e Ucansi olunomuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic luqala ngothando futhi lunenkanuko, ngokuvamile luba uhlangothi olulodwa, lwebhizinisi, noma lube nolaka. Ama-narcisists ocansi abeka phambili ukwaneliseka nezidingo zabo zocansi, abanalo uzwela ngabalingani babo bocansi. Ngakho-ke balindela ukunconywa njalo ngomsebenzi wabo wocansi futhi bazizwe benelungelo lokuya ocansini noma nini nanoma kuphi lapho befuna.
I-Narcissistic Pervert kanye Nocansi Ekuyengeni
Ucansi ne-narcissist ngokuvamile alufani nocansi olujwayelekile. Kwezinye izimo kungase kujabulise futhi kuyenge kufane nokuthi nidlala ndawonye isigcawu esiyingcaca sephupho.
Kwezinye izimo kubukeka sengathi a ithuluzi lokuxoxisana kuyindlela yokuba i-narcissist ithole ukulawula namandla.
Ekugcineni, kungase kubonakale ngokuphelele oguquguqukayo noma okhohlisayo : ngesinye isikhathi, i umyengi okhohlakele ufuna ukusondelana, futhi ngesikhathi esilandelayo ubonakala elunyanya uthando lwakho. Ngamanye amazwi, kuvame ukuba nzima ukwazi ukuthi i-narcissist ifunani ngempela kuwe.
Ngezinye izikhathi ubonakala ekhathazekile ngezinye izikhathi ubonakala engenandaba nhlobo.
I-Narcissism kanye nobulili: i-dynamic dynamic
I-Narcissism kanye nobulili bunobudlelwane obuseduze futhi obuyinkimbinkimbi. Kumuntu onama-narcissistic, ubulili buvame ukubonwa njengendlela yokuzuza ukuqinisekiswa, ukunconywa, nomuzwa wamandla kunokuba ukukhombisa ukusondelana nokuxhumana ngokomzwelo. Lokhu kuguquguquka kungazibonakalisa ngezindlela ezimbalwa:
- Izinjongo : Uzakwethu angabonwa njengento yokwanelisa kunokuba abonakale njengomuntu ophelele.
- Ukusebenza : Ukuya ocansini kungase kube “umsebenzi” ohloselwe ukubonisa ukuphakama komuntu noma ukukhanga kwakhe.
- Ukungabi nozwelo : Izidingo zomlingani kanye nezifiso zakhe zingase zinganakwa ngenxa yokwaneliseka komuntu siqu.
- Isidingo esiqhubekayo sobusha : Ukusesha okungaphezi kokunqoba okusha ukondla i-ego.
- Ukusetshenziswa kokuyenga : Ukuyenga kungasetshenziswa njengethuluzi lokukhohlisa nokulawula.
- Izinkinga zokusondelana : Ngokuxakayo, naphezu kokuzethemba okusobala ngokobulili, kungase kube nokwesaba okujulile kokusondelana ngokomzwelo.
- Ukushintsha kwe-Libido : Intshisekelo yocansi ingahluka kakhulu kuye ngezidingo ze-narcissistic zalesi sikhathi.
Kwabesifazane abasebudlelwaneni nozakwethu we-narcissistic, lokhu kuguquguquka kungaba nzima kakhulu. Bangase bazizwe besetshenzisiwe, benganakiwe ngokomzwelo, noma bengaphansi kwengcindezi yokwanelisa izidingo zomlingani wabo wokuqinisekiswa. Kubalulekile ukuqaphela la maphethini futhi uqonde ukuthi lokhu kuziphatha kubonisa izinkinga zangaphakathi ze-narcissist kunokuzihlonipha kwakho.
Ukuthuthukisa ubulili obunempilo kuhilela ukuqaphela nokwazisa izidingo nezifiso zakho, ukumisa imingcele ecacile, nokufuna ukuxhumana okuyiqiniso ngokomzwelo. Uma uzithola usebudlelwaneni lapho ubulili bakho buhlala busetshenziselwa ukwanelisa i-ego yomlingani wakho, kungase kube usizo ukufuna ukwesekwa, noma ngabe ngokwelashwa noma ngamaqembu okusekela.
I-PN ilwenza kanjani Uthando? Ingozi Okufanele Igwenywe
Njengakho konke okwenzeka nge-narcissistic pervert, kungumjikelezo, ngakho-ke ekuqaleni ubuhlobo buyamangalisa, bese buqala ukuba yinto evamile njengoba ukukhanya kwabo kuncipha futhi ngokushesha kuba yindlela yokufinyelela i-orgasm.
- Usondela esigabeni sokuncishiswa kwamanani lapho okuvele kube sengathi uyehla noma sebeqala ukudlala nawe ngokugodla isabelo sabo.
- Ama-FN, bangabakhohlisi asebekhulile futhi abasebenzisi nje ucansi njengemali kuphela kodwa futhi njengendlela yokudla ngokunikezwayo (okungukuthi bayakujabulela ukuzizwa be-sexy futhi abasacabangi ngalokho abakuzwa ngempela).
- Bese kufika ukuphela komjikelezo lapho beqala ukukuhlambalaza futhi bezama ukukuhlazisa endaweni esengozini kakhulu, ekamelweni lokulala.
- Akunandaba ukuthi ungubani, okwenza uzizwe sengathi awulutho, njengoba benza kuzo zonke izici zawo wonke umjikelezo wobudlelwane. izinto ezimbili ezinhle kakhulu abantu ababelana ngazo nomlingani wabo okhethiwe, uthando nobulili, futhi bazibona njengento yokuthengiselana, njengohlobo lwemali; ibuhlungu kakhulu inhliziyo.
Kungani I-Narcissistic Pervert Enza Uthando Lubi?
1. Badinga ukudunyiswa kakhulu
Embhedeni, lokhu ngezinye izikhathi kungahumushela ekubekeni injabulo yabo kuqala. Bafuna uhlangabezane nezidingo zabo, futhi uma ezakho zingahlangatshezwana nazo, akuyona inkinga yazo ngempela.
Sesikushilo lokho, ukushushumbisa kungasho nokuthi ufuna ukukwanelisa ukuze uncome amakhono akhe futhi umtshele ukuthi ungumuntu onjani onakekelayo.
Ngakho-ke, esikhundleni sokukutshela ukuthi kungakanani injabulo enanayo ndawonye, angafuna ukuthi uchaze, ngokuningiliziwe, ulunge kangakanani ocansini (ukudabuka ngokocansi) nokuthi uwujabulele kangakanani umhlangano.
Angase afune lokho kuqinisekiswa nokugunyazwa njalo lapho uya ocansini. Uma ungabaniki ukutuswa abakulindele, bangase bacele ukunconywa okwengeziwe noma baze bathukuthele.
2.Abanandaba nemizwa yakho
I-narcissist ingase ibonakale ingazi ukuthi abanye abantu banemizwa.
Uma umlingani wakho enezimpawu ze-PN, ungase ube nomuzwa wokuthi inqobo nje uma ethola lokho akufunayo, akukho okunye okubalulekile.
Angase abe nombono ocacile futhi onemininingwane yokuthi imihlangano yakho kufanele yenzeke kanjani. I-PN ikutshela ukuthi ifuna ukwenzani, ikusiphi isikhundla, yini okufanele uyigqoke lapho ulala nokuthi yini okufanele uyisho phakathi nesenzo. Akabuzi umbono wakho noma acabangele ukuthi ungase ufune ukuzama enye into.
Bese uzibeka engcupheni yokuzizwa ufana nento kunozakwethu.
Ufunani uPN Embhedeni futhi Uziphatha kanjani?
Umbuzo ungase ubonakale ulula, kodwa izimpendulo ziyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu.
- Okokuqala, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi ama-narcissists amaningi afuna ngaphezu kwakho konke ukwanelisa ezabo izidingo futhi baqinisekise injabulo yabo.
Kodwa, njengoba cishe ubonile, leli phethini aligcini nje ngobulili liyingxenye ebalulekile yobuntu babo.
- Bavame ukuvela njengabantu abanobugovu nabangenaluzwela, bebeka izidingo zabo ngaphambi kwezabanye. Lo mcabango uwumcabango walokho okwenza umnukubezi abe yi-narcissist!
Kodwa ama-NP ahlukene azoba nezisusa ezihlukene mayelana nokuziphatha kwawo ngokocansi.
Ukuhlukumeza ngokocansi kwe-Narcissistic Pervert
Nakuba ukuziphatha kocansi kungabonakala ngezindlela ezihlukahlukene, kunezimpawu ezithile okufanele uzibheke. Ama-narcisists ocansi athambekele ekungeneni ebudlelwaneni obuseduze ne-charm, ukuphawula okuthophayo, kanye nenala yothando.
1. Beka Eqhulwini Ukwaneliseka Kwakho Ngokocansi
Ama-narcisist ocansi amatasa ngokuzanelisa kwawo, azinaki izidingo zomlingani wawo wocansi. Lapho abalingani babo beveza isidingo socansi noma abakuthandayo, umxoxi wezocansi angase ashaye indiva isicelo noma asole umlingani wakhe ngokuthi uyalawula noma unobugovu.
2. Bamemezele ukuthi abanelisekile ngokocansi
Nakuba ama-NP ocansi enza konke okusemandleni ukuze abeke phambili ukwaneliseka kwawo ngokocansi, avame ukubika ukwaneliseka okuphansi kocansi futhi akusole kubalingani babo. Bangase bahlulele noma bagxeke ukwenza kophathina babo noma baphakamise ukuthi ucansi seluyisicefe futhi kudingeka lushintshe ukuze luhlangabezane nezidingo zocansi zomuntu okhuluma ngocansi. Ama-narcissist ocansi angase asho (noma asongele ngokusobala) ukuthi azofuna ukwaneliseka kwenye indawo uma umlingani wabo engenzi kangcono. I-narcissistic pervert kanye nobulili yizinto ezimbili ezingenakuhlukaniswa.
3. Ulaka noma udlame
Nakuba ukuhlukumeza ngesikhathi socansi kungaba nempilo enhle kwabanye, kungabonisa ukuthi othile ungumuntu okhuluma ngocansi uma ezibandakanya ocansini olungafunwa, ukuphoqwa ngokocansi, noma ukudlwengula. Ukuhlukunyezwa kungase kwenzeke ngezikhathi ezithile ngenxa yentukuthelo ye-narcissistic, noma kungenzeka ukuthi i-narcissist yocansi incamela konke ukuhlangana kocansi ukuthi kube nolaka ngokwemvelo.
4. Ukungabi nozwelo ngezidingo zomlingani
Ucwaningo luphakamisa ukuthi nakuba ama-narcissists ekwazi ukuzwelana, akhetha ukulisebenzisa kuphela lapho ebasiza. Ama-narcisists ocansi ngokuvamile abonisa ukuntula uzwela ngezidingo zomlingani wabo ngomzamo wokuhlangabezana nezidingo zabo zokusondelana. Lokhu bangakwenza ngokuzibandakanya ekuziphatheni okunolaka noma, ngokujwayelekile, ngokuziba izicelo zozakwethu noma abakuthandayo ukuze babeke ezabo kuqala.
Ukuphambuka kobulili be-PN
1. Ucansi luthinta bona kuphela
Ngesinye isikhathi, bangase banikele isikhathi nokunaka izidingo zakho. Kungenzeka ukuthi uze wakujabulisa ngendlela okungekho omunye umuntu ongamfanisa ngayo.
Kodwa lolu hlobo lokuziphatha luvame ukufana nalo « thanda amabhomu« , futhi lena indlela evamile "ukuheha" ozakwethu abasha ebudlelwaneni obunobuthi. Uma kukhulunywa ngezigaba zokuqala ze ubudlelwano bocansi, ama-narcissists ayakwazi ukubonakala ephana futhi enozwelo. Badlalisa uthando lwabo kuwe, bakudonsele emhlabeni wabo ngaphandle kokukhathazeka ngemizwa yakho.
Futhi uma sebekuthumbile? Ucansi lwe-narcissistic pervert luba nobugovu ngokuphelele. Bangase benze sengathi abakwanelisi kangako, kodwa bagcine bengasawuthandi umzimba wakho, ucansi, noma ukuqabulana. Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi ucansi lumayelana nezidingo zabo kuphela, izifiso zabo kanye nalokho abakulindele.
2. Ucansi luwumdlalo nje
Manje cabanga ukuthi ucansi lungasho ukuthini ku-narcissist. Ku-narcissist, ucansi alukona ukubopha, ukuxhuma, noma ukwakha ukusondelana. Okuningi mayelana "nokuwina umdlalo." Kulo mongo, awulutho ngaphandle kokuthi uyisidlali nje ekufuneni kwakhe amandla, ukulawula kanye nokuzanelisa komuntu siqu.
Ucansi lungenye yezindlela eziningi abakhulisa ngayo ubuyena babo. Ngakho-ke lapho belala nawe, kumayelana nokulondoloza nokubuyisela i-ego yabo, hhayi ukudala umuzwa onamandla wothando.
Ingabe i-Narcissistic Pervert Hypersexual?
Ukuqonda i-narcissist nocansi kungaba nzima. Ucansi, ngokuvamile, kufanele luzizwe njengesenzo esijabulisayo nesijabulisayo kubo bobabili abathintekayo. Uma izinto zisabonakala zingohlangothi olulodwa, lokho kuyifulegi elibomvu okufanele lilandelwe. Khumbula ukuthi ukuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi akwamukelekile. Lo mthetho wokuqala usebenza kuzo zonke izimo.
Uthando ludinga ukwethenjwa nenhlonipho, futhi ukuxhashazwa ngokobulili kubukela phansi izisekelo zalezi zidingo ezimbili eziyisisekelo. Uma ucabanga ukuthi uyisisulu sokunukubezwa ngokocansi, akulona iphutha lakho. Nokho, kubalulekile ukuthatha izinyathelo ezingcono kakhulu zokuzivikela.
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