Ubudlelwano nozakwenu onama-narcissistic bungaba nzima kakhulu futhi buqede uzinzo, ikakhulukazi ebudlelwaneni obuseduze. Lesi sihloko sihlose ukuhlola imikhuba yocansi eyinqaba yama-narcissists futhi sisize abesifazane bakhombe ukuziphatha okuthile okuyinkinga ukuze baphinde balawule izimpilo zabo.
Ukulawula nokubusa enhliziyweni yobudlelwano bocansi
Ama-Narcisists ahlala efuna ukusebenzisa amandla phezu kozakwethu, okuhlanganisa ngasese. Bangakwazi:
- Yenqaba ngokuhlelekile intuthuko yakho
- Ifuna imibiko noma nini lapho ifuna, ngaphandle kokunaka izidingo zakho
- Beka izikhundla ezithile ezibabeka esikhundleni sokubusa
- Ukukuphatha njengento kunokuphatha umuntu ngokwakho
Lezi zindlela zokuziphatha zihloselwe ukukwenza ungabaze ukubaluleka kwakho futhi ugcine ukulawula.
Ukuntula ukusondelana ngokomzwelo
Ama-narcisists amaningi awakwazi ukudala ukuxhumana kweqiniso kwemizwa. Lokhu kungaziveza ngokuthi:
- Ukwenqaba ukuthinta okuthambile njengokuqabula
- Ukubanda ngemva kocansi
- Ukuntula ukucabangela ukuzijabulisa kwakho
- Ukusetshenziswa ngokweqile kokuqukethwe kwezithombe zocansi
Leli banga elingokomzwelo lingalimaza kakhulu umlingani.
Ubuciko bokugwema nokwenqatshwa
I-narcissist ingase yenqabe ukuyenga kwakho kuyilapho efuna ucansi noma nini lapho ethanda. Lokhu kuziphatha kuhlose ukugcina ukulawula kanye nokukuthuntubeza. Kungakwenza ungabaze ukubukeka kwakho nokubaluleka kwakho. Khumbula, inkinga ikuye, hhayi wena.
Ukufuna ukusondelana ngemva kokungqubuzana
Amanye ama-narcissists afuna ucansi ngemva nje kwengxabano eshubile. Lena indlela yokuthi baphinde balawule futhi bagweme ukuxoxa ngezinkinga. Ungabi nomuzwa wokuthi kufanele uvumelane uma ungakakulungeli ngokomzwelo.
Isidingo sokulawula yonke into
I-narcissist ingase ifune ukusho yonke indawo nokunyakaza, ikwehlisele entweni engenzi lutho. Isenzo sibe sesisebenza, ngaphandle kokuxhumana kwangempela. Unelungelo lokuveza izifiso zakho futhi wenqabe lokho okukwenza ungakhululeki.
Ukuziphatha okulimazayo mayelana nemikhuba yocansi yama-narcisists
Eminye imikhuba yocansi yama-narcisists ingaphazamisa kakhulu:
- Ukufuna ucansi ngemva nje kwengxabano eshubile
- Okunye phakathi kwezikhathi zokwenqatshwa ngokuphelele kanye nesifiso eseqile
- Ukusongela ukungathembeki uma wenqaba ucansi
- Uhlala ugxeka ukubukeka kwakho noma ukusebenza kwakho
Lokhu kuziphatha kudala isibopho esibuhlungu esingenza ukwehlukana kube nzima.
Ukusetshenziswa ngokweqile kokuqukethwe kwezithombe zocansi
Amanye ama-narcissist ancamela ukubuka okuqukethwe okubekela ingcaca kunokuba abe nokwangempela nezocansi nomlingani wabo. Lokhu kungalimaza kakhulu futhi kukwenze uzizwe ulahliwe. Ungangabazi ukuxhumana nezidingo zakho.
Imiphumela yemikhuba yocansi eyinqaba yabalingani babo kwabalingani babo
Ukuba sebudlelwaneni nomuntu othanda i-narcissistic kungaba nomthelela ojulile nokuhlala njalo kumlingani, ikakhulukazi uma kubandakanyeka ukuziphatha kocansi okungajwayelekile nokuphazamisayo. Le miphumela ihlanganisa:
- Ukuncipha kokuzethemba : Ukugxekwa njalo, ukugwema kanye nokwenqatshwa kungabangela umlingani wakho ukuba angabaze ukubaluleka kwakhe futhi alahlekelwe ukuzethemba, okubangela ukuhlupheka okukhulu ngokomzwelo.
- Umuzwa wokuhlukaniswa : Ukuntuleka kokuxhumana ngokomzwelo kanye nokuphatha umlingani njengento ethile kungabangela umlingani azizwe eyedwa, ngisho nasebudlelwaneni, kugcizelele umuzwa wokunqanyulwa.
- Ukudideka ngokomzwelo : Ukushintshashintsha phakathi kokulahlwa kanye nesifiso esinamandla, noma imizamo yokulawula ngemva kokungqubuzana, kudala ukuguquguquka kwemizwelo okungaqeda amandla ngokwengqondo kumlingani futhi kudide ukuthinteka kwakhe ngokomzwelo.
- Ukuncika ngokomzwelo : Ukuziphatha okukhohlisayo kungabangela isibopho esibuhlungu, kwenze kube nzima kumlingani ukuthi asuke ebuhlotsheni naphezu kobuthi nokuhlupheka ahlangabezana nakho.
- Ukuphazamiseka ekuboneni ubulili : Izigigaba zocansi ezehlisa isithunzi noma lezo ezingenabo ukusondelana kwangempela zingaholela umlingani ekubeni nombono ongemuhle noma osontekile ngocansi, kuthinte ikhono labo lokuchuma ebudlelwaneni obuzayo.
Ungakuthola kanjani kabusha ukulawula?
Uma ubhekene nalezi zimo, kubalulekile ukuthi:
- Qinisekisa imikhawulo yakho kanye nezidingo zakho
- Ungazibeki icala ngokuziphatha kwakhe
- Funa ukwesekwa kwabathandekayo noma ochwepheshe
- Cabangela ukuqeda ubudlelwano uma buba yingozi kakhulu
Ufanelwe ubudlelwano obunempilo nokwanelisayo. Ungangabazi ukucela usizo ukuze udlule kukho.
Ireferensi yezincwadi ebona imikhuba yocansi eyinqaba yama-narcissists
Nazi izikhombo eziyisikhombisa zebhayibhili ngesihloko semikhuba yocansi yabantu abangabodwana be-narcissistic:
- UBenyamin, M. (2024). “Ukusuka ezenzweni zocansi kuya ekuphendukezeleni okune-narcissistic. » I-Psychic Notebook, inguqulo 269, April 2024.
- Schmit, G. (2013). “Ubulili bomuntu ophendukezelwe yi-narcissistic. »
- Hurlbert, D.F., & Apt, C. (1994). “I-narcissism yocansi nowesilisa ohlukumezayo. » Umbhalo Wezocansi Nezokwelapha, 20 (4), 291-308.
- Racamier, P.-C. (1992). “Ukuphendukezelwa kweNarcissistic. »
- Hirigoyen, M.-F. (1998). “Ukuhlukunyezwa ngokokuziphatha: ubudlova obuhlanekezelwe nsuku zonke. »
- U-Bonnet, G. (2024). “Ukuhlanekezelwa kwezocansi kanye ne-narcissistic. » I-Psychic Notebook, Ephreli 2024.
- I-Tournefier, V. (2024). “Ukuhlanekezelwa kwabesifazane: udaba oluyimpikiswano. » I-Psychic Notebook, Ephreli 2024.
Lezi zithenjwa zinikeza isisekelo esiqinile sokuqonda ukuziphatha kocansi okungavamile okuhlobene ne-narcissism.
Isiphetho
Ngokuqonda lezi zindlela, uzokwazi ukuzivikela kangcono futhi uphinde uthole ukuzethemba. Khumbula ukuthi awunacala ngezenzo ze-narcissist futhi unelungelo lokuhlonipha nokufeza ebudlelwaneni bakho obuseduze.
Khumbula ukuthi ufanelwe ubuhlobo obunempilo nobuhloniphekile. Zinakekele futhi ungangabazi ukucela usizo uma kunesidingo.
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