Lapho i-PN ilahlekile, ingenza ngezindlela ezihlukahlukene. Imvelo yayo eyinkimbinkimbi ayivumeli ukuba kunikezwe impendulo eyodwa. Ngempela, kunezici ezimbalwa ezingacindezela umuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic ukuba amukele ukunqotshwa kwakhe. Futhi ukusabela kwakhe kungase kuhluke kuye ngokuthi lezi ziguquguqukayo.
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Yenzani i-PN uma isilahlekelwe isisulu sayo?
Kufanele wazi ukuthi PN uyakubuka. Ngakho, ngisho noma elahlekelwa isisulu sakhe, cishe ngeke ahambe kalula. I-narcissist ifana ne-parasite, isidingo sayo sokubhujiswa sinamandla kunaye. I-PN iyahlupheka futhi iyahlanya uma ingekho inyamazane yayo. Ngeke aphele amandla naphezu kokwehluleka. Ngakho uma elahlekelwaubambe kusisulu sakhe, kuphakathi kokuthi afune ukukubuyisela lokho noma angase anqume ukushintsha inyamazane. Ngakho-ke isisulu kumelwe sihlale siqaphile ukuze sigweme ukubanjwa ogibeni i-narcissistic pervert.
Lapho i-Narcissistic Pervert ilahlekelwe yikho konke?
Umuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic ulahlekelwe yikho konke lapho engasenayo indlela yokucindezela esele.. Okusho ukuthi yonke into eyinika amandla ngokubheka inyamazane yayo isusiwe kuyo. Lokhu kungase kube ngenxa yokuthi isisulu sikwazile ukubalekela izinzipho noma lokho izikhali zomkhohlisi azisebenzis. Ngaphezu kwalokho, uyalahlekelwa nalapho isimo sakhe sangempela sivela obala. Njengoba i-narcissist ingumuntu osebenza ngokuyimfihlo.
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Indlela yokwenza i-PN ilahlekelwe ukubamba kwayo?
Indlela engcono kakhulu yokubalekela ithonya le-narcissist iwukuba nqamula konke ukuxhumana nakamuva. Uma esakwazi ukuphazamisa nganoma iyiphi indlela empilweni yakho kuzoba lula ukuthi abuyelwe phansi. Ngakho-ke, gwema ukuphendula izingcingo noma ukufunda imilayezo ye-SMS evela ku-PN. Kudingeka sishintshele kokuthi ” ghosting« . Ngomuzwa wokuba wedwa ozowenza, i-PN izosangana futhi ngeke isakwazi ukukhohlisa njengakuqala. Lokhu kuzokusiza ukuqeda yayo ukubamba ngokwengqondo.
Ingabe i-Narcissistic Pervert ingalahlekelwa isithakazelo kumuntu ohlukunyeziwe?
Kuyenzeka ngempela ukuthi i-narcissistic pervert ilahlekelwe isithakazelo kumuntu ohlukunyeziwe. SO, Ingabe umkhohlisi uyayidedela inyamazane yakhe? Yebo kunjalo ngempela. Kulokhu, yilapho kuthiwa inyamazane ayisanikezi lokho umgadli abekufuna kuye. Le i-narcissistic manipulator ehlanekezelwe azicabange kuphela, uma engasakutholi ukwaneliseka ngempango yakhe khona-ke uyophendukela kwenye indawo. Kumuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic, isisulu sakhe siyithuluzi elimtholela lokho akufunayo. Akazizwa enomuzwa wokunamathela kulokhu kwakamuva. Inhliziyo yakhe ibanda ngakho uma isidingo singasekho uzovele ahambe.
Lapho i-Narcissistic Pervert ilahlekelwa isisulu sayo?
I-narcissist izolahlekelwa isisulu sayo lapho izindlela zayo zokukhohlisa zingasasebenzi. Kufanele wazi ukuthi umkhohlisi angasebenzisa amaqhinga ahlukahlukene ukuze alawule inyamazane yakhe. Lokhu kungaba a izindlela zokucindezela ngokwezimali, ngemizwa noma ngokucindezela kokuziphatha. Futhi yilapho lezi zindlela ezahlukene zingasebenzi ngokuphelele lapho isisulu somuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic uyazikhulula. Ngakho-ke i-PN ilahlekelwa ukukhuphuka phezu kwempango yayo, ngoba inezikhali eziningi zokulimaza lesi sakamuva.
Ingabe i-PN ingalahlekelwa ukulawula izisulu zayo?
Lapho i-PN yesaba, ngezinye izikhathi ilahlekelwa ukulawula isisulu sayo. Kunjalo futhi uma ethukuthele. Ngokuba namawala, i-narcissist izolahlekelwa iphuzu layo eliqinile okuyikhono lakhe lokukhohlisa isisulu sakhe. Uma ethukuthela, isifihla-buso sakhe singase siwe futhi isisulu singase siqaphele isimo umgebenga ambeke kuso. Uyobe esekwazi ukusukuma ahluleke ukuzibamba ngokumelene nomhlukumezi wakhe.
Isabela kanjani i-Narcissistic Pervert lapho ishonelwa othandekayo?
Ukulahlekelwa othandekayo akuyona into ezothinta i-narcissistic pervert. Akalona uhlobo lomuntu oluzozwela abanye. Uyisidalwa esingenayo imizwa emihle njengozwela. Akanayo imizwa ngabathandekayo bakhe, ngakho-ke i-PN ayihlupheki nhlobo lapho kushona othandekayo.
Isimo se PN nokufa kukamama wakhe khombisa ukuphikisana kwesimo. Lokhu akuthinti i-narcissistic pervert indlela umuntu ojwayelekile angasabela ngayo. Ukushona kukanina uzokubona njengokumkhaphela. Ngokusho kwePsyche yakhe, untshontsha umzuzu wakhe wokunaka, uzophinde afune ukuqondisa kabusha amehlo akhe kuyena nangesikhathi somngcwabo.
Uma i-PN ilahlekile: ingabe lena impilo entsha yesisulu?
Uma kwenzeka lowo ohlanekezele elahlekelwa ngempela, isisulu sizokwazi ukubuyisela ngokugcwele inkululeko yakhe. Kuyinkululeko ephelele yempango. Uma sisibona ngeso lengqondo lesi simo, singasho ukuthi ngokusobala ukuzalwa kabusha kwesisulu ngaleso sikhathi. Ngempela, ngokususa ngempumelelo uNarcissist empilweni yakhe, inyamazane izophinde ichume ngendlela evamile. Amaketango ayemvalele futhi anciphisa injabulo yakhe agcina ewile.
Kodwa-ke, kufanele wazi ukuthi lokhu kufanele kwandulelwe ukuqwashisa ngesisulu. Eminye imiphumela engemihle ingavimbela isisulu ukuba sakhe impilo entsha. Impela kuyisiqalo esisha, kodwa uma kungandulelwa ukwakhiwa kabusha kwengqondo, isisulu sizohlala esigabeni esifanayo.
Yini okufanele uyenze lapho i-PN ilahlekelwe ngempela ukuze izakhe kabusha?
Ukuzakha kabusha ngemuva kokuthi uNarcissist elahlekelwe ngokuphelele, kunemisebenzi emibili ebalulekile.
- Isisulu kumele siphelezelwe ukuze sibuyise uzinzo. Lokhu kungaba sezingeni elingokomzwelo noma elingokwengqondo uma lona ekade eyisisulu ukukhanya kwegesi nenarcissist. Ukungenelela kochwepheshe ofana nodokotela wengqondo noma udokotela wengqondo kunconywa kakhulu.
- Okwesibili ukuthola impilo enempilo yomphakathi. Phuma, uhlangane nabantu abasha. Akufanele ukhawulelwe ulwazi lwakho nge-PN. Uma lokhu kuvele kumongo wobudlelwano, ungacabangi ukuthi kuhlelekile.
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