Ta’rifi: o’rganilgan nochorlik – bu mavjudot o’z harakatlari hech narsani o’zgartirmasligini sezganidan keyin, hatto harakat qilish yana mumkin bo’lganda ham harakatni to’xtatadigan holat. Psixolog Martin Seligman buni 1960-yillarda eksperimental tarzda ko’rsatdi: muqarrar zarbalarga duchor bo’lgan hayvonlar, hatto chiqish eshigi ochiq bo’lsa ham, qochishni to’xtatadilar. Ular hech narsa yordam bermasligini bilib oldilar.
Tajribadan oilaviy yashash xonasiga
Ta’sirga duchor bo’lgan, o’rganilgan nochorlik atrofdagilar tushunmaydigan sirni tushuntiradi: “nega u ketmaydi?”. Chunki u asab tizimi bilan o‘rgangan – o‘ylamagan – norozilik hech narsaga olib kelmasligini, qochish sizni boshlang‘ich nuqtaga qaytarishini, so‘rash tumanni quyuqlashtirishini o‘rgangan. Yillar davomida mikrotrauma va ik tomonlama cheklovlardan so’ng, ketishning oddiy g’oyasi avvalgi urinishlar kabi charchoqni keltirib chiqaradi. Eshik keng ochiq bo’lishi mumkin: o’rganish ichkidir.
O’rganilgan nochorlikning uchta belgisi
- Passivity muammolar oldida, hatto kichik va eruvchan.
- G’amginlik va chekinish: kamroq loyihalar, kamroq ifodalangan istaklar.
- O’rganishni sekinlashtirish: “Men baribir buni qila olmayman” hatto testdan oldin ham.
Yaxshi xabar: o’rganilgan narsa o’rganilmaydi
Seligman va uning hamkasblari aniq hamkasbini topdilar: mahorat tajribasi. Ba’zan une boshdan kechirgan birinchi g’alabani – chegarani o’tkazishni, yolg’iz tayinlangan uchrashuvni, qutini ko’chirishni – miya harakatning foydali ekanligini qayta ro’yxatdan o’tkazishi uchun kifoya qiladi. Demak, kichik zanjirli g’alabalarning mantig’i:
- G’alaba qozonish mumkin bo’lgan janglarni tanlang va ularda g’alaba qozoning – bu katta final jangida emas.
- Har bir g’alabani yozma ravishda yozib oling: o’rganish uchun takroriy isbot kerak.
- O’zingizni qo’llab-quvvatlashga ruxsat bering: terapevt, guruh yoki ixtisoslashtirilgan murabbiylik, harakat qilish kuchini qayta ishlatishni tezlashtirish uchun.
Bu aynan arxitekturasiPNni tark etishning 6 bosqichli rejasi: har bir bosqich keyingisini tayyorlaydigan mahorat g’alabasidir. U yerdashifo, u ham kichik takroriy dalillar bilan qurilgan.
narsisistik buzuq lug’atdan ta’rif.
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Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.
Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.
Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.