Ingabe i-PN ingaphuthelwa? 5 amathiphu ukumenza abuye

Singaphuthelwa yi-PN sibe sazi ukuthi abanalo uzwelo? Noma ubani oke waba nesipiliyoni sothando nomuntu okhuluma naye uyazi ukuthi kunzima ukuzwa uthando. Ngelinye ilanga uyakuwela, ngelinye ilanga akujikijele konke ebusweni bakho. Phakathi kokuntula uthando nothando oluyizinsalela, akukho lutho ekugcineni endaweni yalo. Uma ufuna ukuvusa ukuhoxa endaweni eyi-narcissistic pervert ngemva kokuhlukana, nanka amathiphu angu-5 asebenzayo.  

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Ingabe i-narcissistic pervert ingakukhumbula ngempela?

Yebo futhi cha! Noma ibuphi ubuhlobo bothando noma obunobungane buhlose ukugcwalisa isikhala esingokomzwelo noma ukwanelisa isidingo somzwelo. Leli qiniso lisebenza kukho kokubili ubudlelwano obunempilo kanye nobudlelwano obungenampilo. 

Kungani kunjalo?

Ngakho-ke ungadala lesi sikhala somzwelo ku-PN uma kwenzeka kubhidlika ubudlelwano bothando noma obunobungani. Lokhu kuzosebenza kuphela uma ungamenza ezwe ukungakhululeki lapho ungekho. Kuzodingeka abe nomuzwa wokunganeliseki ngesinye sezidingo zakhe ongasenelisa nguwe kuphela.    

Kungani kungenjalo?       

Kodwa-ke, kusenzima ukuthi umuntu ophendukezelwe yi-narcissistic ahambisane nothando. Kufanele uqonde ukuthi ukuguqulwa kwe-narcissistic kuvela ekutheni ungena ebudlelwaneni ngenhloso yokukuhlukumeza. I-narcissist ayikwazi ukukunikeza uthando, ikukhumbule, futhi ayikwazi ukukuthanda ngokweqiniso.

Uma eza kuwe noma ebonisa ukuntula kwakhe uthando, akukhona kumongo wothando lweqiniso. Uyithuluzi nje elilula emehlweni akhe angakwazi ukulisebenzisa ngokuthanda kwakhe kungekho muntu ozomvimba. Ukhetha ukuphila ngokuphika ngokuphelele noma yikuphi okuhlangenwe nakho okungokomzwelo.

Amathiphu angu-5 okuqinisekisa ukuthi uphuthelwa i-PN

Noma ngabe wazi ukuthi anibanga nezinsuku ezimnandi ebudlelwaneni, nibuyise umgilwa ngemuva ikhefu kungase kube ukuphela kwendlela yokubuyisela ukwethenjwa kwakhe.

Ithiphu #1: Cabanga njengaye

Qala ukuba nengqondo efanayo neyesikhohlisi sakho. Umgadli uza kuwe ngoba ekubona njengomthombo wempahla. Ngakho-ke, sebenzisa lesi sipho ukumenza azisole ngesinqumo sakhe.

Ithiphu #2: Gwema ukuhlukunyezwa

Yeka ukudlala isisulu uma uhlala ne-narcissist. Kumele umshiyele izwi lokugcina njengoba efisa. I-PN ihlala yodwa ekunqumeni ubuhlobo, ngakho-ke ungabe usaziveza njengesisulu phambi kwakhe. Ungabe usachitha isikhathi uzama ukulungisa ukuziphatha okubi. Kwamukele ukugxeka kwakhe!   

Ithiphu #3: Thola i-narcissist ukuthi ikuvulele isifuba

Naphezu kokubanda kwakhe, i-narcissist ingaphezu kwakho konke umuntu onemizwa, ngisho noma engayivezi ngokwanele. Ngakho-ke thatha isikhathi sakho futhi umenze akuvulele isifuba kancane kancane. Ungamcela ukuthi akutshele ngaye, amaphupho akhe, amaphrojekthi akhe, njll. umgomo uwukufohla kuzo zonke izivikelo zakho ezingokomzwelo.

Ithiphu #4: Hlala ukhumbula ubuqiniso bobudlelwano bakho

I-PN ihlezi isesha izinto eziwusizo ngempela kuye. Uzohlala efuna imali, abalingani abakhangayo, amandla onke, njll. Ngaso sonke isikhathi mkhumbuze ngezici ezinhle zobudlelwano benu, ubusuka babo, njll.

Amathiphu #5: Thula emsakazweni

Ukumisa ukubhala, ukuphendula noma ukufunda imiyalezo ye-PN kuyindlela yokumenza aqonde ukuthi awufaki ukubaluleka kwakho kuye. Kumayelana nokumenza aqonde ukuthi awuxhumene nezifiso zakhe. Ukungaphenduli kusho nokuthi awusenandaba nobudlelwano.       

I-PN ikhathala nini?

Kunzima ukubuka i-narcissist ikhathala. Akalona igwala futhi akakhathali. I-PN ayithandi ukulahlekelwa ukubamba inyamazane yayo, ngokuphambene nalokho. Khumbula ukuthi ukwaneliseka kwakhe okukhulu akukhona ukuphumelela kobudlelwane bakhe. Ukhululekile kakhulu ukuzwisa abanye ubuhlungu. Ukulimaza umlingani wakho kubonakala njengempumelelo. Yingakho cishe ingayeki ukuziphindiselela, ukulimaza noma ukucekela phansi inyamazane yayo. 

Kuthatha isikhathi esingakanani ukuthi i-PN ibuye?

Ngisho noma u-PN elahlekelwe ubudlelwano bakhe, uhlala ebuya inqobo nje uma kungeyena owanquma isiphetho sobudlelwano. Ukubuya kwakhe kuzoshesha uma kunguwe oqede ubudlelwano. Futhi lapho, usebenzisa zonke izindlela ukuze akwenze ubuye. Into ebaluleke kakhulu kuye ukuqedela umsebenzi wakhe, ukwenza okubi nakakhulu.   

Ngakolunye uhlangothi, uma kunguye oqeda ubuhlobo ngemva kokukucekela phansi ngokwengqondo, angathatha isikhathi sakhe. Umkhohlisi ushiya ubuhlobo lapho ephumelela. Ngokwenza kanjalo, kuba lula kuye ukudedela noma shintsha inyamazane.   

Ingabe kufanele siziphindiselele ku-PN?

Asikho isidingo sokudlula kule nkinga! Abanye abantu ngokwemvelo banomuzwa wesifiso sokuziphindiselela ku-narcissist ngemva kokuhlupheka okungaka nokonakala kwengqondo. Umhlaseli wakho akabikezeleki futhi isifiso sakhe sokulimaza abanye asinamkhawulo. Yingakho, kunokuba uzame ukukubhubhisa, kungcono ukuzikhulula ethonyeni layo unomphela.

Ireferensi yezincwadi ngendikimba: “ingabe i-PN ingaphuthelwa? »

Nazi izikhombo eziyisikhombisa zebhayibhili, ezikhuluma ngendikimba yobudlelwano nomuntu we-narcissistic (NP) kanye nemiphumela yengqondo ehlobene:

1. Lévy, J. (2013). Ukuhlukumeza ngokwengqondo: Ukuqonda nokuzikhulula ku-narcissistic pervert. Izinhlobo ze-Eyrolles.
2. UMarty, M. (2010). Ama-Narcissistic perverts: Qonda futhi wenze. Izinguqulo ze-Atelier.
3. Menard, F. (2012). Ama-Narcissistic perverts: Ungaphuma kanjani kuwo? Izinguqulo Zokuqala.
4. Bélanger, C. (2018). Imithelela yobudlelwano nomuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic empilweni yengqondo yezisulu. Ijenali yePsychology, 23(2), 45-60.
5. U-Moulin, S. (2019). I-Narcissistic perverts and manipulation: ungawela kanjani ogibeni? Izinguqulo Leduc.s.
6. Grosjean, S. (2020). Ubudlelwano nomuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic: Lapho uthando luba ukuhlupheka. Editions Érès.
7. Menard, M. (2015). Izisulu zokukhohlisa: Ukuqonda i-narcissistic pervert. Psychology and Society, 10(1), 27-40.

Lezi zikhombo kufanele zinikeze ukubukezwa okuhle kwesayensi nokusebenzayo kwesihloko.

 

Njengoba uzobe uzwile, i-PN ingakukhumbula uma umele umthombo wayo. Ama-Narcissists angabantu abaphila ngokuphika konke okuhlangenwe nakho okungokomzwelo. Ngakho-ke abakwazi ukuzwa imizwa eyakhayo njengothando, uzwelo, isihawu noma ngisho nokuzisola.  

Ukuze uxhumane:

• Indlela Yokulimaza I-Narcissistic Pervert
• Kuthatha isikhathi esingakanani ukuthi i-PN ibuye?