I-Manipulative Savior Syndrome – Ubudlelwane Obunobuthi?

I-Manipulative savior syndrome: Lokhu kuphazamiseka komsindisi kwesinye isikhathi kubhekwa njengokuhle emphakathini. Ngokuvamile sivame ukukubona njengokweqisa kwentshiseko noma isifiso esihle. Ikakhulukazi njengoba i-syndrome iqhubeka, umuntu othintekile angaba nobuqili kakhulu. Ngakho-ke, yini i-manipulative savior syndrome?

Ungambona kanjani umuntu one-manipulative savior syndrome?

Uma eziyisisekelo i-savior syndrome ibonakala nge umuzwa wokusiza. Lokho kwe-manipulator kugqama ngezinye izici zesici. Ngokwezinga elithile, singasho ukuthi yi-a inguqulo emnyama kakhulu ye-syndrome. Nansi imininingwane:

• Uyazi ukuthi yini ekulungele wena. Umkhohlisi one-savior syndrome ufuna ukulawula umzuzwana ngamunye wempilo yakho. Lokhu ikakhulukazi kuyabonakala emndenini noma kumbhangqwana. Endabeni yomkhaya, lokhu kuhumusha iqiniso lokuthi abazali bazobheka izingane njengabantu abadinga usizo lwabo, ikakhulukazi lokho abakwenzayo. Ngeke babanike inkululeko. Phakathi kwabashadikazi, lokhu kubonakala ikakhulukazi ezingeni lezezimali. Lowo onamandla aphansi wezezimali kuzoba ngumamukeli. Ngakho, umlingani wakhe uzozibona emkhulu kunalena, ngakho-ke kuwumthwalo wakhe ukumsiza. Kuzo zombili izimo, umsindisi uzosho ukuthi omunye umuntu kufanele enzeni, ngoba uyazi ukuthi yini enhle kuye.

•  Ayikho ingxoxo noma umbono ophikisanayo ongenzeka. I-Manipulative savior syndrome izobonisa izimpawu ezimbi kakhulu. Umsindisi uzibona kunguye ophambili, ucabanga yonke into ayenze kahle. Ngakho asingabazi izinqumo zakhe.

• Umsindisi uzofuna ukuqashelwa okuningiNgeke akubekezelele ukunganakwa. Ngenxa yakhe ukungazethembi futhiukuzihloniphaUfuna ukuqashelwa. Uma umsindisi ezwela ngokweqile, i-saver complex idinga ukunakwa okwengeziwe. Angase azibeke engozini ekuphishekeleni lokhu kuqashelwa.

Ijele elingokomzwelo elasungulwa umsindisi okhohlisayo

Leli fomu le- ijele elingokomzwelo liyabonakala endaweni yomndeni. Izingane ezikhula kubazali abavikela ngokweqile ngokuvamile ziyizisulu zalokhu. Ngokuvamile bazokhulela endaweni elawulwa kakhulu, kodwa ngaphezu kwakho konke kude nawo wonke umuntu. Ukufisa bagcine indima yabo njengomsindisi, abazali bayogxambukela ngaphezu kwalokho okudingekayo ekuphileni kwezingane zabo. Futhi ukuze bakhulise lesi sivikelo, bazomisa umgoqo ezizungeze izingane zabo, befuna ukubavikela ngazo zonke izindlela.

Leli jele elingokomzwelo lingaqala ku-a umuzwa omuhle ekuqaleni. Nokho, lokhu kungaba okuphambene endabeni ye-narcissistic savior syndrome othandweni. Uzofuna ukwanelisa ukuzethemba kwakhe ngaphezu kwakho konke. Ngakho ukuze agcine umuntu omthophayo futhi ambonise ukuhlonishwa, angase afune ukumgcina ngemizwa. Leli jele elingokomzwelo lakhiwa umuzwa wokuba necala kwabasindisiwe. Lona wakamuva uzozizwa ekweleta umsindisi wakhe, engaboni ukuthi ungumkhohlisi. Ikakhulukazi njengoba abanye bethemba ukuthi can manipulator ushintsho uthando.

Kungani umkhohlisi ethanda ukuthatha indima yomsindisi?

Isizathu esiphusha umkhohlisi ukuthi acashe ngaphansi kwendima yomsindisi sivela emvelweni yakhe. Okokuqala nje, kuba isembozo kuye uma enganaki. Akukho ukufihla okungcono komkhohlisi ukwedlula lokho komsindisi. Ngokugqoka le ndima, umkhohlisi uzokwazi ukudala umuzwa wokuziphendulela nesisulu sakhe. Ngaleyo ndlela ngeke asole kakhulu futhi abe sengozini enkulu.

Ingabe umsindisi okhohlisayo ungumphendukezeli we-narcissistic?

Singafinyelela kulesi siphetho ngokushesha uma sihlaziya i-narcissistic noma i-toxic savior syndrome. Nokho, kunomehluko omncane okufanele uqaphele.

1. Ukucaciswa kwe-Manipulative Savior Syndrome

Futhi lokhu kuthinta iqiniso lokuthi umuntu ophethwe i-savior syndrome izohlala ifuna ukuqashelwa. Ngenxa yalokhu, uzothambekela ekwandiseni imizamo yakhe yokuthola udumo kumuntu osindisiwe. Kuyo ngisho isisekelo ubuhlobo, the savior syndrome othandweni kuyindaba ebucayi nokho. Ezimweni eziningi, umsindisi uyazibuza futhi ufuna ukuphuma esimweni sakhe. Angase azibuze imibuzo enjengokuthi: wazi kanjani ukuthi une-savior syndrome? Kungani ngine-savior syndrome? Lokhu kuphazamiseka kungaholela kulolu hlobo lokucabanga.

2. Ukucaciswa Kwempetha YeNarcissistic

Ngenkathi i-narcissistic pervert ikwenye i-spectrum yokuphazamiseka kwengqondo. Kuwubuntu obuningi kakhulu enobuthi njengomsindisi okhohlisayo. Umuntu ohlanekezelwe unendlela yokwenza futhi uzofuna izindlela zokulimaza isisulu sakhe. Kuye, inhlalakahle yomuntu kuphela kanye nokuzethemba kwakhe kubalwa futhi lokho kusho ukuthi labo abaseduze naye bayahlupheka. Uze ayijabulele kakhulu. Umsindisi ufuna ukuqashelwa kanye nokudunyiswa, i-narcissistic pervert uyisidalwa esingenalutho esondla kokubili ngokuqashelwa, kodwa futhi nangeshwa labanye.

I-bibliographic reference on manipulative savior syndrome

Nazi izikhombo eziyisikhombisa zebhayibhili ngendikimba ethi “manipulative savior syndrome”:

1. Karsenty, A. (2010). I-Savior Syndrome: Ukubonakaliswa kokuzinikela nokukhohlisa. EParis: Editions Odile Jacob.
2. Miller, M. (2015). Ukukhohlisa kanye nobudlelwano babantu: Ukuqonda umsindisi okhohlisayo. EParis: Editions L’Harmattan.
3. Béguin, P. (2018). IPsychology yobudlelwano phakathi kwabantu: Ukusuka kumsindisi kuya kumkhohlisi. EBrussels: De Boeck Supérieur.
4. Dumont, M. (2019). Umsindisi kanye nomkhohlisi: IPsychology yokusiza ukuziphatha. Lyon: Éditions Eyrolles.
5. Lévy, J. (2017). Amandla aguquguqukayo ebudlelwaneni: Phakathi kokuhlenga kanye nokukhohlisa. Toulouse: Éditions Erès.
6. Boulanger, M. (2021). I-Savior Syndrome kanye nokuxhaphaza ngokomzwelo: Ukuhlaziywa kwengqondo. I-Marseille: Editions du Cerf.
7. Garnier, L. (2016). Ukucabangela abanye abantu noma ukukhohlisa? Ukuqonda i-savior syndrome. Nantes: PUF Editions.

Le misebenzi ikhuluma ngezici ezihlukahlukene ezingokwengqondo nezokuhlalisana kwabantu ze-savior syndrome kanye nokukhohlisa.

Isiphetho

Sengiphetha, i-manipulative savior syndrome ibonisa ukuguquguquka okuyinkimbinkimbi lapho isifiso sokusiza singashintsha ngokushesha sibe ukulawula nokukhohlisa. Lokhu kuziphatha, okuvame ukugqugquzelwa isidingo sokuqashelwa, kudala amajele angokomzwelo alimaza kokubili umhlengi kanye nomuntu osizwayo. Ukuqonda le nkinga kubalulekile ukusungula ubudlelwano obunempilo nobulinganiselayo, nokusiza labo abaphethwe yiyo ukuthi baqaphele izindlela zabo. Umehluko phakathi komsindisi okhohlisayo kanye ne-narcissistic pervert futhi ugqamisa ukubaluleka kwendlela eguquguqukayo ekuhlaziyeni ukuziphatha kobudlelwane.