Iprofayili yoMama we-Narcissistic: Indlela yokuqaphela uMama we-PN?

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Bonke ubomi buvela kumama. Uhlala ethandwa kwaye ngamanye amaxesha uthiyiwe, kodwa uhlala exabiswa. Oomama basembindini wekhaya. Kuthekani nge iprofayili yomama onama-narcissistic ?

Umama ungumntu onobubele, onothando, kodwa onegunya. Kwimeko yomama ogqwethekileyo we-narcissistic, lo mfanekiso wothando awukho. Umntwana ohlala nomama we-narcissistic ogqwethekileyo akayazi le mvakalelo yokunamathela kunye nothando ngonina. Ukuba nomama ogqwethekileyo we-narcissistic kuyonakalisa kakhulu ingqondo, kuba umama udlala indima ebaluleke kakhulu ekuphuhlisweni kwengqondo yomntwana.

Yintoni umama we-narcissistic?

Umama okhohlakeleyo ogulayo unengxaki a I-narcissistic engaguqukiyo kunye nokuphazamiseka okugwenxa.

  • Indlela yakhe yokusebenzisana nabanye ibonakala ingalingani, i-pathological kunye netyhefu.
  • Kumama we-narcissistic, ubomi ngumdlalo apho alawula khona.
  • Uzicingela yedwa kwaye uyakhohlisa.
  • Imfuneko yempumelelo ibalulekile kuye.

Umama wePN uyacinga umntwana wakhe njengefoyile okanye into ayisebenzisayo ukuphumeza iinjongo zakhe. Nangona kunjalo, ufuna ukugcina umfanekiso wakhe. Yingakho ehlala ebonisa umfanekiso womama ochaphazelekayo ngomntwana wakhe kwaye ochaphazelekayo.

Kwimfihlo, umama we-narcissistic uzwilakhe. Umenza umntwana wakhe angaphumeleli kwaye azive enetyala. Kwezinye iimeko uba nomona ngowakhe umntwana. Ngaloo ndlela udala usukuzwano oluyityhefu oluchasene naye.

Iprofayili yomama onama-narcissistic: Ziziphi iimpawu zomama we-narcissistic?

Les iimpawu ze-narcissistic pervert Olu lulandelayo lunceda ekumiseleni iprofayili yomama we-narcissistic. Ngokuchanekileyo, babonisa isimilo somfazi onenkani :

1. Inetyhefu

  • Umfazi okhohlakeleyo okhohlakeleyo uyakhanyela ukuba ngoobani abantwana bakhe. Ubabeka emngciphekweni kwaye ubajongela phantsi ubundlobongela bakhe ngokwasengqondweni nangokuziphatha.
  • Umama we-narcissistic ubaphatha kakubi abantwana bakhe ukuze aqinisekise kwaye azalisekise i-narcissism yakhe.
  • Uziphatha ngenkohlakalo nangokonakalisa umntwana wakhe.
  • Uba iimfihlo zakhe aze amthintele ekubeni abe nenkululeko yokuzikhethela.

2. Ukulawula

Umama we-narcissistic ufuna ukulawula ubomi bomntwana wakhe bonke. Iyalawula:

  • imibutho yakhe;
  • imidlalo yakhe;
  • izinto azithandayo;
  • isinxibo sakhe...

Umfazi okhohlakeleyo we-narcissistic akavumeli akukho mfihlo kumntwana wakhe. Umamela eminyango. Ude afunde idayari yakhe kunye neposi yakhe ngaphandle kokuthandabuza. Oku kumvumela ukuba abe nolawulo olupheleleyo kumntwana, ngaloo ndlela kumthintela ekubeni abe nokuzimela geqe.

3. I-Narcissistic kunye ne-manipulative

Umama we-narcissistic womeleza ulawulo lwakhe ngokusebenzisa:

  • ukukhohlisa;
  • ukutyhola
  • ukuthotywa kwexabiso;
  • ityala.

Naye uyatyekela zenze ixhoba ukudala umfanekiso womama ohluphekileyo, yedwa kwaye ongenakunceda. Enyanisweni, ulungile nobuchule nokuba abe negunya elipheleleyo.

Umama we-narcissistic ulawula ukuzithemba komntwana wakhe. Uyamjongela phantsi nanini na ithuba livela ukuze amgcine phantsi kolawulo lwakhe. Unokude alube uvuyo lwakhe ukuze akhulise ukudandatheka komntwana.

 

Zithini iziphumo zokuba ngumama obhuqayo?

Umama we-narcissistic wenza into yokwenyani kuthintela ukukhula komntwana wakho.

  • Ukungakhuseleki kunye nokungabi nandawo

Ukuziphatha komama we-narcissistic kubangela ukungaqiniseki okuthile kumntwana wakhe, kwinqanaba lomzimba, lengqondo kunye neemvakalelo. Isimo sakhe sengqondo sidala ukunqongophala ubudlelwane obuyityhefu kwaye ayilungelelananga. Lo mama unenkohliso ayifumaneki ngokweemvakalelo.

  • Ukunqongophala kwesazisi

Umama we-narcissistic ogqwethekileyo uthintela umntwana wakhe ekubeni akhe isazisi. Kunokuba imncede akhulise ubuntu bakhe, uyayithoba isidima aze ayigatye into ayiyo. Uyamnyanzela ukuba enze njengoko ethanda.

  • Ukunqongophala koxanduva

Imvakalelo yoxanduva nayo iphantse ingabikho kumntwana kamama we-narcissistic. Owokugqibela akanalwazi ngeembopheleleko. Usoloko egxeka abanye yaye ngoko akangomzekelo mhle.

Indlela yokuziphatha kunye nomama we-narcissistic?

Ingaba ungumntu othandekayo okanye umntwana womama we-narcissistic, musa ukuhlala ungenandaba nokuziphatha kwakhe.

1. Njengomntu osondeleyo okanye esinye isalamane

Ngaba uyinxalenye yeqela lomama othanda ukunyathela? Kuya kufuneka uqaphele into enye: nguwe kuphela umzali osempilweni okanye othandekayo. Unako ke ngoko bonelela ngeziseko eziqinileyo ukuba umntwana ufuna, kodwa umama wakhe akanako ukubonelela:

  • ukuziva unqabisekile;
  • ubuntu;
  • ubuntu...

Mbonise ukuba unelungelo lokuba neminqweno yakhe kwaye unokuba nguye.

Kuphephe ukugxeka umama okanye ukumkhankanya. Oku kunokubeka umntwana kungquzulwano olukhulu lokunyaniseka. Naye unguye akukho mfuneko yokuba ujongane nomama wakho. Oku kunokubuyela kuwe.

2. Njengomntwana kamama onentolongwane

Ukuhlala nomama okhohlisayo akulula. Le pathology ayinyangeki kwaye iya kumlandela ubomi bakhe bonke. Xa sele engumntu omdala, umntwana womama we-narcissistic kuya kufuneka athathe inyathelo kunina, kwimeko yakhe kunye namanxeba akhe.

Eyona nto ifunekayo kukuba dibana nogqirha ukuze uzakhe kwakhona kwaye ulahle ubudlelwane obuyityhefu. Unyango lusivumela ukuba sijonge ibali lomntwana kunye nomama wakhe ukusuka kwelinye imbono engabonakaliyo kunye nokuqonda. Ukubaleka kunye nokwakha kwakhona kuhlala kukuphela kwezisombululo zokuzikhulula kwimpembelelo yomama we-narcissistic.

Phila uMama weNarcissistic ogqwethekileyo

Ubaqaphela njani oomama be-Perverse Narcissistic?

Kuya kufuneka uyazi ukuba oomama be-PN, amalungu a narcissistic usapho olugqwethekileyo azifani zonke. Ngelixa abanye bekwazi ukuzilawula, abanye banokubonisa isimilo esindlongondlongo. Nangona kunjalo, kukho iimpawu eziqhelekileyo apho oomama abagwenxa be-narcissistic banokubonwa: 

Umama PN: ukuswela uthando nokungahoywa

Uthando lukamama alukho kumama ogqwethekileyo we-narcissistic: Akakuthandi ukuba ngumama kwaye akaziva uyonwabile ekunakekeleni nasekunyamekeleni abantwana bakhe. Umama ogqwethekileyo we-narcissistic akakho kakhulu kumntwana wakhe, akamphulaphuli okanye acinge ngeemvakalelo zakhe. Kuye, umntwana wakhe ngumthwalo, umthwalo onzima kuye kwaye udla ixesha lakhe. Ukunqongophala kothando kunye nokungahoywa ziimpawu zomlinganiswa ezihlala zibonwa koomama abakhohlakeleyo. Abantwana basoloko bengahoywa baze bayeke ukuba bazenzele ezabo izigqibo ebuntwaneni babo. Xa bekhula, oomama abakhohlakeleyo be-narcissistic benza ukuba baqonde ukuba bayaphazamisa.

Iimpawu zoMama weNarcissistic

Phakathi kweempawu eziqhelekileyo ezisivumela ukuba siqaphele umama we-narcissistic ogqwethekileyo, siphinda sifumane ukuchithwa komntwana okanye ingcamango yento yomntwana.

  1. Akamthatheli ngqalelo umntwana wakhe njengonjalo kwaye akabuboni ububuthathaka bakhe.
  2. Uya kuba nezimvo zabantu abadala kunye nomntwana wakhe kwaye umntwana unokuchaphazeleka kakhulu. Esi seso sizathu sokuba abantwana boomama abagqwethekileyo besoloko bengazinzi ngokwasengqondweni nasemphefumlweni.
  3. Kwakhona, kumama we-narcissistic ogqwethekileyo, abantwana bakhe abalingani emehlweni akhe. Kuya kuhlala kukho umntwana amthandayo kunomnye. Uthelekisa abantwana bakhe kwaye akayifihli ngokupheleleyo.
  4. Nokuba yena ungamthandi umntwana, uya kuqinisekisa ukuba wenza abanye bayikholelwe ukuze kuvele usukuzwano nekhwele phakathi kwabantwana. Usukelo lwakhe luya kuba kukwenza abantwana bakhuphisane ukuze bamkholise.
  5. Uza ku yahlula ukuze kusetyenziswe amandla nolawulo.
  6. Umama ongendawo onama-narcissistic uhlala efuna ukuhoywa kunye nokunconywa. Ngoko ke uya kufuna ukuba le mfuno ivele kumntwana wakhe.
  7. Kwimeko apho unentombi, umama okhohlakeleyo we-narcissistic uya kuba nexhala ngokutshabalalisa ubudlelwane bakhe, uya kufuna ukuthatha indawo yakhe kwaye uya kuziva ekhuphisana naye.

Ubudlelwane phakathi komntwana kunye noMama we-Perverse Narcissistic

Ubudlelwane phakathi komama we-narcissistic ogqwethekileyo kunye nomntwana wakhe yinto eqhelekileyo. Nokuba umama unokwenza kakuhle kakhulu phambi kwabo bamngqongileyo ukwenza abantu bakholelwe ukuba uyamthanda umntwana wakhe kwaye uyamkhathalela, sinokubona iimpawu ezicacileyo ze-narcissism kunye nokukhohlisa kuye. Ngaphezu kwako konke, umntwana uya kuziva engento yanto yaye engaxabisekanga emehlweni kanina. Uya kwakha ubuntu obahluke ngokupheleleyo okanye isigqubuthelo sobuso ukuze akholise kwaye azive ethandwa. Umntwana uya kukholelwa ukuba uncitshiswe kwimeko yento kwaye kufuneka athobele iminqweno yomnini wakhe.

Umama yena uya kusebenzisa amandla, ukukhohlisa okuthile kumntwana wakhe. Uya kumlawula ukuze afeze iminqweno yakhe. Ukuqala ngokunciphisa ixabiso, kuya kudala isangqa esibi setyala emntwaneni. Umntwana uya kuhlala efuna imvume kuyo yonke into ayenzayo. Njengoko kungekho budlelwane bothando phakathi komama we-FN nomntwana wakhe, umntwana uya kukhula esoyika, engazithembi kunye nokungabikho okukhulu. 

Umama we-narcissistic: umfanekiso wetyhefu kunye nolawulo olukhohlisayo

Nazi iimpawu zomama okhohlakeleyo oyinarcissistic:

1. Ukubamba okomelezwe kukukhohlisa

Umama we-narcissistic usebenzisa iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokukhohlisa ukuseka ulawulo lwakhe kubantwana bakhe. Phakathi kwabo:

  • Ukukhanyisa ngegesi : kuthandabuza iimbono, iingcinga neemvakalelo zomntwana, kubangela ukubhideka kunye namathandabuzo ngobunyani bakhe.
  • Ubutyala : kwenza umntwana athwale uxanduva ngamashwa akhe, amenze abe netyala lokusilela kwakhe okanye imeko yakhe yeemvakalelo.
  • Ukuziphatha kakubi ngokweemvakalelo : izisongelo ezigqunyiweyo okanye ezicacileyo, ezinjengokuzenzakalisa okanye ukulahla umntwana, zimenza athobele oko akulindeleyo.

2. Umnqweno wokulawula ngokupheleleyo

Umama we-narcissistic ufuna ukulawula yonke into yobomi bomntwana wakhe:

  • Ubudlelwane bakhe kunye neemanyano.
  • Imisebenzi yayo, ukuzonwabisa kunye nemidlalo.
  • Kwanenkangeleko yakhe kunye nokukhetha kwakhe kwempahla.

Oku kuguquguquka kuya kude kuthintele umntwana ukuba angakwazi ukuzimela, umgcina exhomekeke ngokweemvakalelo ukuze ahlangabezane neemfuno zakhe zeemvakalelo.

3. Ukungabikho kovelwano okuphawulekayo

  • Ukungakhathali : iimfuno zomntwana ngokweemvakalelo, ngokwasengqondweni nasemzimbeni azihoywa okanye zijongelwa phantsi.
  • Uthando olunemiqathango : uthando lunikezelwa kuphela xa umntwana ehlangabezana nolindelo lukamama.
  • Ukuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo : umntwana akakwazi kuchuma ngaphandle kwemvume kamama.

4. Ubudlelwane obuyityhefu nobonakalisayo

Umama we-narcissistic uhlala esenza ngeendlela ezonakalisayo:

  • Usebenzisa ubundlobongela ngokwasengqondweni nangokuziphatha ukuthoba umntwana.
  • Ubeka iminqweno yakhe, ukwenza umntwana isibuko okanye isixhobo sokuqinisa i-ego yakhe.
  • Iba ubumfihlo bakhe kwaye ithintele nayiphi na inkululeko yokuzikhethela.

5. Ukuzicingela nokuxhaphaza umntwana

  • I-Egocentrism : umama we-narcissistic ufuna ukunconywa kunye nokuhoywa, ebeka rhoqo iimfuno zakhe kwiziko.
  • Ukusetyenziswa komntwana : iba sisixhobo sokukhohlisa, ukuvuselela ukuncoma okanye ukwanelisa iminqweno kabani.

6. Ukunqongophala kwemida nentlonipho

Umama we-narcissistic akayihloniphi imida yomntwana okanye iimfuno zomntwana zokuzimela:

  • Ukungenelela : uyangenelela kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi bomntwana wakhe, naxa sele emdala.
  • Ukwaphulwa kwemida : uyayihoya indawo okanye iimvakalelo zomntwana.

7. Amandla osapho anetyhefu

  • Ukukhetha : uthanda umntwana omnye ukuba alawule abanye kakuhle, edala ukungavisisani entsatsheni.
  • Candelo : ngokuhlwayela ingxabano, womeleza ulawulo lwakhe kulwalamano lwentsapho.

8. Isimo sengqondo esingalindelekanga kunye nesiguquguqukayo

  • Ukuhamba kweemvakalelo : ukusuka kuthando olugqithisileyo ukuya ekuchasweni ngenkohlakalo, kuphosa umntwana ekungaqiniseki rhoqo ngokweemvakalelo.
  • Ukuzibandakanya : ixuba uthando kunye nenkohlakalo, ikhulisa ukudideka kunye nokuxhomekeka komntwana.

9. Ukusebenzisa kakubi ityala

  • Ukuba netyala ngokugqithiseleyo : ishukumisela umntwana ukuba akholelwe ukuba akakhe enze ngokwaneleyo, okomeleza ukuxhomekeka kwakhe.
  • Ukujongelwa phantsi kweempumelelo : izinto eziphunyeziweyo zomntwana ziyacuthwa okanye azihoywa.

Ireferensi yebhayibhilografi yokuqaphela umama ogwenxa

I-Bibliographic reference kwiprofayili yomama we-narcissistic

  • Ibhlog yeSOSPN: "Umama oGqibeleleyo weNarcissistic: Inkcazo kunye neempawu"
    (sospn.fr)
  • Isazi ngengqondo: "I-Narcissistic Personality Disorder: Iimpawu kunye noNyango"
    (isayikholojista.fr)
  • I-Psynat: "Oomama be-Narcissistic: Yeyiphi impembelelo kubudlelwane bukamama nentombi"
    (psynat.fr)
  • I-Dérive-sectaire.fr: "Iprofayile kamama othandabuzayo"
    (deive-sectaire.fr)
  • Ukuthetha ngothando: "Uhlalutyo lomama we-narcissistic"
    (parlerdamour.fr)
  • I-Imagyna: "Indlela yokuPhilisa kuMama weNarcissistic"
    (imagyna.fr)
  • Abazali.fr: "Umzali weNarcissistic: Ubachonga njani"
    (abazali.fr)

La manqaku aya kukunika isiqalo sokuqonda ngcono ukuziphatha kwe-narcissistic koomama kunye neziphumo zabo kuphuhliso lwengqondo lwabantwana.

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