Inkinga ye-Midlife yisimo esingokwengqondo esithinta abantu abaningi phakathi nezimpilo zabo. Lesi sikhathi sokubuza imibuzo ejulile singaba nemiphumela ephawulekayo empilweni yomuntu siqu neyomsebenzi womsebenzi. Kulesi sihloko, sizohlola izici ezihlukahlukene zalesi simo, izimbangela zayo kanye nemiphumela yaso.
Iyini inkinga ye-midlife?
Inkinga ye-midlife inkathi yoshintsho kanye nemibuzo ekhona evame ukwenzeka phakathi kweminyaka yobudala engama-40 nengama-50. Ibonakala ngokuqaphela ukuhamba kwesikhathi kanye nesiphetho sempilo. Lesi sigaba singatholwa njengethuba lokukhula komuntu siqu noma njengomthombo wokukhathazeka nokubuza.
Izimpawu ezichazayo zenkinga ye-midlife
Kunezimpawu ezimbalwa zokuthi umuntu kungenzeka ubhekene nenkinga ye-midlife:
UCristina unikeza iseshini yomuntu ngamunye ukukusiza uphume ekulawulweni okuhlukumezayo futhi wakhe impilo yakho kabusha.
- Ukubuza ukukhetha kwempilo
- Isifiso soshintsho olukhulu
- Umuzwa ojwayelekile wokungeneliseki
- Ukwesaba ukuguga
- Isidingo esikhulisiwe sokuqinisekisa kwangaphandle
Lokhu kubonakaliswa kuyehluka kumuntu oyedwa kuya komunye futhi kungaba kushube kakhulu noma kancane.
Izimbangela zale nkinga
Inkinga ye-midlife iphumela ezicini eziningana ezihlanganayo:
- Isibuyekezo esimaphakathi
Phakathi nenkathi yokuphila, abantu abaningi babheka impumelelo yabo kanye nokwehluleka kwabo. Lokhu kuhlola kungadala ukuzisola noma umuzwa wokungapheleli.
- Ukuqwashisa ngokuguga
Ukushintsha komzimba kanye nezimpawu zokuqala zokuguga kungabangela ukukhathazeka ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
- Ukuvela kwezindima zomphakathi
Izingane ezikhulayo, abazali asebekhulile: lezi zinguquko ku-dynamics yomndeni zingaphazamisa ukuzazi.
- Imibuzo yobungcweti
Ngemva kweminyaka engu-20 noma engu-30 yomsebenzi, abanye bazizwa benesidingo sokunikeza injongo entsha ekuphileni kwabo kobuchwepheshe.
Imiphumela yenhlekelele ye-midlife
Inkinga ye-midlife ingaba nemiphumela ebalulekile ezicini ezahlukahlukene zempilo:
- Umthelela empilweni yomuntu siqu: Abanye abantu bangase balingeke ukuba benze izinguquko ezinkulu ekuphileni kwabo siqu: isehlukaniso, ubuhlobo obusha bezothando, ukuthutha, njll.
- Izinguquko zobungcweti: Inkinga ye-midlife ingadala ukuhlehliswa kabusha kochwepheshe, ushintsho lomsebenzi noma ukuthatha ingozi kwezamabhizinisi.
- Izinguquko zendlela yokuphila: Sivame ukubona izinguquko emikhubeni yokuphila: uthando olusha, umdlalo onzima, ushintsho ekubukekeni komzimba.
- Imiphumela yezengqondo: Lesi sikhathi singase sihambisane nezimpawu zokucindezeleka, ukukhathazeka noma ukunciphisa ukuzethemba.
Inkinga ye-midlife kanye ne-narcissism
Inkinga ye-midlife ingaba nzima ikakhulukazi kubantu abanezici ze-narcissistic. Eqinisweni, i- i-narcissism kubonakaliswa yisidingo esiqhubekayo sokuqinisekiswa kwangaphandle kanye isithombe sakho Okumangalisayo.
- Ukulahlekelwa ubusha nokukhanga ngokomzimba
Kumuntu onama-narcissistic, ukulahlekelwa ubusha kungase kubonakale njengenhlekelele. Umqondo wokuba “ongabonakali” kwabanye awubekezeleleki.
- Ukubuza isimo somphakathi
Ukulahlekelwa amandla okuhlobene neminyaka yobudala noma isimo senhlalo kungabangela ukukhathazeka okujulile kubantu abane-narcissistic.
- Ukuziphatha okunxephezela ngokwedlulele
Lapho bebhekene nalezi zinselele, abantu abasebenzisa i-narcissistic bangakwazi ukwamukela ukuziphatha okweqile ukuze bazame ukuphika ukuguga: ukuhlinzwa okweqile ukuze bathole izimonyo, ubudlelwano nabalingani abancane kakhulu, ukuthenga okuphoqelekile kwezimpawu zobusha (izimoto zezemidlalo, izingubo ezingafanele iminyaka yabo, njll.).
Umehluko Phakathi Kwenkinga Yempilo Yasemaphakathini “Enempilo” kanye “Nengenampilo”
Kubalulekile ukuhlukanisa inkinga yempilo yaphakathi nendawo eholela ekukhuleni komuntu siqu naleyo eholela ekuziphatheni okulimazayo.
Inkinga yempilo yaphakathi nendawo
Esimeni esihle kakhulu, inkinga ye-midlife ingaba yithuba lokuthi:
- Chaza kabusha izinto eziza kuqala empilweni yakho
- Gxilisa ubudlelwano bakho
- Thuthukisa amakhono amasha
- Zibandakanye emisebenzini ezuzisayo
Inkinga ye-midlife ‘engenampilo’
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, inkinga ephethwe kabi ingaholela ku:
- Izinqumo ezisheshayo nezilimazayo
- Ukuzihlukanisa emphakathini
- Ukuziphatha okuyingozi
- Ukucindezeleka isikhathi eside
Umthelela wobulili enkingeni ye-midlife
Inkinga yempilo yaphakathi nendawo ingahlangatshezwa ngendlela ehlukile kuye ngobulili, ngenxa yokulindelwe umphakathi kanye nezingcindezi ezithile.
- Inkinga ye-midlife kwabesifazane: Abesifazane bangase bazizwe benengcindezi ehlobene nokubukeka komzimba nokuzala kunamandla. Ukunqamuka kokuya esikhathini nakho kungadlala indima ebalulekile kulesi sikhathi soshintsho.
- Inkinga yempilo yabesilisa: Amadoda angase azwele kakhulu ezindabeni zempumelelo yobungcweti kanye nobudoda. Ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa ukusebenza ngokomzimba noma ngokocansi kungaba umthombo wokukhathazeka.
Umthelela wenhlekelele ye-midlife kulabo abaseduze kwakho
Inkinga yempilo ephakathi ayithinti kuphela umuntu odlulayo, kodwa nalabo abasondelene nabo.
- Imiphumela kwabashadile
Uzakwethu angase azizwe entekenteke lapho ebhekene nezinguquko ekuziphatheni nasekubuzeni imibuzo. Ukuxhumana phakathi kwabashadile kungase kube nzima.
- Umthelela ezinganeni
Izingane, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi zincane noma zikhulile, zingathinteka ngenxa yoshintsho ekuziphatheni komzali wazo osenkingeni.
- Umthelela ebudlelwaneni bomsebenzi
Ozakwethu nozakwethu bangase badidwe izinguquko zesimo sengqondo noma izinqumo ezingalindelekile zothile obhekene nenkinga yempilo ephakathi nendawo.
Inkinga ye-midlife enkathini yedijithali
Ukuba khona yonke indawo kwamanethiwekhi omphakathi kanye nesiko lesithombe kungandisa ubunzima obuhlobene nenkinga yempilo ephakathi nendawo.
- Ukwanda kokuqhathanisa komphakathi
Inkundla yezokuxhumana yenza kube lula ukuthi uhlale uziqhathanisa nabanye, okungakhulisa imizwa yokungafaneleki noma yokuhluleka.
- Ukucindezela kwesithombe okuphelele
Ukutshalwa kwesithombe esiphelele ezinkundleni zokuxhumana kungaqinisa ukukhathazeka ngokuguga nokubukeka komzimba.
- Amathuba amasha okuqinisekisa
Okudidayo ukuthi, amanethiwekhi omphakathi anganikeza nemithombo emisha yokuqinisekisa kubantu abafuna ukuqashelwa ngalesi sikhathi.
Isiphetho
Sengiphetha, inkinga ye-midlife iyinto eyinkimbinkimbi ethinta abantu abaningi phakathi nezimpilo zabo. Kungaba umthombo wobunzima kodwa futhi kube namathuba okukhula komuntu siqu. Ukuqonda izindlela zayo kusivumela ukuthi siyiqonde kangcono futhi sikwazi ukuyinqoba ngendlela eyakhayo.
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