I-HPE: Isisulu esiyintandokazi se-narcissistic pervert

Ukuba ngumuntu Onamandla Okuzwela Okuphezulu (HPE) kungabonakala njengesipho. Kodwa-ke, lokhu kuzwela okwenyukayo kwesinye isikhathi kungasenza sibe sengcupheni kakhulu kubantu abathile, ikakhulukazi abaphendukezeli be-narcissistic. Uma uzazi kule ncazelo futhi ufuna ukuzikhulula ebudlelwaneni obunobuthi, lesi sihloko esakho.

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Iyini i-HPE?

I-HPE abantu abanamandla angokomzwelo aphezulu. Banekhono elingavamile lokuzwa nokucubungula imizwa, kokubili eyabo neyabanye. Lesi sici ngokuvamile sibenza babe nozwela, enembile futhi baxhumeke ngokujulile endaweni yabo. Ngeshwa, lezi zimfanelo zingazenza futhi ukuthi zihehe ukunaka kwama-narcissistic perverts.

Kungani ama-HPE eheha ama-narcissistic perverts?

1. Ukwanda kozwela : Ama-HPE ngokuvamile anamandla okwenzauzwela engavamile. Le mfanelo, nakuba ibalulekile, ingaba ubuthakathaka lapho ibhekene ne-narcissistic pervert. Laba bamuva, uchwepheshe wokukhwabanisa, bangasebenzisa loluzwela ngokuvusa isihawu ukuze bathethelele ukuziphatha kwabo okunobuthi.

2. Isidingo sokuxhumana okujulile ngokomzwelo Abantu abazwela kakhulu (ama-HSP) bavame ukulangazelela ubudlelwano obuqinile nobunenjongo. Lesi sifiso singabenza babe sengozini enkulu yokuphathwa amasu “okuheha”. thanda amabhomu “Abaphambukisi abazithanda ngokweqile.”

3. Ukuthambekela kokubona okuhle kwabanye : Ithemba lemvelo le-HPE mayelana nemvelo yomuntu lingabaholela ekutheni bangaziba izimpawu eziyisixwayiso zakuqala ekuziphatheni komuntu ohlanekezelekayo.

4. Isifiso sokusiza nokuphulukisa.

5. Ukwanda kokuzwela : Ukusebenza okuphakeme ngokomzwelo kwe-HPE kungaxhashazwa abahlanekezeli be-narcissistic ngokushintsha kwesimo esingazelelwe ukuze kuthuntubeze i-HPE. Kodwa futhi nokusetshenziswa kwenqubo “yokushisa nokubanda” (ukushintshana phakathi kokuthandana nokwenqatshwa).

6. Ifuna ukuqinisekiswa kwangaphandle Amanye ama-HPE, naphezu kwawo ubuhlakani bemizwaBangase babe nokungaqiniseki abahlukumezi abazikhukhumezayo abakusebenzisa ngokushintshana phakathi kokuncoma okweqile nokugxeka okulimazayo.

7. Ubunzima bokubeka imingcele.

8. Ukushuba kwemizwelo : I-HPE ivamise ukuzwa imizwa yabo ngokuqina okukhulu, okungabenza bazwele kakhulu “ukuphakama” komzwelo okunikezwa yi-narcissistic pervert.

9. Umkhuba we-HPE ubhekeukuzihlaziya ingadunwa umuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic obaphusha ukuthi bahlale bebuza imibono yabo kanye nokusabela kwabo.

10. Ilukuluku lobuhlakani nelomzwelo ye-HPE ingabagcina ebudlelwaneni obunobuthi ngesifiso esinamandla sokuqonda ukuziphatha kwe-narcissistic pervert.

Amasu e-narcissist okwenza imizwa ye-HPE ingasebenzi

I-narcissistic pervert isebenzisa amasu acashile futhi ayingozi ukwenza i-HPE ikholwe ukuthi imizwa yakhe inephutha noma ayilungile:

1. Ukukhanya kwegesi ngokomzwelo : Uyaphika noma uhlanekezela ubuqiniso bezimo, okwenza i-HPE ingabaze imibono nemizwa yakhe.
2. Ukunciphisa okuhlelekile : Uhlala eyilulaza imizwelo ye-HPE, eyibiza ngokuthi iyihaba noma ayinangqondo.
3. Ukulinganisa ngokweqile : Ibeka ukuhlaziya okunengqondo kwezimo, kwehlise noma yikuphi ukusabela kwemizwelo njengophawu lobuthakathaka.
4. Ukuqagela kwemizwa : Ubeka eyakhe imizwa engemihle ku-HPE, edala ukudideka ngokuthi imizwa ivelaphi ngempela.
5. Ukukhwabanisa kwecala : Wenza i-HPE izizwe inecala ngemizwa yakhe, eyiveza njengenobugovu noma eyingozi ebudlelwaneni.
6. Ukuqhathanisa okungekuhle : Iqhathanisa ukuzwela kwe-HPE nokwabanye abantu okuthiwa “balinganisele” noma “abavuthiwe”.
7. Ukuhlanganisa Uzwela : Usebenzisa uzwela oluqinile lwe-HPE ukuze amenze angabaze izidingo zakhe ezingokomzwelo.
8. Ukushintsha kwemizwa kungazelelwe : Uyashintshana phakathi kothando nokubanda, akhubaze i-HPE futhi amenze angabaze ukufaneleka kokusabela kwakhe ngokomzwelo.
9. Ukungavunyelwa kwesikhathi esidlule somzwelo : Ubuza imibuzo noma ephika imizwa ye-HPE edlule, eqeda ukuzethemba kwakhe enkumbulweni yakhe yemizwa.
10. Ukusebenzisa ukubhuqa : Kuhlekisa ukubonakaliswa kwemizwelo kwe-HPE, kubenza babe namahloni noma babe namahloni.
11. Ukugcwala kwemizwelo : Udala ngamabomu izimo zokucindezeleka okukhulu ngokomzwelo, abese egxeka i-HPE ngokungakwazi kwakhe ukulawula imizwa yakhe.
12. Ukuzihlukanisa ngokomzwelo : Idikibalisa i-HPE ekwabelaneni ngemizwa yayo nabanye, ngaleyo ndlela inciphise amathuba okuqinisekiswa kwangaphandle.

Ukukhathala ngokomzwelo kwe-HPE – Izimpawu eziyisixwayiso

Ama-HPE asengozini yokukhathala ngokomzwelo ebudlelwaneni nomuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic. Kucishe kube sengathi ama-HPE athola ukubaluleka okuthile ekubekezeleleni lokhu kuphathwa kabi, kodwa kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi lokhu kuguquka akunampilo futhi kuyalimaza. Nazi izimpawu:

1. Ukukhathala okungapheli nokuphelelwa amandla

2. Ukukhathazeka okungapheli kanye nemizwa yokungabi namandla

3. Ukulahlekelwa ukuzethemba nokungabaza njalo

4. Ubunzima bokugxila nokwenza izinqumo

5. Izinkinga zokulala nokuphazamiseka ngokomzimba

6. Ukuhlukaniswa nomphakathi kanye nokulahlekelwa intshisekelo

7. Ukushintsha kwemizwa nokucasuka

8. Ukuzizwa ungelutho nokuphelelwa ithemba

9. Ukuzishaya indiva

10. Izimpawu zomzimba ezingachazeki

11. Imicabango eqaphile

12. Ukulahlekelwa umuzwa wemingcele.

Amaqhinga okugqashula:

• Qinisa imingcele yakho yemizwa: Kuhilela ukufunda ukwenqaba nokugcizelela izidingo zakho. Futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke, ukukhawulela ukusebenzisana ne-narcissistic pervert.

• Ukwakha kabusha ukuzethemba: Ukwenza lokhu, kufanele ugcine ijenali yempumelelo yansuku zonke futhi uzungeze nabantu abakhathalelayo nabasekelayo.

• Thuthukisa ukuzimela kwakho ngokomzwelo: funda amasu okulawula imizwa (ukuzindla, ukuphefumula).
• Funa ukwesekwa kochwepheshe: Ukwelashwa komuntu ngamunye (CBT, EMDR, psychoanalysis, reiki, njll.) kanye nokuqeqeshwa kokuthuthukiswa komuntu siqu.
• Hlela indlela ephumayo ephephile (uma ikhona): Lungiselela ukuzimela ngokwezimali futhi uxhumane nommeli ukuze uthole amalungelo akho.

Umthelela ezinganeni njengephuzu lokubonisa

Imvamisa, ama-HPE aqala ukubona amaphutha ebudlelwaneni bawo ne-narcissist ngemva kokuba nezingane. Nakuba bengase baqhubeke nokubeka izaba kumlingani wabo othanda inzondo, ukuzwela kwabo ezinganeni zabo kungase kubaxwayise ngomthelela ongemuhle wendlela yokuziphatha ye-narcissist. Lokhu kuqwashisa kungaba yimbangela yokubona ubuthi bobudlelwano.

Ukubaluleka kokuzizwela

Kuma-HPE, kubalulekile ukufunda ukuqondisa uzwela lwawo kubo. Ukuzizwela kuhilela ukuqaphela izidingo zakho siqu nemizwelo yakho, futhi uyiphathe ngobubele obungaludlulisela kwabanye. Kuyikhono elibalulekile lokubeka imingcele enempilo futhi uzivikele ebuhlotsheni obuhlukumezayo.

Ukugcina uzwela endaweni enobuthi

Ngokuphambene nenkolelo evamile, ukuchayeka isikhathi eside endaweni ye-narcissistic ngeke kukwenze ulahlekelwe uzwela lwakho. Njenge-HPE, ungase uzizwe ukhathele ngokomzwelo noma ukhathala ngenxa yozwelo, kodwa amandla akho ayisisekelo ozwela ahlala eqinile. Abaningi abasinde ebudlelwaneni be-narcissistic bagcina imvelo yabo yozwela nobubele.

Ukuba ngisho nomuntu oyedwa onozwela ongathululela kuye isifuba endaweni enobuthi kungenza umehluko. Lo muntu angakunikeza ukuqinisekiswa okubalulekile, okuphikisa imiphumela yokukhanya kwegesi kanye nokukhohlisa kwe-narcissistic. Kungakusiza ulondoloze isisekelo sakho eqinisweni futhi ulondoloze ukuzethemba kwakho.

Qaphela imikhawulo futhi wazi ukuthi uhambe kanjani

• Ngisho noma ukwazi ukuthola abangani abazwelayo ohlelweni lwe-narcissistic, kubalulekile ukuqaphela lapho isimo singenakuphenduleka. Uma uzithola usendaweni engenalo nhlobo uzwela, kungase kube isikhathi sokucabangisisa ngokushiya ukuze ulondoloze impilo yakho engokwengqondo nengokomzwelo.
• Khumbula: ukuphuma ekubanjweni kwe-narcissistic pervert kuyinqubo ethatha isikhathi nokubekezela. Isinyathelo ngasinye esincane sibalulekile. Unamandla ngaphakathi kuwe okubuyisela ukulawula impilo yakho yemizwa futhi uchume. Uma uzizwa usengozini esheshayo, ungangabazi ukuthintana nezinsizakalo zokweseka izisulu noma iziphathimandla ezifanele. Zinakekele futhi uhlale ethembeni. Ikusasa elingcono lingenzeka, futhi ufanelwe ukuliphila ngokugcwele.

Inkomba ye-bibliographic on High Emotional Potential (HPE)

Nazi izikhombo zebhayibhili eziyisikhombisa endikimbeni ethi Amandla Okuzwela Okuphezulu (HPE):

1. Bourguignon, M. (2017). Imizwa emsebenzini wokusebenza: Thuthukisa amandla akho aphezulu omzwelo. Editions L’Harmattan.
2. Goleman, D. (2011). Ubuhlakani bemizwa. Izinguqulo Guy Trédaniel.
3. Chauvel, P. (2019). Imizwa nobuhlakani bomzwelo: Ibheke ku-paradigm entsha yokufunda. Dunod Editions.
4. Michaud, J. (2018). Thuthukisa amandla akho aphezulu emizwa: Amathuluzi namasu. Izinhlobo ze-Eyrolles.
5. Barrett, L.F. (2017). Indlela imizwa ewulolonga ngayo umhlaba wethu. Odile Jacob Editions.
6. Levi, J. (2016). I-Emotional Intelligence: Imiqondo kanye nezicelo. I-InterÉditions Editions.
7. INussbaum, MC (2018). Imizwa nobulungisa. Izinguqulo ze-Payot.

Lezi zithenjwa zinikeza ukubuka konke okuhle kwemibono, ukusetshenziswa kanye nemithelela yamandla aphezulu emizwa.

Isiphetho

Sengiphetha, ukuba ngumuntu Onamandla Okuzwela Aphezulu kungaba kokubili amandla nokuba sengozini. Kubalulekile ukuqaphela izimpawu zobudlelwano obunobuthi nomuntu osebenzisa i-narcissist futhi uthathe izinyathelo zokuzivikela. Ngokuthuthukisa ukuzimela kwabo ngokomzwelo nokuqinisa imikhawulo yabo, i-HPE ingathola kabusha ibhalansi yabo futhi ilondoloze inhlalakahle yabo. Khumbula ukuthi ufanelwe ubudlelwano obunempilo nobanelisayo.