya umlutha wotshwala:
- Lévy, M., & Bouchard, S. (2013). Utshwala: Ukuqonda Nokusiza. Editions du CHU de Québec.
- Berthelot, JM (2014). Imiphumela yotshwala ebuhlotsheni bomshado. Ukubuyekezwa Kwengqondo Yempilo, 25(2), 150-165.
- Gourevitch, M.N. (2016). Ukweseka othandiweyo wotshwala: Inselele engokomzwelo. I-Press Universitaires de France.
- I-Lemoine, P., & Saïas, T. (2019). Ukuzikhulula ebuhlotsheni obunobuthi: Utshwala nezithandani. Psychology and Society, 12(1), 45-62.
- Bourdieu, P. (2017). Isisindo sokuncika: Indlela yezenhlalo. Izinhlelo ze-La Découverte.
- Cohen, S., & Gendreau, S. (2021). Ukushiya umngane wotshwala: Imicabango kanye nobufakazi. Health Editions.
- U-Martin, E., & Piot, M. (2022). Umthelela ongokwengqondo wotshwala ebudlelwaneni obuseduze. Ijenali ye-Clinical Psychology, 36(3), 208-225.
Isiphetho: isinqumo somuntu siqu nesicashile
Umbuzo othi “Ingabe kufanele ushiye umlutha wotshwala?” “Ayinayo impendulo ejwayelekile. Isimo ngasinye sihlukile futhi sincike ezintweni eziningi:
- Ubunzima bokulutheka
- Isifiso sesidakwa sokushintsha
- Izinsiza ezingokomzwelo nezisebenzayo zozakwethu
- Ukuba khona kwezingane
- Izingozi zokuphepha kanye nenhlalakahle
Isinqumo sokuhlala noma sokuhamba kufanele senziwe kubhekwa zonke lezi zici, kufunwa ukulingana phakathi kozwelo, umthwalo wemfanelo kanye nokuzigcina. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yisiphi isinqumo, kubalulekile ukufuna ukusekelwa futhi ubeke kuqala inhlalakahle yakho engokwengqondo nengokomzwelo, kanye neyezingane uma zikhona. Lesi sinqumo esinzima siyinqubo engathatha isikhathi futhi idinga ukucabangisisa ngezindinganiso zomuntu siqu, imingcele, namathemba esikhathi esizayo.
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