Amagama othando avela ku-PN: ukuqonda ukukhohliswa kwemizwelo

Amazwi othando avela ku-narcissist angase abonakale emnandi futhi eqotho ebusweni, kodwa ngokuvamile afihla iqiniso elimnyama kakhulu. Lesi sihloko sihlola ubunjalo obuyinkimbinkimbi balezi zimemezelo zothando kanye neqhaza lazo ku-dynamics yobudlelwane obunobuthi obusungulwe yi-PN.

Ukuyenga ngamazwi kwe-narcissistic pervert

I-narcissistic pervert ivame ukuba yingcweti kwezobuciko bokuyenga ngamazwi. Isebenzisa amagama othando akhethwe ngokucophelela ukuze idale inkohliso yokuxhumana okujulile nothando oluqotho. Lezi zitatimende zingabandakanya imishwana efana nalena:

• “Angikaze ngithande muntu njengoba ngikuthanda wena”
• “Uwena wedwa ongiqondayo ngempela.”
• “Uthando lwethu luyingqayizivele futhi lukhethekile”
• “Ngeke ngikwazi ukuphila ngaphandle kwakho”

Lezi zinkulumo ezijulile zothando zihlose ukwakha isibopho esiqinile ngokomzwelo futhi zenze isisulu sizizwe sikhethekile futhi singenakushintshwa.

Igebe phakathi kwamagama nezenzo

Isici esibalulekile okufanele siqondwe mayelana namazwi othando e-NP ukuhlukana phakathi kwamazwi abo nezenzo zabo. Nakuba amazwi akhe angase avuse uthando olujulile, olungenamibandela, ukuziphatha kwakhe kuvame ukuxoxa indaba ehluke ngokuphelele.

Lokhu kuqhathanisa kungazibonakalisa ngezindlela ezihlukahlukene:

• Izithembiso ezephuliwe
• Ukuntula uzwela nokusekelwa ngokomzwelo
• Ukungabi khona okungachazwanga
• Ukugxekwa njalo naphezu kwezimemezelo zothando

Lokhu kungaboni ngaso linye phakathi kwamazwi nezenzo kuwumthombo wokudideka nosizi kulowo ohlukunyeziwe.

Umsebenzi okhohlisayo wamazwi othando e-narcissistic pervert

Lezi PN izimpawu zothando akuzona izinkulumo ezilula zemizwa, kodwa amathuluzi okulawula imizwelo. Bafeza izinjongo eziningana:

1. Dala ukuncika ngokomzwelo
2. Gcina ukulawula ubudlelwano
3. Ukuthethelela ukuziphatha okuhlukumezayo
4. Ukugwema izingxabano noma ukuhlukana

I-PN isebenzisa lawa magama othando njengama-levers ukuze ithonye imizwelo nezenzo zomlingani wakhe.

Amandla ashintshashintshayo ezimemezelo zothando

Isici esiphawulekayo samagama othando e-PN ukuqina kwawo okuhlukahluka kuye ngezimo. Lokhu kuguquguquka kuvame ukulandela iphethini engabikezelwa:

1. Ukuqala kobudlelwane: izimemezelo eziqinile nezivamile
2. Isigaba sokwehlisa inani: ukuncishiswa kwamagama othando
3. Usongo lokuqhekeka: ukubuyiswa kwezimemezelo ezishisekayo

Lokhu kuguquguquka kwemizwelo kugcina isisulu sisesimweni sokungaqiniseki nethemba.

Indima “yokuqhunyiswa kwamabhomu” kuhlelo lwe-PN

the ” thanda amabhomu “Ukushaya amabhomu othando” kuyindlela evame ukusetshenziswa ngabantu abaziphatha kabi. Iqukethe amazwi amaningi othando nokunaka, ikakhulukazi ekuqaleni kobudlelwano noma ngemva kwesikhathi sokungqubuzana.

Izici ze- thanda amabhomu :

• Izimemezelo zothando eziqine ngokwedlulele
• Ukuncoma okwedlulele nokuqhubekayo
• Izinhlelo zekusasa ezinkulu
• Izipho nokunakwa ngokweqile

Le nqubo ihlose ukucindezela isisulu ngemizwa eyakhayo, ukudala ukunamathisela okusheshayo nokujulile.

Umthelela wengqondo wamagama othando avela kuphendukezeli we-narcissistic

Izimemezelo zothando ze-narcissistic pervert zinemiphumela ebalulekile empilweni yengqondo nengokomzwelo yomlingani wabo. Phakathi kwale mithelela, singaqaphela:

1. Ukudideka ngokomzwelo
2. Ukungabaza mayelana nombono womuntu siqu ngeqiniso
3. Ukuzethemba okubuthakathaka
4. Ukuncika okusebenzayo qongelela
5. Ubunzima bokuthembela ebudlelwaneni obuzayo

Le miphumela ingahlala isikhathi eside ngemva kokuphela kobudlelwane, ithinte ikhono lesisulu lokwakha izibopho ezinempilo.

Amagama othando avela kumpenduki we-narcissistic njengethuluzi lokukhanyisa igesi

Ukukhanyisa igesi, noma ukuxhaphaza ngokwengqondo okuhloswe ukwenza isisulu singabaze umbono waso, ngokuvamile kusebenzisa amagama othando njengevektha. I-PN ingaphika ukuziphatha okuhlukumezayo ngokucela uthando lwayo:

• “Ungacabanga kanjani ukuthi ngikuphatha kabi ngikuthanda kangaka? »
• “Uzicabangela izinto, uyazi ukuthi ngikuthanda ngaphezu kwanoma yini.”

Lezi zimemezelo zothando zisebenza ukwenza imizwa nezibheko zesisulu zingasebenzi, ziqinise ukubambelela kwazo.

Indawo yamagama othando emjikelezweni wokuhlukumeza

Amagama othando adlala indima ebalulekile emjikelezweni wokuhlukumeza isici sobudlelwano ne-FN. Lo mjikelezo ngokuvamile uhlanganisa izigaba ezintathu:

1. Ukukhula kwengcindezi
2. Isigameko esihlukumezayo
3. Ukubuyisana noma “i-honeymoon”

Kuphakathi nesigaba sokubuyisana lapho amazwi othando aba khona kakhulu futhi ashubile. Basebenzela ukududuza isisulu futhi basenze siqiniseke ukuthi sihlale ebudlelwaneni naphezu kokuhlukunyezwa esikutholile.

Ukulutha emazwini othando ephenduki lenarcissistic

Izimemezelo zothando ze-narcissistic pervert zingadala ukuncika kwangempela kumlingani wakhe. Lokhu kulutheka kungachazwa ngezinto ezimbalwa:

• Ukukhululwa kwe-dopamine ngezikhathi zothando
• Isidingo sokuqinisekisa ngokomzwelo
• Ithemba loshintsho oluhlala njalo
• Ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa ukuxhumana ngokomzwelo

Lokhu kulutheka kwenza ukushiya ubudlelwano kube nzima kakhulu, ngisho noma isisulu sibona ubuthi babo.

Ubunzima bokubona ubuqotho bamazwi othando

Enye yezinselelo ezinkulu zezisulu ze-PN ukuhlukanisa izimemezelo eziqotho zothando nokukhohlisa. Lobu bunzima buchazwa ngu:

1. Ubuqotho obusobala be-PN ngezikhathi zakhe zothando
2. Isifiso esijulile sokukholelwa kulolu thando
3. Izikhathi zokuxhumana kwangempela ngokomzwelo okungaba khona
4. Ubunkimbinkimbi bemizwa ye-PN ngokwayo

Lokhu kungaqondakali kusiza ukugcina isisulu sisebudlelwaneni obunobuthi, ngaso sonke isikhathi sifuna ubufakazi bothando lwangempela.

Nalu uhlu lwezikhombo zebhayibheli zamagama othando kanye nokuziphatha komuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic ebudlelwaneni bothando:

1. Hirigoyen, MF. (1998). Ukuhlukunyezwa ngokokuziphatha: Ubudlova obuhlanekezelwe nsuku zonke. I-Paris: Ukutholwa.
2. U-Eiguer, A. (2001). I-narcissistic pervert kanye nomlingani wakhe. EParis: Dunod.
3. Racamier, PC. (2012). I-Narcissistic perversions. I-Paris: I-Payot.
4. Bouchoux, JC. (2016). Ama-Narcissistic perverts: Bangobani, basebenza kanjani, bangababalekela kanjani? EParis: Eyrolles.
5. Lelord, F., & André, C. (2000). Indlela yokubhekana nobuntu obunzima. EParis: Odile Jacob.
6. Nazare-Aga, I. (2014). Ama-manipulators aphakathi kwethu. I-Montreal: Les Éditions de l’Homme.
7. Zadje, N. (2017). Ukuphulukisa i-narcissism. EParis: Odile Jacob.

Lezi zincwadi zikhuluma ngezici ezihlukene zokuziphatha kwabahlanekezeli be-narcissistic ebudlelwaneni bothando, okuhlanganisa indlela yabo yokuxhumana nokusebenzisa amagama othando njengamathuluzi okukhohlisa.

Isiphetho: ngale kwamagama othando lomuntu ohlanekezela ama-narcissistic

Amagama othando avela kumuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic angaphezulu kakhulu kwezimemezelo ezingokomzwelo ezilula. Ziyithuluzi elinamandla lokukhohlisa imizwa, zidlala indima eyinhloko ekuguquguqukeni kobudlelwane obunobuthi. Ukuqonda inkimbinkimbi nevamile ekhohlisayo yalezi zindlela zokubonakaliswa kothando kuyisinyathelo esibalulekile kuzisulu ezifuna ukugqashula ekubanjweni yi-NP.

Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi uthando lweqiniso alubonakali kuphela ngamazwi, kodwa ngaphezu kwakho konke ngezenzo ezingaguquki, inhlonipho, nokusekelwa njalo ngokomzwelo. Abesifazane ababhekene nalolu hlobo lobudlelwano bangazuza ekusekelweni kochwepheshe ukuze bazulazule kulawa manzi anezinkinga futhi bakhe kabusha isithombe esinempilo sothando nobudlelwano.