Enye yezinhlobo eziyingozi ze- ukuxhashazwa ngokomzwelo kwaziwa ngokuthi “ukuphathwa kwezithombe,” lapho umuntu edala ngamabomu amathemba angamanga kanye nokubikezela ikusasa komunye umuntu. Le nqubo ihlose ukugcina ukulawula kanyeukubamba ngokwengqondo kumuntu ohlukunyeziwe, ngokudlala ngamathemba namaphupho akhe. Ake sihlole ngokuningiliziwe izindlela nemiphumela yalolu hlobo lokukhwabanisa.
Izisekelo ezingokwengqondo zokukhashelwa kwesithombe
Ukukhashelwa kwesithombe kusekelwe ekuxhashazweni kwezifiso ezijulile zomuntu kanye nezifiso zakhe. Umkhohlisi ukhomba ukuthi yini ebalulekile kumgomo wakhe: amaphupho emisebenzi, izinhlelo zomndeni, imigomo yomuntu siqu. Ibese isebenzisa lolu lwazi ukuze idale umbono ofanele wekusasa, oqondaniswe ngokuphelele nezifiso zomuntu ohlukunyeziwe.
Le nqubo idlala ezindleleni ezinamandla ezingokwengqondo. Abantu banokuthambekela okungokwemvelo kokuzibonakalisa esikhathini esizayo nokubamba amathemba. Umkhohlisi usebenzisa lesi sidingo ngokuzenzisa lokho omunye afuna ukukuzwa. Ngakho kwakha isibopho esingokomzwelo esiqinile esisekelwe ezithembisweni eziyengayo.
UCristina unikeza iseshini yomuntu ngamunye ukukusiza uphume ekulawulweni okuhlukumezayo futhi wakhe impilo yakho kabusha.
Izigaba zokubeka izithembiso zamanga
Ukukhashelwa kwezithombe ngokuvamile kwenzeka ngezigaba eziningana:
- Isigaba sokubuka: umkhohlisi ufunda ngokucophelela lokho akuhlosile ukuze abone izifiso nobuthakathaka bakhe.
- Isigaba sokuyenga: uqala ukwenza izithembiso ezilingayo, ezivumelanisa ngokuphelele nezifiso zomunye.
- Isigaba sokunamathisela: izithembiso ezingamanga ziyaphindwa futhi ziqiniswe, zidale umuzwa wokuzibophezela kulowo ohlukunyeziwe.
- Isigaba sokulibaziseka: umkhohlisi uhlale ethola izaba zokuhlehlisa ukugcwaliseka kwezithembiso.
- Isigaba secala: uma isisulu sizwakalisa ukungabaza, basolwa ngokuntula isineke noma ukuzethemba.
Le nqubo ivumela umkhohlisi ukuthi alondoloze ithonya lakhe elingokwengqondo esikhathini eside, ngaphandle kokuthi enze izibopho zakhe zibe ngokoqobo.
Izinhlobo ezahlukene zezithembiso ezaphulwa
Ukukhashelwa kwezithombe kungathatha izinhlobo eziningi kuye komongo wobudlelwano:
- Ebudlelwaneni bezothando, kungathinta izinhlelo zokuphila ndawonye, umshado noma izingane ezihlehliswa njalo. Lokhu kungathatha uhlobo lweithonya lothando.
- Esimeni sokusebenza, lokhu kungase kube izithembiso zokuthuthuka emsebenzini noma ukukhushulwa okungenzeki.
- Ebuhlotsheni bomkhaya, umzali angase aphazamise ukusekelwa ngokwezimali noma okungokomzwelo okungafiki.
- Ebunganeni obunobuthi, umkhohlisi angase athembise usizo noma ushintsho ekuziphatheni okungenzeki.
Lezi zithembiso ezingamanga zonke zifana ngokuthi zenza ithemba elinamandla kulowo ohlukunyeziwe, zihlale zisesimweni sokulinda nokuncika.
Imithelela yengqondo yokukhashelwa kwesithombe kumuntu ohlukunyeziwe
Imiphumela yokukhashelwa kwesithombe empilweni yengqondo yomuntu oyisisulu ingaba nkulu futhi ihlale njalo:
- Ukulahlekelwa ukuzethemba: ngokubona amathemba abo edumele, umuntu angagcina engabaza ukubaluleka kwakhe kanye nekhono lakhe lokufeza amaphupho akhe.
- Ukudideka ngokomzwelo: igebe phakathi kwezithembiso neqiniso lidala umuzwa ophazamisayo we-cognitive dissonance.
- Ukucindezeleka nokukhathazeka: Ukulinda njalo nokudumazeka okuphindaphindiwe kungaholela ekuphazamisekeni kwemizwelo.
- Ukuhlela ubunzima: isipiliyoni singenza kube nzima ukuphrojekthi esikhathini esizayo futhi wakhe amaphrojekthi amasha.
- Ukulahleka kwama-bearings: umuntu angase abe nobunzima bokuhlukanisa okulungile nokungalungile ebudlelwaneni obuzayo.
Le mithelela yengqondo ingaqhubeka isikhathi eside ngemva kokuphela kobudlelwane obuhlukumezayo, ngokuvamile okudinga ukwesekwa kokwelashwa ukuze kunqobe.
Izindlela zokuncika ezidalwe izithembiso ezingamanga
Ukukhashelwa kwezithombe kudala uhlobo lokuncika ngokomzwelo kusisulu. Ibambelele ezithembisweni ezinjengomucu wokuphila, njalo inethemba lokugcwaliseka kwazo. Lokhu kwencika kuchazwa yizici ezimbalwa:
- Ukutshalwa kwezimali ngokomzwelo: lapho umuntu etshale ithemba namandla ebudlelwaneni, kuba nzima kakhulu ukuyeka.
- Isidingo sokungaguquguquki: ukuvuma ukuthi ukhohlisiwe kunzima ngokwengqondo, okukuphusha ukuthi uqhubeke ukholelwa ezithembisweni.
- Ukwesaba okungaziwa: ukuyeka ithemba elingamanga kusho ukubhekana nekusasa elingaqinisekile, okungase kusabisa.
- Isidingo sokuqinisekisa: isisulu sifisa ukuveza ukuthi siyazifanelekela izithembiso ezenziwe.
Lokhu kuncika kwenza kube nzima kakhulu ukushiya ubuhlobo obunobuthi, ngisho nalapho umuntu eqala ukuqaphela ukukhohlisa.
Iqhaza lokuhlanekezelwa kwengqondo ekugcineni inkohliso
Ukukhashelwa kwezithombe kuncike ekuhlanekezelekeni okuhlukahlukene kwengqondo ukuze kugcinwe amandla:
- Ukucabanga okukhethiwe: isisulu sigxila ezikhathini ezimbalwa ezinhle kunokudumazeka okuningi.
- Ukunciphisa: ithambekele ekunciphiseni ukubaluleka kwezithembiso ezephulwayo.
- Ukulinganisa: uthola izaba ezinengqondo zokwehluleka komqili.
- Ukwenza kube ngokwakho: uzibophezela ngokwehluleka kunokungabaza izithembiso.
Lokhu kubandlulula kwengqondo kuvimbela umuntu ekuboneni ngokucacile ubuqiniso besimo sakhe, ngaleyo ndlela andise ukuchayeka kwakhe ekukhohlisweni.
Izixhumanisi phakathi kokukhashelwa kwesithombe nezinye izinhlobo zokuhlukumeza ngokomzwelo
Ukukhashelwa kwezithombe kuvame ukuba yingxenye yephethini enkulu yokuhlukumeza ngokomzwelo. Ingahlotshaniswa nezinye izinhlobo zokukhohlisa ezifana nalezi:
- Ukukhanyisa igesi: umkhohlisi uyaphika ukuthi wenze izithembiso ezithile, okwenza isisulu singabaze inkumbulo yaso.
- Uthando lwamabhomu: izithembiso ezinkulu ziyashintshana nezinkathi zokunakwa ngokweqile ukuze zenze ukuncika ngokomzwelo.
- Ukwelashwa buthule: umkhohlisi usebenzisa ukuthula nokuhoxa ngokomzwelo njengesijeziso lapho isisulu sizwakalisa ukungabaza.
- Unxantathu: abanye abantu bahileleke emdlalweni wezithembiso ezingamanga ukuze bathembeke kakhudlwana.
Lezi zindlela ezihlukene ziyaqinisana, zidale indawo yobudlelwane enobuthi neqeda uzinzo kumuntu ohlukunyeziwe.
Izici zokuba sengozini ebusweni bokukhashelwa kwesithombe
Izici ezithile zingenza umuntu awele ezithembisweni ezingamanga:
- Ukuzenyeza : abantu abangenakho ukuzethemba bamukela izithembiso ezithophayo.
- Umlando wokuhlukumeza noma ukunganakwa: izisulu zingase zifune ukuvala izikhala ezingokomzwelo ngalezi zithembiso.
- Isidingo esinamandla sokuqashelwa: isifiso sokwazisa singasenza sikholelwe izithembiso ezingenangqondo.
- Ukuthambekela kwe-idealization: abanye abantu bakuthola kulula ukuzifaka ezimeni ezifanele.
- Isimo se ukuba sengozini : izikhathi zoshintsho noma ubuthakathaka (isehlukaniso, ukushonelwa, ukungasebenzi) kungandisa ukuzwela ezithembisweni ezingamanga.
Ukuqonda lezi zici zobungozi kungakusiza ukuthi uzivikele kangcono kulolu hlobo lokukhohlisa.
Izikhombo ze-Bibliographic
Nazi izikhombo zebhayibheli eziyisikhombisa endikimbeni ethi “Ukukhohlisa Kwezithombe”:
- U-Didier Ottinger (dir.), Magritte, Ukukhashelwa kwezithombe, Centre Pompidou, 2016.
- UMichel Foucault, Akulona ipayipi leli, Fata Morgana, 1973.
- Laurent Gervereau, Bona, qonda, hlaziya izithombe, The Discovery, 1994.
- USilvano Levy, U-René Magritte: Umbuso wezithombe, Editions Labour, 1995.
- UPatricia Allmer, URené Magritte: Ngaphandle Kokudweba, Manchester University Press, 2009.
- Laurent Gervereau, Ingabe izithombe ziqamba amanga? Qopha izithombe noma khohlisa umphakathi, www.gervereau.com, 2011.
- URené Magritte, Amazwi nemifanekiso, eshicilelwe ku I-Surrealist Revolution, n°12, 1929.
Lezi zithenjwa zinikeza umbono ohlukahlukene wokuthi izithombe zingakhaphela kanjani izinto ezingokoqobo noma zilawule umbono, ohlobene nomsebenzi ka-René Magritte nangale kwalokho.
Isiphetho
Sengiphetha, ukukhaphela isithombe kumelela uhlobo olucashile lokukhohlisa ngokomzwelo. Ngokudlala ngamathemba namaphupho esisulu sakhe, umkhohlisi udala isibopho esinamandla esingokwengqondo sokuncika. Imithelela yale nqubo ingaba nkulu futhi ihlale isikhathi eside, ithinte ukuzethemba kanye nekhono lokwethemba. Ukubona izindlela ezisebenzayo kulolu hlobo lokukhohlisa kuyisinyathelo sokuqala esibalulekile sokuzivikela kukho futhi wakhe kabusha ubudlelwano obunempilo obusekelwe kubuqotho nokuhloniphana.
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