Indlela “yedwala elimpunga”: Isu elisebenzayo ngokumelene nama-narcissistic perverts

Indlela “ye-grey rock” isu lokuvikela eliphumelelayo ekusetshenzisweni kabi komuntu ohlukumezayo, elisebenza ezimweni ezahlukene zokuphila. Le ndlela ihlose ukusiza abantu ababhekene… ukuziphatha okunobuthi ukuze baphinde balawule izimpilo zabo ngokuba nesimo sengqondo sokungathathi hlangothi nokungaphenduli.

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Ithini indlela “yedwala elimpunga”?

Indlela “yedwala elimpunga” ihlanganisa ukungathakazelisi njengetshe elimpunga emehlweni ephenduki le-narcissistic. Umgomo uwukungabe usamnikeza “ukudla okungokomzwelo” akudingayo. Kungase kuzwakale kulula ngombono, kodwa ukukusebenzisa kudinga isineke nokubekezela.

Indlela yokusebenzisa “idwala elimpunga” empilweni yansuku zonke

• Lawula ukusabela kwakho – Inhliziyo yale nqubo ayikona ukusabela ekucasuleni kwe-narcissistic pervert. Lokhu kungaba nzima kakhulu, ikakhulukazi uma ubhekene namanga noma ukukhwabanisa. Kodwa-ke, kungokuhlala uzolile futhi ungacabangi ukuthi ususa amandla ayo.
• Khulumisana ngokungathathi hlangothi – Uma udinga ukuxhumana, khetha izimpendulo ezimfushane, ezingathathi hlangothi. Gwema ukwabelana ngolwazi lomuntu siqu noma ukukhombisa imizwa yakho. Umgomo uwukwenza ingxoxo ingabi mnandi ngangokunokwenzeka kumphendukezeli we-narcissistic.

Izinzuzo ze-“gray rock”

• Buyisa ukulawula – Ngokusebenzisa le ndlela, uphinda ukwazi ukulawula imizwa yakho nesimo. Awusekho emseni wezifiso kanye nokukhohlakala komphendukezeli we-narcissistic.
• Thola ukucaca – Ngokuxakayo, ngokuyeka ukusabela, uzobona ngokucace kakhudlwana ubunjalo beqiniso bobudlelwano bakho nomuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic. Lokhu kuqaphela kungaba buhlungu, kodwa kuyadingeka ukuqhubekela phambili.
• Imikhawulo yendlela – Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi “idwala elimpunga” aliyona isixazululo esiyisimangaliso. Kuyindlela enzima engase ikhathale ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngezinye izikhathi kungabangela ukukhuphuka kokuziphatha komuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic, ozofuna ukusabela kuwe.
• Zinakekele – Khumbula ukuzinakekela phakathi nale nqubo. Indlela “yedwala elimpunga” ingakhathaza imizwa. Ungangabazi ukufuna ukwesekwa kochwepheshe noma amaqembu okusekela.

Ukuqonda imikhuba yokuxhumana ye-narcissistic pervert

Ama-Narcissistic perverts anesidingo esiqhubekayo sokunakwa nokulawula. Imikhuba yabo yokuxhumana, ikakhulukazi ngokuthumela imiyalezo, ibonisa lesi sidingo:

• Bathumela imilayezo ngawo wonke amahora, ngaphandle inhlonipho ngemikhawulo yakho
• Zishintshana phakathi kwezikhathi zokunakwa okukhulu kanye nokungazi ngokuphelele
• Basebenzisa amaqhinga ka ukuxhashazwa ngokomzwelo emilayezweni yabo
• Bafuna ukwenza usabele ukuze uthole ukunakwa, okuhle noma okubi

Indlela “yedwala elimpunga” ichazwe kalula

Indlela “yedwala elimpunga” ihlanganisa ukungathakazelisi njengetshe elimpunga emehlweni ephenduki le-narcissistic. Umgomo uwukungabe usamnikeza “ukudla okungokomzwelo” akudingayo. Ngokuqondile, lokhu kusho:

• Phendula kafushane futhi ngokungachemi
• Gwema ukwabelana ngolwazi lomuntu siqu
• Ungabonisi imizwa yakho noma ukusabela ekucasuleni kwakhe
• Hlala uhloniphekile kodwa ukude

Ukusebenzisa i-“Grey Rock” Ekuthumeleni Imiyalezo Yombhalo

Nansi indlela yokusebenzisa “i-gray rock” ekuxhumaneni kwakho nokuthumela imiyalezo:

• Phendula ngemisho emifushane, eyiqiniso
• Gwema ama-emoji noma izinkulumo ezithinta imizwa
• Ungabuzi imibuzo yomuntu siqu
• Ziba imizamo yokucasula noma idrama
• Khawulela izimpendulo zakho kulokho okudingeka kakhulu

Umehluko phakathi kwe-“gray rock” kanye ne-stonewalling

Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi “idwala elimpunga” aliyona i-stonewalling. THE ukukhanda ngamatshe kuhilela ukwenqaba ngokuphelele ukuxhumana, kuyilapho “idwala elimpunga” ligcina ukuxhumana okuncane kodwa okusebenzayo. Uphendula imibuzo edingekayo, kodwa ngaphandle kokuhileleka ngokomzwelo.

Izinzuzo zeGrey Rock Ekuxhumaneni Okubhaliwe

Indlela “yedwala elimpunga” iphumelela kakhulu ekushintshaneni okubhaliwe, njengemilayezo yombhalo:

• Kushiya umbhalo wezimpendulo zakho, eziwusizo uma kuba nokungqubuzana
• Kukunika isikhathi sokucabanga ngaphambi kokuphendula.
• Ikhawulela amathuba okuhumusha ithoni yakho noma ulimi lomzimba

Ukubhekana nokumangalelwa ngamatshe

Kungenzeka ukuthi i-narcissist izokubeka icala lokugenca amatshe lapho uzilolongela “idwala elimpunga.” Khumbula, uphendula imibuzo yakhe ebalulekile, ungamnaki ngokuphelele. Hlala uzolile futhi uqhubeke nokusebenzisa indlela.

Ukuzinakekela ngenkathi usebenzisa “idwala elimpunga”

Indlela “yedwala elimpunga” ingakhathaza imizwa. Ungakhohlwa uku:

• Zinike isikhathi sakho
• Funa ukwesekwa kwabathandekayo noma uchwepheshe
• Prakthiza imisebenzi eshajwa kabusha amabhethri akho
• Bona futhi ugubhe intuthuko yakho, ngisho nezincane

I-“Yellow rock”: ukuhluka okuthambile “kwedwala elimpunga”

Uma “idwala elimpunga” libonakala linonya kakhulu kuwe, ungazama “idwala eliphuzi”. Lokhu kuhluka kubandakanya ukungeza imfudumalo eyengeziwe ezimpendulweni zakho, kuyilapho ungathathi hlangothi. Isibonelo, esikhundleni sokuthi “yebo” elula, ungase uthi, “Kulungile, akunankinga.”

Nini futhi kanjani ukusebenzisa “idwala elimpunga” nsuku zonke

“Idwala elimpunga” liwusizo ikakhulukazi ezimweni lapho ungakwazi ukunqamula ngokuphelele ukuxhumana, njenge:

• Esimeni sokuzalana ngokubambisana
• Emsebenzini
• Ebudlelwaneni bomndeni obuthile

Qala ngokuyisebenzisa ezimweni ezincane, bese ukhulisa kancane kancane ukusetshenziswa kwayo.

Ukunqoba Icala Lokusebenzisa iGrey Rock

Kuvamile ukuzizwa unecala ngokusebenzisa “idwala elimpunga,” ikakhulukazi uma ujwayele ukunakekela izidingo ezingokomzwelo zabanye. Khumbula ukuthi:

• Unelungelo lokuzivikela
• Le ndlela iwuhlobo lokuzivikela, hhayi inzondo
• Awunasibopho semizwa noma ukusabela kwe-narcissistic pervert.

Ukuqonda imikhuba yokuxhumana yomuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic ngokuthumela umbhalo

Ama-Narcissistic perverts avame ukuba nemikhuba ethile yokuxhumana ngokuthumela umbhalo:

• Bathumela imilayezo ngawo wonke amahora, ngaphandle kokuhlonipha imingcele yakho
• Imiyalezo yabo yombhalo ivame ukuba mide futhi iyadida, ixube izihloko ezimbalwa
• Zishintshana phakathi kwezikhathi zokunakwa okukhulu kanye nokungazi ngokuphelele
• Basebenzisa amaqhinga ka ukuxhashazwa ngokomzwelo emilayezweni yabo
• Bafuna ukwenza usabele ukuze uthole ukunakwa, okuhle noma okubi

Indlela “yedwala elimpunga” ichazwe kalula

Indlela “yedwala elimpunga” ihlanganisa ukungathakazelisi njengetshe elimpunga emehlweni ephenduki le-narcissistic. Umgomo uwukungabe usamnikeza “ukudla okungokomzwelo” akudingayo. Ngokuqondile, lokhu kusho:

• Phendula kafushane futhi ngokungachemi
• Gwema ukwabelana ngolwazi lomuntu siqu
• Ungabonisi imizwa yakho noma ukusabela ekucasuleni kwakhe
• Hlala uhloniphekile kodwa ukude

Ukusebenzisa i-“Grey Rock” Ekuthumeleni Imiyalezo Yombhalo

Nansi indlela yokusebenzisa “i-rock empunga” ekuxhumaneni kwakho nokuthumela umlayezo wombhalo nomuntu oyi-narcissist:

• Phendula ngemisho emifushane, eyiqiniso
• Gwema ama-emoji noma izinkulumo ezithinta imizwa
• Ungabuzi imibuzo yomuntu siqu
• Ziba imizamo yokucasula noma idrama
• Khawulela izimpendulo zakho kulokho okudingeka kakhulu

Isibonelo, uma umgadli ekuthumelela umlayezo omude ekusola ngokuthi awukaze unakekele izingane, esikhundleni sokuzithethelela, vele uphendule, “Yebo, ngilanda izingane namuhla. »

Umehluko phakathi kwe-“gray rock” kanye ne-stonewalling

Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi “idwala elimpunga” aliyona i-stonewalling. I-Stonewalling ihilela ukwenqaba ngokuphelele ukuxhumana, kuyilapho “idwala elimpunga” ligcina ukuxhumana okuncane kodwa okusebenzayo. Uphendula imibuzo edingekayo, kodwa ngaphandle kokuhileleka ngokomzwelo.

Izinzuzo zeGrey Rock Ekuxhumaneni Okubhaliwe

Indlela “yedwala elimpunga” iphumelela kakhulu ekushintshaneni okubhaliwe, njengemilayezo yombhalo:

• Kushiya umbhalo wezimpendulo zakho, eziwusizo uma kuba nokungqubuzana
• Kukunika isikhathi sokucabanga ngaphambi kokuphendula.
• Ikhawulela amathuba okuhumusha ithoni yakho noma ulimi lomzimba

Ukubhekana nokumangalelwa ngamatshe

Kungenzeka ukuthi i-narcissist izokubeka icala lokugenca amatshe lapho uzilolongela “idwala elimpunga.” Khumbula, uphendula imibuzo yakhe ebalulekile, ungamnaki ngokuphelele. Hlala uzolile futhi uqhubeke nokusebenzisa indlela.

I-“Yellow rock”: ukuhluka okuthambile “kwedwala elimpunga”

Uma “idwala elimpunga” libonakala linonya kakhulu kuwe, ungazama “idwala eliphuzi”. Lokhu kuhluka kubandakanya ukungeza imfudumalo eyengeziwe ezimpendulweni zakho, kuyilapho ungathathi hlangothi. Isibonelo, esikhundleni sokuthi “yebo” olula, ungase uthi, “Kulungile, akunankinga. »

Nini futhi kanjani ukusebenzisa “idwala elimpunga” nsuku zonke

“Idwala elimpunga” liwusizo ikakhulukazi ezimweni lapho ungakwazi ukunqamula ngokuphelele ukuxhumana, njenge:

• Esimeni sokuzalana ngokubambisana
• Emsebenzini
• Ebudlelwaneni bomndeni obuthile

Qala ngokuyisebenzisa ezimweni ezincane, bese ukhulisa kancane kancane ukusetshenziswa kwayo.

Ukunqoba Icala Lokusebenzisa iGrey Rock

Kuvamile ukuzizwa unecala ngokusebenzisa “idwala elimpunga,” ikakhulukazi uma ujwayele ukunakekela izidingo ezingokomzwelo zabanye. Khumbula ukuthi:

• Unelungelo lokuzivikela
• Le ndlela iwuhlobo lokuzivikela, hhayi inzondo
• Awunasibopho semizwa noma ukusabela kwe-narcissistic pervert.

“I-Grey Rock” kanye Nosizi Lobudlelwane

Ukusebenzisa “idwala elimpunga” kungaveza imizwa enzima, kuhlanganise nokudabuka ubuhlobo njengoba ubucabanga. Lesi yisinyathelo esivamile nesidingekayo enqubweni yokuphulukisa. Zinike isikhathi nozwelo oludingayo ukuze udlule kulesi sikhathi.

Isiphetho Grayrock

Indlela “yedwala elimpunga” iyithuluzi elinamandla lokuzivikela ekukhohlisweni komuntu ohlanekezela i-narcissistic, ikakhulukazi kumilayezo yombhalo. Nakuba kudinga ukuzijwayeza nokubekezela, le nqubo ingakusiza ukuthi uphinde ukwazi ukulawula impilo yakho yomzwelo. Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi sifanelwe inhlonipho nokuthula, futhi akufanele singabaze ukucela usizo uma kudingeka.