I-Savior Syndrome - Hlola, Ingabe Uyisisulu?

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I-Savior Syndrome : Ubani owayazi ukuthi umsindisi akagcini ngokuthanda abantu? Lesi sifo asaziwa kangako emphakathini wethu. Ikakhulukazi njengoba sikubona njengokungahlelekile kodwa njengekhwalithi. Yibuphi ububi obungavezwa incazelo yomhlatshelo? 

Savior syndrome: kuyini?

I-Savior syndrome: into ethokozisayo engaguqula impilo yakho!

Thola ukuthi lokhu kuziphatha, okuvamise ukungazi, kubuthinta kanjani ubudlelwano bakho nenhlalakahle yakho. Ingabe uhlale udonseka ekusizeni abanye ngokulimaza impilo yakho yengqondo? Lesi sifo, kokubili esihle futhi esingalimaza, sidinga ukunakwa kwakho ngokugcwele. Gxila ezindleleni ezingokwengqondo ezingemuva kwayo futhi ufunde ukubona izimpawu zayo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukhathazekile noma ufuna ukwazi, lokhu kuhlola kuzokunikeza okhiye ababalulekile ukuze uziqonde kangcono futhi uthuthukise ukuxhumana kwakho nomphakathi. Ungaphuthelwa leli thuba lokukhula nokuchuma!

Yiziphi izimbangela ze-syndrome?

I-Savior syndrome inezimpande zayo enhlanganisela eyinkimbinkimbi yezici ezingokwengqondo nezemvelo. Ngokuvamile, iqala esemncane, lapho umuntu kufanele athwale imithwalo yemfanelo esemncane noma ayehlonishwa ngokuyinhloko ngenxa yokusiza abanye. Okuhlangenwe nakho okubuhlungu, ukuzethemba okuphansi, noma isidingo esikhulu sokuqinisekiswa kwangaphandle nakho kungaba nomthelela ekuthuthukisweni kwayo.

Kwezinye izimo kungase kuxhunyaniswe namaphethini omndeni angasebenzi lapho ubunikazi bomuntu siqu buhlobene eduze nendima 'yomkhululi'. Izinkambiso zamasiko nezomphakathi ezitusa ukuzidela nazo zingakugcizelela lokhu kuziphatha. Ukwengeza, ubungcweti obuthile, ikakhulukazi emikhakheni yokunakekela nokweseka, bungakwazi ukuheha futhi kubhebhethekise lokhu kuthambekela. Ukuqonda lezi zimbangela kubalulekile ekuboneni ngempumelelo nasekusingatheni lesi sifo.

Wazi kanjani uma une-savior syndrome? Izimpawu

I-Savior syndrome ibonakala ngezimpawu eziningana. Ungase uphathwe uma uzibona kulezi zimpawu:

  • Ukuthambekela okuphoqelekile kokufuna ukuxazulula izinkinga zabanye abantu, ngaphandle kokucelwa
  • Umuzwa wecala lapho ungakwazi ukusiza
  • Ubunzima bokuthi cha ezicelweni zosizo
  • Ukuthambekela kokunganaki izidingo zakho ngokuthanda ezabanye
  • Isidingo esiqhubekayo sokulawula ekusizeni izimo
  • Ukuthambekela kokuzizwa ubalulekile noma ungenakuthathelwa indawo;
  • Ukukhangwa ebudlelwaneni lapho "ungasindisa" omunye
  • Ukuzethemba kuxhumene kakhulu nekhono lakho lokusiza; ukukhathala okungapheli ngenxa yokuzibophezela kwakho ngokweqile
  • Intukuthelo efihliwe kulabo obasizayo uma bengayiboni ngokwanele imizamo yakho.

Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi lezi zimpawu kufanele ziphikelele futhi zibe nomthelela omkhulu empilweni yakho ukuze zithathwe njenge-syndrome.

Izinhlobo Ezihlukene Zomsindisi

I-Savior syndrome ingabonakala ngezindlela ezahlukene, ngayinye enezici zayo. Izinhlobo eziningana zabasindisi zingabonakala:

  1. Umfel 'ukholo: Umuntu ohlale edela inhlalakahle yakhe ngenxa yabanye, ngokuvamile ngokukhononda.
  2. Isilungisi: Ukugxila kakhulu ekuxazululeni izinkinga zabanye abantu, ngisho ngaphandle kokwaziswa.
  3. Isilawuli: Abacabanga ukuthi bazi kangcono kunabanye ukuthi yini enhle kubo.
  4. Umthombo: Ubani osiza ngokweqile, ovimbela abanye ekuthuthukiseni ukuzimela kwabo.
  5. Iqhawe: Ubani ofuna ukuqinisekiswa ngezenzo zobuqhawe noma ukuhlenga okumangalisayo.
  6. I-Perfectionist: Ozikhandlayo enzela abanye yonke into ngokuphelele.
  7. Umlamuli: Ukuhileleka njalo ekuxazululeni izingxabano zabanye.

Uhlobo ngalunye lungase ludlulelane, futhi umuntu angase abonise izici zohlobo olungaphezu kolulodwa. Ukuqashelwa kwalokhu kubonakaliswa okuhlukile kubalulekile ukuze kuqondwe kangcono kanye nokulawulwa kwe-syndrome.

Kungani abasindisi bedinga ukuzidela ngenxa yabanye?

Abasindisi bazidela ngenxa yezizathu ezehlukene ezingokwengqondo:

  • Ukuzethemba okuphansi - ukufuna ukukhombisa ukubaluleka kwabo ngokusiza abanye
  • Isu lokugwema - ukugwema ukubhekana nezinkinga nemizwa yabo
  • Ukufuna uthando nokuvunyelwa - okuxhumanisa ukubaluleka kwakho nokuba wusizo kwakho kwabanye
  • Umuzwa wecala kanye nenkolelo eyiphutha yokuba nesibopho senjabulo yabanye
  • Isidingo sokulawula - ukusiza abanye kunikeza umuzwa wokuphatha
  • Impendulo yokuhlukumezeka okudlule noma ukungasebenzi kahle komndeni

I-Savior Syndrome Ebudlelwaneni

  • Omunye umlingani uthatha indima yomsindisi, ehlala efuna ukuxazulula izinkinga zomunye
  • Idala ukungalingani kobudlelwano:
    • Umsindisi uzizwa ebaluleke kakhulu
    • Omunye uzakwethu uba nokuncika ngokweqile
    • UMsindisi ukhangwa abantu “ukuba balungiswe”
  • Imiphumela eyingozi:
    • Ivimbela ukukhula komuntu siqu kwabo bobabili abalingani
    • Idala ukucasuka nokukhungatheka
    • Kungaholela ebudlelwaneni obuncikene
    • Ingozi yokukhathala ngokomzwelo
    • Ukulahlekelwa ubunikazi bomuntu ngamunye
    • Ukuphela kobudlelwano okungenzeka uma kungalungiswa

Ungasusa kanjani i-savior syndrome?

Izinyathelo ezibalulekile kunqubo:

  • Vuma inkinga futhi wamukele isidingo soshintsho
  • Sebenza ngokuzethemba ukuze unciphise ukuncika ekuqinisekiseni kwangaphandle
  • Misa imingcele enempilo:
    • funda ukusho cha
    • Hlonipha ezakho izidingo
  • Zijwayeze ukuzizwela ukuze unciphise umuzwa wecala
  • Thuthukisa izithakazelo zomuntu siqu kanye nobudlelwano obulinganiselayo
  • Cabangela ukwelashwa (ikakhulukazi ukuqonda-ukuziphatha)
  • Funda ukuvumela abanye bazixazululele izinkinga zabo

I-bibliographic reference on savior syndrome

Nazi izikhombo zebhayibheli eziyisikhombisa endikimbeni ethi "savior syndrome":

  1. Bourgeois, M. (2016). I-Savior syndrome: Lapho usizo luba yi-pathological. Editions L'Harmattan.
  2. Fournier, P. (2014). Umthelela we-savior syndrome emisebenzini yokusiza. Ijenali yePsychology, 35(2), 123-135.
  3. Tisseron, S. (2012). Ukusiza ubudlelwano kanye ne-savior syndrome. Ku: Ukungenelela kwengqondo kanye nempilo. I-Press Universitaires de France.
  4. ULĂ©vy, J. (2019). Ukuqonda i-savior syndrome: izingqinamba nezisombululo. Izinhlobo ze-Eyrolles.
  5. Meyer, A. (2015). I-Savior syndrome: indlela ye-psychoanalytic. I-French Journal of Psychiatry, 56(1), 45-58.
  6. U-Benoît, C. (2018). I-Savior syndrome kanye nokuphathwa kwemizwelo. Ijenali ye-Clinical Psychology, 37(4), 256-270.
  7. U-Renaud, L. (2020). I-Savior Syndrome kanye nomthelela wayo ekwelapheni. Ku: I-Psychotherapy kanye nezinqubo zokusekela. Dunod Editions.

Lezi zithenjwa zinikeza ukubuka konke okuhle kwezingxenye ezihlukene ze-savior syndrome nomthelela wako ekusizeni ubudlelwano nempilo yengqondo.

Isiphetho

Sengiphetha, i-savior syndrome, nakuba ivame ukubonwa njengekhwalithi, iveza inkimbinkimbi yengqondo engaba nemiphumela elimazayo ebuhlotsheni nasenhlalakahleni yomuntu siqu. Njengoba igxilile ekuhlangenwe nakho kokuphila kanye nokuguquguquka komndeni, lokhu kuziphatha okubonakala kungenangqondo kungaholela ekulahlekelweni ubuwena, ubudlelwano obungalingani kanye nokukhathala ngokomzwelo. Kubalulekile ukuqaphela izimpawu zalesi syndrome ukuze uqale inqubo yoshintsho. Ngokufunda ukumisa imingcele enempilo futhi sazise izidingo zethu, wonke umuntu angazikhulula kulokhu okushukumisayo futhi akhuthaze ubudlelwano obunokulinganisela nokwanelisayo.

Okunye Ukuhlola I-Savior Syndrome

Cristina Balan
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