Uba kanjani i-Narcissistic Pervert futhi ekhohlisayo?

Uba kanjani impetha ye-narcissistic? Ukuba i-PN kuvame ukubangelwa yizinto ezithile ezibuhlungu kusukela ebuntwaneni bakho. Lokhu kuwumphumela womndeni ongasebenzi kahle. Phakathi kodlame, ukuhlukunyezwa kanye nenkinga yemizwa, yonke into iphakamisa ukuthi kunezici ezenza umuntu abe yi-PN, ngokuqaphela noma engazi.

Ungakwazi yini ukuzalwa i-Narcissistic Pervert?

Empeleni, akekho ozalwa uPN. Siba njalo ngamandla ezimo, ikakhulukazi indawo ohlala kuyo ngaleso sikhathi. I-Narcissistic perversion ayiwona ubhubhane noma isifo esidluliselwa ngomxhumanisi.

Ngempela, ukuhlanekezela kwe-narcissistic kumane nje kuwukuphazamiseka kobuntu okwenzeka ebuntwaneni noma ebuntwaneni. Nansi indatshana yethu echaza i izimbangela eziphambene ne-narcissistic. Ezinye izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo yezingane zibeka lesi sikhathi sokukhula komntwana phakathi kweminyaka emi-2 neyisi-6 ubudala. Izingane ezikhohlisayo sezivele zithwele imbewu yokuhlanekezelwa kwe-narcissistic.

Uba kanjani impetha ye-narcissistic? 

Nazi izimbangela nezici ezihlukene:

1. Amathonya emvelo namasiko

• Uba kanjani impetha ye-narcissistic? Ucwaningo oluningi lubonisa ukuthi ukuhlanekezela kwe-narcissistic kuphakeme kakhulu emasikweni noma emiphakathini yomuntu ngamunye. Le miphakathi igcizelela kakhulu amalungelo omuntu ngokulimaza isiko elihlangene. Izifiso zeqembu azinakwa futhi ukuzimela kuyaphakanyiswa.
• Ngaphezu kwesiko, indawo yokuhlala eseduze ithonya ukuziphatha kwengane. Izehlakalo ezibuhlungu phakathi nengane encane ngezinye izikhathi zinembangela yokuvela kwezici ze-narcissistic kubantu abadala abakhohlisayo. Ukuntula uthando, ukwenqatshwa, ukuphathwa kabi, ukugxekwa ngokweqile noma ukutuswa, njll., kungaholela ekuphendukezeleni kwe-narcissistic.
• Ukuhlanekezelwa kwe-Narcissistic kuvame ukubonwa kumasiko omuntu ngamunye, kugcizelela amalungelo omuntu ngokulimala kokuhle kweqoqo.
• Indawo eseduze, ephawulwa yizigigaba zasebuntwaneni ezihlukumezayo, ingaba negalelo ekuthuthukisweni kwezimpawu zokunakisisa kubantu abadala.

2. Okuhlangenwe nakho kwasebuntwaneni kanye nesibopho somzali nengane

Ingane ezalwa yakhulela e umndeni we-narcissistic pervert ifaneleka kakhulu ukuthuthukisa izici ze-narcissistic, ukuphazamiseka kobuntu okungcono kakhulu.

• Izici ezithile zabazali, njengodlame, ukuvikela ngokweqile, ukuhlukumeza, zithonya ukuthuthukiswa kwezici ze-narcissistic ezinganeni.
• Okuhlangenwe nakho kwasebuntwaneni, okuhlanganisa ubudlova obungokwengqondo nokuntuleka kwemingcele yabazali, kungaba nendima ebalulekile.

Ngempela, izici ezithile zabazali zivame ukubangela amazinga ahlukene we-narcissism ezinganeni. Phakathi kwalezi zici zomzali, une:

• Udlame lwe-Psychosomatic kanye nokuhlukunyezwa
• Okubizwa ngokuthi “ibhere lomama” (ukuvikela ingane ngokweqile)
• Ukuhlukunyezwa nokuphathwa kabi
• Ukuzitika okuyihaba noma ukungabi khona kwemikhawulo noma imingcele
• Ukuntuleka kokufudumala kwabazali
• Ukulinganisa ngokweqile noma ukudumisa okusekelwe ekucabangeni okungenangqondo noma okuvumela ukuphelela, ubukhulu, njll.

3. Ufuzo

Abanye abacwaningi bathole ukuxhumana okuqinile phakathi kokuhlanekezelwa kwe-narcissistic kanye nezici ezithile zobuntu ezisuka kumzali ziye enganeni. Ngokombiko walokhu kuhlola, izakhi zofuzo zingachaza ukubukeka kwezici ze-narcissistic ezihlanekezelwe ezinganeni lapho zizalwa.

• I-Grandiosity itholakala ngo-23% kumbhangqwana lapho omunye wabazali ethula le mfanelo yomlingiswa
• Umuzwa wokungabi naphutha noma wokuhlala ulungile ungama-35%.

Kufanele kukhunjulwe ukuthi lapho uthola ubukhulu, izici ze-narcissistic ozozihlakulela njengomuntu omdala yilezi: ukuzazisa okuzicabangela wena, ukubusa noma ukuziphatha okubusayo.

Kungani siba ama-narcissistic perverts?

Izizathu ziningi, kodwa umuntu uba ngumuntu ozithanda ngokweqile ukuze azivikele ezweni elisizungezile. Eqinisweni, ukuhlanekezelwa kokuthanda ngokweqile kuvela ku- indlela yokuzivikela yathuthukiswa kusukela ebuntwaneni. Le ndlela yokuzivikela idla ukuziphatha kobugovu nokuqhosha.

Kusukela eminyakeni engu-4-5, ingane yakha uhlelo lokuzivikela oluzenzakalelayo oluhlaselayo olusebenza ngesisekelo sokukhohlisa. Ngaphezu kwalokho, le ndlela yokuzivikela iyisivikelo ngokumelene nengqondo kanye ne-schizophrenia.

Ingabe i-manipulator iyazi ukuthi iphenduka i-narcissistic manipulator?

Embuzweni wokuthi ngabe Ingabe i-PN iyazi? Ososayensi bokuziphatha abavumelani ngokuthi ungumuntu othanda ukuzicabangela ngokweqile. Eqinisweni, umdlwembe akazi ngempela ukuthi ungumduki.

Uphila ezweni eliyinkimbinkimbi elibuswa ukuphika, uzwela kanye nokukhwabanisa. Ngenxa yokuthi akazi nge-pathology yakhe, futhi akanakho okunye, ngakho-ke akunakwenzeka ukuba abonane nochwepheshe. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, bathanda ukwenza okubi futhi bawazi kahle umthelela izenzo zabo ezinawo kwabanye.

Izimpawu ezi-5 zokubona i-narcissistic manipulator

Nazi izimpawu ezi-5 zokubona i-manipulator:

1. Une-ego enkulu : ucabanga ukuthi uyinkaba yezwe, uphakamisa amakhono akhe, uhlezi ezazisa futhi wehlisa isithunzi sabanye ngesikhathi esincane nje.
2. Uthatha isimo sokuma isisulu unomphela : akawaboni amaphutha akhe, uhlale ekholelwa ukuthi akekho umuntu okufanelekelayo ubungane bakhe, uveza amaphutha akhe kwabanye.
3. Akanalo uzwelo, ukunakekelwa nokunaka : akakwazi neze ukuzwelana namashwa abanye, ubonakala ebanda futhi akasoze abuqonda ubunzima, ubuhlungu noma ukuhlupheka kwabanye.
4. kukhona umanipulator nomqambimanga kanyekanye : ngaphezu kokuba umkhohlisi omuhle, i-PN inolimi olunemfoloko. Unekhono lokukhohlisa futhi uyakujabulela ukudala inkungu yengqondo emzungezile. Uqamba amanga ngakho konke.
5. Akalokothi awavume amaphutha akhe futhi aphike bonke ubufakazi : i-narcissistic pervert iphila ngokuphika ngokuphelele, ayikwazi ukuqaphela ukuthi ihlushwa ukuphazamiseka kobuntu. Akakwazi ukubhekana neqiniso futhi uhlale ebeka abanye ekungaqiniseki.

I-Narcissistic pervert: Singamguqula noma simguqule abe umuntu ojwayelekile?

akekho Ukwelashwa kwe-narcissistic pervert. Ngamanye amazwi, akunakwenzeka ukuguqula i-PN ibe umuntu ojwayelekile. Iqiniso liwukuthi akasoze azibuza. Cishe akunakwenzeka ukuthi wenze umuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic athandane. Ngaphezu kwalokho, umshini wokuzihlola awukho kuye, ngakho-ke, kunzima ukuthi i-PN ibuyele emizweni engcono. Ngakho-ke uyena kuphela obambe izikhiye zokushintsha.

Ngakolunye uhlangothi, i-PN ingashintsha izici ezithile zobuntu bakhe. Ngakho-ke kufanele abhekane naye ukuze abone ukungakhululeki kwakhe nokuhlupheka kwakhe. Le nselelo ingenzeka uma futhi kuphela uma i-NP ingenazo isisulu. Ngakho-ke kuyenzeka ukubona imilayezo enjengokuthi “Ngingumuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic, kufanele ngenzeni?” » ezinkundleni ezithile, lokhu lapho i-PN iqala ukuqaphela ukungakhululeki kwakhe.

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Nazi izikhombo zebhayibheli eziyisikhombisa eziphathelene nokuthuthukiswa kokuhlanekezelwa kwe-narcissistic kanye nokuziphatha okukhohlisayo:

1. Racamier, P.-C. (1992). Ukuguqulwa kweNarcissistic. I-Paris: Izinguqulo ze-Payot.
2. Hirigoyen, M.-F. (1998). Ukuhlukunyezwa kokuziphatha: ubudlova obuhlanekezelwe nsuku zonke. Paris: Éditions Syros.
3. Tisseron, S. (2013). Izimfihlo zomndeni: i-psychoanalysis ye-transgenerational. I-Paris: I-PUF Editions.
4. Cyrulnik, B. (2001). Ishwa elimangalisayo. EParis: Editions Odile Jacob.
5. UMeloy, J.R. (2002). Ingqondo Yengqondo: Imvelaphi, Amandla, kanye Nokwelashwa. I-Paris: I-PUF Editions.
6. Bergeret, J. (2004). Ubuntu obujwayelekile kanye ne-pathological. Paris: Éditions Dunod.
7. Anzieu, D. (1985). Isikhumba uqobo. Paris: Éditions Dunod.

Le misebenzi inikeza ukuqonda okujulile kwezinto ezingokwengqondo nezemvelo ezinomthelela ekuthuthukisweni kokuhlanekezelwa kwe-narcissistic kanye nokuziphatha okukhohlisayo.

Isiphetho:

Ukuhlanekezelwa kwe-Narcissistic kuvame ukuvela esikhathini esidlule esibuhlungu, okukhuthaza ukuthuthukiswa kwendlela yokuzivikela enolaka. Ukuqonda le mvelaphi kunganikeza izindlela zokuhlola amathuba oshintsho, kodwa ukhiye wenqubo usekuqapheleni nasentandweni yomuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic.