Ubudlelwano ne-narcissist bungalimaza kakhulu futhi budide. Uma uzizwa uvaleleke emjikelezweni wokuhlukumeza ngokomzwelo, kubalulekile ukuqonda izindlela ezidlalwayo Umbono we-“Cartman Triangle” unikeza ukuqonda okubalulekile kumaqhinga akhohlisayo abasebenzisa ama-narciss ukuze babambe iqhaza. Lesi sihloko sizokusiza ukuthi ubone lawa maphethini anobuthi futhi ulawule impilo yakho.
Iyini i-Karpman Triangle futhi isebenza kanjani ebudlelwaneni obunobuthi?
Unxantathu wedrama ka-Karpman uyimodeli yezengqondo echaza ukuguquguquka okungenampilo ebudlelwaneni obuhlukumezayo. Igqamisa izindima ezintathu ezihlukene i-narcissist ezithatha ngokushintshana ukuze agcine ukulawula: umshushisi, umsindisi, kanye nesisulu.
Kumongo wobudlelwano nomuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic, lo mqondo uthatha incazelo yawo ephelele. I-narcissist ihlanganisa lezi zindima ngobuchule, idale isivunguvungu semizwa esikugcina udidekile futhi uncike. Ukuqonda lo mshini kuyisinyathelo sokuqala sokunqamula lo mjikelezo ononya.
UCristina unikeza iseshini yomuntu ngamunye ukukusiza uphume ekulawulweni okuhlukumezayo futhi wakhe impilo yakho kabusha.
Umshushisi: Umgadli ukugcine kanjani ekubambeni kwakhe ngokwesaba nokubusa?
Indima yomshushisi ivame ukuba sobala kakhulu futhi ihlukumeza kakhulu. Kulesi sikhundla, i-narcissist:
- Ihlala ikugxeka, ilulaza imizamo yakho kanye nezimpumelelo zakho
- Usebenzisa intukuthelo nokwesabisa ukuze uzibambe
- Lawula imizwa yakho ngokusebenzisa amasu afana nokukhanyisa igesi
- Ibeka imithetho engenamthetho futhi ijezisa noma yiluphi uhlobo lokungalaleli
- Ukuhlukanisa nabantu obathandayo ukuze uqinise ukubusa kwakhe
Lokhu kuziphatha okuhlukumezayo kuhloselwe ukuqeda ukuzethemba kwakho futhi kukwenze uncike ngokuphelele ekwamukelweni nguye. Kudala isimo sokwesaba nokungavikeleki unomphela, kukugcina usesimweni sokuqapha njalo.
Umsindisi: Uhlangothi olunakekelayo lwe-narcissist olukuvimbela ukuthi ungahambi
Ngemva kwesigaba sokushushiswa, i-narcissist ivame ukuthatha indima yomsindisi. Lolu shintsho lungaphazamisa futhi lukwenze ungabaze ukwahlulela kwakho. Kule ndima, uthi:
- Ibonisa ukunakekela nokuqonda, inikeza ikhefu lesikhashana
- Ithembisa ukushintsha nokwenza ngcono ngenxa yobudlelwano
- Ikukhuthaza ukuthi uzisebenzele wena, uthi ufuna okuhle kwakho
- Ikunikeza izipho noma ukunakwa ukuze uzuze futhi
- Uzethula njengoyedwa okwazi “ukukuphilisa” noma “ukukusindisa”
Lesi sigaba se-honeymoon sivuselela ithemba lobudlelwano obunempilo futhi sikukhuthaze ukuthi uhlale. Kuphinde kuqinise ukuncika kwakho ngokomzwelo ku-narcissist, kumbeka njengokuphela komthombo wakho wenduduzo nokuqinisekisa.
Umhlukumezi: Lapho i-narcissist iguqula isimo sibe yinzuzo yakhe
Iqhaza lesithathu kunxantathu kaCartman ngelesisulu. Imvamisa iyona ecashile kakhulu futhi kunzima ukuyibona. Kulesi sikhundla, i-narcissist:
- Uziveza njengesisulu sangempela ebudlelwaneni
- Ikusola ngokuhlukumeza noma ukungazinzi
- Isebenzisa icala ukukukhohlisa
- Idinga uzwelo lwakho nokusekelwa okungenamibandela
- Wenqaba noma imuphi umthwalo wemfanelo ngezenzo zakhe, ehlale esola abanye
Lokhu kuguqulwa kwendima kuphazamisa ikakhulukazi. Kukwenza ungabaze owakho umbono weqiniso futhi kukuphushela ukuba uxolise ngamaphutha acatshangelwayo. Leli qhinga lihlose ukukugcina usesimweni sobuthakathaka unomphela nomuzwa wecala.
I-narcissist ishintshana kanjani phakathi kwalezi zindima ezintathu ukuze alondoloze ithonya lakhe?
Amandla kanxantathu ka-Cartman asekhonweni le-narcissist lokuhlanganisa lezi zindima ezintathu ngendlela emanzi futhi engalindelekile. Lokhu kushintshana okuqhubekayo:
- Dala a ukungazinzi ngokomzwelo lokho kukuqeda amandla
- Ikuvimbela ukuthi ungalindeli ukusabela kwakhe, kukugcina uzivikela
- Ifiphalisa imigqa phakathi kothando nokuhlukumeza
- Iqinisa ukuncika kwakho ngokukunikeza izikhathi zokuphumula kwesikhashana
- Kukwenza ubuze ukwahlulela kwakho kanye nengqondo yakho
Lokhu kuguquguquka okujikelezayo kwenza kube nzima kakhulu ukuqaphela ukuhlukumeza bese unquma ukubushiya ubudlelwano. Uhlale uphonseke phakathi kwethemba nokuphelelwa ithemba, awukwazi ukubona isithombe esikhulu ngokucacile.
Izimpawu Ukuthi Uvaleleke Kunxantathu KaCartman
Ukuqaphela ukuthi uyisisulu salo mjikelezo okhohlisayo kubalulekile ukuze uqale ukugqashula kuwo. Nazi ezinye zezimpawu zokuthi:
- Uhlale uzizwa sengathi umatasatasa
- Uvame ukungabaza umbono wakho weqiniso
- Uyaye uxolise ngezinto okungelona iphutha lakho
- Unomuzwa wokuthi hamba ngamagobolondo amaqanda ukugwema izingxabano
- Uzizwa unesibopho ngenjabulo nenhlalakahle yomlingani wakho
- Unenkinga yokuthatha izinqumo ngaphandle kokufaka umlingani wakho
- Uzizwa uhlukanisiwe kubangani nomndeni wakho
- Ulahlekelwe ukuzethemba kuwena namakhono akho
Uma amaningi alawa maphuzu ezwakala ajwayelekile kuwe, kungenzeka ukuthi ubanjwe kunxantathu we-Cartman wobudlelwane be-narcissistic.
Ukubaluleka kokuphulukisa nokwakha kabusha ngemva kokubalekela Unxantathu waseCartman
Ukushiya ubudlelwano be-narcissistic kuyisinyathelo sokuqala kuphela. Ukuziphilisa kanye nokuzakha kabusha kubaluleke ngokufanayo. Le nqubo ibandakanya:
- Ukwamukela nokucubungula ukuhlukumezeka kwahlupheka
- Funda ukuzethemba wena nabanye futhi
- Zitholele kabusha izifiso nezifiso zakho
- Yakha ubudlelwano obunempilo nobulinganiselayo
- Yakha izindlela ezinhle zokubhekana nazo
Khumbula ukuthi ukwelapha kuthatha isikhathi. Yiba nesineke futhi ube nomusa kuwe kulo lonke lolu hambo.
Izinkomba zezincwadi kunxantathu ka-Cartman
Nazi izikhombo zebhayibheli eziyisikhombisa:
- U-Karpman, S. (1968). “Izinganekwane kanye Nokuhlaziywa KweDrama Yesikripthi”. Umbiko Wokuhlaziya Okwenziwayo, 7 (26), 39-43.
- Ide, P. (2019). “Kusuka ku-Karpman’s Drama Triangle kuya ku-Evil Square.” Ukubuyekezwa Okusha Kwemfundiso Yenkolo, 141 (3), 466-484.
- I-Neuville, C., & Yaïch, S. (2019). “I Unxantathu we-Karpman“. Ku Uchwepheshe ekulawuleni ukucindezeleka (i-88-89).
- Balta, FR “Unxantathu omangalisayo kanye nezingqinamba zendima siyenqaba.”
- Ukuhlaziywa Kwengqondo. “Unxantathu weDrama”.
- Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo.net. “Izindlela zokuxhumana nge-Karpman Triangle”.
- Imboni Yamakhono. “I-Karpman Triangle”.
Lezi zithenjwa zinikeza ukuqonda okujulile kwe-Karpman Triangle kanye nemithelela yayo ebudlelwaneni babantu.
Isiphetho: Sibheke esikhathini esizayo esingenawo unxantathu we-Cartman
Ukuqonda unxantathu ka-Cartman kuyisinyathelo esibalulekile sokuzikhulula ethonyeni le-narcissistic pervert. Ngokubona la maphethini anobuthi, uphinda uthole amandla phezu kwempilo yakho futhi uvule umnyango wobudlelwane obunempilo, nokwanelisa kakhudlwana.
Khumbula ukuthi ufanelwe uthando, inhlonipho nokuzinza. Indlela yokululama ingase ibonakale iyinde futhi inzima, kodwa isinyathelo ngasinye sikusondeza ekuphileni impilo ekhululekile neyiqiniso. Unamandla ngaphakathi kuwe okunqamula lo mjikelezo futhi wakhe ikusasa elikufanele.
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Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.
Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.