Yonke impilo ivela kumama. Uvame ukuthandwa futhi ngezinye izikhathi azondwa, kodwa njalo waziswa. Omama bayisizinda sekhaya. Kuthiwani nge iphrofayili kamama oyisidina ?
Umama uyisithunzi sobubele, uthando, uthando kodwa futhi negunya. Endabeni kamama ohlanekezelwe onama-narcissistic, lesi sithombe sothando asikho. Ingane ehlala nomama okhohlakele ayiwazi lo muzwa wokunamathela nothando ngonina. Ukuba nomama ohlanekezelwe yi-narcissistic kulimaza kakhulu ngokwengqondo, ngoba umama udlala indima ebaluleke kakhulu ekukhuleni kwengqondo yengane.
Uyini umama we-narcissistic?
Umama omubi we-narcissistic uhlushwa a i-narcissistic engaguquki kanye ne-perverse disorder.
- Indlela yakhe yokusebenzelana nabanye ibonakala ingalingani, i-pathological futhi inobuthi.
- Kumama othanda i-narcissistic, impilo ingumdlalo lapho elawula khona.
- Uyazicabangela yena futhi unobuqili.
- Isidingo sempumelelo sibalulekile kuye.
Umama we-PN uyacabangela ingane yakhe njenge-foil noma into ayisebenzisayo ukuze afeze izinjongo zakhe. Nokho, ufuna ukugcina isithunzi sakhe. Yingakho ehlala ebonisa isithombe sikamama okhathazekile ngengane yakhe futhi ehilelekile.
Ngaseceleni, umama we-narcissistic umashiqela. Uyenza ingane yakhe ihluleke futhi azizwe enecala. Kokunye uba nesikhwele ngeyakhe ingane. Ngaleyo ndlela udala umbango onobuthi ngokumelene naye.
Iphrofayili kamama onama-narcissistic: Yiziphi izici zikamama one-narcissistic?
Les izimpawu ze-narcissistic pervert Lokhu okulandelayo kusiza ukucacisa iphrofayili kamama oyi-narcissistic. Ngokunembayo, ziyabonisa ukuziphatha kowesifazane oyisidina :
1. Ubuthi
- Owesifazane omubi onama-narcissistic uphika ubunikazi bezingane zakhe. Ubabeka engozini futhi ubalulaza ubudlova bakhe obungokwengqondo nokuziphatha.
- Umama we-narcissistic uphatha kabi izingane zakhe ukuze aqinisekise futhi agcwalise i-narcissism yakhe.
- Uziphatha kabi futhi elimaza ingane yakhe.
- Untshontsha ubumfihlo bakhe futhi umvimbela ekubeni nenkululeko yokuzikhethela.
2. Ukulawula
Umama we-narcissistic ufuna ukulawula impilo yengane yakhe yonke. Ilawula:
- izinyunyana zakhe;
- imidlalo yakhe;
- izinto azithandayo;
- isitayela sakhe sokugqoka...
Owesifazane omubi we-narcissistic akakuvumeli akukho ubumfihlo enganeni yakhe. Ulalele eminyango. Ufunda ngisho nedayari yakhe kanye neposi lakhe ngaphandle kokungabaza. Lokhu kumvumela ukuba abe nokulawula okuphelele enganeni, ngaleyo ndlela imvimbele ekubeni nokuzimela.
3. I-Narcissistic kanye ne-manipulative
Umama we-narcissistic uqinisa ukulawula kwakhe ngokusebenzisa:
- ukukhwabanisa;
- i-blackmail;
- ukwehla kwenani;
- icala.
Naye uyathanda uzihlukumeze ukwakha isithombe sikamama ompofu, yedwa futhi ongenakuzisiza. Eqinisweni, ulungile onobuqili futhi ephethe ngokugcweleyo imfuyo yakhe.
Umama we-narcissistic ulawula ukuzethemba kwengane yakhe. Umeyisa ngawo wonke amathuba ukuze amgcine elawulwa nguye. Angaze antshontshe injabulo yakhe ukuze akhulise ukukhungatheka kwengane.
Iyini imiphumela yokuba nomama oyisicefe?
Umama we-narcissistic wakha wangempela kuphazamisa ukukhula kwengane yakho.
- Ukungavikeleki nokungabi nandawo
Ukuziphatha kukamama we-narcissistic kubangela ukungavikeleki okuthile enganeni yakhe, ezingeni lomzimba, lengqondo nelomzwelo. Isimo sakhe sengqondo sidala ukuntula ubudlelwano obunobuthi futhi engalingani. Lo mama okhohlisayo ayitholakali ngokomzwelo.
- Ukuntula ubuwena
Umama one-narcissistic ohlanekezelwe uvimba ingane yakhe ukuthi yakhe ukuzazi. Esikhundleni sokumsiza ukuba athuthukise ubuntu bakhe, uyamehlisa futhi alahle lokho ayikho. Uyamphoqa ukuthi enze njengoba efisa.
- Ukuntuleka kokuziphendulela
Umuzwa wokuzibophezela nawo cishe awukho enganeni kamama oyi-narcissistic. Lona wakamuva akanalo ulwazi ngezibopho. Uhlale esola abanye ngakho akasona isibonelo esihle.
Indlela yokuziphatha nomama we-narcissistic?
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ungumuntu othandekayo noma ingane yomama we-narcissistic, ungahlali ungenandaba nokuziphatha kwakhe.
1. Njengesihlobo esiseduze noma esinye isihlobo
Ingabe uyingxenye yethimba likamama othanda inzondo? Kufanele uqaphele into eyodwa: uwena wedwa umzali onempilo noma othandekayo. Ngakho-ke ungakwazi hlinzeka ngezisekelo eziqinile okudingwa yingane, kodwa unina akakwazi ukukuhlinzeka:
- umuzwa wokulondeka;
- ubuntu;
- ubuntu...
Mkhombise ukuthi unelungelo lokuba nezifiso zakhe nokuthi angaba nguye.
Gwema ukugxeka umama noma ukukhuluma ngaye. Lokhu kungase kubeke ingane engxabanweni enkulu yokwethembeka. Unjalo futhi asikho isidingo sokubhekana nomama wakho. Lokhu kungase kukubuyisele emuva.
2. Njengengane kamama oyisicefe
Ukuhlala nomama okhohlisayo akulula. Le pathology ayelapheki futhi izomlandela impilo yakhe yonke. Uma isikhulile, ingane yomama obhuqayo kuyodingeka ihlehle kunina, esimweni akuso kanye nasemanxebeni akhe.
Okuhle wukuthi thintana nomelaphi ukuze uzakhe kabusha futhi ususe lobu budlelwano obunobuthi. Ukwelapha kusivumela ukuthi sibheke indaba yengane nomama wayo komunye umbono ongahluleli nowokuqonda. Ukubaleka nokwakha kabusha kuseyizo zodwa izixazululo zokuzikhulula ethonyeni lomama othanda i-narcissistic.
Phila Umama WokuNarcissistic Ophendukezelwe
Ungababona kanjani omama be-Perverse Narcissistic?
Kufanele wazi ukuthi omama be-PN, amalungu a umndeni we-narcissistic ohlanekezelwe azifani. Nakuba abanye bekwazi ukuzilawula, abanye bangabonisa ukuziphatha okunolaka kakhulu. Kodwa-ke, kunezici ezijwayelekile lapho omama abakhohlakele be-narcissistic bengabonwa:
Umama PN: ukuntula uthando nokunganakwa
Uthando lukamama alukho kumama ohlanekezelwe oyisicefe: Akakuthandi ukuba ngumama futhi akakujabuleli ukunakekela nokunakekela izingane zakhe. Umama ohlanekezelwe yi-narcissistic akekho kakhulu enganeni yakhe, akayilaleli noma ayicabangele imizwa yakhe. Kuyena ingane yakhe iwumthwalo, ithwele kanzima futhi idla isikhathi sakhe. Ukuntula uthando nokunganakwa yizici zomlingiswa ezivame ukubonwa komama abakhohlakele. Izingane zivame ukunganakwa futhi ziyekwa zizenzele umathanda ebuntwaneni bazo. Lapho bekhula, omama abane-narcissistic babenza baqonde ukuthi bayaphazamisa.
Izimpawu Zomama Narcissistic
Phakathi kwezici ezivamile ezisivumela ukuthi sibone umama one-narcissistic, siphinde sithole ukudelelwa kwengane noma umqondo wento yengane.
- Akayibheki kanjalo ingane yakhe futhi akakubheki ubuthakathaka bayo.
- Uzoba nokuphawula kwabantu abadala nengane yakhe futhi ingane ingase ithinteke kakhulu. Lesi yisizathu esenza ukuthi izingane zomama abakhohlakele ngokuvamile zintekenteke ngokwengqondo nangokomzwelo.
- Futhi, kumama we-narcissistic ohlanekezelwe, abantwana bakhe abalingani emehlweni akhe. Kuyohlale kunengane ayithanda kunenye. Uqhathanisa izingane zakhe futhi akazifihli neze.
- Noma ngabe yena ungathandi ingane, uzokwenza isiqiniseko sokuthi wenza abanye bakholwe ukuze kuvele umbango nomona phakathi kwezingane. Umgomo wakhe kuzoba ukwenza izingane ziqhudelane ukuze zimjabulise.
- Uzokwenza njalo hlukana ukuze usebenzise amandla nokulawula.
- Umama omubi we-narcissistic udinga ukunakwa nokunconywa njalo. Ngakho-ke uzofuna lesi sidingo esivela enganeni yakhe.
- Esimeni lapho enendodakazi, umama ophambene no-narcissistic uzokhathazeka ngokubhubhisa ubuhlobo bakhe, uzofuna ukuthatha indawo yakhe futhi uzozizwa emncintiswaneni naye.
Ubudlelwano phakathi kwengane kanye nomama we-Perverse Narcissistic
Ubudlelwano phakathi kukamama onesigqila nengane yakhe abujwayelekile. Ngisho noma umama ekwazi ukwenza kahle kakhulu phambi kwabaseduze kwakhe ukuze enze abantu bakholwe ukuthi uyayithanda ingane yakhe futhi uyayinakekela, singakwazi ukubona izimpawu ezicacile zokukhohlisa nokukhohlisa kuye. Ngaphezu kwakho konke, ingane izozizwa ingelutho futhi ingelutho emehlweni kanina. Uzokwakha ubuntu obuhluke ngokuphelele noma isifihla-buso ukuze ajabulise futhi azizwe ethandwa. Ingane izokholelwa ukuthi yehliselwe esimweni sento futhi kufanele ihambisane nezifiso zomnikazi wayo.
Umama yena uzosebenzisa amandla, ukukhohlisa okuthile enganeni yakhe. Uzoyilawula ukuze ifeze izifiso zayo. Ukuqala ngokunciphisa inani, kuzodala umbuthano ononya wecala enganeni. Ingane iyohlale ifuna ukuvunyelwa kukho konke ekwenzayo. Njengoba bungekho ubuhlobo bothando phakathi kukamama wakwa-FN nengane yakhe, ingane izokhula ngokwesaba, ukuntula ukuzethemba nokuntula okukhulu.
Umama we-narcissistic: isithombe sokulawula okunobuthi nokukhohlisayo
Nazi izici zikamama omubi one-narcissistic:
1. Ukubamba okuqiniswe ukukhohlisa
Umama we-narcissistic usebenzisa amasu ahlukene okukhohlisa ukuze aqinisekise ukulawula kwakhe izingane zakhe. Phakathi kwazo:
- ukukhanya kwegesi : kubeka imibuzo imibono, imicabango nemizwelo yengane, kudala ukudideka nokungabaza mayelana neqiniso layo.
- Icala : kwenza umntwana athwale umthwalo wamashwa akhe, amenze abe necala lokwehluleka kwakhe noma isimo sakhe somzwelo.
- Ukungathembeki ngokomzwelo : izinsongo ezimboziwe noma ezisobala, ezinjengokuzilimaza noma ukulahla ingane, ziyenza ibe ngaphansi kwalokho ekulindele.
2. Isifiso sokulawula ngokuphelele
Umama we-narcissistic ufuna ukulawula yonke ingxenye yempilo yengane yakhe:
- Ubudlelwano nezinyunyana zakhe.
- Imisebenzi yayo, ezokungcebeleka nemidlalo.
- Ngisho nokubukeka kwakhe nezimpahla azikhethayo.
Lokhu kuguquguquka kuya kuze kufike ekuvimbeleni ingane ukuba ikwazi ukuzimela, igcine incike ngokomzwelo ukuze ihlangabezane nezidingo zayo ezingokomzwelo.
3. Ukuntuleka okuphawulekayo kozwela
- Ukunganaki : izidingo zengane ezingokomzwelo, ezingokwengqondo nezomzimba azinakwa noma zibukelwa phansi.
- Uthando olunemibandela : uthando lunikezwa kuphela uma ingane ifinyelela lokho okulindelwe unina.
- Ukuncika ngokomzwelo : ingane ingakwazi ukuchuma ngaphandle kwemvume kamama.
4. Ubudlelwano obunobuthi nobulimazayo
Umama we-narcissistic uvame ukwenza ngezindlela ezilimazayo:
- Usebenzisa udlame olungokwengqondo nokuziphatha ukuze alulaze ingane.
- Ubeka izifiso zakhe siqu, enze ingane isibuko noma ithuluzi lokuqinisa i-ego yakhe.
- Intshontsha ubumfihlo bakhe futhi ivimbele noma iyiphi inkululeko yokuzikhethela.
5. Ubugovu nokuxhashazwa kwengane
- I-Egocentrism : umama we-narcissistic ufuna ukunconywa nokunakwa, ehlala ebeka izidingo zakhe phakathi nendawo.
- Ukusetshenziswa kwengane : kuba yithuluzi lokukhohlisa, ukuvusa ukuthakasela noma ukwanelisa izifiso zomuntu.
6. Ukungabi nemingcele nenhlonipho
Umama we-narcissistic akayihloniphi imingcele yomuntu siqu yengane noma izidingo zengane zokuzimela:
- Ukungenelela : ugxambukela kuzo zonke izici zempilo yengane yakhe, ngisho isikhulile.
- Ukwephulwa Kwemingcele : uyayiziba indawo yomuntu siqu noma imizwa yengane.
7. Amandla omndeni anobuthi
- Ukukhetha : uthanda ingane eyodwa ukuthi ilawule abanye kangcono, idale ukungezwani emndenini.
- division : ngokuhlwanyela ukungezwani, uqinisa ukulawula kwakhe ubuhlobo bomkhaya.
8. Isimo sengqondo esingalindelekile nesiguquguqukayo
- Ukushintsha kwemizwelo : ukusuka othandweni oludlulele kuye ekwenqatshweni ngesihluku, kuphonsa ingane ekungaqinisekini okungokomzwelo okuhlala njalo.
- Ambivalence : kuxuba uthando nonya, kubhebhethekise ukudideka nokuthembela kwengane.
9. Ukuxhashazwa kwecala
- Icala elidlulele : iphusha ingane ukuba ikholelwe ukuthi ayikwenzi okwanele, iqinisa ukuncika kwayo.
- Ukubukelwa phansi kwezimpumelelo : okufezwe yingane kuyancishiswa noma azinakwa.
Ireferensi yezincwadi zokubona umama okhohlakele
Ireferensi ye-bibliographic kuphrofayili kamama we-narcissistic
- Ibhulogi ye-SOSPN: "Umama Okhohlakele OyiNarcissistic: Incazelo Nezici"
(sospn.fr) - Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo: "I-Narcissistic Personality Disorder: Izimpawu Nokwelashwa"
(i-psychologist.fr) - I-Psynat: "Omama Abanama-Narcissistic: Imuphi umthelela ebudlelwaneni bukamama nendodakazi"
(psynat.fr) - I-Dérive-sectaire.fr: “Iphrofayili kamama oyi-narcissistic”
(i-derive-sectaire.fr) - Ukukhuluma ngothando: "Ukuhlaziya umama we-narcissistic"
(parlerdamour.fr) - I-Imagyna: "Indlela Yokuphulukisa KumaNarcissistic"
(imagyna.fr) - Parents.fr: “Umzali Onama-Narcissistic: Ungabakhomba Kanjani”
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