Bafundi abathandekayo, uma uzizwa uvaleleke ku- ubuhlobo obunobuthi Uma usola umlingani wakho ukuthi ungumuntu othanda ukuzicabangela ngokweqile, lesi sihloko singesakho. Kubalulekile ukukwazi ukubona izimpawu eziyisixwayiso ukuze uzivikele futhi uthathe izinyathelo ezidingekayo ngenhlalakahle yakho. Nazi izimpawu eziyisi-7 eziyinhloko ezingakusiza ukuthi uqaphele umuntu othanda ukuzicabangela ngokweqile ngokweqile.
Ubuhle obukha phezulu bufihla ukungabi naluzwela
I-psychopathic narcissistic pervert ivamise ukunikwa intelezi ekha phezulu engakhohlisa uma uyibuka nje. Uyakwazi ukuthakasela nokukhanga ukuze ahehe izisulu zakhe. Nokho, le ntelezi ifihla ukungakwazi ngokuphelele ukuzwela abanye.
Ngokungafani ne-narcissist “yakudala” engabonisa uzwela ngezinye izikhathi, i-psychopath ayinakho ngokuphelele. Ubheka abanye njengezinto okufanele zisetshenziswe ukuze afeze izinjongo zakhe. Uma ubona ukuthi umlingani wakho uyathandeka esidlangalaleni kodwa uyabanda futhi akanandaba ngasese, lokhu kuwuphawu olushaqisayo.
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Ukuthambekela kokuqamba amanga nge-pathologically futhi ngaphandle kokuzisola
Ukuqamba amanga kuyingxenye ebalulekile yobuntu be-narcissistic pervert i-psychopath. Uqamba amanga ngokuphoqelela, ngisho nalapho kungenasidingo. Ngokungafani ne-narcissist engase ibe namahloni lapho ibanjwe amanga, i-psychopath ayizizwa izisola.
Angaqamba amanga kuwe ngemininingwane engasho lutho nangezindaba ezibalulekile, ngaphandle kokuzizwa enecala. Uma uvame ukubamba umlingani wakho eqamba amanga futhi ephika ubufakazi ngaphandle kokushaya ijwabu leso, qaphela.
Ukuzikhukhumeza okwedlulele kanye nomuzwa wokuthi uphakeme
Ngokusho kwe- incazelo ye-psychopath, lona wakamuva uzibheka uphakeme kunabanye futhi ubonisa ukuzidla ngokweqile. Uyaqiniseka ukuthi ungaphezu kwemithetho nezinkambiso zomphakathi. Lesi simo sengqondo sokuphakama sizibonakalisa kuzo zonke izici zokuphila kwakhe.
Angase ahlale eqhosha ngalokho akufezile (okungokoqobo noma okucatshangwayo), alulaze abanye, futhi afune ukuphathwa okukhethekile. Uma umlingani wakho eziphatha njengokungathi uphakathi kwezwe futhi obala ebukela abanye phansi, lokhu kuwuphawu olukhathazayo.
Ukukhohliswa kwemizwelo kudlulele
Ukukhohlisa yisikhali esiyintandokazi se-psychopathic narcissistic pervert. Uhamba phambili ngobuciko bokudlala ngemizwa yabanye ukuze afeze izinhloso zakhe. Angakwazi ukushintsha phakathi kwezikhathi zokuyenga kakhulu kanye nezikhathi zokwenqaba ngesihluku ukuze akuphazamise.
I-psychopath ithatha lokhu kukhohlisa ngisho nangaphezulu kune-narcissist yakudala. Akanqeni ukusebenzisa amasu afana ukukhanyisa igesi ukwenza ungabaze owakho umbono ngeqiniso. Uma uhlala uzizwa udidekile futhi ungabaza imizwa yakho ebudlelwaneni bakho, lokhu kuwuphawu okufanele uluthathe ngokungathi sína.
Ukungabikho ngokuphelele kwecala noma ukuzisola
Ngokungafani ne-narcissist engase ngezinye izikhathi azizwe enecala (ngisho noma kungenxa yokwesaba ukungcolisa isithunzi sakhe kunokuba ngenxa yozwelo lwangempela), i-psychopathic narcissistic pervert akazizwa ezisola. Angenza izenzo ezinonya kakhulu ngaphandle komuzwa omncane wecala.
Lokhu kuntula ngokuphelele ukuzisola kubonakala ngokungakwazi ukuxolisa ngobuqotho noma ukuvuma ukona. Uma umlingani wakho ebonakala engenandaba nhlobo nobuhlungu angase akubangele, lokhu kuwuphawu olukhathazayo kakhulu.
Isidingo esiqhubekayo sokugqugquzelwa kanye nokuthambekela ekubeni nesithukuthezi
I-psychopathic narcissistic pervert inesidingo esiqhubekayo sezinto ezijabulisayo ezintsha. Uba nesithukuthezi kalula futhi uhlale efuna imithombo emisha yesasasa. Lesi sifiso esingapheli sokukhuthazwa singazibonakalisa ngokuziphatha okuyingozi, ukungathembeki okuphindaphindiwe noma izinguquko ezisheshayo ekuphileni komuntu.
Angase asuke komunye umsebenzi aye komunye, evame ukushintsha indawo yakhe yokuphila noma andise inani lokunqoba kwezothando. Uma umlingani wakho ebonakala engakwazi ukuxazulula impilo ezinzile futhi ehlala efuna izinto ezintsha ezijabulisayo, qaphela.
Ukuziphatha ngokuxhamazela nokunganaki
I-psychopathic narcissistic pervert ijwayele ukwenza izinto ngokuxhamazela, ngaphandle kokukhathazeka ngemiphumela yezenzo zakhe. Angase enze izinqumo ezibalulekile ngokufisa, ngaphandle kokucabanga ngemiphumela kuye ngokwakhe noma kwabanye.
Lokhu kuxhamazela kuvame ukuhambisana nokungaphenduleki okusobala. Angakwazi ukungazinaki izibopho zakhe zezimali, umsebenzi noma umndeni ngaphandle kokuzizwa ekhathazekile. Uma umlingani wakho eqongelela ukuziphatha ngokunganaki futhi ebonakala engakwazi ukuhlela ikusasa, lokhu kuwuphawu okungafanele lushaywe indiva.
Umthelela we-psychopathic narcissistic pervert kusisulu sakhe
Ukuhlaziywa komthelela we-psychopathic narcissistic pervert kusisulu sakhe kuveza ukuguquguquka okuyinkimbinkimbi nokulimazayo.
1. Ukuwohloka kwesimoukuzihlonipha
- Ukwehliswa njalo kwesisulu
- Ukugxeka nokululazeka okungapheli
- Ukuzizwa ungafaneleki futhi ungelutho kulowo ohlukunyeziwe
2. Ukudideka kwengqondo nemizwa
- Ukukhanyisa igesi: ukwenza isisulu singabaze umbono waso weqiniso
- Ukushintshana phakathi kwezikhathi “zokuqhuma kwamabhomu othando” kanye nokwaliwa
- Ubunzima bokwehlukanisa iqiniso emangeni
3. Ukuzihlukanisa nabantu
- Ukuhlukaniswa kancane kancane kwesisulu kubangani nomndeni
- Ukulawulwa kobudlelwano bomphakathi
- Ukuthembela okwengeziwe kumhlukumezi
4. Ukukhathazeka nokucindezeleka
- Isimo esingapheli sokucindezeleka
- Ukuhlaselwa kokukhathazeka njalo
- Izimpawu zokucindezeleka: ukukhathala, ukulahlekelwa isithakazelo, imicabango emnyama
5. I-post-traumatic stress syndrome
- Ukuhlehla emuva namaphupho amabi ahlobene nokuhlukumeza
- I-hypervigilance kanye nokwethuka
- Ukugwema izimo ezikhumbuza ukuhlukumezeka
6. Ukulahlekelwa ukuzazi
- Ukuguqulwa kokuziphatha okuphoqelelwe ukuze kujabulise umhlukumezi
- Ukukhohlwa izifiso nezifiso zakho
- Ukuzizwa ungasaziboni
7. Icala namahloni
- Ukufakwa kwangaphakathi kwezihlamba zomhlaseli
- Umuzwa wokuzibophezela ngokuhlukumeza owenziwe
- Ubunzima bokucela usizo ngenxa yehlazo
8. Imithelela engokomzimba
- Ukuphazamiseka kokulala
- Izinkinga zokugaya
- Ukuncipha kwamasosha omzimba
9. Izinkinga zobudlelwano besikhathi eside
- Ukwesaba ukuzibophezela ebuhlotsheni obusha
- Ukungathembi abanye
- Ukuphindaphinda okungaba khona kwamaphethini anobuthi
10. Imiphumela yobungcweti
- Ukukhiqiza okuncishisiwe emsebenzini
- Ikhefu lokugula njalo
- Ingozi yokulahlekelwa umsebenzi
Ireferensi ye-bibliographic mayelana ne-psychopathic narcissistic pervert
Nalu uhlu lwezikhombo eziyisikhombisa zebhayibhili ngendikimba ethi “psychopathic narcissistic pervert”:
- I-Diamond, D. & Yeomans, F. (2016). I-Narcissistic psychopathologies kanye ne-transference-focused psychotherapy (PFT).
- UBenyamin, M. (2022). I-Narcissistic perversion: Ukunqoba kokulawula.
- U-Eiguer, A. (2018). I-Narcissistic perverts: ukuqonda, ukuhlakanipha, ukunqoba.
- Sirota, A. (2017). I-Narcissistic perverts: qonda, uhlakaniphe, unqobe.
- Racamier, P.-C. (1985). Ukuguqulwa kweNarcissistic.
- Iqoqo. (2014). I-Psychopaths kanye nama-narcissistic perverts: uphi umehluko?
- Althaus, V. & Cintas, C. (2018). Ukubukeza: Abahlanekezeli beNarcissistic: ukuqonda, ukweqa, ukunqoba.
Lezi zithenjwa zinikeza umbono ojulile ngobudlelwano phakathi kokuhlanekezelwa kwe-narcissistic kanye ne-psychopathy ezimweni zomtholampilo nezenhlangano.
Isiphetho
Uma ubona ezimbalwa zalezi zimpawu kumlingani wakho, kubalulekile ukuthatha isinyathelo ukuze uzivikele. Khumbula ukuthi i-psychopathic narcissistic pervert ingumkhohlisi ovelele ongeke ashintshe. Isixazululo esingcono kakhulu ngokuvamile ukuziqhelelanisa futhi ufune usizo kochwepheshe noma izinhlangano ezikhethekile.
Khumbula ukuthi ufanelwe ubudlelwano obunempilo nobulinganiselayo. Ungavumeli i-psychopathic narcissistic pervert intshontshe ukuzethemba kwakho nenjabulo yakho. Zinakekele futhi ungangabazi ukucela usizo uma uzizwa usengozini. Inhlalakahle yakho nokuphepha kubaluleke kakhulu.
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