Narcissistic pervert: is a cure possible?

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Narcissistic perverts (PN) are people with narcissistic personality disorder. People with this disease have a devaluing idea of ​​themselves. They need a lot of attention from others and can put them down. THE perverse Narcissists don't value other people's feelings or ideas and ignore their needs. But is it possible that they will recover from this mental illness?

Should we forgive a narcissistic pervert?

When you want to free yourself from a relationship with this type of individual, it is important to forgive, or more precisely to make peace with yourself. This is how the victim of an PN will move forward. Moreover, it is not because a narcissistic pervert has mental problems that he should be forgiven.

In order to end this painful experience, the victim will go through different phases including anger, reconstruction and forgiveness. Above all, you have to forgive yourself to evacuate destructive emotions and be able to move forward. It's best to leave revenge aside because it may fuel the narcissistic pervert's need for manipulation.

Healing a narcissistic pervert: can we cure him?

A PN cannot cure only if he really wants to. He must know he is sick. However, people with narcissistic personality disorder live in denial. They often seek admiration and have a lack of empathy, low self-confidence. Unfortunately, they do not have the ability to realize the disorder they are suffering from.

However, in some cases as a result of several relationship failures, or if his relatives sensitize him, a narcissistic pervert can question himself. At this time, he can undertake work on his pathological behavior and undergo psychotherapy with an expert.

What therapies for the healing of a PN?

Although there is no cure for PN, there are many forms of therapy that can help. But whatever psychotherapy is chosen, it must be performed with a qualified therapist who has experience in treating personality disorders. Here are a few that can be effective for a narcissistic pervert:

  • Gestalt therapy

It is a type of psychotherapy that focuses more on the present than on the past. Therapy sessions usually focus on the challenges a person is currently facing in their life. During Gestalt therapy, people are often asked to simulate social interactions in an effort to improve their communication skills.

  • Dialectical behavior therapy

Originally, dialectical behavior therapy (or DBT) was designed to treat borderline personality disorder. Currently, it is also used to treat other personality disorders and mental health issues as well.

It is a treatment approach that teaches people about mindfulness and helps them learn to better manage their emotions. Typically, people will receive both individual and group therapy when using this method of psychotherapy.

Advantages of the psychotherapy method on the narcissistic pervert

This approach can help someone with a narcissistic personality learn to:

  1. identify and better control their emotions;
  2. coping with uncomfortable experiences;
  3. communicate more effectively;
  4. better manage negative emotions.
  • Supportive psychotherapy

Some psychotherapists may recommend supportive therapy for narcissistic perverts. This psychotherapeutic approach can help relieve symptoms and psychic distress. Thanks to it, a therapist can:

  • teach skills to manage harmful emotions;
  • provide treatment for symptoms such as anxiety and depression;
  • help an FN to explore and resolve problems in their interpersonal relationships;
  • support a narcissistic pervert (living with a narcissistic pervert) in order to identify the benefits associated with changes in his personality.

In some cases, a therapist may also recommend including loved ones in the therapy. By better understanding his thoughts and feelings, a narcissistic pervert can acquire a deeper capacity for empathy.

What are the drugs to treat narcissistic personality disorder?

It should be noted that no medication can directly treat narcissistic traits, but proper medication can still provide some benefits. People with narcissistic personality disorder often find that medication can be helpful for the symptoms associated with their condition.

Indeed, depending on their severity, severe mental health symptoms can sometimes hinder the success of psychotherapy. For example, if a person feels extremely anxious or experiences depression or paranoia, they may have trouble staying in treatment for narcissistic personality disorder.

Thus, the therapist can prescribe antidepressants or anxiolytics in order to relieve these symptoms. Medication adapted to the symptoms of the PN can help him to be more receptive during psychotherapy.

Can love transform a narcissistic manipulator?

Unfortunately, narcissistic perverts don't really fall in love with people. They fall in love with their fantasies over a person. Often they idealize their partner as the perfect mate. In this sense, the love of a narcissistic manipulator is quite superficial and depends on how her partner responds to her needs. It's just what they want.

A relationship with a narcissistic pervert is not lasting, because it is based on a fantasy. Once narcissists stop trying to impress and get to know their partner, they end up feeling disappointed. The reason is that they realize the faults of the latter.

When a narcissistic lover discovers that you don't perfectly embody everything they've always wanted in a partner, they'll ask you to change for them. Your lover will start by suggesting ways you can become better, according to their standards.

Bibliographic references on the healing of the narcissistic pervert

Here are seven bibliographical references on the theme of healing the narcissistic pervert:

  1. Sirota, A. (2017). Narcissistic Perverts: Understanding, Outwitting, Overcoming. The Manuscript Editions.
  2. Hurni, M., & Stoll, G. (2003). “Narcissistic perversion in couples”. French Review of Psychoanalysis, 67, 873-893.
  3. Racamier, P.-C. (1992). The Genius of Origins.
  4. Couderc, P., & Chapaux-Morelli, P. (2005). Emotional manipulation in a couple: Dealing with a narcissistic pervert.
  5. Bouchoux, J.-C. (2011). Narcissistic perverts.
  6. Hirigoyen, M.-F. (1998). Moral harassment: perverse violence in everyday life.
  7. Eiguer, A. (2018). Narcissistic perverts.

These books and articles offer an in-depth perspective on narcissistic perversion and possible therapeutic approaches.

Conclusion

Therefore, it is important to establish and maintain healthy boundaries when in a relationship with someone who has been diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder. This is a serious mental health disorder and treatment for this disorder is strongly encouraged. For a PN to recover, he must really become aware of his illness and consult a psychotherapist.

However, setting limits may not be enough to keep you safe. If you think there are elements of abuse or violence in your relationship, it is important to talk about it with someone who can help you.

Cristina Balan
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