Ingabe i-Narcissistic Pervert ayithembekile? Kwani ?

I-narcissistic pervert (NP) ngumuntu onenkinga yobuntu. Ukuziphatha kwakhe kubonakala ngokuzikhukhumeza, ubugovu nokuntula ukucabangela nozwela kwabanye. Ngaphezu kwalokho, lapho umuntu ethandana nomuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic, akuvamile ukuthi lona wakamuva amkhohlise.

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Kungani i-narcissistic pervert ikhetha ukungathembeki?

Umuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic akayena ngempela ongathembekile ebudlelwaneni, ikakhulukazi uma isisulu sakhe sanele izidingo zaso. Nokho, njengoba ubuntu bakhe bungalingani, i-PN ivamise ukuzulazula ngaphandle kobudlelwane babo.

Kunezizathu eziningana zalokhu. Lezi zihlanganisa ubugovu bakhe, ukwesaba kwakhe ubuhlobo, kanye nokuthambekela kwakhe kobudlova kanye nokwenqaba. Kunoma ikuphi, umuntu i-narcissistic manipulator Ukhetha ukuphinga ngoba kugcwalisa izifiso zakhe.

Ingabe ukungathembeki kwe-PN kubangelwa ikakhulukazi ukuzicabangela kwakhe?

Yebo, singasho ukuthi i-egocentrism ye-PN ingenye yezimbangela eziyinhloko zomlingiswa wakhe ongathembekile. Kufanele wazi ukuthi abahlanekezeli be-narcissistic banesithukuthezi kalula futhi banokubekezelela okuphansi kwesithukuthezi.

• Njengoba engumuntu ongenalo uzwelo lwangempela futhi izidingo/izidingo zakhe zihamba phambili, i-PN izophendukela ebudlelwaneni bangaphandle komshado. Lokhu kwenzelwa ukudambisa lesi sicefe esibeleselayo nesikhathazayo.
• Ngaphezu kwalokho, i- Ama-manipulators e-Narcissistic anenkimbinkimbi ephakeme kakhulu. Benqaba ngokuqinile futhi bayakucasukela noma yimiphi imikhawulo ebekwe phezu kwabo ngabalingani babo. Benza ngokuvumelana nezifiso nezifiso zabo ngaphandle kokuvinjelwa imihlangano yezenhlalo nemingcele.
• Ngaphezu kwalokho, ama-narcissistic perverts angama-freaks okulawula. Ukuze uphinde uthole ukulawula, kungenzeka ukuthi umphendukezeli we-narcissistic aqale uhambo lapho ezosho khona imigomo yobudlelwano bothando.

Hlobo luni lowesifazane ohlanekezelwe yi-narcissistic ukhetha ukukopela kuye?

Ngendlela ejwayelekile, umuntu ohlanekezela ama-narcissistic ukhetha ukukhohlisa umlingani wakhe nowesifazane omlethela izinzuzo. Akusekelwe ngokuyinhloko ebuhleni noma ekukhetheni ubuntu. Nazi ezinye zezinhlobo zabesifazane i-FN engaba nobudlelwano bokuphinga nabo:

1. Umxhwanguxhwangu uncamela labo abamazisayo

I-narcissistic manipulator izokwenza ukudlala ngothando nabesifazane ukuze uthole izinzuzo zomsebenzi noma zomuntu siqu. Kungaba uzakwabo, noma owesifazane ocebile ozomupha izipho.

2. Umxhwanguxhwangu ukhonze abesifazane abenza umlingani wakhe osemthethweni ahlupheke

Ngoba ungumuntu odabukisayo (ukudabuka ngokocansi) kanye ne-manipulator, kungenzeka lokhoumuntu ohlanekezela enganakile uyazikhohlisa nomuntu oseduze nomlingani wakhe osemthethwenie. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi umngane, umzala, osebenza naye… lolu hlobo nasiphambeko kuyaziswa yi-PN.

3. Umuntu ohlanekezelekayo ukhetha lowo ahlela ukubusa

Njengoba egxile kakhulu ekulawuleni, kungenzeka lokhoi-narcissistic manipulator ikhohlisa umlingani wakhe nowesifazane ozobusa kakhulu.

Ingabe i-narcissistic manipulator iyawavuma amaphutha akhe?

Umxoxi okhohlisayo akasoze avuma ukuthi ubenephutha futhi ngeke azame ukulungisa amaphutha akhe. Okungenani, ngeke akwenze ngokwethembeka konke. Ungumuntu ogula ngengqondo onemvelo yokuzicabangela yena yedwa futhi ebusayo.

Ukuze ukuxolisa kube okuqotho, umuntu oxolisayo kufanele abe nombono okungenani walokho akwenzile okungalungile. Kumelwe futhi azisole ngokukwenza futhi abe nesifiso sokushintsha ukuze angaphindi akwenze. Igolide, i-PN ngeke ibe nentshisekelo kunoma iyiphi yalezi zinto. Ngenxa yalokho, izaba zakhe zihlose ukukhohlisa umlingani wakhe ukuba enze lokho akufunayo.

Ukungathembeki kwe-PN – Ungaphuma kanjani ngemuva kokukopela?

Ngendlela ejwayelekile, ubuhlobo nomuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic bubi futhi buyingozi, ikakhulukazi uma inweba isikhathi eside. Ngemuva kokukopela, isisulu kufanele sibheke lesi simo njengethuba lokuhlukana.

Lesi yisixazululo esingcono kakhulu sokubuyisela inkululeko yakho, kodwa kungaba nzima. Ukuhlukana kunzima, ikakhulukazi uma usunesikhathi eside nithandana. Ikakhulukazi njengoba kungase kuphakame imizwa yecala namahloni. Ingasaphathwa eyokungabaza ngokuthi wenze isinqumo esifanele yini.

Izinkomba ze-bibliographic mayelana ne-narcissistic pervert engathembekile

Nazi izikhombo zebhayibheli eziyisikhombisa endikimbeni ethi “Ingabe i-narcissistic pervert ayithembekile”:

1. Racamier, P.-C. (1986). Ingcweti yasekuqaleni. I-Paris: I-Payot.
2. Eiguer, A. (1989). Izakhiwo ezihlanekezelwe. EParis: Dunod.
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4. Sirota, A. (2017). I-Narcissistic perverts: qonda, uhlakaniphe, unqobe. I-Paris: Umbhalo Wesandla.
5. Bernateau, I. (2016). “Amasu ahlanekezelwe kanye ne-narcissistic esibopho sezinto: Uthando lwe-Proustian, iphupho lokubamba”. Ucwaningo ku-psychoanalysis, 22(2).
6. Masingue, A., & Janin Devillars, L. (2016). “Ama-Narcissistic perverts: iqiniso lenhlangano? Ukuhlolwa kwe-Semantic kanye nokwelashwa kwephrofayela yomuntu we-protean okuhlangatshezwane nayo ezinhlanganweni. Ijenali yamazwe ngamazwe yePsychosociology kanye nokuphathwa kokuziphatha kwenhlangano, HS, 280-304.
7. Joli, M. (2023). I-Narcissistic perversion – Isifundo se-Sociological. I-Paris: I-CNRS Editions.

Lezi zithenjwa zinikeza umbono ojulile mayelana nokuhlanekezelwa kwe-narcissistic kanye nokuvela kwayo, okuhlanganisa ukungathembeki, ebudlelwaneni babantu.

Isiphetho

Uma uqaphela ukuziphatha okungajwayelekile kumlingani wakho we-narcissistic, akusho ukuthi uyakukopela. Kodwa kuseyithuba elinamandla. Kunoma yikuphi, kuyancomeka ukuthi nixoxe ngalokhu kukhathazeka.

Nokho, kufanele ukhumbule ukuthi umuntu ohlanekezela u-narcissistic ngeke abe nenkinga kanembeza wokungathembeki. Okubaluleke kakhulu kuye ukwanelisa izidingo zakhe. Uma ukuqaphela lokhu, into engcono kakhulu kuwe ukuthi wenze okusemandleni akho ukuqeda ubudlelwano.