Ngokunikezela ngobunono ubomi babo, ii-narcissists zifumanisa ukuba iimeko zangaphandle ziye zalalanisa ngokusisigxina ezona zinto zibalulekileyo kubo. Ngokufutshane, imalunga nokunconywa, ukuwongwa nokuhlonitshwa ngabanye njengomntu okhethekileyo, ophakamileyo nowongamileyo.
Ukuqonda okungcono unxibelelwano phakathi kwe-narcissism kunye nokuzibulala kufuna, ukuba kuya kuphetshwa ngokufanelekileyo, uvavanyo olunzulu kunye nolubanzi.
Ingcamango yokuzibulala-Yintoni leyo?
Iingcinga zokuzibulala zinokusuka kwiingcinga ezidlulayo malunga nokufa, njengokuzibuza ukuba kunjani ukufa ukukuthetha "Kuthekani ukuba ndiyalala kwaye ndingavuki?" », kumalungiselelo angqalileyo okuzibulala, njengokucinga ngendlela nexesha onokuthi ububulale ngalo ubomi bakho. Iingcinga zokuzibulala zokwexeshana zinokuba mbi ngakumbi ukuba azinyangwa. Ukuba ulwa nayo nayiphi na yezi mvakalelo okanye ukuziphatha, lixesha lokufuna uncedo:
- Ukuziva uvaliwe kwabanye okanye ukurhoxa kubahlobo kunye nosapho (narcissistic usapho olugqwethekileyo).
- Ukuziva uvaleleke kwimeko enganyamezelekiyo.
- Ukuziva njengomthwalo kwabanye okanye ukuxelela abanye ukuba baya kuba ngcono ngaphandle kwakho.
Ukuba uneengcinga zokuzibulala, kubalulekile ukufumana inkxaso yempilo yengqondo rhoqo ngesikolo okanye kwikhampasi yengcali okanye umcebisi. Kukwabalulekile ukwazi xa kufuneka ufumane uncedo olukhawulezileyo.
Kutheni i-Narcissistic Pervert Ithetha ngokuzibulala xa ujongene nayo?
Umntu ogqwethekileyo we-narcissistic wathi injongo yamazwi akhe yayikukucaphukisa isithandwa sabo. Kungenxa yokuba bayayazi into ecingwa ngabanye abantu ngokuzibulala, ibe babefuna ukubona enoba abantu babo ababathandayo banokwenza nantoni na ngako. Yiyo le nto xa bejamelene nento abayenzileyo, bathethe ngokuzibulala ukuze umntu ophambi kwabo azive enetyala.
I-PN iyenzela ukucaphukisa lo mntu imbonayo, kwaye yazi ukuba yeyona nto imbi onokuyenza kumntu okuthandayo. Ingakumbi ukuba bahlala malunga neyure ukusuka apho kwaye ugrogriswa ngamapolisa ukuba uzama ukubanqanda.
Kuba umgqwethi wenyaniso we-narcissistic, ungomnye nje isixhobo sokukhohlisa esisetyenziselwa ukufumana ingqalelo kunye nosizi kubantu abangamaziyo. Ngesi sizathu, umntu olilize njenge-narcissist unokuzibulala ngengozi.
I-Narcissistic Pervert kunye neengcinga zokuzibulala-Imiqondiso ekufuneka ilumkise
Ukuba yi-narcissist kukuphazamiseka kobuntu okubangela ukuba abantu babe nengqiqo enzulu yokubaluleka kwabo kunye nesidingo esinzulu sokunconywa kunye nokuqinisekiswa.
Oku kuthetha ukuba abagqwethi be-narcissistic banokuba sesichengeni kakhulu kwiimvakalelo ezibuhlungu zehlazo, ukuthotywa, kunye nokoyiswa xa begxekwa okanye bekhatywa.
- Eli hlazo, lidityaniswa nokungazithembi okuphantsi kwee-FNs, linokubakhokelela kwizisongelo zokuzibulala, kwiingcinga zokuzibulala, nakwiinzame zokuzibulala xa bephoxekile okanye bethotyiwe phambi kwabanye.
- Baninzi abanye oonobangela bokuzibulala, abanye babo banxulunyaniswa nemiba yempilo yengqondo njengokudakumba okanye ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo.
- Nangona kunjalo, ezinye izinto zengqondo zibandakanyeka kule nto, njenge ukungazithembi, imbali yokuzama ukuzibulala kunye nembali yentsapho yokuzibulala kwi-narcissistic perverts.
Ukuba sele uneengcinga zokuzibulala, utshintsho olukhulu ebomini bakho okanye iziganeko ezibuhlungu, ezinjengokufa entsatsheni, ukuphela kobudlelwane, okanye umsebenzi osuka emsebenzini unokwenza ezi mvakalelo zibe namandla ngakumbi okanye rhoqo. Ukuba uziva ngathi iingcinga zakho zokuzibulala ziya ziba mandundu, nantsi imiqondiso elumkisayo ekufuneka uyibukele:
Iindlela zokuziphatha eziyingozi zokuzibulala Narcissistic Perverts:
- Ukuqhuba ngokungakhathali, njengokuqhuba unxilile okanye ungafakanga ibhanti lesihlalo.
- Ukwanda kokusetyenziswa kweziyobisi okanye utywala (umgqwethi we-narcissistic kunye notywala).
- Ukwabelana ngesondo ngokungakhuselekanga.
- Qalisa okanye wandise ukuzenzakalisa.
- Utshintsho kwindlela otya ngayo, nokuba kukuthintela ukutya kwakho okanye ukutya kakhulu.
- Utshintsho kwiipatheni zokulala, nokuba ukulala kakhulu okanye kancinane kakhulu (PN kunye nokulala).
- Utshintsho olubonakalayo kwimo
- Ukucinga, ukuthetha, okanye ukuthumela kwi-intanethi ngokufa okanye ubundlobongela.
Intuthuzelo Yokwexeshana Yokubandezeleka
Kuyimfuneko ukunikela kakhulu Ingqwalaselo engakumbi kwisakhono sokuzibulala sabagqwethi be-narcissistic. Kufuneka sizixabise ngakumbi iimeko ezahlukeneyo ezikubangelayo kunye neyona ndlela ilungileyo yokuphatha abo basengozini kakhulu kuko.
Okumangalisayo kukuba, ukukhuselwa kwee-NP ezifuna ukuzibulala kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba bahluke kwabanye kunokuba bazive bevakalelwa kukuba "bangabakhe." Nangona kunjalo, kukohlukana kwabo ngokulinganayo nomgaqo-siseko kuthi sonke okubabeka emngciphekweni omkhulu wokuzenzakalisa.
Bengazi, baxhelekile Udinga ukuziva unxibelelwano olusondele ngakumbi lwengqondo kunye neemvakalelo kunye nabo babangqongileyo. Kungale ndlela kuphela abanokuthi bakhuselwe kwimvo yokungathandwa nto leyo, mhlawumbi ngaphezu kwayo nayiphi na enye into, ebenza babe sesichengeni sokuphelelwa lithemba okwenza ubomi babo bungabi safanelekela ukuphila .
Naluphi na unyango olunokubanceda kufuneka ke ngoko lujolise kuko nceda ukudibanisa uluntu olukude kakhulu. Kuba abaxhaphazi abaninzi be-narcissistic baye bafumana ukungahoywa okuqatha kwabazali okanye ngokuchaseneyo, ukuzinkcinkca kwabazali, unyango kufuneka, ngandlela ithile, "luphinde lubaqeqeshe". Kwaye oko kunokuba nzima kakhulu, kuba ukhuseleko lwabo luxhathisa kakhulu utshintsho.
Ungaba yinkosi njani yoBomi bakho kwaye ukoyise ukuzibulala?
I-narcissistic pervert kunye nokuzibulala zizinto ezimbini ezihamba kunye. Ngoko ke, ukoyisa oku, kubalulekile ukuchonga izinto ezibangela okanye iimeko. Ezo zikhokelela kwimvakalelo yokungabi nathemba, njengokufa okanye ilahleko, ukusebenzisa utywala, okanye uxinzelelo lobudlelwane.
Amava eengcamango zokuzibulala ahlukile kumntu wonke. Ezi ngcebiso zingasentla ziya kuba luncedo kwabanye abantu, ngelixa abanye baya kukufumanisa kunzima ukuzisebenzisa. Ukuba ezi ngcebiso azikuncedi, loo nto ayithethi ukuba awunakuncedwa. Mhlawumbi ufuna nje indlela elungiselelwe ngakumbi kwimeko yakho. Qhagamshelana nomcebisi okanye ezinye iingcali zempilo yengqondo. Banokukunceda.
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