Ukuhlangana nomuntu omusha kungaba yinto ethokozisayo, kodwa kwesinye isikhathi kungathatha ithuba elingalindelekile. Kulo mongo, sizobhekana nomqondo “wokuqhunyiswa kwamabhomu” ngohlobo oluthile lwe-narcissist, i-narcissistic pervert esengozini.
I-Narcissistic Pervert Esengozini: Imaski Ethambile
Ngokuvamile, ukuxhumana kokuqala ne- i-narcissistic pervert esengozini kungase kubonakale kungenangozi. Kulesi simo sokuqala, ukuziphatha kwabo kungase kuthathwe njengokunamahloni nomaukukhathazeka kwezenhlalo. Kodwa-ke, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi lesi sifihla-buso sobuthakathaka sifihla izindlela eziyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu.
“Uthando Lokuqhunyiswa Kwebhomu” ngu-Discreet Narcissistic Pervert
Igama elithi ” thanda amabhomu ” ivamise ukuhlotshaniswa nokushukuma komzimba okuyihaba kanye nezitatimende ezinkulu. Kodwa-ke, nge-narcissist esengozini, le ndlela ithatha indlela ehlakaniphile. Inqubo ye-idealization izibonakalisa ngokuzithoba okukhulu, ukuvuleka okusobala, nokwabelana okujulile okudala inkohliso yokusondelana.
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Ukusondelana Okukhohlisayo
Uthando ngamabhomu nge i-narcissistic pervert esengozini kungadida. Ngokungafani namaphethini endabuko, akukhona ngezipho ezibizayo noma uhambo oluwubukhazikhazi, kodwa ukusondelana-mbumbulu okwakhelwe ekwabelaneni ngobungozi. Ngeshwa, lokhu kwabelana kuba yisikhali, kamuva esisetshenziselwa ukukhohlisa nokuthunaza uzakwethu.
Izingibe Zokuqhunyiswa Kwezibhomu Zothando Ngomphendukezeli Osengozini YokuNarcissistic
Kubalulekile ukuqaphela izimpawu zalolu hlobo lokukhohlisa kusenesikhathi ngoba reverse uthando ibhomu nge-narcissist esengozini ngokuvamile ifanekisela ukuziphatha okuyingozi kakhulu. Ozakwethu bangase bazithole bebanjwe umjikelezo wokutakula njalo, bekholelwa ukuthi bangasiza i-narcissist esengozini ukunqoba ubunzima babo.
Isisulu Saphakade
I-narcissist esengozini, ngenkathi ehlanganyela iziqephu ezinzima zesikhathi sakhe esidlule, uhlala esesimweni sokuhlukumezeka phakade. Imizamo yomunye uzakwethu yokusekela nokuqonda ngokuvamile iyenqatshwa noma isetshenziswe ngokumelene nabo, kulimaze ukwethenjwa.
Uzakwethu angase azithole edlala indima “yomhlengi,” etshala imali ngokomzwelo nangokwezimali ekusizeni umgadli osengozini ukuba anqobe izithiyo zakhe. Nokho, le phrojekthi ngokushesha iba ohlangothini olulodwa, nozakwethu ethatha wonke umthwalo ngokomzwelo ubuhlobo.
Isiphetho
Sengiphetha, ukuqhunyiswa kwamabhomu othandweni nomuntu osengozini kungaba umdanso ocashile, okhangayo, kodwa onobuthi. Ukuqaphela la maphethini kusenesikhathi kungaba ukhiye wokubalekela ukubanjwa kwalobu budlelwano obulimazayo. Kubalulekile ukukhulisa ukuqwashisa ngezici ezithile kanye ukubhekana ne-narcissist esengozini ukukhuthaza ubudlelwano obunempilo nobulinganiselayo.
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