Ukwazi ukuthi ungabhekana kanjani nobaba one-narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) kungakusiza ugweme imizwa engemihle evame ukuvela kulolu hlobo lobudlelwano. Kulesi sihloko, sizoxoxa ngemiphumela ubaba onenkinga yobuntu abangaba nayo ezinganeni zakhe, futhi sinikeze izeluleko zokuthi ungahamba kanjani futhi ubhekane kanjani nobudlelwano ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Indlela yokubona ubaba ohlanekezelwe we-narcissistic?
Igama elithi narcissism noma i-narcissist livame ukusetshenziswa namuhla. Iqiniso liwukuthi iningi lethu libonisa okungenani eyodwa (noma ngezinye izikhathi ngaphezulu) yezici ezivamile ezihlobene ne-narcissistic personality disorder, kodwa lokho akusho ukuthi sonke siphila ne-NP.
Njengoba igama liphakamisa, i-narcissism iyinkinga yomuntu, futhi ukuphazamiseka, ngokwencazelo, kuphazamisa imisebenzi evamile yengqondo nengokwenyama. Lokhu kubalulekile ukukukhumbula ngoba uma ubaba wakho ehlushwa yi-NPD, kungase kube usizo ukukhumbula ukuthi ukuziphatha kwakhe kwe-narcissistic, nakuba kungase kukhungathekise futhi kudide, akuyona inketho yakhe.
Izimpawu zikababa we-PN
Ubaba ophethwe yi-narcissistic personality disorder angase abonise izici eziningana, ezihlanganisa:
- Iphethini egcwele yokuziphatha noma amaphupho amakhulu.
- Ukusabela ekugxekweni ngehlazo, ukucasuka noma ukululazeka.
- Isidingo esiqhubekayo sokunakwa ngokweqile
- Isidingo esingenangqondo sokutuswa nokwazisa
- Umona ngokwedlulele, uze uthukuthele
- Ukukhombisa izimpawu zokuxakeka yimpumelelo noma amandla.
- Ukunganaki imingcele yabanye yomuntu siqu
- Ukuzincoma kuze kufike ezingeni lokuzikhukhumeza
- Ukuntula uzwela okusobala kwabanye
- Umuzwa ongamanga welungelo.
Ngokuvamile, abantu abane-narcissistic personality disorder abanandaba nawe kakhulu. Kungenzeka ukuthi bagxile kulokho ongabenzela kona kanye nendlela esheshayo yokukwenza.
Ubani ubaba ohlanekezelwe narcissistic?
Izimpawu ezivame kakhulu ze-narcissistic kobaba ukuzikhukhumeza, isidingo sokuhlala ulungile, kanye nomuzwa ongafanele noma ongamanga wokufaneleka. Bambalwa kithi abacabanga ukuthi obaba benza konke okufanele ukusikhulisa. Kodwa-ke, ukukhuliswa ngubaba ongenangqondo kudlula le mingcele. Bagxila kakhulu ekuziphatheni kwabo njengobaba futhi balawula ukuziphatha nezinqumo zezingane zabo nabalingani babo.
Ubaba ophendukezelwe yi-narcissistic uyazenzisa ngokweqile: uchitha isikhathi esiningi enakekela ukubukeka kwakhe kanye nokomndeni wakhe. Ufuna ukunconywa futhi ukhathazeke kakhulu ngesici esibonakalayo sesimo kunesimo ngokwaso. Ukhathazeke ngokweqile ngempumelelo: Emqondweni wakhe, uzibona njengomuntu ophumelele kakhulu ekamelweni, futhi ukunyanya kwakhe okumangalisayo kumenza ahlukaniswe nanoma ibuphi ubufakazi obuphikisana nemibono yakhe.
Akukho Ukusekelwa Ngokomzwelo: Obaba ababi beNarcissistic banozwela oluncane kwabanye, futhi bangase bangakwazi nokubona lapho ingane idinga ukusekelwa kwayo ngokomzwelo.
Ubaba Ophendukezelwe WamaNarcissistic - Uzikhohlisa Kanjani Izingane Zabo?
Nawa amaqhinga amahlanu obaba abasebenzisa i-narcissistic balawule izingane zabo :
1. Ukungathembeki ngokomzwelo:
Ubaba we-narcissistic ubonakala enza isicelo, kodwa empeleni kuyisidingo. Uma uthi cha, beka imingcele, noma ubatshele ukuthi uzobuya kamuva, bazokufaka ingcindezi eyengeziwe futhi bakusabise ngemiphumela yokuzama ukukukwenza uvume. Uma namanje wenqaba, angase akujezise ngokuthukuthela, ukusho amazwi anolaka, ukucasuka, ukugodla okuthile okubalulekile, noma ngisho nokusongela ubudlova noma ukucekela phansi. Lokhu kuwukungathembeki ngokomzwelo.
2. Icala ngokwesaba, isibopho kanye nomuzwa wecala:
Kuvamile ukuthi obaba abanganangqondo basebenzise ukwesaba, isibopho, kanye nomuzwa wecala kulaba bantwana ukuze bavuse uhlobo lwecala olungase lubangele ukuba sivumele izifiso zabo, ngisho nalapho silahlekelwa izidingo namalungelo ethu ayisisekelo.
3. Icala:
Obaba abakhohlakele nabanobuthi bayahlazisa noma baze basole izingane zabo ukuze baqhubeke belulaza futhi balulaze. Lokhu empeleni kusebenza kahle kakhulu ngoba ucwaningo luye lwabonisa ukuthi lapho umuntu ezizwa engaphelele futhi enesici, uvame ukuthobelana kakhulu nezimfuno zabanye.
4. Unxantathu nokuqhathanisa:
Abazali abangamaNarcissistic bayathanda ukuqhathanisa izingane zabo nezinye izingane zakubo noma ontanga ngomzamo wokuzehlisa. Bafuna izingane zabo ezilahliwe zilwele ukwamukelwa nokunakwa. Bafuna nokubenza bazizwe bengelutho.
Ubudlelwano phakathi kukababa oyi-narcissistic pervert nendodakazi yakhe
Amantombazane anoyise abakwa-FN avame ukubika ukuthi oyise abakaze bakwazi ukuwanika ayekudinga ekukhuleni kwawo. Bavame ukuzwa sengathi ubuhlobo babo abugculisi. Kujwayelekile futhi ukuthi bakhumbule ukuthi kufanele bancintisane nezingane zakubo ngesikhathi sobuzali noma uthando oluvela kubaba wabo onolaka.
Amanye amadodakazi amadala athi ubudlelwano obunobuthi busenomthelela omkhulu ezimpilweni zawo. Abaningi bazizwa besengozini futhi bahlale benengcindezi yokwenza kangcono, ngisho nalapho sebebadala. Abantu abahlushwa i-narcissistic personality disorder bavame ukunganaki, futhi obaba bangenza izingane zabo ezindala, ikakhulukazi amadodakazi abo, azizwe engalondekile futhi engafaneleki, angakwazi ukuthola uthando futhi engakufanelekeli.
Ukuziphatha kukaBaba we-PN endodakazini yakhe
Ubaba omubi onolaka uyohlala ehlukumeza ngokomzwelo, akhohlise indodakazi yakhe ngokuyisola noma ngokuyisabisa. Angase amsebenzise njengesibambiso emidlalweni yakhe noma amenze azizwe enesibopho ngenjabulo yakhe, futhi uyomgodlela uthando nothando uma engafezi lokho akulindele. Ngaphandle kwalokho, ngeke angabaze ukumveza kugesi uma kumfanele.
Obaba abaningi abakhuluma kabi nabo bayahlukumeza ngokomzimba, kungaba ukushaya, ukushaywa ngezimpama, noma olunye uhlobo lobudlova. Lokhu ngokuvamile kuyindlela yokugomela amandla nokulawula phezu kwendodakazi yakho. Futhi ngokuvamile, izingane eziningi ezihlala nobaba we-PN, ziphenduka zibe i-narcissistic osemusha ohlanekezelwe.
Ubaba Ophendukezela I-Narcissistic - Izenzo Ezinobuthi Futhi Eziyingozi Ezinganeni Zakhe?
Obaba abakhohlakele beNarcissistic bavame ukulimaza izingane zabo. Ngokwesibonelo, bangase bephule imingcele, balawule izingane zabo ngokugodla uthando (kuze kube yilapho bedlala), futhi badebeselele ukwanelisa izidingo zezingane zabo ngoba izidingo zabo ziza kuqala.
Njengoba isithombe sibaluleke kakhulu kuma-narcissists, bangase bafune ukuphelela ezinganeni zabo. Ingane kababa onama-narcissistic ingase, nayo, ibe nengcindezi yokwandisa amathalenta ayo, ukubukeka kwayo, ukuhlakanipha noma charisma. Bangase balahlekelwe kakhulu uma befeza izifiso zikayise futhi kungase kubalahlekisele kakhulu uma behluleka. Akukho ukunqoba okungenzeka.
Narcissistic Pervert kanye nomndeni wakhe
I-narcissist inombono ohlukile ngesintu: abantu bangaba yimithombo yokuhlinzeka nge-narcissistic (bese-ke, i-dealized and overvalued), noma abawufezi lo msebenzi (bese-ke, abayize, behliswa inani). I-narcissist ithola lonke uthando aludinga kuye. Ngaphandle, udinga ukuvunywa, ukuqinisekiswa, ukutuswa, ukudunyiswa, ukunakwa - ngamanye amazwi, imisebenzi yemingcele ye-Ego yangaphandle.
- Akadingi - futhi akafuni - uthando lwabazali bakhe, abafowabo nodadewabo, noma ukuthandwa izingane zakhe. Ubabheka njengabalaleli bemidlalo yeshashalazi yobukhulu bakhe obudlulele.
- I-PN ifuna ukubahlaba umxhwele, ukubashaqisa, ukubesabisa, ukuhlaba umxhwele, ukubakhuthaza, ukuheha ukunaka kwabo, ukubacindezela noma ukubakhohlisa.
- Ilingisa futhi ilingise uhla lonke lwemizwa futhi isebenzisa noma yiziphi izindlela ukufeza le miphumela. Uqamba amanga (ama-narcissists baqambimanga be-pathological - uqobo lwabo luyi-fake).
- I-Narcissistic pervert idlala okudabukisayo noma, ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukumelana nokuthembekile. Uyamangala futhi acwebezele ngamakhono akhethekile obuhlakani noma angokwenyama kanye nezimpumelelo, noma ngokuziphatha okwaziswa amalungu eqembu. umndeni we-narcissistic ohlanekezelwe.
Ubuntwana be-Narcissistic Pervert
Abaphendukezeli be-Narcissistic babonakala ngesithombe esibi ngabo. Baqamba amanga kwabanye futhi bababeke phansi ukuze bakhulise ukuzethemba kwabo. Benza sengathi bangcono kunabanye, badinga ukunconywa, futhi bayazazi amakhono abo okukhohlisa, kuyilapho bengenalo uzwela lapho bebona abanye behlupheka.
Ngokuvamile, abahlanekezeli be-narcissistic ngamadoda. Bangase balimaze umlingani wabo othandana naye, kodwa futhi kungaba umuntu osebenza naye, umngane, noma ilungu lomndeni. Izimbangela zalokhu kuziphatha azikaziwa, kodwa izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo zikholelwa ukuthi ingane evikelwe ngokweqile, enokulindela okukhulu, ingaba imbangela. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ama-narcissistic perverts nawo ayengase ahlukunyezwe noma anganakwa njengezingane.
Ubaba Ophendukezela I-Narcissistic - Shiya Noma Hlala?
Ukukhula nomzali odelelayo noma ukuzizwa njengengane engathandwa nakho kungaba buhlungu. Uma ubhekene nalesi simo, kungokwemvelo ukuzizwa udidekile futhi ungabaza mayelana nokuthi yini okufanele uyenze ngokulandelayo futhi uzibuze ukuthi yini okufanele uyenze ngokumelene nobaba okhohlisayo. Kunezindlela zokubheka ngokucophelela isimo, ukumisa imingcele edingekayo, bese unquma ukuthi ungaqhubeka kanjani nalobu buhlobo.
Isixazululo esisebenza kahle kakhulu ukunciphisa ukuxhumana noma ukuqeda ukuthintana nobaba onama-narcissistic. Ukwakha uhlelo ngochwepheshe bezempilo yengqondo kungakusiza uthole amaqhinga aphephile.
Kuyasiza kakhulu ukwehlisa kancane ukuthintana, kungaba buhlungu kini nobabili ukuthi nivele niyeke ukukhulumisana. Ngaphezu kwalokho, bangase bezwe ukudabuka nokulahlekelwa ngendlela efanayo nawe ozizwa ngayo.
Angase angabi nazo izinsiza ezingokomzwelo zokuveza lolu lusizi ngendlela efanele, kodwa lokho akusho ukuthi akakuzwa.
Ireferensi yebhayibheli yokuqonda ukuziphatha kukababa okhohlakele
Nali iqoqo lezithenjwa zebhayibhili ngesihloko sobaba abahlanekezelwe benarcissistic:
- Fleming, J. (2013). I-Narcissistic Pervert – Editions de l’Atelier.
- UMarty, P. (2014). Obaba Abanobuthi: lapho ubaba ephendukezela i-narcissistic - Izinguqulo ze-Le Courrier du Livre.
- ULévy, J. (2017). I-Psychoanalysis kanye ne-narcissism - Izinguqulo L'Harmattan.
- Bouchard, M. (2018). I-Narcissistic Pervert kanye nezisulu zakhe: Ukuqonda ukuzivikela kangcono – Health Editions.
- U-Charpak, G., & Grégoire, L. (2016). Ukuxhaphaza Imizwa Ebashadini – Izinguqulo Albin Michel.
- Sargueil, J. (2019). Ingane kanye ne-Narcissistic Pervert: Ukuqonda kangcono ukwenza kangcono - Editions L'Esprit du temps.
- Kahane, S. (2020). I-Narcissism: ububi obucashile – Editions Eyrolles.
Lezi zincwadi zizokuvumela ukuthi uhlole izici zobaba ababi be-narcissistic kanye nemiphumela yazo ezinganeni nasezindaweni zomndeni.
Isiphetho
Ukunqamula ukukhulumisana nothile kuyisinyathelo esidlulele futhi kufanele ngokuvamile sisetshenziswe njengendlela yokugcina, ikakhulukazi uma kuhilela ilungu lomndeni. Kubalulekile ukuthi uzame ukukhuluma nomuntu, ubeke imingcele, futhi wakhe ubudlelwano obungaba nomthelela omubi empilweni yakho.
Kodwa uma ukugcina ukuxhumana nomuntu othandekayo wakwa-FN kubuhlungu kakhulu noma kulimaza, ukunqamula ubuhlobo nokushiya kungase kube yisixazululo esingcono kakhulu sempilo yakho yengqondo. Khumbula: "Ukwenza ngoba impilo yakho yengqondo, ukuzethemba kanye nokuphila kahle kubaluleke kakhulu kuwe kunokugcina ubudlelwano nelungu lomndeni elingenangqondo.".
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