Ubudlelwano nomuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic ngokuvamile bushiya imiphumela ejulile, ikakhulukazi ukuvinjelwa kwemizwelo okungase kuqhubeke isikhathi eside ngemva kokuphela kobudlelwane. Lesi sihloko sihlola izindlela zalokhu kuvinjelwa futhi siphakamisa izindlela zokuzikhulula kancane kancane kukho.
Ukuqonda ukuvinjwa kwemizwa kulandela ubudlelwano obunobuthi
Ukuvinjwa ngokomzwelo kuwukusabela kokuvikela ngokwengqondo ekuhlukumezekeni okuzwile. Ngemva kokubhekana nobudlelwane nomuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic, abesifazane abaningi bazithola bendikindiki ngokomzwelo. Lesi senzo sokubulala izinzwa singazibonakalisa ngezindlela ezahlukene:
- Ubunzima bemizwa noma ukuveza imizwa
- Ukuzwa kwe- ingaphakathi elingenalutho
- Ukuhlukana kwemizwelo
- Ukwesaba ukuthanda noma ukwethemba futhi
- Izindlela zokuvikela ukugwema ukuhlupheka
Lokhu kuvinjelwa kwemizwelo kuwumphumela oqondile wokukhohliswa nokuhlukunyezwa okukhona. Lo muntu ohlanekezelekayo waqeda kancane kancane ukuzethemba nokuzethemba komuntu oyisisulu sakhe, wamsusa emizweni yakhe.
UCristina unikeza iseshini yomuntu ngamunye ukukusiza uphume ekulawulweni okuhlukumezayo futhi wakhe impilo yakho kabusha.
Izimbangela eziyinhloko zokuvinjelwa kwemizwa kwangemva kokuhlukumezeka
Kunezici eziningana ezichaza ukusungulwa kwalokhu kuvinjelwa kwemizwelo:
- Ukwesaba ukuhlupheka futhi: Ngemva kokuba nobudlelwano obunobuthi nobuhlungu obunjalo, kungokwemvelo ukufuna ukuzivikela ukuze ungaphinde udlule kulokho. Ukuvinjwa kusebenza njengesihlangu somzwelo.
- Ukulahlekelwa ama-bearings kanye nokuzethemba: Ngokukhohlisa nokwehlisa inani, isisulu sigcina sizingabaza sona kanye nemibono yabo. Akasalokothi athembe imizwa yakhe.
- Ukufakwa ngaphakathi kwenkulumo ye-narcissist: Ngokuzwa ukuthi uzwela kakhulu, uyahlanya noma akazinzile ngokomzwelo, isisulu sigcina sicindezela imizwa yaso ukuze ihambisane nokulindelwe ngumuntu ohlanekezelwe.
- Umuzwa wecala: Izisulu eziningi zizizwa zinesibopho ngalokho eziye zabhekana nakho futhi ziyakugwema ukuveza ukuhlupheka kwazo, ngenxa yamahloni.
- La ukuhlukana okubuhlungu : Ubhekene ne- ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo ihlukumezekile, i-psyche iyazivikela ngokuzisika emizwelweni enamandla kakhulu.
Imiphumela yesikhathi eside yokuvinjelwa kwemizwelo
Uma lokhu kuvinjelwa ekuqaleni kunomsebenzi wokuvikela, kuba yinkinga esikhathini eside futhi kukuvimbele ukuthi uphile ngokugcwele. Nansi eminye imiphumela evamile:
- Izinkinga zobudlelwano kanye nokwesaba ukusondelana
- Ukulahlekelwa incazelo kanye nomuzwa wobuze obukhona
- Izindlela zokuzicekela phansi
- Ukukhathazeka nokucindezeleka
- Ama-somatization ahlukahlukene
- Ukuziphatha okuluthayo ukugcwalisa isikhala
Ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukufunda ukuxhumana kancane kancane nemizwa yakho ukuze uthole ukuphila okugcwele.
Indlela yokubona izimpawu zokuvinjelwa ngokomzwelo?
Nazi ezinye izinkomba ezingabonisa ukuba khona kokuvinjelwa kwemizwa:
- Ubunzima bokuqamba noma ukuchaza imizwa
- Ukuthambekela kokucabangela kunokuzizwa
- Ukugwema izimo ezishubile ngokomzwelo
- Ukuzizwa unqanyuliwe kuwena nakwabanye
- Ukuntuleka kokusabela okungokomzwelo ezenzakalweni ezibalulekile
- Ubunzima bokwenza izinqumo ngokusekelwe emizweni
Uma uzibona ukulezi zimpawu, kubalulekile ukuthi ungahlali kulesi simo sokuvinjwa. Izixazululo zikhona ukuze uzikhulule kancane kancane kukho.
Amathuluzi aphathekayo okuxhumana kabusha nemizwa yakho
Nazi ezinye izindlela ezingasiza ukugqashula ekuvinjweni kwemizwa:
- Ukuzindla kwengqondo: Ikuvumela ukuthi uthuthukise ukuqwashisa okwengeziwe kwesikhathi samanje kanye nemizwa yakho yomzimba nengokomzwelo.
- Ukubhala okuvezayo: Ukugcina idayari kukusiza ukuthi ubeke imizwa yakho ngamagama futhi uyihlole ngokujulile.
- Ukwelashwa komzimba: Izindlela ezifana ne-sophrology noma i-yoga zikuvumela ukuthi uxhumane kabusha nomzimba wakho kanye nemizwa yawo.
- Ukwelapha ngobuciko: Ukuziveza ngobuciko (ukudweba, ukudweba, ukumodela, njll.) kungasiza ekuvuleni imizwelo egqitshiwe.
- Ukwelashwa kwe-EMDR: Le ndlela iphumelela kakhulu ekwelapheni ukuhlukumezeka nokususa ukuvinjwa kwemizwa okuhlobene.
Ukubaluleka kokwesekwa kokwelapha ukuze uzikhulule
Ukufuna ukusekelwa kuchwepheshe ngokuvamile kuyadingeka ukuze unqobe ukuvinjelwa okujulile ngokomzwelo. Umelaphi uzokwazi uku:
- Siza uqonde umsuka wokuvinjwa
- Ukukuqondisa ukuthi uhlole imizwa yakho ngokuphepha
- Ukukunikeza amathuluzi afanelana nesimo sakho
- Ukukusekela ngezikhathi ezinzima ohlelweni
- Siza ukwakha kabusha isithombe esihle ngawe
Ungangabazi ukuxhumana nodokotela wezengqondo noma isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo esigxile ekuhlukumezekeni okuhlobene.
Phinda uthole ukuzethemba kuwe kanye nemizwelo yakho ngemva kokuvinjelwa ngokomzwelo
Njengoba uqhubeka nenqubo yokuxhuma kabusha ngokomzwelo, uzobona ukuthuthuka kancane kancane ekuzethembeni kwakho. Nazi ezinye zezimpawu ezikhuthazayo:
- Ukwazi kangcono ukuhlonza nokuveza izidingo zakho
- Uyalokotha wenqabe bese ubeka imingcele yakho
- Wethemba intuition yakho kakhulu
- Uzizwa uyiqiniso kakhulu ebudlelwaneni bakho
- Uhlangabezana nezikhathi zenjabulo nokulula
Kancane kancane, ufunda ukuthemba imizwa yakho kanye nawe futhi. Lokhu kuwuphawu lokuthi uyazikhulula ekuvinjweni kwemizwa.
Sibheke empilweni yemizwa ecebile negcwaliseke kakhudlwana
Xhumana kabusha nemizwa yakho ngemva ubuhlobo obunobuthi kuyindlela enzima kodwa ekhulula ngokujulile. Lokhu kukuvumela ukuthi:
- Izwa ubudlelwano obuyiqiniso nobanelisayo
- Ukuthola incazelo nenjabulo ekuphileni kwansuku zonke
- Yenza izinqumo ezihambisana nawe kakhulu
- Thuthukisa ubuhlakani bakho namandla akho
- Zizwe uphila ngokugcwele
Khumbula ukuthi le nqubo ithatha isikhathi. Yiba nesineke futhi ube nomusa kuwe. Isinyathelo ngasinye esincane sibalulekile.
Ireferensi ye-bibliographic “ekuvinjweni kwemizwa”
Nazi izikhombo zebhayibheli eziyisikhombisa endikimbeni “yokuvinjwa kwemizwa”:
- Lévy, J. (2010). Ukulawula imizwa: phakathi kwesayensi nokwenza. EParis: Dunod.
- Roussillon, R. (2002). Ukuvinjwa kwemizwa: imvelaphi nezixazululo. I-Lyon: I-Éditions de l’Atelier.
- U-Cloister, C. (2015). Imizwa kanye ne-psychotherapy: ukuqonda ukuvinjwa kwemizwa. Paris: Presses Universitaires de France.
- U-Fuchs, T. (2013). Ukugula komphefumulo: i-psychopathology kanye nemizwelo. Paris: Editions Eres.
- I-Karsenty, S. (2016). Imizwa: okhiye bokuhlangabezana nayo kangcono. Toulouse: Éditions Erès.
- Baudouin, A. (2011). Imizwelo nempilo: umzimba uyakhuluma, i-psyche nayo. EBrussels: De Boeck.
- U-Nuss, P. (2014). I-Psychopathology yemizwa: lapho umzimba nengqondo kuvaleka. EParis: L’Harmattan.
Isiphetho
Sengiphetha, ukuzikhulula ekuvinjweni ngokomzwelo ngemva kobudlelwane nomuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic kuyindlela enzima kodwa ebalulekile. Ngokufunda ukubona nokuveza imizwa yakho, kanye nokufuna ukwesekwa okufanele, kuyenzeka uphinde uthole ukuzethemba futhi ube nobudlelwano obuyiqiniso. Ngesineke nangomusa kuwena, sonke isinyathelo esincane sibalulekile empilweni eyanelisayo nenenjongo.
Unamandla ngaphakathi kuwe okuzikhulula ethonyeni elingokomzwelo le-narcissistic pervert futhi uthole impilo ecebile ngemizwa eyakhayo. Zithembe futhi uzungeze nabantu abakhathalelayo abazokweseka kulolu hambo. Ufanelwe ukufinyelela amandla akho aphelele!
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