Le ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo iwuhlobo oluvame ukubukelwa phansi kodwa olulimaza kakhulu lokuhlukumeza ngokwengqondo. Ngokungafani nobudlova obungokomzimba, akushiyi imikhondo ebonakalayo, kodwa kancane kancane kuqeda ukuzethemba. Ukuziphatha okuphindaphindayo okuhloselwe ukuphatha, ukubusa kanye nokulawula abanye, ngokuvamile ebudlelwaneni obunobuthi. Kulesi sihloko, sizohlola izimbangela, imiphumela, kanye nobuhlobo phakathi kokuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo nezinye izinhlobo zokukhohlisa, ezinjengokukhanyisa igesi.
Kuyini ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo?
Ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo kuchazwa njengochungechunge lwendlela yokuziphatha okuhloswe ngayo ukwenza umuntu abe buthaka ngokwengqondo. Lokhu kuhlanganisa ukugxekwa okungapheli, ukululazwa emphakathini, ukukhohlisa, kanye nokuntulaukuzimela ngokomzwelo. Umgomo oyinhloko ukulawula omunye umuntu ngokululaza ukuzethemba kwabo nokuguqula umbono wabo weqiniso.
Lolu hlobo lokuhlukumeza lungaba lucashile futhi lube kancane kancane, lwenza kube nzima ukulibona. Ngempela, abahlukumezi abangokomzwelo ngokuvamile banekhono lokufihla izenzo zabo ngaphansi kwesithunzi sothando noma ukukhathalela. Nokho, imiphumela yesikhathi eside kulowo oyisisulu ilimaza kakhulu.
UCristina unikeza iseshini yomuntu ngamunye ukukusiza uphume ekulawulweni okuhlukumezayo futhi wakhe impilo yakho kabusha.
Izimpawu zokuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo
Kungaba nzima ukubona izimpawu zokuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo, ikakhulukazi uma kucashile. Nazi ezinye zezimpawu eziyisixwayiso okufanele zikuxwayise:
- Ukugxeka njalo : Uma uhlale ululazwa noma ugxekwa, ngisho nangezenzo ezingasho lutho, lokhu kungase kube uphawu lokuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo.
- zokukhwabanisa : Uma umlingani wakho ekwenza uzizwe unecala ngemicimbi okungelona iphutha lakho noma uma uzwa sengathi uphathwa kabi ngokomzwelo, lokhu kungase kubonise ukuhlukumeza.
- Ukuncika ngokomzwelo : Uma uzizwa ungenakukwazi ukwenza izinqumo ngaphandle kwemvume yomunye umuntu noma uma uhlala wesaba ukudumaza lowo muntu, lokhu kungase kube uphawu lokuxhashazwa ngokomzwelo.
- Ukuzihlukanisa emphakathini : Uma umuntu onaye ekwehlukanisa nabangane, umndeni, noma abanye abantu abakusekela ngaphandle, kungenzeka ukuthi uhlushwa ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo.
Izimbangela zokuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo
Ukuxhashazwa ngokomzwelo ngokuvamile kuwumphumela wezici ezimbalwa ezingokwengqondo nezemvelo. Phakathi kwezimbangela ezivame kakhulu yilezi:
- Iziyaluyalu zobuntu : Abantu abane-narcissistic noma abanezici ze-sociopathic bavame ukuhileleka ezenzweni zokuhlukumeza ngokomzwelo. Isidingo sabo esiqhubekayo sokulawula nokubusa sibacindezela ukuba bakhohlise abanye.
- Umlando wokuhlukumeza : Abantu abahlangabezane nokuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo noma ngokomzimba njengezingane bangase bakuphinde lokhu kuziphatha ebudlelwaneni babo babantu abadala.
- Ukungavikeleki komuntu siqu : Iziqhwaga ezingokomzwelo ngokuvamile zingabantu abangavikelekile ngokujulile abasebenzisa ukukhohlisa ukuze bavale ngokuntula kwabo ukuzethemba.
- Amandla aguquguqukayo : Kobunye ubudlelwano, ukungalingani kwamandla (isibonelo, emsebenzini noma ebuhlotsheni) kungakhuthaza ukuziphatha okulawulayo, okuhlanganisa ukuhlukumeza ngokomzwelo.
Imiphumela yokuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo
Imiphumela yokuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo ngokuvamile ithatha isikhathi eside futhi ithinta izici eziningana zokuphila komuntu oyisisulu. Nansi eminye yemiphumela eyinhloko:
- Yehlisa ukuzethemba : Izisulu zokuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo zigcina zingabaza ukubaluleka kwazo, zihlale zigxekwa futhi zibukelwa phansi.
- Ukudangala nokukhathazeka : Ukuhlaselwa ngokomzwelo okuphindaphindiwe kuphonsa izisulu ezimweni zokucindezeleka kwengqondo, ngokuvamile okuhambisana nokucindezeleka nokukhathazeka.
- Ukuzihlukanisa emphakathini: Umhlukumezi ongokomzwelo uvame ukusunduza isisulu ukuba siziqhelelanise nabathandekayo, ngaleyo ndlela enze ancike kuye kuphela ngokomzwelo.
- Izinkinga ze-post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) : Ezinye izisulu zingase zibe ne-PTSD kulandela ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo isikhathi eside, ikakhulukazi uma kuhambisana nezinye izinhlobo zokuhlukumeza.
Ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo kanye nokukhanyiswa kwegesi: isixhumanisi esiseduze
Le ukukhanyisa igesi iwuhlobo oluthile lokuxhaphaza ngokwengqondo okuyingxenye ebalulekile yokuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo. Leli gama libhekisela endleleni esetshenziswa abahlukumezi ukuze bahlwanyele ukungabaza engqondweni yesisulu sabo, okubenza bangabaze umbono wabo weqiniso.
Isibonelo, umlingani angase aphike isigameko esidlule, noma atshele isisulu ukuthi akekho ozomkholwa uma ekhuluma ngokuhlukunyezwa kwakhe, iphethini evame ukubonakala ebudlelwaneni nama-narcissists. Ukukhanyisa ngegesi kungaholela ekudidekeni kwengqondo kulowo ohlukunyeziwe, ongasakwazi ukuhlukanisa iqiniso namanga, futhi agcine engabaza impilo yakhe yengqondo.
Isixhumanisi phakathi kokuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo kanye nokuhlukumeza ngokwe-narcissistic
Esinye sezimo lapho ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo kuvame kakhulu kusona ubudlelwano be-narcissistic. I-narcissist isebenzisa amasu akhohlisayo ukuze igcine ukulawula omunye, ukunikeza uthando bese iyakuhoxisa, ukudala okunamathiselwe okunobuthi okunamandla. Ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo, kulo mongo, kuvumela i-narcissist ukuthi igcine amandla kuyilapho igcina ukubukeka kokujwayelekile nokulinganisela ebudlelwaneni.
Kulobu budlelwano, ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo kuba nesihluku ikakhulukazi ngoba umhlukumezi uvame ukufaka “isifihla-buso” phambi kwabantu, lapho athathwa njengomuntu othandeka, ophanayo futhi onakekelayo. Nokho, ngasese, usebenzisa ukukhohlisa ukuze alawule umlingani wakhe, okumfaka esimweni sokudideka okukhulu nakakhulu nokuhlukaniswa.
Imiphumela yesikhathi eside yalokhu kuhlukunyezwa
Imiphumela yokuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo idlulela ngalé kobudlelwane obuhlukumezayo. Izisulu zingase zihlupheke izinkinga ezingokwengqondo ezingathi sína okuqhubekayo ngisho nangemva kokuphela kobudlelwane. Phakathi kwale miphumela, sithola:
- Ubunzima bokusungula ubudlelwano obusha : Ukungabethembi abanye nokwesaba ukuphinde baphathwe kabi kwenza kube nzima ukwakha izibopho zokwethembana.
- Umuzwa wokungabi nalutho : Ngemva kokubamba othile ngokomzwelo, kungase kube nzima ukubuyisela umuzwa wokuzibusa.
- Izinkinga zempilo yomzimba : Ukucindezeleka isikhathi eside okuvela ekuhlukunyezweni ngokomzwelo kungase futhi kubonakale ngendlela yezifo ezingokomzimba ezifana nokuphazamiseka kokulala, imigraines noma izinkinga zokugaya ukudla.
Isiphetho
Le ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo kuwuhlobo lokuhlukumeza oluthule kodwa olucekela phansi ngokujulile, imiphumela yako engaba mibi njengaleyo yodlame olungokomzimba. Kuzibonakalisa ngokukhohlisa, ukululazeka kanye nokuhlukaniswa, futhi kunomthelela ohlala njalo kulowo ohlukunyeziwe. Nakuba kuvame ukuba nzima ukubona lolu hlobo lokuhlukunyezwa, kubalulekile ukuqonda izindlela zalo ukuze kuqedwe. Ukukhanyisa igesi, isibonelo, kuyindlela evame ukusetshenziswa ebudlelwaneni obuhlukumezayo, okwenza isisulu sibe sengozini nakakhulu futhi sidideke.
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The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.