Ngokudela ukuphila kwabo ngamabomu, ama-narcissists anquma ukuthi izimo zangaphandle ziye zabeka engcupheni izinto ezibaluleke kakhulu kubo. Ngamafuphi, kumayelana nokunconywa, ukuhlonishwa nokuhlonishwa abanye njengomuntu okhethekile, ophakeme futhi onelungelo.
Ukuqonda kangcono izixhumanisi phakathi kwe-narcissism nokuzibulala kudinga, uma kufanele kugwenywe ngokuphumelelayo, ukuhlola okujulile nokuphelele.
Umcabango Wokuzibulala - Uyini?
Imicabango yokuzibulala ingasuka emicabangweni edlulayo ngokufa, njengokuzibuza ukuthi kungaba njani ukufa ukusho "Kuthiwani uma ngilala ngingavuki?" », ezinhlelweni eziqondile zokuzibulala, njengokucabanga ngokuthi ungakubulala kanjani futhi nini. Imicabango yesikhashana yokuzibulala ingaba yimbi kakhulu uma ingelashwa. Uma ulwa nanoma yimiphi yale mizwa noma ukuziphatha, yisikhathi sokufuna usizo:
- Ukuzizwa unqanyuliwe kwabanye noma ukuhoxa kubangani nomndeni (umndeni we-narcissistic ohlanekezelwe).
- Ukuzizwa uvaleleke esimeni esingabekezeleleki.
- Ukuzizwa njengomthwalo kwabanye noma ukutshela abanye ukuthi bangaphila kangcono ngaphandle kwakho.
Uma unemicabango yokuzibulala, kubalulekile ukuthola ukwesekwa njalo kwezempilo yengqondo ngesikole noma umelaphi wekhampasi noma umeluleki. Kubalulekile futhi ukwazi ukuthi udinga nini ukuthola usizo ngokushesha.
Kungani I-Narcissistic Pervert Ikhuluma Ngokuzibulala Lapho Ebhekene Nayo?
Umuntu ohlanekezelekayo uthe inhloso yamazwi akhe bekuwukuthukuthelisa othandiweyo wabo. Ngoba bayazi ukuthi abanye abantu bacabangani ngokuzibulala, futhi babefuna ukubona ukuthi abathandekayo babo bangenza okuthile yini ngakho. Yingakho uma bebhekene ngento abasuke beyenzile bakhuluma ngokuzibulala ukuze umuntu ophambi kwabo azizwe enecala.
I-PN ikwenzela ukucasula umuntu abayibonayo, futhi yazi ukuthi kuyinto embi kakhulu ongayenza kumuntu omthandayo. Ikakhulukazi uma behlala cishe ihora bese besatshiswa ngamaphoyisa uma uzama ukubavimba.
Ngomphendukezeli weqiniso we-narcissistic, ungomunye nje ithuluzi lokukhohlisa elisetshenziselwa ukunakwa nokuhawukelwa abantu abangamazi. Ngenxa yalesi sizathu, umuntu oyize njenge-narcissist angakwazi ukuzibulala ngengozi.
I-Narcissistic Pervert kanye Nemicabango Yokuzibulala - Izimpawu okufanele ziqaphele
Ukuba i-narcissist wukuphazamiseka kobuntu okubangela ukuthi abantu babe nomuzwa ophakeme wokubaluleka kwabo kanye nesidingo esijulile sokutuswa nokuqinisekiswa.
Lokhu kusho ukuthi abahlanekezeli be-narcissistic bangaba sengozini enkulu yemizwa ebuhlungu yokuhlazeka, ukululazeka, kanye nokwehlulwa lapho begxekwa noma benqatshwa.
- Leli hlazo, elihambisana nokuzethemba okuphansi kwama-FN, kungabaholela ezinsongweni zokuzibulala, emicabangweni yokuzibulala, ngisho nemizamo yokuzibulala lapho bedumele noma belulazekile phambi kwabanye.
- Ziningi ezinye izimbangela zokuzibulala, ezinye zazo ezixhumene nezinkinga zempilo yengqondo njengokucindezeleka noma i-bipolar disorder.
- Nokho, ezinye izici ezingokwengqondo zihilelekile kulesi simo, njenge ukungazethembi, umlando wemizamo yokuzibulala kanye nomlando womndeni wokuzibulala kuma-narcissistic perverts.
Uma usuvele unemicabango yokuzibulala, izinguquko ezinkulu empilweni yakho noma izehlakalo ezibuhlungu, njengokushona komndeni, ukuphela kobudlelwano, noma umsebenzi ovela emsebenzini kungenza le mizwa ibe namandla kakhulu noma ivame kakhulu. Uma uzwa sengathi imicabango yakho yokuzibulala iba yimbi kakhulu, nazi izimpawu eziyisixwayiso okufanele uzibheke:
Ukuziphatha okuyingozi kwama-Suicidal Narcissistic Perverts:
- Ukushayela budedengu, njengokushayela udakiwe noma ungalifakile ibhande.
- Ukwenyuka kokusetshenziswa kwezidakamizwa noma utshwala (i-narcissistic pervert kanye notshwala).
- Ukwenza ucansi olungavikelekile.
- Qala noma ukhuphule ukuzilimaza.
- Izinguquko ekudleni, noma ukukhawulela ukudla kwakho noma ukudla ngokweqile.
- Ukushintsha kwendlela yokulala, ukulala kakhulu noma okuncane kakhulu (PN nokulala).
- Izinguquko eziphawulekayo esimweni sengqondo
- Ukucabanga, ukukhuluma, noma ukuthumela ku-inthanethi mayelana nokufa noma udlame.
Induduzo Yesikhashana Yokuhlupheka
Kudingeka ukunikeza okuningi Ukunakwa okwengeziwe emandleni okuzibulala abaphendukezeli be-narcissistic. Kudingeka sizazise kangcono izici ezihlukahlukene ezikubangelayo kanye nendlela engcono yokuphatha labo abasengozini enkulu kukho.
Okuxakayo ukuthi izivikelo zama-FN abafuna ukuzibulala zibaluleke kakhulu ukuthi bahluke kwabanye kunokuzizwa “bengabakhe”. Noma kunjalo, ukwehlukana kwabo ngokomthethosisekelo kithina sonke okubabeka engcupheni enkulu yokuzilimaza.
Bengazi, baphelelwa yithemba kudingeka uzizwe uxhumene kakhulu ngokwengqondo nangokomzwelo nalabo ababazungezile. Kungale ndlela kuphela abangavikeleka ngayo emcabangweni wokuhlukaniswa, mhlawumbe ngaphezu kwanoma yini enye, obenza babe sengozini yokuphelelwa ithemba okwenza ukuphila kwabo kungasafaneleki.
Ngakho-ke noma yikuphi ukwelashwa okungenzeka kubasize kufanele kuhloswe ngakho ukusiza ukuhlanganisa kabusha umphakathi wabantu abakude kakhulu nawo. Njengoba amambuka amaningi e-narcissistic ahlangabezane nokunganakwa okunzima kwabazali noma okuphambene nakho, ukuzitika ngokweqile kwabazali, ukwelapha kufanele, ngomqondo othile, "kubaqeqeshe kabusha". Futhi lokhu kungaba nzima kakhulu, ngoba ukuzivikela kwabo amelana kakhulu noshintsho.
Ungaba Kanjani Inkosi Yempilo Yakho Futhi Unqobe Ukuzibulala?
I-narcissistic pervert kanye nokuzibulala yizinto ezimbili ezihambisanayo. Ngakho-ke, ukuze unqobe lokhu, kubalulekile ukukhomba izimbangela noma izimo. Lezo eziholela emizweni yokuphelelwa ithemba, njengokufa noma ukulahlekelwa, ukusetshenziswa kotshwala, noma ingcindezi yobudlelwane.
Okuhlangenwe nakho kwemicabango yokuzibulala kuhlukile kuwo wonke umuntu. Amathiphu angenhla azoba usizo kwabanye abantu, kanti abanye bazokuthola kunzima ukuwasebenzisa. Uma lezi zeluleko zingakusizi lokho akusho ukuthi ngeke ukwazi ukusizwa. Mhlawumbe udinga nje indlela efanelana necala lakho. Xhumana nomeluleki noma omunye uchwepheshe wezempilo yengqondo. Bangakusiza.
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