Chofoza ukuze ushiye umkakho 

Endodeni, inhlamvu yokushiya umkayo ingase ihluke komunye nomunye. Nokho, kuvame ukuba nzima ngendoda qeda ubuhlobo, kodwa kufanele ngaso sonke isikhathi akwenze ngesizathu esihle. Kubalulekile ukwazi ukuthi ungahlukana kanjani ngokucacile, kodwa ngokwezokuxhumana, ukuze ugweme ukubangela ubuhlungu kwabanye. Nanka amagama angasetshenziswa ukuqeda ubudlelwano ngokushesha.

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Izizathu ezi-4 eziholela esinqumweni esinjalo

Indoda inquma ukudivosa umkayo lapho ingasazethembi futhi ingasajabule. Kodwa ezinye izici eziningana ngokuvamile ziyimbangela yalesi sinqumo esikhulu:

1. Izinkinga zokuxhumana

Izithandani zivame ukuthi azikwazi ukuxhumana, okuvame ukubhekiselwa kukho ukungathembeki nezingxabano ezingenasidingo. Nakuba ngezinye izikhathi inkinga ingase ihilele amakhono okukhulumisana, ngokuvamile ifihla izinkinga ezinkulu imibhangqwana engazazi noma emadolonzima ukukhuluma ngazo.

2. Umehluko kumanani nezithakazelo

Izinyunyana eziningi zinobudlelwano obuhlukahlukene bezezimali. Ngokuvamile, lokhu kubangelwaizimo zengqondo eziphikisanayo noma ezehlukene mayelana neholo, izindleko, ukonga kanye nezinhlangano ezisiza umphakathi.

3. Ukungathembeki

Ngokuvamile, amadoda akuthola kunzima kakhulu ukuthethelela noma ubani nganoma yini futhi angathanda ukushiya ubuhlobo. Ubophekile ukwenza kanjalo ashiye umkakhe, ngoba unenkinga enkulu yokumxolela ngokungathembeki kwakhe. Ngokusobala bahlangabezane nokuwohloka kwethemba, okungeke kulungiswe. Indoda ayidingi ukuba yisimungulu ukuze isothandweni, ngakho uthando lunemingcele.

4. Udlame lwasekhaya

Ngokusebenzisa izibhakela, ukululaza, ukuthuka… kungenzeka ukulawula omunye umuntu noma ukuphoqelela intando yomuntu kuye ngokusebenzisa izimpawu zobudlova noma ukuziphatha. Ukusetshenziswa kabi kwegunya nokwethenjwa kukhona udlame lwasekhaya. Lokhu kuphazamisa ubudlelwano obusekelwe enhlonipho nasekulinganeni. Izisulu ziphoqeleka ukuba zithule ngenxa yemizwa yokuzihlukanisa, ukululazeka, isisindo semibono ecatshangwe ngaphambili, icala kanye nokwehluleka. Ukuthula kwabo kubavimbela ekuthatheni isinyathelo noma ukucabanga indlela yokuqeda ubuhlungu babo.

Umjikelezo wokungazinqumeli emshadweni

Ku-a ubuhlobo obunobuthi, umjikelezo uphindaphinda kaningi noma kancane njalo futhi uba mubi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Umjikelezo wodlame lwasekhaya uhlose ukugqamisa ukuziphatha okuphindaphindiwe okuhlobene nalolu dlame. Izigaba ezine ezihlukene ezakha lo mjikelezo ukushuba, isimo esibucayi, ukuthethelela, kanye ne-honeymoon.

• Umhlukumezi uhlukanisa, alawule futhi enze ingcindezi yengqondo kulowo ohlukunyeziwe. Isisulu siyakhathazeka, sizama ukushintsha umoya futhi siyazazi izenzo namazwi akhe.
• Ngaphandle kwalapho kungaphephile ukushiya umshado ngenxa yokuhlukunyezwa okungenzeka, abantu bafuna ukudivosa ngokushesha lapho ukuhlukunyezwa kuba okungabekezeleleki. Ukuhlukumeza kuvame ukukhomba uzakwethu oyedwa noma abaningi, kodwa kungase kuthinte ingane eyodwa noma ngaphezulu.
• Akabunaki ubudlova futhi uthi izenzo zakhe zibangelwa yizimbangela ezingaphezu kwamandla akhe, njengokukhuliswa kanzima, izingane ezingalawuleki, ukucindezeleka okuhlobene nomsebenzi, utshwala nesifo sengqondo. Owesifazane wenza umzamo wokuqonda izingxabano zomlingani wakhe. Ngenxa yalokho, uqala ukungayithembi imibono yakhe futhi azisole. Ufuna ukumeseka. Intukuthelo yakhe iyamshiya.
• Isisulu simnika ithuba, asisize, aqaphele imizamo yakhe futhi ashintshe ukuziphatha kwakhe. Lo mjikelezo uyaphinda futhi usheshise ezindlini ezinodlame noma ubudlelwano. Isigaba “se-honeymoon” siyancipha futhi ngezinye izikhathi siyanyamalala njengoba umjikelezo uqhubeka uphindaphinda. Ngisho noma isisulu sinomusa kuye, siyamsiza, siyayibona imizamo yakhe futhi sishintshe imikhuba yakhe.

Izimpawu ezehlukene eziyisixwayiso zesinqumo sokushiya umkakho

Ngempela, uma isifiso sokuba wedwa ngaso sonke isikhathi, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi noma ngaphandle kwezintombi zakho, sihlala sisemthethweni, iqiniso lokufuna ukuhlala njalo kulesi simo limelela isibonakaliso esiyisixwayiso sokuhlukana. Yiqiniso, ukukhulumisana kungenye yezinto eziyisisekelo zobuhlobo obuqinile. Ukukhuluma ngemicabango yakho, izifiso, izinkathazo, imibono kanye nesabelomali sabashadikazi bakho kuzokusiza ukuthi uhlale ekhasini elilodwa. Kungase kube umkhondo wokuthi awusafuni ukuba nomlingani wakho uma ngelinye ilanga ukuthola kungenakwenzeka ukuxhumana. Isixazululo esingcono kakhulu kulesi simo ukuhlola izinhloso zakho.

Ukukhathala ebudlelwaneni

Iqiniso lokuthi ukuguquguquka kwakho kunobuthi futhi oshade naye akenzi umzamo wokuyithuthukisa ifulegi elikhulu elibomvu okungenzeka ukuthi uqeda ubuhlobo bakho.

Ukubuza

Ingcindezi noma inkinga yezempilo ingaba yimbangela ye-zero libido yakho. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, uma umlingani wakho engasakuthokozisi futhi ucansi luphenduka umsebenzi noma lume ngokuphelele, qaphela izimpawu eziyisixwayiso.

Ukushuba kwesimo kwabashadile

Ngezinye izikhathi indoda inquma ukushiya umkayo ngenxa yezingxabano eziningi eziphakama ekuphileni kwabo kwansuku zonke kungabangelwa ukuxabana njalo. Ingabe isihloko esincane kunazo zonke singadala ukungqubuzana? Kufanele uzwele kulesi sixwayiso, ngoba sibonisa ngokusobala ukuphela kobudlelwano benu.

Izigaba ezi-4 zokushiya umkakho

Ngempela, kuvame ukwenzeka ukuthi uthando alumelani novivinyo lwesikhathi. Ukuhlukana kuyingxenye evamile yokuthandana. Ukuqhathaniswa nenye indoda yinto enenzondo kakhulu indoda engahlangabezana nayo. Kodwa kukhona okwenzekayo okumenza angakwazi ukubekezelela izinto ezithile.

1. Ucansi

Ubudlelwano bocansi bubalulekile enhlalakahleni yombhangqwana. Lapho owesilisa encishwa ubulili, akaneliseki, azizwe sengathi kukhona okushodayo, futhi angase afune nokubheka kwenye indawo. Isimo sakhe sengqondo esijwayelekile siyashintsha: intukuthelo, ukucindezeleka, ukuba ndikindiki ngokomzwelo, njll. Nokho, iyonquma ukumshiya umkakhe kunokuba imenze angabe esamethemba uma imkhathalela ngempela.

2. Ukungathembeki

Kuyenzeka ukuthi abanye abantu bakwazi ukunqoba izinkinga zabo zobudlelwano. Indoda ingamshiya umfazi noma ingamthandi ukuze iziphephise nobuhlungu.

3. Ubudlelwano

Ngamanye amazwi, akasajabule! Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukuze ubuhlobo bujabulise, bobabili abalingani kufanele baqonde lokho omunye nomunye akulindele. Izocabanga ukuhlukana nomkakhe ngisho nangaphambi kokuba izinto zishube noma zixabane. Uma lokhu kwenzeka, uzonquma ukuthi akasafuni ukuthandana naye futhi aqede ubudlelwano.

4. Izinguquko

Ugcina engasabonakali futhi akasamazi umkakhe. Ungowesifazane ohluke ngokuphelele. Okungcono kakhulu okumele akwenze uma enale mizwa wukuhamba ukuze angamcasuli.

Isehlukaniso: wazi kanjani ukuthi kuyisinqumo esifanele ngempela?

Uma uzakwethu enemigomo ehlukene yobudlelwano, kungaba nzima ukwamukela leli banga. Kunzima ukulungisa amathemba akho uma imigomo yakho yempilo ingafani, ngisho noma nithandana. Ngisho nobudlelwane obujulile obunothando ngezinye izikhathi bungahluleka ngenxa yemigomo engahlobene ngokuphelele nomunye nomunye. Yiba ongathi sína uma ungajabulile emshadweni wakho futhi izingxabano zivame kangangokuthi awusoze waba nomzuzu wokuthula.

Uma ningavumelani ngalutho, kuwuphawu lokuthi ikusasa lobudlelwano benu lisengcupheni. Ungase ube nezizathu ezizwakalayo zokuzibuza ukuthi kufanele yini isehlukaniso noma uma ubuhlobo benu buphelile. Ukwehlukana kufanele kucatshangelwe uma wena noma oshade naye ninemizwa ngomunye umuntu. Umshado ongenalo uthando ungase ungajabuli.

Yisiphi isikhathi esifanele sokukhetha ukushiya umkakho noma isithandwa sakho?

Asikho isikhathi esihle sokutshela umlingani wakho ukuthi ufuna ukushiya umkakho, futhi akukaze kube lula ukucela. Kudingeka ucabange ukuthi uzoziqeda kanjani izinto ngaphambi kokwenza isimemezelo. Kubalulekile ukuthi ukwazi ukuzithiba ukuze uhlale ulawula isimo futhi uhambe uma izinto ziba zimbi.

Uma ukubandakanyeka kungasekho futhi ungasabelani ngalutho, sekuyisikhathi sokuthi nihlukane. Uma ukhetha ukuphuma nabangani kunokudla out, lokhu kungase kube uphawu lokuthi ubudlelwano bakho bulahlekelwe amandla abo. Uyakuxwaya ukusondela kuye ngoba uyazi ukuthi kuzoholela ekugcineni ubudlelwano. Noma nisahlala ndawonye noma nihlala emakamelweni ahlukene anisakwenzi lutho nindawonye futhi anivamisile ukubonana. Nizizwa sengathi ningumbhangqwana nje ozama ukulondoloza isimiso senu sansuku zonke, ngaphandle komkhuba, ngenxa yokwesaba ukukuqeda, noma ukuvikela izingane zenu.

Izikhombo ze-Bibliographic

Nazi izikhombo zebhayibheli eziyisikhombisa ezihlola izici ezingokwengqondo nezenhlalo ezithonya isinqumo sokushiya umngane womshado:

1. Basile, E. (2019). Ukuxhumana ngokumelene nodlame olubhekiswe kwabesifazane: kusukela ekudalweni kuya ezinhlelweni zokwamukela izinsiza zokuphambukisa ubulili. Ithisisi yobudokotela, i-Aix-Marseille University.
2. U-Hamdi, H. (2017). Amasu okubhekana nesimo sodlame lwasekhaya: ukufunda ngemiphumela yawo ekuhluphekeni kwengqondo kanye nekhwalithi yempilo yabesifazane abayizisulu zodlame lwasekhaya.. Thesis yobudokotela, University of Paris Nanterre.
3. Blanc, F.-P. (2003). Ukuphinga emthethweni wobugebengu waseFrance: umlando wezomthetho nezepolitiki wecala: 1803-1975. Ithisisi yobudokotela, eNyuvesi yasePerpignan.
4. I-Glas, J. (2021). Umtholampilo wokukhumula, ubheke ekujabuleleni ukuthenwa. Ithisisi yobudokotela, eParis Cité University.
5. U-Nicolas, C. (2021). Ubunzima emsebenzini. Thesis yobudokotela, University of Avignon.
6. U-Piazzon, T. (2006). Ukuphepha okusemthethweni. Ithesis yobudokotela, University Paris 2 Panthéon-Assas.
7. Giraud, A. (2021). Ukucabanga nge-conservatism ngakwesobunxele: i-genesis, eyedlule, izindaba zamanje kanye nokuqhubeka kwe-paradigmatic yefilosofi yezepolitiki eyodwa.. Ithisisi yobudokotela, eNyuvesi yaseMontpellier.

Lezi zikhombo zihlinzeka ngemibono eyahlukene ngezinto ezingaholela ekutheni umuntu anqume ukushiya umlingani wakhe womshado, ekhuluma nezici ezingokwengqondo, zezenhlalo, zomthetho nezomlando.

Isiphetho

Ekugcineni, isinqumo sendoda sokushiya umkayo ngokuvamile sibangelwa izici ezijulile njengokukhulumisana, ukwethembana, izindinganiso ezifanayo, ngisho nokuphepha ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yiziphi izizathu, ukuhlukana kufanele kusingathwe ngokwethembeka nangenhlonipho, ukuze kuncishiswe ubuhlungu kubo bonke abahilelekile.

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