Le indoda ehlanekezelwe yinarcissistic kuyisihloko okuxoxwa ngaso kakhulu, ikakhulukazi endabeni yobudlelwano bababhangqwana. Leli gama libhekisela ohlotsheni lobuntu be-pathological olubonakala ngengxube yezimpawu ze-narcissistic ne-manipulative, ezingadala umonakalo omkhulu ongokwengqondo kulabo ababazungezile. Kulesi sihloko sizohlola ngokuningiliziwe ukuthi iyini indoda ye-narcissistic ehlanekezelwe kanye nezimbangela zalokhu kuziphatha.
Uyini umuntu ohlanekezelwe we-narcissistic?
Le indoda ehlanekezelwe yinarcissistic ungumuntu ohlanganisa kokubili izici ze-narcissistic kanye nezikhohlisayo. Wethula isithombe esihle ngokwedlulele esidlangalaleni, kodwa ngasese ufihla ukuziphatha okulimazayo kulabo abasondelene naye.
Le i-narcissism kubonakala ngokuzikhukhumeza, isidingo esiqhubekayo sokunconywa, nokungakwazi ukuqaphela izidingo noma imizwa yabanye. Okuhlukanisa umuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic kumuntu omane nje we-narcissistic isici sokukhohlisa, lapho efuna ukusebenzisa amandla nokulawula abanye ukuze anelise izidingo zakhe, ngokuvamile okulimaza umlingani wakhe.
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Izimbangela ezingenzeka zokuziphatha kwe-narcissistic
Kunemibono eminingana ekhona mayelana nemvelaphi yokuziphatha kwe-narcissistic. Abanye basikisela ukuhlukumezeka kwasebuntwaneni, kuhlanganise nokukodwa Ukuntula uthando noma, ngokuphambene nalokho, ukudunyiswa ngokweqile, okungaholela ekuziboneni ubuthakathaka kanye nokungakwazi ukubhekana nokugxekwa noma ukwehluleka. Umuntu ophambukile othanda ukuzikhukhumeza angase futhi athuthukise lokhu kuziphatha njengomuntu indlela yokuzivikela Ebhekene nokungazethembi okukhulu, ube esethatha isimo sokubusa ukuze agweme ukuba sengozini.
Izimpawu zendoda ehlanekezelwe yi-narcissistic
Ukuziphatha kwe indoda ehlanekezelwe yinarcissistic kungaba nzima ukubonana naye ekuqaleni kobudlelwano, njengoba evame ukuvela njengomuntu obukekayo futhi onothando. Kodwa-ke, izimpawu ezimbalwa zingaxwayisa isisulu:
1. Isidingo esiqhubekayo sokulawula
I-narcissistic pervert inesidingo esinganeliseki sokulawula izici zempilo yomlingani wakhe, noma ngabe ukukhetha kwakhe, ukusebenzelana kwakhe nomphakathi noma ukubukeka kwakhe ngokomzimba. Lokhu kulawula akuzivezi ngendlela esobala, kodwa ngokuvamile ngendlela ecashile, ngokusebenzisa ukubuyekezwa njalo noma amazwi alulazayo.
2. Ukuntula uzwela
Olunye uphawu oluphawulekayo ukungakwazi komuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic ukuzwa uzwela. Uma kuphakama inkinga ekuphileni komlingani wakhe, ngokuvamile ngabandayo noma unciphise imizwelo yabo. Izidingo zabo nezifiso zabo zihlala ziza kuqala, okwenza noma yimuphi umzamo wokuxhasana ungenzeki.
3. Ukukhwabanisa nokwehliswa kwamanani
I-narcissistic male pervert iyingcweti kwezobuciko bokukhohlisa. Uvame ukusebenzisa amasu anjengokuthi ukukhanyisa igesi, okuhlanganisa ukuhlanekezela iqiniso ukuze isisulu sizingabaze sona kanye nemibono yaso. Ngaphezu kwalokho, akanqikazi ukululaza umlingani wakhe ukuze alondoloze isikhundla esiphakeme.
4. Ukungathembeki
Abaningi besilisa narcissists abathembekile, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi empeleni noma kumaphupho abo. Ukungathembeki kuba yisikhali samandla, esisetshenziselwa ukwenza isisulu sibe nomuzwa wokuthi asikeneli futhi kugcizelelwe umqondo wokuthi umuntu ohlanekezelekayo we-narcissistic ufanelwe “okungcono.”
5. Ukwenqatshwa kwesibopho
Umuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic akalokothi azibophezele ngezenzo zakhe. Uma kuphakama izinkinga ebudlelwaneni, kuhlale kuyiphutha lomunye umuntu. Ushintsha isimo ukuze isisulu sizizwe sinecala ngokwenzekayo.
Imiphumela yobudlelwano nendoda ehlanekezelwe ye-narcissistic
Imiphumela yobudlelwano a indoda ehlanekezelwe yinarcissistic kungaba buhlungu. Azithinti nje kuphela ukuzethemba komuntu ohlukunyeziwe, kodwa futhi nempilo yakhe engokomzwelo, ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo.
- Ukulahlekelwa ukuzethemba
Omunye wemiphumela yokuqala uwukuthi ukwehla ukuqhubeka komuntu ohlukunyeziwe. Ukugxekwa njalo nokukhwabanisa kuvame ukuholela ekulahlekelweni ukuzethemba, okwenza isisulu sincike kakhulu kumlingani waso ukuze aqinisekise ukubaluleka kwakhe.
- Ukuzihlukanisa emphakathini
I-narcissistic pervert nayo ifuna hlukanisa isisulu sakhe sabangane nomndeni wakhe, ngokudala isimo sokungathembani noma ngokumenza akholelwe ukuthi abasondelene naye ababuqondi ubuhlobo babo. Lokhu kuziphatha kuvumela umkhohlisi ukuthi alondoloze ukulawula okuphelele empilweni yomlingani wakhe.
- Ukuhlupheka ngokwengqondo
Izisulu zama-narcissistic perverts zivame ukuhlushwa izinkinga zengqondo, njengokukhathazeka, ukucindezeleka nokucindezeleka kwangemva kokuhlukumezeka. Bangase bazizwe bevaleleke ebudlelwaneni, bengakwazi ukuhamba ngenxa yokuphathwa kabi njalo nokuzizwa bengelutho.
- Umthelela ezinganeni
Emibhangqwaneni lapho kunezingane, i-narcissistic pervert ingazisebenzisa ukuze iqhubekisele phambili ukukhohlisa umlingani wakhe. Kuvamile ukuba akhuthaze izingane ukuba zingamhloniphi unina, ngaleyo ndlela eqinisa umbono wokuthi akakwazi noma uphansi.
Isixhumanisi phakathi kwe-narcissistic pervert kanye ne-narcissistic personality disorder (NPD)
Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi ukuziphatha kwe-narcissistic pervert wesilisa kungaxhunyaniswa noku i-narcissistic personality disorder (TPN). I-NPD iwukuxilongwa komtholampilo okuhlanganisa izici eziningi ezibonwa ku-narcissistic pervert: umuzwa wokuba phezulu, ukungabi nozwela kanye nesidingo esiqhubekayo sokunconywa. Kodwa-ke, akubona bonke abahlanekezeli be-narcissistic abane-NPD. Abanye bangase babe nezici ze-narcissistic ngaphandle kokuthi ifinyelele izinga lomtholampilo.
Isiphetho
Le indoda ehlanekezelwe yinarcissistic ungumuntu oyinkimbinkimbi futhi olimazayo, okuziphatha kwakhe kubangela umonakalo omkhulu ebudlelwaneni, ikakhulukazi ubudlelwano bezithandani. Ukuqonda izimpawu zokukhohlisa, izimbangela zalokhu kuziphatha kanye nemiphumela kulowo ohlukunyeziwe kubalulekile ekuqedeni umjikelezo wokuhlukumeza. Nakuba lesi sihloko singaxoxi ngezixazululo noma iseluleko, kubalulekile ukugcizelela ukuthi isinyathelo sokuqala sokululama ukuqaphela isimo nokufuna usizo lochwepheshe uma kudingeka.
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