“I-Nice Psychopath” Trap: Ukugqashula Ebudlelwaneni Obunobuthi

Igama elithi “nice psychopath” lingase libonakale liyindida, ngisho lingenakwenzeka. Nokho abantu besifazane abaningi bazithola bevaleleke ebudlelwaneni namadoda abonakala ekhathalela futhi ebukekayo, kodwa aphenduke amaqili e-narcissistic. Lesi sihloko sihlose ukukusiza ukuthi uqonde lesi simo esiyinkimbinkimbi futhi sikunikeze izikhiye zokuzikhulula kuso.

Imaski yomusa: ukuqonda ukuziphatha kwe-narcissist

Le i-psychopathic narcissistic pervert uyingcweti kwezobuciko bokufihla. Angakwazi ukunaka kakhulu, abe nothando futhi aze avikele abantu noma izilwane ezithile. Le facade yomusa inezinjongo eziningana:

• Dala isithombe esihle phakathi kwabaseduze kwakho
• Thola ukwethenjwa isisulu sakho
• Tshala ukungabaza kumlingani lapho eqala ukubona ukuziphatha okuhlukumezayo

Lokhu kubili kokuziphatha kuphazamisa ikakhulukazi futhi kungaholela isisulu ukuba singabaze umbono waso ngeqiniso.

Izimpawu Ze-Telltale Zokuziphatha Okunobuthi “Okuhle”

Nakuba i-narcissist ingase ibonakale ikhathalela, izimpawu ezithile zingase zikuxwayise:

• Izenzo zakhe zomusa zivame ukuba ihaba noma zaseshashalazini
• Ngokuhlelekile ulindele okuthile ngembuyiselo (ukuqashelwa, umusa, njll.)
• Umusa wakhe uphela lapho nje engakutholi akufunayo
• Usebenzisa “izenzo zakhe ezinhle” ukuze akusole noma akulawule

Ukufunda ukubona lezi zimpawu ezicashile kubalulekile ukuze ukhululeke.

Umthelela ongokwengqondo wokukhohlisa okunomusa

Ukubhekana nomlingani okwazi ukwenza umusa omkhulu njenge i-psychopath unomusa ngenkathi unobuthi obujulile kungaba nemiphumela elimazayo:

• Ukudideka ngokomzwelo nangokwengqondo
• Ukuphelelwa ukuzethemba ekwahluleleni komuntu siqu
• Umuzwa wecala unomphela
• Ubunzima bokushiya ubudlelwano naphezu kokuhlukunyezwa

Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi lokhu kusabela kuvamile ekukhohlisweni okunjalo.

Isixhumanisi phakathi kwe-psychopath enomusa kanye ne-narcissistic pervert

Izixhumanisi phakathi kwalawa maphrofayili amabili zihlanganisa:

1. Ukuxhaphaza imizwelo : Bobabili bahamba phambili ngobuciko bokulawula imizwa yabanye ukuze bafeze izinhloso zabo.
2. I-facade ekhohlisayo: Bagcina isithombe esihle emphakathini esiphikisana nokuziphatha kwabo kwangasese.
3. Ukungabi nozwelo: Nakuba bekwazi ukuzenzisa imizwa, abanalo uzwela lweqiniso ngezisulu zabo.
4. Ukuxhashazwa kwabanye: Basebenzisa ubuhlobo ukuze kuzuze bona, ngaphandle kokucabangela inhlalakahle yabanye.
5. Ukuyenga kokuqala: Zivame ukuthandeka kakhulu futhi zithandeke ekuqaleni kobudlelwane, okuheha izisulu zabo.
6. Ukukhanyisa igesi: Bangenza izisulu zabo zingabaze umbono wabo weqiniso.
7. Ukungabi nokuzisola kwangempela: Nakuba bengase benze sengathi bayaxolisa, abazizwa benecala langempela ngezenzo zabo.
8. Ukuzivumelanisa nezimo komphakathi: Bayakwazi ukuzivumelanisa nezimo ezihlukahlukene zomphakathi ukuze balondoloze i-facade yabo.

Ukususa insumansumane “yesizinda esihle”

Enye yezinkolelo eziyingozi kakhulu yileyo “yemvelo enhle” ye-narcissist. Izisulu eziningi zibambelele embonweni wokuthi umlingani wazo ulungile, kodwa udlula esikhathini esibi. Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi:

• Umusa we-narcissist uyithuluzi lokukhohlisa, hhayi ukubonakaliswa kwemvelo yabo yangempela
• Ukuziphatha kwakhe okuhlukumezayo kuwukubonakaliswa kwangempela kobuntu bakhe
• Ushintsho oluhlala njalo olusuka ku-narcissistic pervert luyivelakancane kakhulu

Ukwamukela leli qiniso kuyisinyathelo esibuhlungu kodwa esidingekayo esibheke ekwelapheni.

Indima yezilwane ku-narcissistic dynamics

Njengoba kushiwo embhalweni wokubhekisela, ama-narcissists amaningi anobudlelwane obukhethekile nezilwane. Lesi simo sengqondo singachazwa ngokuthi:

• Ukuzinikela okungenamibandela kwezilwane, okuthopha ubugovu bazo
• Ukuntula ukwahlulela noma izimfuno zezilwane
• Ikhono lokwenza isithombe esihle ngaphandle kokutshala imali kwangempela ngokomzwelo

Kubalulekile ukungaphambanisi lobu budlelwano nezilwane ezinekhono langempela lokuzwelana nabantu.

Phinda uthole ukuzethemba ku-intuition yakho

Omunye wemiphumela ecashile yokuba sebudlelwaneni “ne-psychopath enhle” ukulahlekelwa ukwethemba ekwahluleleni komuntu siqu. Ukuze uyithole:

• Gcina ijenali yokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho nemizwa
• Yabelana ngokungabaza kwakho nabantu obathembayo
• Funda ukubona nokuqinisekisa imizwa yakho
• Themba imizwa yakho engokwemvelo, ngisho noma iphikisana nokubukeka

Kancane kancane, uzofunda ukuthemba umbono wakho weqiniso futhi.

Ukwakha kabusha impilo yakho ngemuva kobudlelwano obunobuthi

Uma usukhululiwe ekulawuleni i-narcissist, inselele entsha iyaqala: ukwakha kabusha. Nansi eminye imibono engakusiza:

• Zinike isikhathi sokululama, ngaphandle kokuzizwa unecala
• Hlola izinto ozithandayo noma uxhumane kabusha nezindala
• Yazi Futhi Uzithande Ngaphandle Kobudlelwane
• Dala ubudlelwano obusha obunempilo, obunobungane noma bothando
• Gubha yonke intuthuko encane ohambweni lwakho lokuphulukisa

Khumbula ukuthi ufanelwe ukuphila okwanelisayo, okungenayo noma yiluphi uhlobo lokukhohlisa.

Ukubaluleka kwemfundo nokuvimbela

Ukuze ugweme izimo ezifanayo zesikhathi esizayo, kubalulekile ukuthi:

• Funda mayelana nezinqubo ze ukukhwabanisa kwe-narcissistic
• Funda ukubona izimpawu eziyisixwayiso zobudlelwano obunobuthi
• Yabelana ngolwazi lwakho ukuze usize abanye abangaba izisulu
• Khulisa ukuqwashisa ngale ndaba engakafaneli kulabo abaseduze kwakho

Ngokuqonda kangcono lezi zinguquko, uyazivikela futhi usize abanye.

Ireferensi yezincwadi zokuzikhulula ogibeni “lwe-psychopath enhle”

Nalu uhlu lwezikhombo eziyisikhombisa ze-bibliographic endikimbeni ethi “nice psychopath”:

1. “I-Psychopathy kanye Nokuziphatha.” »(2021). Imihlangano yokucobelelana ngolwazi ngokuziphatha.
2. Leistedt, S., Braun, S., Coumans, N., & Linkowski, P. (2009). “I-Psychopathy: Ukusuka ‘kuMask of Sanity’ kuya ku-Social Neuroscience.” » Ukubuyekezwa Kwezokwelapha KwaseBrussels.
3. Hare, R.D. (1991). Ngaphandle Konembeza: Umhlaba Ophazamisayo We-Psychopaths Phakathi Kwethu.
4. UBrunner, R., & Jacobs, M. (2017). “I-Psychopathy kanye Nokukhwabanisa: Indlela I-Charm Efihla Ngayo Ukuhlukumeza.” » Ijenali Yezinkinga Zobuntu.
5. U-Raine, A. (2013). I-Anatomy of Violence: The Biological Roots of Crime.
6. Babiak, P., & Hare, R.D. (2006). Izinyoka Ezigqoke Amasudi: Lapho I-Psychopaths Iya emsebenzini.
7. Cleckley, H. (2003). I-Mask of Sanity.

Lezi zincwadi nezindatshana zinikeza uhlaka oluqinile lokuqonda ukuthi i-psychopaths, naphezu kokuntula kwabo uzwela, ingakhanga futhi ilawule izisulu zabo, idale “ugibe” olungokwengqondo okunzima ukuphunyuka.

Isiphetho

“I-psychopath enhle” imane iyimaski egqokwa umuntu ohlanekezela ama-narcissistic ukuze alawule kangcono izisulu zakhe. Ngokufunda ukubona le facade futhi wethembe intuition yakho, uthatha isinyathelo sokuqala esiya enkululekweni. Khumbula ukuthi awuwedwa futhi ukuphulukiswa kungenzeka. Zonke izinsuku ezidlulayo zikuthatha uqhelelane nalobu budlelwano obunobuthi futhi usondele empilweni eyanelisayo ekufanele.

Ngaso sonke isikhathi khumbula ukuthi umusa weqiniso awunambandela nokuthi ubudlelwano obunempilo bakhelwe phezu kokuhloniphana, ukuzwelana nokukhulumisana ngokwethembeka. Unamandla ngaphakathi kuwe okuzikhulula futhi wakhe kabusha impilo yakho ezisekelweni ezinempilo. Kholwa kuwena, okuhle kakhulu kuseza.