Othandweni, akuyona yonke into eyenzekayo njengenganekwane. Izenzo ezingezinhle seziqala ukubonakala ebudlelwaneni bezothando kulezi zinsuku. Uthando lokuqhunyiswa kwamabhomu noma ubudlelwano bothando obuhlanekezelwe. Ufuna ukwazi okwengeziwe? Funda kuze kube sekupheleni.
Kuyini ukuqhunyiswa kothando?
Uthando ngamabhomu, ngokoqobo kunjalo "uthando" futhi "bhomu", noma ukuthanda ukuqhunyiswa kwamabhomu. Kuyisu elisetshenziswa umphendukezeli we-narcissistic kulesi simo ukuze abuse isisulu sakhe ngokuphelele. Umethemba ngokuphelele futhi ukholelwa ngokuqinile ekuzinzeni kobudlelwane babo. Lokhu ukuzethemba okudukisayo once isungulwe, uyophuphuthekisa isisulu futhi abaholele ngase ukuncika ngokomzwelo engapheli.
Thanda i-Bombing, i-Ghosting entsha
Lezi zindlela ezihlanekezelwe zivame ukukhulunywa ngazo njengezihlukile komunye nomunye, kodwa ekugcineni zihlangene.
- Ukuqhunyiswa kwamabhomu kothando sekuqalile, umuntu uyahamba futhi akabuyi. Imilayezo nemibhalo kuyema kungazelelwe. Ngemva kokunamathiselwe okujulile kuza a ibanga elingachazwanga evela ku-narcissistic pervert. I-Ghosting iqala ukusebenza.
- Le ndlela yesipoki ibonakala kuleli cala kumanethiwekhi omphakathi, amasayithi okuphola lapho imilayezo "kushisa" futhi egcwele uthando kwaqhuma. Ukusebenzisana kulula ngokusetshenziswa kwe-emoji yenhliziyo, amagama alula abhalwe kalula.
Abantu abanonya bayazi ukuthi bangazisebenzisa kanjani lezi zindlela ezimbili ezihlangene ukuze bacekele phansi isisulu, ukuqubuka kothando nokuthula okufile.
I-Love Bombing, isu le-Narcissistic Pervert
Singakwazi kakade ukufaneleka umuntu onobuthi njengomhlanekezeli we-narcissistic ebudlelwaneni. Ngakho-ke isebenzisa izindlela ezahlukene zokukubopha esikhathini eside. Ubuhlobo obunobuthi buyoba isiphetho esibulalayo kulowo ohlukumezekile. Izizathu yilezi:
- ukuqala kobudlelwane bakho kungaba yi-idyllic, cishe inganekwane ezophela ngomshado kanye nezingane eziningi;
- uzobe ugcwele uthando, futhi yebo, ufakwe njengehansi ngezinye izikhathi uzozizwa sengathi "kakhulu" wonakalisiwe;
- lesi siphawulo esithi "kakhulu" sizokudonsela ekujikeni okungapheli cishe kothando lweqiniso kanye nokukhohlisa okuqondile;
Uthando lwamabhomu lubonakala kanjani?
Udinga nje ukuba nekhanda elipholile futhi uqaphe kakhulu ukuze ukubone.
- Lo muntu uzokuncisha umoya uthando et ukunaka. Ngokuqinisekile uyosuthiswa imizwa eyakhayo kanye nokuthakasela okungamanga;
- izipho, izimemezelo ezeqile zothando, izithembiso zokuphila konke, iphrojekthi evamile yesikhathi esizayo, wedding futhi inzalo ikuhlelo, ungajabula kuphela;
- lapho usuzobhidlika, uzobuya egijima namagagasi amasha othando nobubele;
- umhlukumezi uyakuzonda ukucasuka futhi uzoqinisekisa ukuthi uthi yebo kunoma yiluphi uhlobo lwempatho akunikeza yona;
- Khona-ke kuzofika isikhathi lapho umbulali eqala ukude, ebanda futhi engenamdlandla. Uyolambela uthando nokunaka kwakhe okungamanga;
- Uthando ngamabhomu kungaholela ukuphathwa kwesikhathi esizayo
Futhi kulapho ezobe ephumelele khona ekuqhumeni kwe-Love bombing kanye ne-Ghosting.
Uthando lokuqhuma kwamabhomu: Ukuyenga noma ukukhohlisa?
Ngokulandelayo, indlela esetshenziswa ababulali:
- Le umgomo we-narcissistic pervert kuwukuyenga ngendlela ejabulisayo, ukuze ubanjwe ngokushesha okukhulu;
- Lapho wena ehlatshwa amazwi othando, ukushukuma kothando okwedlulele;
- Uzokwenza isiqiniseko sokuthi uyahlanya othandweni naye ukuze ube nesiqiniseko sokuthi ngeke uphunyuke;
- Uhlela nawe ikusasa, ekhombisa ukuthi wonke amaphrojekthi weminyaka ezolandela amiswe ngokushesha;
- Ukushaywa kwakho izikhathi ezithile akusoze kwalibaleka, kuhluke ngokuphelele kulokho obukuzwa phambi kwakhe, nakuba mhlawumbe kuwumuzwa nje;
- uma eselutheke ngokuphelele, uzokushiya ubambe ongezansi futhi aphenduke kalula kwesinye isisulu;
- ngemva kokuvuka ephusheni lakho, uzokubona lokho amapharamitha awajwayelekile, kodwa uyobuyela kuwe njengakuqala, ekukholise ukuthi ungumlingani womphefumulo wakhe;
Uma uhlangabezana nezinye zezimpawu zakhe, hlala uqaphile ngezenzo zakhe, kuwukukhohlisa nje. Uma ucabanga ngokuyenga, kuphela inkohliso eyize.
Reverse Love Bombing
Le reverse uthando ibhomu, isho isimo lapho abantu abanganaki bezithola betshala imali ngokweqile ebudlelwaneni nomuntu one-narcissistic. Imvamisa, "ukuqhuma kwamabhomu othando" kuhlotshaniswa nama-narcissists aqeda izinhloso zabo ngothando nokunaka ngokweqile. Ukuqhunyiswa kwamabhomu othando kuchaza ukuziphatha kwabantu abathi, ngenxa yesidingo esijulile sokuqinisekiswa nothando, benza konke okusemandleni ukuze bajabulise futhi bahlabe umxhwele uzakwethu othanda ukubhuqa. Lokhu kuziphatha kungase kuhilele ukuzidela okukhulu, ukutshalwa kwezimali kwezimali, nomzamo ongokomzwelo, okubonisa inkolelo yokuthi kumelwe “bazuze” uthando nokuvunyelwa yi-narcissist. Ungalokothi wenze lokhu! Uphelele njengoba unjalo futhi akukho sizathu sokwenza konke ukujabulisa i-PN. Ufanelwe okungcono!
Izikhombo ze-Bibliographic
Nazi izikhombo eziyisikhombisa zebhayibhili ngendikimba "yokuqhuma kwamabhomu othando":
- Umculi, M. T. (2003). Amahlelo aphakathi kwethu: ukuqonda kanye nokulwa namandla awo okuyenga. I-Paris: Editions de l'Homme.
- Demers-Morabito, M.-E. (2020). "Yini ibhomu yothando?" ". Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo.net.
- Rozenblum, J. (2023). "Izithandani: "Ukuqhunyiswa kwamabhomu kusetshenziswa abantu abafisa ukubusa omunye." Kungani Dokotela.
- Strutzenberg, CC, Wiersma-Mosley, JD, Jozkowski, KN, & Becnel, JN (2017). "Ukuqhunyiswa kwamabhomu othando: indlela ye-narcissistic ekwakheni ubudlelwano." I-Discovery, I-Student Journal of Dale Bumpers College of Agricultural, Food and Life Sciences, I-18, i-81-88.
- U-Beri, R. (2024). "Isifundo Ngokuqhunyiswa Kwezibhomu Zothando, I-Narcissism kanye Nokuhlukunyezwa Kwemizwelo Phakathi Kwabantu Abadala Abancane Ebudlelwaneni Nesimo." Ijenali Yamazwe Ngamazwe Yezindlela Zokuhlanganisa Imikhakha Yengqondo Kwezengqondo, 2(6).
- "Uthando lwamabhomu - Wikipedia".
- "Uthando lwamabhomu: Qaphela leli thuluzi lokukhohlisa." Anahana.
Le mithombo ihlinzeka ngokuqonda okujulile kokuqhunyiswa kwamabhomu kothando kuzimo ezihlukahlukene, okuhlanganisa ubudlelwano phakathi kwabantu kanye nokukhohlisa kwehlelo.
Isiphetho
"Ukuqhunyiswa kwamabhomu othandweni" kuyisu lokukhohlisa elihlanganisa ukuyenga nokuhlukumeza ngokomzwelo. Ngemuva kokunaka ngokweqile nothando, okuvame ukwenziwa ekuqaleni kobudlelwane, kufihla iphethini enobuthi ehloselwe ukucupha isisulu ekuthembeleni ngokomzwelo. Lesi simo, esivame ukuhlotshaniswa nokuziphatha kwabaphendukezeli be-narcissistic, kungabangela umonakalo omkhulu ongokwengqondo. Ukuqapha, ukulalela imizwa yomuntu siqu nokuhlola ubuhlobo bakhe ngobuqotho kubalulekile ukuze uzivikele ezenzweni ezinjalo. Khumbula, uthando lweqiniso aludingi ukuxhashazwa noma ukulawula.
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Futhi kuyindlela yokusiza abantu, njengoba nami ngiye ngakwazi ukuthola usizo kubantu engingabazi kukho konke ukuphila kwami. Akukhona kuphela abahlanekezeli be-narcissistic kulo mhlaba futhi ngenhlanhla! Lapha sisiza abantu baqonde ukuthi kwenzekani kubo futhi badlulele empilweni engenazo ama-narcissists - impilo yakho engcono kakhulu! Awuwedwa futhi ungenza ushintsho ukuze uphile impilo eyanelisayo, egcwele ukuthula, ukuzwana nothando!
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