Isisulu Sezimpawu Eziphendukezelwe Ze-Narcissistic – Izimpawu ezingama-20 Okufanele Uzazi

Iningi lethu selimazi umuntu onama-narcissism, kungaba emndenini, emsebenzini, ekilasini noma ebunganeni. I-NP iyakhohlisa futhi yehlisa isithunzi isisulu sakhe kuze kube yilapho singasenakho ukuzethemba futhi sincike kuye. Ukuze usize izisulu ze-PN, kuhle kakhulu ukubonisana nodokotela wezengqondo. Abaningi bethu bangaba izisulu zabo bengazi. Thola kulesi sihloko ukuthi ngabe ungomunye wabahlukunyezwa yi-narcissistic pervert noma cha.

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Izimpawu ezingama-22 zesisulu se-Narcissistic Pervert

Nazi izimpawu zokubona isisulu somuntu ohlanekezelwe yi-narcissistic:

1. Wayenomzali ohlanekezelwe oyisidina

Isisulu se i-narcissistic pervert kufanele abe nomzali (abazali) abanganaki. Ngakho-ke usevele ehlukunyezwe yi-PN kusukela ebuntwaneni bakhe. Ngenxa yalokho, isisulu sinenkinga yokubona ukuthi ukuphila kwaso akujwayelekile. Ucabanga ukuthi impilo isebenza kanjalo nje. 

Umgilwa uyesaba ukuthi uma uPN ezomshiya kuzomele aqale phansi yingakho ehlala eduze kwakhe. Ngempela, lona umuzwa odalwa yimbuka kulowo ohlukunyeziwe. 

2. Ku- iphutha le-narcissistic

Izisulu ze-PN sezivele zahlangana nabantu abakhuluma i-narcissistic kusukela esemncane kakhulu, yingakho benamaphutha e-narcissistic. Lawa maphutha awumphumela wezilonda ezidabukisayo. Ngokuba nalawa maphutha kuwo, abantu asebevele behlukunyezwe yizenzo ze-narcissistic bavame ukuba nobudlelwane nomuntu ohlanekezelekayo we-narcissistic. 

3. I-Codependency (ngokomzwelo, yezezimali)

Isisulu se-PN sincike kakhulu kuye, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ngokomzwelo noma ngokwezimali. Umuntu akasakwazi ukuhlukana nomkhohlisi wakhe futhi akanakho ukuzimela empilweni. Kodwa, i-narcissistic pervert nayo incike ekuzingeleni kwakhe, ukuhlupheka kwabo kuthuthukisa i-ego yakhe. 

4. Ukuntula ukuzethemba

Izisulu eziningi ezisetshenziswayo ziya ngokuya zilahlekelwa ukuzethemba kwazo. Ngokuchitha isikhathi esiningi nomkhohlisi, isisulu siqala ukuzigxeka, singaneliseki ngalokho esikufezayo futhi sicindezeleke kakhulu. Ngaphezu kwalokho, umuntu akasazizwa ephephile. 

I-narcissistic pervert igxeka isisulu sakhe kaningi. Azame ukumbeka phansi. Ucabanga ukuthi uyena yedwa umuntu ongamthanda, yingakho esaba ukuqala ubudlelwano obusha nomuntu omusha.

5. Ukungazithandi

Ngenxa yokuphathwa kabi komuntu ohlanekezelwe, isisulu sizizwa sintula ukuzithanda. Inyamazane ifuna uthando olwengeziwe, ayisazazi ukuthi ifunani ngempela futhi ayisakwazi ukuzinakekela. Uhlala ngokujwayela. Ubudlelwano phakathi kwe-PN nesisulu sakhe buyadabukisa kakhulu. 

6. Azikho izithiyo ezingokwengqondo ezinempilo 

Umuntu ongaphansi kwethonya le-manipulator yakhe, isisulu ngeke sisakwazi ukuthi CHA. Wamukela konke uPN akucela kuye noma ngabe kuphambene nentando yakhe. Umuntu uqala ukungabe esaba nomgoqo onempilo ongokwengqondo. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, isisulu siba upopayi we-narcissistic pervert. 

7. Isetshenziswa kalula

Abantu abayizisulu ze-PN kulula kakhulu ukubasebenzisa. Lapho bechitha isikhathi esiningi nalolu hlobo lwabantu, kulapho besetshenziswa kakhulu khona. Izinga labo lokuphaphama nokunaka liba lihle kakhulu ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Eqinisweni, ebudlelwaneni umyengi okhohlakele, alusekho uthando, kubusa ukukhohlisa kuphela.  

8. Ubuntu obunozwela kakhulu

Isisulu se-PN siphinde sibe nobuntu obuzwela kakhulu. Uba nozwela kakhulu emizweni yabanye. Umuntu uyiqonda kalula imizwa yabanye ngenxa yezinzwa zakhe kanye nokuqondisisa kwakhe. Isisulu sivame ukuba muhle. Ngaphandle kwalokho, kwaba umusa wakhe owasiza umuntu ohlanekezelwe ukuba afinyelele imigomo yakhe. 

9. HPI/HPE

Isisulu somuntu ohlanekezelekayo we-narcissistic kungaba umuntu onamandla Okukhalipha Okuphezulu (HIP) kodwa futhi abe ngumuntu Onamandla Okuzwela Okuphezulu (HPE). Bonke bangabantu abanezimpawu zamadube. Lezi zinhlobo zabantu zihlakaniphe kakhulu. Ngakho-ke, isisulu sakhe ngumuntu onesiphiwo. Ngisho noma isisulu sihlakaniphile, lokhu akukwazanga ukubeka umgoqo ezenzweni zomuntu ophambene. 

10. Ukuzihlukanisa nabantu

Ngemuva kokukhohlisa okuhlukahlukene kwe-PN, isisulu sakhe sibonakala sizihlukanisa. Umuntu uqala ukuzihlukanisa nabathandekayo, imindeni, abangani, ozakwabo, njll. Umgilwa ufuna ukumqhelelanisa nomhlaba ukuze agxile kuyena kuphela futhi angalutholi usizo oluvela ngaphandle.

11. Ukuzikhohlisa

Umuntu onobuntu mbumbulu ngumuntu osebhekene nokufa. Isisulu se-PN sinalobu buntu. Ulahlekelwa ubuyena ngokuphelele. Ngaphezu kwalokho, akanayo injabulo ekuphileni futhi uziveza njengesithombe. 

12. Sihlupheka kakhulu (ukuswela uthando kwanda)

Umuntu ohlukunyezwayo akasajabule neze empilweni yakhe, kulokho akwenzayo futhi ngisho noma enza izinto abezithanda ngempela, akusamlethi injabulo. Impilo yakhe ayilutho ngaphandle kokuhlupheka. Akakhombisi ukumamatheka. 

13. Siboshwe (ngokocansi, ngokomzwelo)

I-narcissistic pervert ihlambalaza inyamazane yakhe kakhulu. I-blackmail ingeza ngezindlela ezimbili: ezocansi kanye nemizwa. Isisulu singase singaqapheli ukuthi sibhekene nani kuze kube sekwephuzile kakhulu. Umuntu ohlanekezelwe uyokwenza isisulu sakhe siqonde ukuthi ungumuntu ongelusizo lwalutho, uyena kuphela umuntu omkhathalelayo nokuthi kufanele abuyisele umusa.  

14. I-Ego encane kakhulu

Umuntu ohlukunyezwayo akaziniki ukubaluleka okwengeziwe kodwa unikeza omunye okwengeziwe. Akasakwazi ukunikeza umbono wakhe noma imibono yakhe lapho ebhekene nesimo kodwa ulandela kuphela iseluleko somkhohlisi wakhe.  

15. Ukuphana kakhulu 

Ukujabulisa umlingani wabo okhohlakele, isisulu sinikeza konke esinakho nangaphezulu kwalokho anakho. Impilo yakhe manje igxile kulo muntu ongenangqondo futhi umatasatasa ngomsebenzi wokumsindisa. Kodwa, isisulu asigcini nje ngokuba muhle kumkhohlisi, muhle kuwo wonke umuntu. 

16. Sicindezelekile, siyanyakaza, sikhathazekile, futhi lokhu njalo njalo

Izinga lokucindezeleka lomuntu ophethwe yi-PN liyaqhubeka nokukhula. Ngaphezu kokucindezeleka, uya ngokuya ecasuka futhi uhlale ekhathazekile. Akazizwa elondekile nakancane uma kukhona omunye noma lapho bengekho. Isisulu siphila ngaphansi kwengcindezi. 

17. Sesizikhohliwe ukuthi singobani, sikhohlwe nobubi obenziwe kithi.

Inyamazane ayisakwazi ukubona ubuntu bayo bangempela futhi ikhohlwe umonakalo omkhulu owenziwe kuyo ngaphambili. Ucabanga ukuthi usethole umaqondana ofanele nokuthi impilo yakhe ijwayelekile. Lokhu kuwumphumela wokuxhashazwa komuntu ohlanekezelwe. 

18. Ukhuluma iqiniso noma limcindezela

Ngokuvamile umuntu uqamba amanga ukuze azuze yena. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, isisulu se-PN asifani nakancane, uzokhuluma iqiniso noma ngabe kusimo sakhe esibucayi. Kungayilimaza impilo yakhe kodwa uyakwenza noma kunjalo ngenxa yokukhwabanisa. 

19. Umuntu ohlale ekhonza umzali wakhe ngakho-ke akakwazi ngempela ukuzimela ngokwengqondo.

Iningi lezisulu zama-narcissistic perverts lalinabazali abangama-narcissistic. Ngenxa yalokho, bebelokhu besebenzela laba bazali, yingakho bengazange bathole ukuzimela ngokwengqondo. Lokhu kucindezela isisulu ukuba samukele konke okucelwa kuye futhi siyesaba imibono yabanye.  

20. Uhlushwa ukuntula uzwelo nokho uyakwamukela okungamukelekile

Umuntu oyisisulu sezenzo zomkhohlisi uhlushwa ukungabi nozwelo. Ufana nokuba nobuntu obungathandeki. Kodwa uyakwazi ukwamukela yonke into, ngisho nento engamukeleki ngempela. Yilokhu esisanda kukusho kuphawu 6, asikwazi ukuthi Cha. 

21. Une-savior syndrome

Ngemva kokuphathwa kabi, isisulu siyaphoqeleka ukuba sidlale indima yomsindisi. Lena inqubo esetshenziswa umphendukezeli we-narcissistic. Lesi sakamuva sizama ukwakha isisulu sakhe isifiso sokusisindisa esimweni saso ukuze sihlale sinamandla okulawula kuso. 

22. Une-imposter syndrome

Uphawu lokugcina i-imposter syndrome. Uzozwa lesi sifo phakathi nobudlelwano bakho ne-PN. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, uzocabanga ukuthi awukufanelekeli indawo yakho futhi uzoqala ukuziqhathanisa nabanye. 

Ubani ongaba yisisulu se-Narcissistic Pervert?

Ngamunye wethu angaba yisisulu se-narcissistic pervert. Abesifazane kodwa nabesilisa bangaba izisulu zemisebenzi ye-PN. Okwakamuva kunohlobo lwe-radar yokukhetha inyamazane yabo. Noma noma ngubani engaba isisulu sakhe, abaphendukezeli be-narcissistic banokuncamela okuthile.

• Ngakolunye uhlangothi, bakhetha abantu abasengcupheni, labo abangazithembi. Bakhetha lezi zinhlobo zabantu ngoba bayakwazi ukuzikhohlisa. Abanye baye babhekana nokuntula ukulondeka kusukela ebuntwaneni, kukhona abalahlwa noma abaphathwa kabi abathandekayo babo. Ngenxa yalokhu, abakwazi nhlobo ukubona ingozi ebazungezile. 
• Konke okufanayo, i abantu abahlakaniphe kakhulu futhi babe nokunye abakuthandayo. Izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo okwaxoxwa nazo zibonise ukuthi u-70% wezisulu ze-PN abantu abavamile kanti u-30% uyi-HPI/HPE. Lezi zinhlobo zabantu zithatha isikhathi eside ukuqonda ukuthi ziyizisulu ze-narcissistic manipulator ngoba ubuchopho babo bukhubazekile. 

Iningi labantu okuxoxwe nabo ngabesifazane. Kubantu besilisa, yindaba engavumelekile. Nokho, anda amadoda ayizisulu zamambuka namanarcisists. 

Izikhombo ze-Bibliographic 

Nazi izikhombo zebhayibheli eziyisikhombisa endikimbeni yezimpawu kuzisulu zama-narcissistic perverts:

1. Fajnwaks, F. (2003). Ukwakhiwa komqondo wobuntu be-narcissistic ku-psychopathology yaseMelika kusukela ngo-1940. Ithisisi yobudokotela, iRennes 2 University.
2. Bardouil, N. (2002). Imodeli kanye nendlela yokuhlolwa komtholampilo kobungozi be-narcissistic identity: ukuqonda nokuvimbela ukuziphatha okungalungile entsheni. Ithisisi yobudokotela, eNyuvesi yaseToulouse 2.
3. Rotta Teixeira, M.A. (2012). Ukusuka ekudluliselweni kwe-neuroses kuya kuma-narcissistic neuroses: iminikelo ezisekelweni ze-Freudian theory of melancholy. Thesis yobudokotela, University Paris 7.
4. Ballans, P. (2003). Umphumela wokuphika okuphambene: ukubhala okumhlophe. Ithisisi yobudokotela, iMontpellier 3 University.
5. Bozzoni, O. (2019). Ukweseka abantu abadingisiwe abafuna ukuvikelwa emkhakheni wokusebenzela umphakathi: ukumelwa komphakathi kanye nemikhuba yobungcweti ehlolwe ukuzwela. Ithisisi yobudokotela, eNyuvesi yaseToulouse.
6. U-Rick, F. (2018). Imizwa kanye nokuqonda komphakathi: indlela yokuhlola. Ithisisi yobudokotela, eNyuvesi yaseBordeaux.
7. Bozzoni, O. (2019). I-copyright ne-choreography: ukuhlaziywa kwezomthetho. Ithisisi yobudokotela, eNyuvesi yaseParis 1 Panthéon-Sorbonne.

Lo msebenzi uhlola izici ezihlukahlukene ezihlobene ne-narcissism, ukuhlanekezela kanye nomthelela wazo kuzisulu, ngaleyo ndlela unikeze ukuqonda okujulile kwezimpawu ezihambisanayo.

Isiphetho

Ukuphetha, kubalulekile ukuqaphela izimpawu zobudlelwano obunobuthi nomuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic. Ukuqonda izindlela zokukhohlisa kanye nomthelela wazo kwabahlukumezekile kuyisinyathelo sokuqala esibalulekile sokuzikhulula kuleli thonya. Uma ungabaza, ukusekelwa okuvela kuchwepheshe kuhlala kuyinsiza eyinhloko yokuthola ukuzethemba futhi nokubuyisela ukuphila okwanelisayo. Singakhohlwa ukuthi wonke umuntu ufanelwe ubudlelwano obunempilo nobuhloniphayo.

Ukuze uxhumane:

• Ingabe ngiyisisulu sobudlelwane obunobuthi?
• I-Manipulator’s Weak Point
• Ukusabela Kwe-Manipulator Lapho Umshiya
• Imen Es Mayday
• U-Imen Uyi-Narcissistic Pervert
• Ukwelashwa Kwe-Narcissist Ehlanekezelwe
• I-Emotional manipulator
• Indlela Yokulimaza I-Narcissistic Pervert
• Kuthatha isikhathi esingakanani ukuthi i-PN ibuye?
• Ingabe i-PN iyazi ukuthi uyi-PN
• Kungani i-PN ihlola wena? 
• I-Narcissistic Pervert kanye nefoni
• Ingabe I-Narcissistic Pervert Iyajabula Empilweni?
• Izimpawu Zomuntu Wamanga
• Abazali Be-Emotional Blackmail

Uma uzizwa sengathi uyisisulu se-narcissistic pervert, ungangabazi ukubonana nodokotela wezengqondo. Ungakhathazeki, ungakwazi ukuphuma ekubambeni kwe-PN. 

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