I-Disociation: Indlela yokuzivikela ngokumelene ne-narcissistic pervert

Ukuhlukaniswa, ukuzivikela ngokumelene ne-narcissistic pervert. Wake wazizwa unqanyuliwe kuwena, njengokuthi ingqondo nomzimba wakho awusasebenzi ngokuvumelana? Lesi senzakalo, esibizwa ngokuthi i-dissociation, ngokuvamile siyimpendulo yemvelo ekucindezelekeni okukhulu, ikakhulukazi lapho sibhekene ne-narcissistic pervert. Ake sihlole ndawonye le ndlela ethakazelisayo nokuthi ingakusiza kanjani unqobe izinselele ezingokomzwelo.

Kuyini ukuhlukanisa?

Ukuzihlukanisa kungafaniswa nendida yobuntu bethu. Cabanga ukuthi ungubani wenziwe izingcezu eziningi, ngayinye imele isici sakho. Ngokuvamile, lezi zingcezu zihlangana kahle, zakha isithombe esibumbene. Kodwa-ke, uma ubhekene nengcindezi enkulu, efana nokuba khona kwe-narcissistic pervert empilweni yakho, lezi zingcezu zingakhululeka okwesikhashana. Ukuzihlukanisa kuyisenzo esiyinkimbinkimbi esivame ukudlala indima ebalulekile ezimpilweni zabantu ababhekene ne-narcissistic pervert. Ake sihlole ndawonye izici ezihlukene zale ndlela yokuzivikela ngokwengqondo.

Ukuhlukaniswa njengesihlangu sokuzivikela ngokomzwelo ngokumelene ne-Narcissistic Pervert

Uma ubhekene nomhlukumezi one-narcissistic, ingqondo yakho ingase ifune ukuzivikela. Ukuzihlukanisa bese kuba yisihlangu, okukuvumela ukuba uhlehle ezimweni ezibuhlungu. Kucishe kube sengathi ingqondo yakho icindezela inkinobho yokumisa okwesikhashana ukuze unikeze isikhathi sokubamba umoya.

Ubuso obuningi bokuhlukanisa

Ukuhlukana kungazibonakalisa ngezindlela ezihlukahlukene. Kucabange njenge-spectrum kusuka kokuhlangenwe nakho kwansuku zonke kuya ezifundeni ezijulile:

1. Ukuphazamiseka okuncane: Njengalapho ushayela futhi kungazelelwe uqaphela ukuthi awukhumbuli uhambo.
2. Ukwenziwa komuntu : Uzizwa uhlukanisiwe nomzimba wakho noma imicabango yakho.
3. Ukungafezeki: Umhlaba okuzungezile ubonakala ungelona iqiniso noma ukude.
4. I-Dissociative amnesia: Awukwazi ukukhumbula izehlakalo ezithile noma izinkathi ezithile empilweni yakho.

Ukuhlukaniswa njengempendulo yokucindezeleka

Uma ubhekene ne-narcissistic pervert, ubuchopho bakho bungase buqalise ukuhlukana njengendlela yokusinda. Kuyindlela yokuzivikela eqinisweni elibuhlungu kakhulu noma elisabisayo.

Isithombe Sendida Yangaphakathi

Ake sibuyele esifanisweni sendida esishiwo u-Antoine Garnier. Ubuntu bakho bunjengomfanekiso oqoshiwe owenziwe ngezitini eziningi. Ukuhlukaniswa kuvumela lezi zitini ukuthi zihlukane okwesikhashana bese zihlela kabusha. Kuyinqubo eguqukayo engakusiza ukuthi uzulazule ezimeni ezinzima.

Ukuhlukana nokuhlukumezeka

Ukuhlukumezeka okubangelwa i-narcissistic pervert kungase kuhlukanise ikakhulukazi. Cabanga ngegalelo elinamandla emfanekisweni wakho ongaphakathi, uhlakaza izingcezu ezithile. Ukuzihlukanisa bese kuba yindlela ephuthumayo, ekuvumela ukuthi uqhubeke nokusebenza naphezu kokushaqeka ngokomzwelo.

Qaphela izimpawu zokuhlukana

Kubalulekile ukwazi ukuthi ungazibona kanjani izimpawu zokuhlukana ukuze uqonde kangcono okwenzeka kuwe. Nansi imikhondo:

• Uzizwa uhlukanisiwe nemizwa yakho
• Uzizwa sengathi ubheka impilo yakho ngaphandle
• Unenkinga yokukhumbula izehlakalo ezithile
• Ulahlekelwa umkhondo wesikhathi
• Izinkumbulo zakho zibonakala zifiphele noma zingaphelele
• Uzizwa sengathi uyisibukeli sempilo yakho

Ukuhlukana nokuhlukumezeka

Uma ubhekene ne-narcissistic pervert, ungathola isipiliyoni esibuhlungu. U-Antoine Garnier uchaza ukuthi ukuhlukumezeka “kuyisenzakalo esihlukanisayo esinobudlova.” Kufana nokuthi othile ushaye isithombe esibaziweyo sakho, wahlakaza ezinye zezingcezu.

Izinzuzo ezingalindelekile zokuhlukaniswa

Nakuba ngokuvamile kubonakala kabi, ukuhlukana kungase kube nezici ezinhle:

1. Ukuvikelwa ngokomzwelo : Ikuvumela ukuthi uhlehle ezimeni ezinzima njengesifiso esihehayo ku- inganekwane kaNarcissus.
2. lokusungula : Ezinye izinhlobo ezithambile zokuzihlukanisa zingakhuthaza ubuhlakani nokucabanga.
3. Ukuzijwayeza : Kukusiza ukuthi uvumelane nezimo ezishintshayo noma ezicindezelayo.

Ukunqoba ukuhlukana

Uma unomuzwa wokuthi ukuhlukaniswa kuba namandla, nanka amanye amasu okuxhuma kabusha:

1. Ukucabangela : Prakthiza izivivinyo zokuzindla ukuze ugxile esikhathini samanje.
2. I-anchoring yezinzwa : Sebenzisa izinzwa zakho ukuze uxhumane kabusha nendawo okuyo.
3. Inkulumo yokuqamba : Ukubhala, ukudweba noma umculo kungakusiza ukuveza indlela ozizwa ngayo.

Ngokuqondene nokwelapha nokuhlanganiswa

Indlela eya ekwelapheni ivame ukuhilela ukuhlanganisa kabusha izici zobuntu bakho ezingahlangene. Izindlela zokwelapha ezifana ne-EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) nomakokulutheka ingakusiza kule nqubo.

Amasu okuphulukisa nokwakha kabusha

Ngenhlanhla, kunezindlela zokuhlanganisa izingcezu zephazili yakho yangaphakathi. Amasu afana nokulutha noma ukunyakaza kwamehlo angakusiza ukuthi uhlanganise izici ezihlukene zobuntu bakho. Lezi zindlela zikuvumela ukuthi usebenze ngobumnene kokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho okunzima. Ngaphezu kwalokho, i-hypnosis futhi kuyisinqumo esingaba khona ukubhekana ne-narcissistic pervert.

Izinkomba ze-bibliographic mayelana nokuhlukaniswa

Nazi izikhombo eziyisikhombisa zebhayibhili ngesi-French ngendikimba yokuhlukanisa:

1. Nijenhuis, ERS, & Van der Hart, O. (1999). Ukuhlukaniswa kwesakhiwo somuntu siqu: I-structural dissociation theory approach to personality. e I-Clinical Psychology Notebooks, I-12, i-161-183.
2. UJanet, P. (1889). I-Psychological automatism: I-eseyi yokuhlola yesayikholoji yezindlela eziphansi zomsebenzi womuntu. EParis: Félix Alcan.
3. UMaldonado, J.R., Butler, L.D., & Spiegel, D. (2002). I-dissociation kanye ne-dissociative disorders. e Ubuchopho, 28 (4), 337-347.
4. Jehel, L., & Paterniti, S. (2005). Ukuhlukana kanye nesimo ukucindezeleka kwangemva kokuhlukumezeka phakathi kwezisulu zokuhlaselwa. e Ama-Annals Ezokwelapha-Zengqondo, 163 (8), 665-670.
5. Scalabrini, A., Cavicchioli, M., & Maffei, C. (2017). Ukuhlukaniswa kwezinkinga zobuntu: ukubuyekezwa kwezincwadi. e I-European Journal of Applied Psychology, 67 (5), 259-267.
6. Finkelstein, P. (2010). Ukuhlukaniswa nokuhlukumezeka: Ukuqonda nokwelapha ukuphazamiseka kwe-dissociative. EParis: Dunod.
7. U-Belli, H., & Boussaiah, S. (2012). I-Dissociation kanye nokuphazamiseka kwengqondo: izici zomtholampilo nezokwelashwa. e Ulwazi Lwezengqondo, 88 (10), 821-828.

Lezi zithenjwa zihlanganisa izici ezihlukahlukene zokuhlukana, okuhlanganisa isakhiwo sakho, isixhumanisi sakho sokuhlukumezeka, kanye nomthelela wako ezinkingeni zobuntu.

Isiphetho

Ukuhlukaniswa, nakuba ngokuvamile kubhekwa njengento ephazamisayo, kumelela indlela yokuzivikela enamandla lapho kubhekene nezimo ezingokomzwelo ezimbi kakhulu, njengalezo ezibangelwa ukuhlanekezela kwe-narcissistic. Ukuqonda ukubonakaliswa kwayo nezinzuzo kukuvumela ukuthi uzulazule kangcono kulezi zikhathi ezinzima. Ngamasu aguquliwe kanye nokwesekwa kokwelashwa, kuyenzeka ukuthi uphinde uxhumane nawe, uhlanganise izingcezu zephazili yangaphakathi bese uqala indlela yokwakhiwa kabusha eqonde ekulinganiseni nasekuthuleni.