Icala Nokugconwa Ngecala

I-narcissistic pervert ivame ukuthuthukisa ukubusa nokulawula kwakhe phakathi kwabashadikazi. Ngabe i-narcissistic pervert isebenza kanjani kuwe? ukwenza umuntu azizwe enecala ? Ungaphuma kanjani kulesi simo sokulawula? Kungenzeka yini ukushaya i-narcissistic manipulator emdlalweni wakhe? Imigqa elandelayo iphendula imibuzo yakho.

Indlela yokwenza umuntu azizwe enecala?

Ukuze uthole kangcono umuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic, kuyadingeka ukwazi ukuthi uziphatha kanjani izisulu zakhe. Ngezansi amanye amathiphu okwenza umuntu azizwe enecala:.

1. Mbuze imibuzo esikhundleni sokumbeka icala: Lokhu kuyamvumela ukuthi enze njalo vuma ngokungaqondile amaphutha omuntu. Kuye ngezimpendulo zakhe, ungamcupha emangeni awaqambile. Uma umsola, angase azivikele.

2. Zidlale wena njengesisulu ukuze umenze azizwe enecala: Ukwenza umuntu azizwe enecala, wenze kube sengathi ulindele ukuziphatha kwakhe. Khuluma naye ngezinye izinto azenzile ezikuphethe kabi. Leli iqhinga elisebenzayo lokuthola uxolo kuye.

3. Dlala ngemizwa: Ebudlelwaneni bezithandani, dlala ngechord ebucayi yemizwa kuhlale kuwumqondo osebenzayo. Menze azi ukuthi unemibuzo ngendlela azizwa ngayo ngawe. Nokho, qiniseka ukuthi uzizwa sengathi kufanele abonise ukuthi uyakukhathalela.

4. Khuluma ngalokho omenzele khona: ungangabazi ukuqhathanisa izenzo zakhe nezakho ukugxila ezintweni ezinhle ukuthi umenzele khona. Okubaluleke kakhulu ukukhombisa ukuthi ungumuntu olungile futhi uzinikele ebudlelwaneni bakho.

5. Gwema ukuzibeka icala:  Lapho uzama ukwenza umuntu azizwe enecala, angase alwe. Qaphela ke ungawaboni amaphutha akho njalo abuyele ezenzweni ezimbi azenzileyo.

6. Engeza idrama:  Uma lowo muntu ephikisana namasu akho okusola, kungani ungenzi phakamisa imizwa ? Phakathi kwezinyembezi, izinyembezi, ukumemeza ... inhloso ukondla imizwa yakhe yecala.

7. Zigqamise:  Ukuze uthole okufunayo, gqamisa impumelelo yakho nezenzo zakho ezinhle. Uma uzibeka phambili, kuzoba lula ukuthola izimpendulo ezakhayo.

8. Gxila emizweni engemihle:  Imizwa engemihle amathuluzi asebenzayo ukuze uthole okufunayo. Phakathi kokudabuka, amahloni, intukuthelo, ukwesaba, njll., uyoba nezinto eziningi ongakhetha kuzo. Uma umcela okuthile, bangela imizwa engemihle. Lokhu kuzoholela ekushintsheni kwakho ngomzwelo ojabulisayo futhi uzophumelela ukuthola okufunayo.

9. Sebenzisa injabulo:  Ngemva kokusebenzisa imizwa engemihle, kungani ungagxili kuyo umuzwa wenjabulo nothando ? Menze akholwe ukuthi yini ubuza kungakwenza uzizwe ungcono.

10. Buza ngendlela ehlukile: Uma lowo muntu engakuvumeli imizamo yakho yokumenza azizwe enecala, sebenzisa ezinye izindlela zokubuza. Qiniseka, nokho, ukuthatha ikhefu phakathi kwemizamo yakho bese uzama futhi ngemva kwesikhathi.

Ebudlelwaneni ne-narcissistic pervert, the ukuxhaphaza uhlala ekhona. I-narcissistic pervert iyisebenzisela ukugcina isithombe sayo nokuzethemba. Uchezukisa konke ukungapheleli namaphutha akhe kumlingani wakhe. Umhlukumezi ube esezizwa enecala futhi umkhohlisi uzizwa enamandla.

Ungalibalekela kanjani icala elenziwa umuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic?

La icala ingenye yezindlela ezinamandla kakhulu ezisetshenziswa umkhohlisi. Ukuze uzikhulule kukho, kuhlale kunconywa ukuthi welashwe. Ukuxoxa ngakho kuvumela isisulu somuntu ohlanekezelekayo ukuthi acacise izinto. Kuphinde kusize ukuthuthukisa ukuziphatha kanye nobudlelwano nabanye.

Ukuzisebenzela kuvumela umuntu ukuba agqashule kulo mkhuba omubi oholela ekuzidekeni nasekuzincitheni imbala. Uma isisulu sigcina imizwa yaso yecala kuso, sizifaka engozini yokuzibhubhisa. Ngaphezu kwalokho, bangase bazithole bengakwazi ukuzithanda bona futhi bangase babe nezimo eziphansi kanye nokuthambekela kokuhlale bazithobile futhi bazizwe benecala.

Ungayenza kanjani i-narcissistic pervert azizwe enecala?

Uma uku-a ubuhlobo obunobuthi, kuyalinga ukwenza umhlaseli onama-narcissistic ashaye emdlalweni wakhe siqu. Nokho, akhona amasu ahlanekezela ongawasebenzisa ngokumelene nawo. Inhloso wukubaphazamisa futhi babenze bazingabaze. Ngamasu angezansi, kuzoba lula kuwe ukuthi ukhiphe imizwa yakho yecala futhi, ngesikhathi esifanayo, i-narcissistic pervert.

  • Beka imingcele: Ukucekela phansi ukuzinzisa umuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic, akukho okufana nokuqina kuye. Cabangela ukubeka imikhawulo ukuthi kufanele ukuveze ngokucacile. Futhi veza ukuthi ukweqa le mikhawulo kuzoba nemiphumela.
  • Thula: Ubhekene nemizamo yokukhohlisa nokusola, qiniseka ukuthi uyakwenza thula. Lokhu kuzomqeda amandla futhi kumenze angabaze amandla akhe phezu kwakho.
  • Gwema ukukhombisa imizwa yakho: Ukuze ukulawule, i-narcissistic pervert isebenzisa imizwa yakho ngokumelene nawe. Ube esesebenzisa ukubusa ngemilingo phezu kwesisulu sakhe ukuze asibuse kangcono. Ukuze ugweme lesi simo, qaphela ukuthi ungazivezi, ikakhulukazi uma ungumuntu ozwelayo. Ngokufihla imizwa yakho nokuba sengozini kwakho, unikeza isikhohlisi ithuba lokufinyelela kuwe.
  • Sebenzisa amaphuzu ayo abuthakathaka: I-narcissistic pervert, ngokuvamile, umuntu oncike emoyeni onezinkinga zokuzethemba. Udinga ukunakwa nokunconywa. Ukuyiqeda amandla, ungakwazi sebenzisa amaphuzu akhe abuthakathaka ngokumelene naye. Ngokwesibonelo, ungamniki ukunakwa akufunayo. Ukuze uveze ubuntu bakhe, ungancoma abanye abantu oseduze nabo ngaphandle kokubabuyisela emuva.

Izinkomba ze-bibliographic zokwenza umuntu ohlanekezelekayo azizwe enecala

  1. Hirigoyen, M.-F. (1998). Ukuhlukunyezwa ngokokuziphatha: Ubudlova obuhlanekezelwe nsuku zonke. EParis: La Découverte.
  2. Tisseron, S. (2013). Ukonakala kwezimfihlo zomndeni. EParis: Editions Armand Colin.
  3. UMelman, C. (2002). Indoda engenawo amandla adonsela phansi: Jabulela ngazo zonke izindlela. EParis: Denoël.
  4. Hirigoyen, M.-F. (2012). Izodwa ezintsha. EParis: La Découverte.
  5. Lejoyeux, M. (2005). Ubuntu Obunzima: Ukubaqonda ukuze uphile kangcono nabo. EParis: Odile Jacob.
  6. USalome, J. (2004). Amagama angamafasitela (noma ayizindonga): Isingeniso sokuxhumana okungenabudlova. I-Paris: I-Editions La Découverte.
  7. Debray-Ritzen, P. (1993). I-Psychopathology yokuhlukunyezwa ngokokuziphatha. I-Paris: I-PUF.

Isiphetho

Ukuphuma ekubanjweni komphendukezeli we-narcissistic kudinga ngaphezu kwakho konke ukuphinda ulawule imizwa yakho kanye nokuzibona kwakho. Icala liyisikhali esinamandla esisetshenziswa abakhohlisi, kodwa lingamelana nokuqina nokuqina. Ngokubeka imingcele ecacile, ukwenqaba ukuvumela ukuxhashazwa ngokomzwelo nokusebenza ekuzihlonipheni kwakho, kungenzeka ukuzikhulula kuleli thonya elilimazayo. Uma ukukhohlisa kungamandla abo, ulwazi kanye nokuzithiba kuyizihluthulelo zokuthola amandla futhi uphumelele futhi. Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi indlela yangempela yokwelapha iwukuzihlonipha futhi, kwezinye izimo, usizo lochwepheshe.

Cristina Balan

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