I-narcissistic pervert inamanga. Amanga avumela ama-FNs ukuthi ethule izithombe ezingamanga zawo kwabangase baqondiswe kubo. Lezi zinhloso zilahlekelwa amandla okwenza izinqumo eziphephile nezifanelekile. Kungani i-narcissistic pervert eqamba amanga ngaso sonke isikhathi? Ingabe i-narcissist ingayeka ukuqamba amanga, ngisho nalapho ibhekene nobufakazi bamanga abo?
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Uyini Umqambimanga Narcissistic?
Uma sikhuluma i-narcissistic personality disorderSibhekene nomuntu onephutha ngokomzwelo nangokokuziphatha, onobugovu, ongenazwela kakhulu nononya, ongakwazi ukuzwelana nabanye, kodwa ocasha ngemuva kobuso bendoda ethandekayo nehehayo.
I-narcissistic pervert ayinalo uzwelo, ukuzisola kanye necala. Eqinisweni akukho okungamvimba ekutheni akhe amanga ekhanda lakhe noma awakhulume aphimisele. Akanayo ikhampasi yokuziphatha emqondisa ekuziphatheni okuhle nokuhloniphekile. Akukho okwenqatshelwe kuye, ikakhulukazi uma ukuqamba amanga kungafeza izithakazelo zakhe. Uma ecabanga ukuthi angazuza ngokushiya noma ekuguquleni iqiniso. Ukwengeza, i-narcissist iyachuma emdlalweni weshashalazi, ijabulela isiphithiphithi esingokomzwelo, futhi ingozi yokubanjwa imshukumisela ukuba aqambe amanga angcono nakakhulu, anobuciko.
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10 amanga ajwayelekile avela kumuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic ukuze akucuphe
Nawa amanga angu-10 avela ku-narcissistic pervert:
1. Ungumuntu omangalisayo kakhulu engake ngahlangana naye
Abantu abasebudlelwaneni a i-narcissistic pervert uzozwa imisho yalolu hlobo emasontweni okuqala omhlangano wabo. Lokhu kuyingxenye yesigaba sokuqhunyiswa kwamabhomu othando futhi kuhilela amazwi e-narcissist nokwenza izinto kumlingani wabo ukuze abenze bazizwe bekhethekile futhi bengavamile. Amazwana alolu hlobo ayacasula, futhi uma unesithakazelo ngempela kumuntu, le mibandela yothando ingakuthandela ngokushesha okukhulu.
Futhi lokho kungumgomo oyinhloko we-narcissist: ukukwenza uthandeke ngokujulile nangomdlandla, futhi uma ungasenamsebenzi, uyakuqeda. Ngeshwa, njengoba la mazwi eduduza njengoba kungase kuzwakale, abanalo iqiniso kubo futhi kufanele kube ifulegi elibomvu lapho uqala ukuphola othile.
2. Ungiphoxe ngokuphelele, ngizizwa ngilahliwe
Ama-narcissists e-pathological enza izimfuno ezingenangqondo neze kubalingani babo. Ngokwesibonelo, bangase bakushayele ucingo emsebenzini bakutshele ukuthi kufanele ubuye ekhaya ngemva kwehora. Bazi kahle kamhlophe ukuthi noma uphuma ehhovisi uqeda nje ukuvala ucingo, kuzokuthatha amahora amabili ukubuya.
I-PN izobe isikusola ngokuthi awutholakali futhi awukwazi ukuhlangabezana nezidingo zayo. Uma uke walokotha ukubeka izidingo zakho kuqala, ungumuntu onobugovu ojabulela ukuzidumaza.
3. Ngiyakwethembisa ukuthi ngizoshintsha
Sivuna esikuhlwanyelayo ekuphileni; futhi ekugcineni, i-narcissist ithatha ukuwa okukhulu. Ubanjwa ngokweba, ukukopela, noma ukwenza okuthile okuyihlazo. Lapho lokhu kwenzeka, umlingani wabo uyabashiya, umyeni noma umkabo bafaka isehlukaniso, noma amalungu omkhaya wabo asongele ngokubalahla.
Kulapho-ke izicelo ziqala khona. Umthakathi uthembisa ukushintsha, avume ukubonana nomeluleki, asho noma yini ukuze aphume obishini aludalile.
4. Angikaze ngiqambe amanga empilweni yami, pho ngingakuqambelani amanga?
Sonke lesi sitatimende singamanga ngoba elinye lamathalenta amakhulu kunawo wonke liqamba amanga. Uqamba amanga kangangokuthi ukholelwa amanga akhe.
Noma nini lapho umgadli ecabanga ukuthi ubanjwe ngamanga, noma uma othile emkhumbuza ukuthi lokho akushoyo manje kuphambene nalokho akushilo ehoreni eledlule, uzophika ngokuphelele ukuthi ukuphikisana okunjalo kwenzeka.
5. Umlingani wami wangaphambili wayezifela ngami ngokuphelele
Abahlanekezeli be-Narcissistic bazokwenza noma yini edingekayo ukuze bahlanganise amathrekhi abo. Phezu kokuthi umaqondana wabo akasiyena ngokwezobuchwepheshe ngoba bebelala ndawonye selokhu bahlangana nawe.
Umdidiyeli uyobe eseqamba amanga ngalo muntu njengokuthi umqhathile ngezingcingo, wabonakala ehhovisi wasabisa ngokuthi uzotshela isithandwa sakhe esisha ukuthi baqomile njll.
I-narcissist manje usezakhele udonga oluphelele lokuzivikela, ukuze kuthi lapho ekugcineni ebanjwa, umlingani wakhe angase amkholelwe.
6. AmaNarcissists aqamba amanga ngezikhundla kanye nemali engenayo
Enye yezinto umuntu ohlanekezelekayo angayenza lapho ehlangana nomuntu omusha ukuqamba amanga ngomsebenzi wakhe kanye neholo lakhe. Kungenzeka ukuthi uneminyaka engu-21 ubudala oqeqeshelwa i-accountant, kodwa uzotshela isithandwa sakhe ukuthi uphumelele ekolishi ngoba uhlakaniphile.
Kamuva wakhushulelwa esikhundleni sokuba umqondisi wenkampani ngenxa yolwazi lwabo oluphambili. Ubasi wahlabeka umxhwele ngamakhono akhe obuholi kangangokuthi waqokwa njengomqondisi ngemva kweminyaka emibili ethathe izintambo.
7. Ngimatasa okwamanje
I-narcissistic pervert ihlale ifuna ukuthi izisulu zayo zicele okwengeziwe. Izitatimende ezinjengalezi zivame ukuza ngemva kwesigaba sokuqhunyiswa kwamabhomu othando. Bayazi ukuthi baluthwe isisulu sabo, ngakho sekuyisikhathi sokubonisa imibala yabo yangempela; Lokhu kubizwa ngesigaba sokwehliswa kwamanani.
Isibonelo, umlingani wabo usejwayele ukubabona ngo-18 ntambama njalo ngoLwesihlanu kusihlwa. Bamisa umhlangano, bapheka ukudla kwakusihlwa, futhi bahlezi nengilazi yewayini balinde ukukhala kwensimbi emnyango ngo-18 p.m. Ngo-18:30 p.m., akakafiki. Lukhale kaningi alubambe ucingo.
8. Bengifuna ukubona ukuthi uqhuba kanjani?
Usunezinyanga eziyisithupha uthandana nomuntu okhohlakele; Konke kwakubonakala kuhamba kahle, wabe esenyamalala. Wayeka ukuphendula imibhalo yakho futhi ekushayela, kodwa akazange akutshele ukuthi ubuhlobo bakho buphelile.
Okwenzeka ngempela ukuthi uthole umuntu abecabanga ukuthi ungcono kunawe wabe esehlala naye.
9. Ngivikela umuntu ngokumqambela amanga
Ukube bebelazi iqiniso, bekungabalimaza. Akukhona ukuthi wonke umuntu udinga ukwazi yonke imicabango noma amaqiniso ezimpilweni zethu, kodwa i-narcissist izodukisa, ikhiphe, noma iqambe amanga asobala ngezici ezinkulu zokuphila kwabo futhi izitshele ukuthi ivikela abantu, ukuthi ‘akabalimazi.
10. Kwadingeka ngiqambe amanga.
Izimo zazinjalo kangangokuthi kwakunengqondo ukuthi ngiqambe amanga. Izimo zangaphandle zangiphoqa ukuthi ngiqambe amanga, ngabe ngiyisiphukuphuku ngingakwenzi. Abakushoyo ukuthi ukuqamba kwabo amanga kwakubangelwa izimo zangaphakathi noma bephula izimiso zabo. Akukho ukuziphendulela ngokuqamba amanga. Ngenxa yokuthi abazithwesi umthwalo, bakutshela ukuthi bazothola isizathu sokuqamba amanga esikhathini esizayo. Futhi bazoqamba amanga kuwe.
Lena yindlela umkhohlisi aqamba ngayo amanga ngokusobala kithi futhi asenze sikholwe noma yini.
Kungani ama-narcissistic perverts eqamba amanga?
Uma ujola nomuntu okhohlakele, ujwayele ukuqanjelwa amanga. Amanga akhe angapheli ayingxenye yezwe. Kumuntu ojwayelekile, kungase kudideke kakhulu ukuhlale uqanjelwa amanga ngumuntu othi uyakukhathalela.
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Abaphendukezeli be-Narcissistic baqamba amanga kalula futhi bakholisa kakhulu.
Bajabulela ukuqamba amanga ngoba abanalo uhlobo oluvamile lwemizwa yomuntu. Bangenalutho futhi banesithukuthezi, abanalo uzwelo ngabanye futhi abazizwa benamahloni noma bazisola. Lesi sikhala siphinde sibavumele ukuthi baqambe amanga ngomzamo omncane. Bangakwazi ukubuka abantu ngqo emehlweni futhi baqambe amanga ngokushesha futhi bengenacala, ngisho nalapho bebhekene nemibuzo ephenyisisayo. Kulula futhi kubo ukuthi baphike amanga abo, benze izaba, futhi baveze ukuziphatha kwabo kwabanye, okuyiqiniso, okungamanga ngokwako.
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Baphinde baqambe amanga ukuze bahawukele abanye.
Bangamaqili, ngakho basebenzisa isifiso esingokwemvelo abantu abaningi abanaso sokusiza nokuphakamisa abanye abantu. Basebenzisa inkohliso (futhi ngezinye izikhathi nephuzu leqiniso) ukuze bakhe inqwaba yezifo nezinkinga eziqanjiwe. Imidlalo yokudabukela ejwayeleke kakhulu ihlanganisa izifo nokulimala okungelona iqiniso, izihambi “ezihlanyayo”, izingozi zezimoto, nokweba, ukubala okumbalwa.
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Ukuqamba amanga okungapheli
Emaphethelweni aphansi ochungechunge oluqamba amanga, bangakwazi ukungathembeki, ubuqili, ubuqili, ubuhlakani, kanye namasu ekudaleni amanga. Ekupheleni okuphezulu kwe-narcissism ye-pathological, umqambimanga uyakhohlisa, uyakhohlisa, akathembeki ekufinyeleleni enhliziyweni yokungavikeleki kwesisulu sakhe. Uqala ngokuqamba amanga ngaye, bese ekhuluma nge-ex yakhe, umsebenzi wakhe kanye nezimpumelelo zakhe. Baqamba amanga ngemizwa yabo ngawe ukuze uthole ukuthi uthenge ngokushesha. Ekugcineni bazoqamba amanga ngawe. Bese ulindela ukuthi baqambe amanga ngamanga abo.
Ukuze uxhumane: ekhuluma nomuntu ohlanekezela ama-narcissistic
Ungawabona kanjani amanga e-Narcissistic Pervert?
Isithiyo sokuqala ukukhomba ukuthi ubhekene ne-narcissistic pervert. Lesi kuvame ukuba yisinyathelo esibaluleke kakhulu, njengoba iningi lamacala lingatholakali.
1. Bazethemba kakhulu emangeni abo
Lokhu kusho ukuthi bazibheka njengabaqambimanga abakhulu futhi babukela phansi ikhono labanye lokubona amanga abo. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, babuye bawubuke kancane umonakalo ongabangelwa amanga abo.
2. Bahlanganyela emangeni aluhlaza
Kuhilela ukuqamba amanga ukuze ulawule noma ulawule abanye abantu. Noma baqamba amanga ukuze baziphindiselele.
3. Baqamba amanga ukuze bazenze bangcono kunabanye
Ngokwesibonelo, basakaza amahlebezi ngabanye abantu ukuze babonakale bengcono uma beqhathaniswa noma benze ihaba ngezimpumelelo zabo.
Izikhombo ze-Bibliographic
Nazi izikhombo eziyisikhombisa zebhayibheli endikimbeni yokuqamba amanga ku-narcissistic pervert:
- Racamier, P.-C. (1992). Ingcweti yasekuqaleni. I-Paris: I-Payot.
- Eiguer, A. (1989). I-narcissistic pervert kanye nomlingani wakhe. EParis: Dunod.
- Hirigoyen, M.-F. (1998). Ukuhlukunyezwa kokuziphatha: ubudlova obuhlanekezelwe nsuku zonke. Paris: Syros.
- Masingue, A., & Janin Devillars, L. (2016). Ama-Narcissistic perverts: iqiniso lenhlangano? Ukuhlolwa kwe-Semantic kanye nokwelashwa kwephrofayela yomuntu we-protean okuhlangatshezwane nayo ezinhlanganweni. Ijenali yamazwe ngamazwe yePsychosociology kanye nokuphathwa kokuziphatha kwenhlangano, HS – Supplement, 280-304.
- Olano, M. (2024). I-Narcissistic perversion, uphawu lwenkathi. Isayensi yezenhlalakahle, I-373, i-78-79.
- Le Goff, J., & Rexand-Galais, F. (2017). I-Narcissistic perversion in a psycho-geriatric institution: psychotherapeutic kanye nezindaba zomtholampilo. I-Psychotherapies, 37 (1), 45-53.
- Brenner, M. (2024). “I-narcissistic pervert” kanye nokwabiwa komqondo wesayensi. Ama-Counterpoints Ukucabangisisa kwamahhala.
Lezi zithenjwa zinikeza umbono ojulile wokuthi abaphendukezeli be-narcissistic bawasebenzisa kanjani amanga njengethuluzi lokukhohlisa nokulawula ezimweni ezihlukahlukene.
Isiphetho
Ukuqamba amanga kuyisikhali esibalulekile kunqolobane ye-narcissistic pervert, emvumela ukuthi alawule, alawule futhi aphazamise izisulu zakhe. Lokhu kuthambekela kwe-pathological kwembula igebe elijulile lomzwelo, elingenalo uzwela nokuzisola, okwandisa isidingo sakhe sokubusa nedrama. Ukuqaphela lokhu kuziphatha kuyisinyathelo sokuqala sokuzivikela ethonyeni lakho elinobuthi.
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