I-PN kanye nokushona kukanina – Usabela kanjani ekulahlekelweni kwakhe?

I-narcissistic pervert ngumuntu ongenalo uzwelo futhi ozikhathalela yena kuphela. Ngakho-ke, ingabe ingathinteka ngokufa kukanina? Imiphi imizwelo angase abe nayo esimweni esinjalo? Ake sibheke i-pn nokufa kukamama wakhe. 

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Yakhula kanjani i-Narcissistic Pervert?

I-narcissistic pervert ngokuvamile ikhulela endaweni enobutha ekukhuleni kwakhe ngokomzwelo. Lona ngumuntu oye wantula kakhulu uthando noma wabhekana nezinkinga ezibuhlungu, ezamvumela ukuba ahlakulele ukuphazamiseka kobuntu. Eqinisweni, abazali bakhe noma ababheki bakhe abasemthethweni abazange baphathe ingane ayeyiyo ngendlela efanele kakhulu.   

Laba bantu ngokuvamile babhekana nokuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo besebancane. Ngakho-ke, lezi zimo eziningi ezihlukumezayo ziyabanqamula ekudaleni kwabo kanye nemizwelo yabo. Lokhu kunomthelela ekuhlukaniseni abantu ngokomzwelo ukuze kuvuleleke i-introversion. Yingakho uzobona ukuthi i-PN idinga ukutuswa futhi ukungazethembi.

Umthelela Wokushona Komzali We-Narcissistic

Ukudabuka ngokushonelwa umzali ongenangqondo ngenxa ye-NP kungaletha umuzwa wokukhululeka. Yazi ukuthi kunzima, noma kungenzeki, ukuthi lo muntu axhumane nemizwa yakhe.

Ngaphezu kwalokho, ama-FN awahlali enobudlelwane obuhle nabazali bawo. Ngakho-ke akumangazi ukubona ukuthi ukufa komunye wabo akunamthelela ezimpilweni zabo. Ukushonelwa umzali akusoze kwazwakala njengokushonelwa umuntu ongenazwelo. I-PN ayikuthathi njengabantu.

I-PN kanye Nokushona kukaMama wakhe: Usabela kanjani?

Ubuhlobo phakathi i-PN nomndeni wakhe kugcwele impikiswano. Futhi, kungenzeka kakhulu ukuthi ukufa kukanina ngeke kushintshe okuningi empilweni yakhe ngezizathu ezintathu:

I-PN ayinalo uzwelo kunoma ubani

Umgadli akanalo uzwelo futhi kunzima kuye ukuba nozwelo, ngisho nomndeni wakhe. Lokhu kungabi nozwelo kufakazela ukuthi akakwazi ukuxhumana nokulahlekelwa ngumuntu angamboni enjalo. Ngakho-ke ungase uzwe ukushonelwa unina ngendlela ehlukile kunaye. I-PN ayisoze yaba nendaba nemizwa yakho, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ubani oshonile emndenini wakhe.

Ngaphezu kwalokho, u-narcissist uchithe isikhathi ephika noma yimiphi imizwa engamxhumanisa nabanye. Lokhu kuphazamiseka kwemizwa kusho ukuthi akazizwa kakhulu ngemva kokushona kukanina.        

I-PN ayinakho okunamathiselwe kunoma ubani

Kufanele uqonde ukuthi lonke usizi kuqala luqondiswe ngaphakathi, ngakho-ke, luqondene nomuntu. Uhlale uzibuza ukuthi uzokwenzenjani ngemuva kokulahlekelwa umzali noma umuntu obalulekile empilweni yakho. Lokhu kufanele ngoba uxhumene nomuntu okukhulunywa ngaye. Ngeshwa, akunjalo nge-narcissistic pervert.

I-narcissist ayinayo inkomba futhi ayifani nanoma ubani ngaphandle kwayo. Akakwazi ukusondelana nomunye umuntu ngoba ecabanga ukuthi usengozini futhi ukhetha ukungazifaki engozini. U-FN uma ebhekene nesifo sikanina noma amalungu omndeni wakhe uyohlale ebonakala engenandaba. Ukungabikho kwalesi sibopho sokunamathiselwe kuvumela i-narcissistic pervert ukuthi ingaboni ukudideka noma ukushuba kosizi.  

I-PN ithatha unina njengesitha

Inkinga ngamanarcisists yikuthi babona omama babo njengabaphikisi. Abanayo imizwa emihle efana nesihawu, uthando, ukuzisola noma ngisho nokudabuka. Lapho ebhekene nokufa kukanina, i-narcissist izoba nomuzwa wokwaneliseka kanye/noma impumuzo.

Abaningi be-FN bazakhele umuzwa wokuzicabangela bona ohlose ukucabangela ukuthi imizwa yabo yokulahlwa, yokukhaphela noma yokungazethembi eyabaqhubezela ukuba baphile ngokucashile, ivela ebudlelwaneni babo bokuqala. Futhi lobu budlelwano yibo abazali noma amalungu omndeni. Ngakho-ke ukushona komunye walaba bantu abathatha njengabaphikisi kuyimbuyiselo kumuntu okhuluma naye. 

Ezinye Ukusabela ezivela ku-PN ngemva kokushona kukaMama wakhe?

Ukusabela kwe-PN ngemva kokushona kukanina kungase kukumangaze. Ukusabela kukamsholozi kugcwele inzondo namagqubu, ngoba uyazi ukuthi akaseyona inkimbinkimbi. Ukushona kukanina kumenza abonakale uma ekudinga.

Uzothola indlela ecashile yokwethula obunye ubuso kuwe, obuthintwa ukuhamba komzali wakhe. Umgomo uwukugxilisa lokhu kunakekela kuye futhi, nakuba ethukuthelele unina owashona. Futhi uma eke wakhala ngokushonelwa unina (umama ohlanekezelwe onarcissistic), kuzomane kube ukulahlekelwa okungokoqobo.      

Kafushane, ukusabela okuhlukile okungenzeka kwe-PN yilokhu:

• Ukuntula okungokoqobo, hhayi ngokomzwelo
• Isidingo sokuziphindiselela, ngoba akukaze kube khona kuye
• Intukuthelo ngokudonsa amehlo ngokufa kwakhe 

I-Narcissistic Pervert – Ungakusiza Kanjani Ukubhekana Nokushona Kothandekayo?

Ukunikeza usizo kumuntu onobugovu nonobugovu kungakhandla imizwa. Angase athole lokhu kuwumzamo wokuphikisa, ngoba akaxhumene nemizwa yakho. Ukubasiza banqobe ubunzima kanye nosizi lokushonelwa kungabonakala njengoku anobuthi. Kungenzeka futhi ukuthi uzokuhlasela.

Lokhu kusabela kungachazwa ngokuthi umgadli ucekele phansi noma yimuphi umuzwa ongamvumela ukuba avuleleke kwabanye. Ngakho-ke ungase ube namagama acasulayo noma ukusabela, okwenza isimo sezulu sibe nzima nakakhulu. Ukuze umsize anqobe ukulahlekelwa ngumama wakhe ngaphandle kokudala ihlazo, ungenza okulandelayo:

• Thumela amazwi enduduzo

Umqondo uwukumthumelela ikhadi lenduduzo. Ukusabela kwe-PN ekulileni kukanina kubonakala ukungabi nandaba. Kunokuba udlulise amazwi enduduzo mathupha, thumela ikhadi elincane. Ngezinye izikhathi kungcono kakhulu ukugcina ibanga eliphephile ku-narcissist. 

• Ncoma incwadi

I-PN ngokuqinisekile ayidabuki, kodwa ungancoma incwadi enhle ekhuluma ngesihloko. Lesi isinyathelo esihle kakhulu esizomvumela ukuba afunde okwengeziwe ngosizi. Ama-Narcissists avame ukugxeka yonke into futhi afune ukugqama. Mhlawumbe incwadi yakho izomkhuthaza ukuba akhulume ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe kosizi.

Ireferensi yebhayibhiliyoni ethi “Umphendukezeli WaseNarcissistic kanye Nokufa Kukanina”

Nalu uhlu lwezikhombo eziyisikhombisa zebhayibhili ngendikimba ethi “PN kanye nokufa kukanina”:

1. Iqembu locwaningo ngabantu be-narcissistic. (I-2015). I-Narcissism: phakathi kwentshiseko nokuhlupheka. Ama-edishini ashicilelwe.
2. Gérard, R. (2013). Narcissism: omama nezingane zabo. I-Press Universitaires de France.
3. UKlein, uM. (2016). Ubumama kanye ne-narcissism. Izinguqulo ze-Payot.
4. Soler, C. (2018). Umona kanye ne-narcissism. Editions Érès.
5. Levi, J. (2012). I-Narcissism kanye nokweqisa kwayo. Odile Jacob Editions.
6. Miller, J.B. (2014). Amazwi abesifazane: narcissism kanye nobudlelwano bomndeni. Izinhlelo ze-La Découverte.
7. Bénesteau, J. (2017). Ubudlelwano obunobuthi: ukuqonda i-narcissistic pervert. Izinhlobo ze-Eyrolles.

Isiphetho

Ukuphetha, ama-narcissists abanalo uzwelo futhi abanayo imizwa eyakhayo. I-PN nokufa kukanina akuyona into ngaphandle kwe-farce, isiteji somuntu olimele. Naphezu kokulila, i-narcissist ayikwazi ukuzibuza nganoma iyiphi indlela kunalokho uzizwa ekhashelwe ngunina oshonile.