Ukwazi indlela yokujongana notata one-narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) kunokukunceda uphephe iimvakalelo ezingalunganga ezidla ngokuphuma kolu hlobo lobudlelwane. Kweli nqaku, siza kuxoxa ngeziphumo utata onobuntu be-narcissistic anokuba nazo kubantwana bakhe, kwaye anike iingcebiso malunga nendlela yokuhamba kunye nokujongana nobudlelwane kwixesha elide.
Indlela yokuqaphela utata ogqwethekileyo narcissistic?
Igama elithi narcissism okanye i-narcissist lisetyenziswa rhoqo namhlanje. Inyaniso kukuba abaninzi bethu babonisa ubuncinane enye (okanye ngamanye amaxesha ngaphezulu) yeempawu eziqhelekileyo ezinxulumene ne-narcissistic personality disorder, kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba sonke siphila neNP.
Njengoko igama libonisa, i-narcissism sisifo sobuntu, kwaye ukuphazamiseka, ngokwenkcazo, kuphazamisa imisebenzi eqhelekileyo yengqondo kunye nomzimba. Oku kubalulekile ukugcina engqondweni kuba ukuba uyihlo uphethwe yi-NPD, kunokuba luncedo ukukhumbula ukuba ukuziphatha kwakhe kwe-narcissistic, ngelixa kunokuphazamisa kwaye kudideke, ayilokhetho lwakhe.
Iimpawu zotata we-PN
Utata ophethwe yi-narcissistic personality disorder angabonisa iimpawu ezininzi, kuquka:
- Indlela egqubayo yokuziphatha okanye iintelekelelo ezinkulu.
- Ukusabela ekugxekweni ngehlazo, umsindo okanye ukuthotywa.
- Isidingo esiqhubekayo sokuqwalaselwa ngokugqithiseleyo
- Imfuneko engekho ngqiqweni yokunconywa nokuxatyiswa
- Umona ngokugqithiseleyo, ukusa kwinqanaba lokuba nomsindo
- Ukubonisa iimpawu zokuzixakekisa ngempumelelo okanye amandla.
- Ukungakhathaleli imida yobuqu yabanye
- Ukuzincoma ukuya kwinqanaba lokuzikhukhumeza
- Ukungabi naluvelwano ngokuphandle kwabanye
- Uluvo olungelulo lwelungelo.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, abantu abane-narcissistic personality disorder abakhathali kakhulu ngawe. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba bagxile kwizinto onokubenzela zona kunye neyona ndlela ikhawulezayo yokuyenza.
Ngubani utata ogqwethekileyo narcissistic?
Iimpawu eziqhelekileyo ze-narcissistic kootata ziyi-ego ekhulayo, imfuneko yokuhlala ilungile, kunye nengqiqo engafanelekanga okanye yobuxoki yelungelo. Bambalwa kuthi abacinga ukuba oobawo benza yonke into elungileyo ukusikhulisa. Nangona kunjalo, ukukhuliswa nguyise othanda ukuhlambalaza kudlula le mida. Bagxila kakhulu kumfanekiso wabo njengootata kwaye balawula indlela yokuziphatha kunye nezigqibo zabantwana babo kunye namaqabane.
Utata ogqwethekileyo we-narcissistic uyazenzisa ngokugqithisileyo: uchitha ixesha elininzi enyamekela inkangeleko yakhe kunye nosapho lwakhe. Ufuna ukuncoma kwaye ukhathazeke ngakumbi malunga nombono obonakalayo wemeko kunemeko ngokwayo. Uxakeke kakhulu yimpumelelo: Engqondweni yakhe, uzibona engoyena mntu uphumeleleyo kwigumbi, kwaye i-narcissism yakhe enkulu imenza abe yedwa kubo nabuphi na ubungqina obuphikisana nemibono yakhe.
Akukho nkxaso ngokweemvakalelo: Ootata abangendawo abanalo uvelwano luncinane ngabanye, yaye usenokungaqondi xa umntwana efuna inkxaso yakhe ngokweemvakalelo.
Utata oGqwethiweyo kaNarcissistic-Ubalawula Njani Abantwana Babo?
Nazi iindlela ezintlanu zokukhohlisa oobawo abazisebenzisayo balawule abantwana babo :
1. Ukuziphatha kakubi ngokweemvakalelo:
Utata we-narcissistic ubonakala esenza isicelo, kodwa eneneni sisicelo. Ukuba uthi hayi, beka imida, okanye ubaxelele ukuba uya kubuya emva kwexesha, baya kukucinezela ngakumbi kwaye bakugrogrise ngeziphumo zokuzama ukukufumana ukuba uvume. Ukuba usala, usenokukohlwaya ngokuqumba, ukuthetha amazwi ahlabayo, ukuba nomsindo, ukubamba into ebalulekileyo, okanye ukusongela ngogonyamelo okanye ukonakaliswa. Oku kukunganyaniseki ngokweemvakalelo.
2. Ubutyala ngoloyiko, uxanduva kunye netyala:
Iqhelekile into yokuba oobawo abanoburhalarhume basebenzise uloyiko, imbopheleleko, netyala kwaba bantwana ukuze bavuse uhlobo lwetyala oluya kusibangela ukuba sinikezele kwiminqweno yabo, kwanaxa sityeshela iimfuno namalungelo ethu asisiseko.
3. Ityala:
Narcissistic kunye netyhefu ootata abangendawo bahlazekile okanye bade batyhole abantwana babo ukuba baphinde babajongele phantsi kwaye babajongele phantsi. Oku kusebenza ngokwenene kuba uphando lubonise ukuba xa umntu eziva engafezekanga kwaye enesiphene, bavame ukugoba ngakumbi kwiimfuno zabanye.
4. Unxantathu kunye nothelekiso:
Abazali abangamaNarcissistic bayathanda ukuthelekisa abantwana babo nabanye abantwana bakowenu okanye iintanga zabo ngelizama ukubathoba isidima ngakumbi. Bafuna abantwana babo abalahlwayo balwele ukwamkelwa nokuhoywa kwabo. Kwakhona bafuna ukubenza bazive bephantsi.
Ubudlelwane phakathi kwe-narcissistic pervert utata kunye nentombi yakhe
Amantombazana anootata babo be-FN bahlala bechaza ukuba ootata babo abazange bakwazi ukubanika oko babekufuna ekukhuleni kwabo. Bahlala beziva ngathi ubudlelwane babo abanelisi. Kukwayinto eqhelekileyo ukuba bakhumbule ukuba kufuneka bakhuphisane nabantakwabo ngexesha lobuzali okanye uthando oluvela kuyise wabo onenkani.
Ezinye iintombi ezikhulileyo zithi ubudlelwane obuyityhefu busenempembelelo enkulu kubomi babo. Abaninzi baziva bengakhuselekanga kwaye bahlala bephantsi koxinzelelo lokwenza ngcono, nanjengabadala. Abantu abanengxaki yobuntu be-narcissistic badla ngokuthanda ukwenza izinto ngendlela egqibeleleyo, kwaye ootata banokwenza abantwana babo abadala, ngakumbi iintombi zabo, bazive bengakhuselekanga kwaye bengafaneleki, bangakwazi ukufumana uthando kwaye bengalufanelanga.
Ukuziphatha kukaTata wePN kwintombi yakhe
Utata okhohlakeleyo ongendawo uya kuhlala exhaphaza ngokweemvakalelo, ekhohlisa intombi yakhe ngokuyigxeka okanye ukuyisongela. Unokumsebenzisa njenge-pawn kwimidlalo yakhe okanye amenze azive enoxanduva ngolonwabo lwakhe, kwaye uya kubamba uthando kunye nothando kuye ukuba akafezekisi ulindelo lwakhe. Ngaphandle koko, akayi kuthandabuza ukumtyhila kwi-gaslight ukuba iyamfanela.
Ootata abaninzi abanesithukuthezi nabo bayabaxhaphaza ngokwasenyameni, enoba kukubethwa, ukuqhwatywa, okanye olunye uhlobo logonyamelo. Oku kuqheleke ukuba yindlela yokubanga amandla kunye nokulawula intombi yakho. Kwaye kaninzi, abantwana abaninzi abahlala notata we-PN, bajika babe i-narcissistic igqwethekile intombazana.
UTata ogqwethekileyo weNarcissistic-Izinto ezinetyhefu neziyingozi kubantwana bakhe?
Ootata abakhohlakeleyo beNarcissistic badla ngokubangela ukwenzakala ebantwaneni babo. Ngokomzekelo, basenokuyaphula imida, babacinezele abantwana babo ngokungabaniki uthando (de bafeze), baze batyeshele iimfuno zabantwana babo kuba iintswelo zabo ziza kuqala.
Ekubeni umfanekiso ubaluleke kakhulu kuma-narcisists, banokufuna imfezeko kubantwana babo. Umntwana kayise onama-narcissistic usenokuziva ecinezelekile ukuba andise iitalente zakhe, inkangeleko, ubukrelekrele okanye charisma. Kunokuba yingozi gqitha ukuba baphumeze iminqweno kayise yaye kunokuba buhlungu gqitha ukuba bayasilela. Akukho uloyiso lunokwenzeka.
Narcissistic Pervert kunye nosapho lwakhe
I-narcissist inombono we-dichotomous wobuntu: abantu banokuba yimithombo yonikezelo lwe-narcissistic (kwaye, emva koko, i-devalued kunye ne-overvalued), okanye abawufezi lo msebenzi (kwaye, ke, abanaxabiso, bangabi naxabiso). I-narcissist ifumana lonke uthando aludingayo kuye. Ukusuka ngaphandle, ufuna ukuvunywa, ukuqinisekiswa, ukunconywa, ukunconywa, ukuhoywa - ngamanye amazwi, imisebenzi yangaphandle yomda we-Ego.
- Akalufuni – kwaye akalufuni – uthando lwabazali bakhe, abazalwana noodade bakhe, okanye ukuthandwa ngabantwana bakhe. Ubajonga njengababukeli kwiholo yeqonga yobukhulu bakhe obugqithisileyo.
- I-PN ifuna ukubachukumisa, ibothuse, iboyikise, ibachukumise, ibakhuthaze, itsale umdla wabo, ibathobe okanye ibaqhathe.
- Ilinganisa kwaye ilinganisa uluhlu olupheleleyo lweemvakalelo kwaye isebenzisa nayiphi na indlela yokuphumeza ezi ziphumo. Uyaxoka (i-narcissists ngamaxoki e-pathological - bona ngokwabo bubuxoki).
- I-Narcissistic pervert idlala imfesane okanye, kwelinye icala, ixhathisa kwaye ithembekile. Uyamangalisa kwaye akhanye ngezakhono ezikhethekileyo zengqondo okanye zomzimba kunye nempumelelo, okanye ngokuziphatha okuxatyisiweyo ngamalungu eqela. narcissistic usapho olugqwethekileyo.
Ubuntwana boMgqwethi weNarcissistic
Abagqwethi be-Narcissistic babonakaliswa ngumfanekiso ongalunganga wabo. Baxokisa abanye kwaye bababeke phantsi ukuze bakhulise ukuzithemba kwabo. Benza ngathi bangcono kunabanye, bafuna ukunconywa, kwaye bayazazi ubuchule babo bokukhohlisa, ngelixa bengenalo uvelwano xa bebona abanye bebandezeleka.
Amaxesha amaninzi, abagqwethi be-narcissistic ngamadoda. Banokubangela ingozi kwiqabane labo lothando, kodwa inokuba ngumntu osebenza naye, umhlobo, okanye ilungu losapho. Izizathu zolu kuziphatha azizange zichongwe, kodwa izazi zengqondo zikholelwa ukuba umntwana okhuselweyo ngokugqithiseleyo, kunye nokulindela okuphezulu, kungabangela. Kwelinye icala, abagqwethi be-narcissistic nabo babenokuthi baxhatshazwe okanye bangahoywa njengabantwana.
UTata ogqwethekileyo weNarcissistic-Hamba okanye Hlala?
Ukukhula nomzali onendelelo okanye ukuziva ngathi ungumntwana ongathandwa nako kusenokuba buhlungu. Ukuba ukwimeko enjalo, kungokwemvelo ukuziva ubhidekile kwaye uthandabuza malunga nokuba wenze ntoni emva koko kwaye uzibuze ukuba wenze ntoni ngokuchasene notata okhohlisayo. Kukho iindlela zokujonga ngakumbi imeko, ukuseka imida eyimfuneko, uze wenze isigqibo malunga nendlela yokuqhubela phambili nolu lwalamano.
Isisombululo esisebenza kakuhle kukunciphisa unxibelelwano okanye ukuphelisa ukudibanisa noyise we-narcissistic. Ukuqulunqa isicwangciso kunye nengcali yezempilo yengqondo kunokukunceda ufumane amaqhinga akhuselekileyo.
Kuyanceda kakhulu ukunciphisa unxibelelwano ngokucothayo, kunokuba buhlungu kuni nobabini ukuba ngokukhawuleza niyeke ukuthetha omnye nomnye. Ngaphezu koko, banokuziva belusizi kwaye belahlekelwe ngendlela efanayo nawe.
Usenokungabi nezixhobo zeemvakalelo zokubonisa le ntlungu ngokufanelekileyo, kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba akayiva.
I-Bibliographic reference ukuqonda ukuziphatha kukayise ogqwethekileyo we-narcissistic
Nalu ukhetho lweembekiselo zebhayibhilografi malunga nomba ootata abagqwethekileyo benarcissistic:
- UFleming, J. (2013). Umgqwethi weNarcissistic – Iinguqulelo ze-Atelier.
- Marty, P. (2014). Fathers Toxic: xa uyise igqwethe narcissistic –Uhlelo Le Courrier du Livre.
- ULévy, J. (2017). I-Psychoanalysis kunye ne-narcissism – Iinguqulelo L’Harmattan.
- Bouchard, M. (2018). I-Narcissistic Pervert kunye namaxhoba akhe: Ukuqonda ukuzikhusela ngcono – Health Editions.
- Charpak, G., & Grégoire, L. (2016). Ukuphathwa kakubi ngokweemvakalelo kwisibini – Iintlelo zikaAlbin Michel.
- USargueil, J. (2019). Umntwana kunye ne-Narcissistic Pervert: Ukuqonda ngcono ukwenza ngcono -Editions L'Esprit du temps.
- Kahane, S. (2020). Narcissism: ububi obufihlakeleyo –Editions Eyrolles.
Ezi ncwadi ziya kukuvumela ukuba uphonononge iimpawu zootata abakhohlakeleyo be-narcissistic kunye neziphumo zabo kubantwana kunye nosapho.
isiphelo
Ukuqhawula unxibelelwano nomntu kulinyathelo elibaxayo yaye ngokuqhelekileyo kufanele kusetyenziswe njengelinge lokugqibela, ingakumbi xa libandakanya ilungu lentsapho. Kubalulekile ukuba uzame ukuthetha nomntu, ubeke imida, kwaye wenze ubudlelwane obungenampembelelo embi kubomi bakho.
Kodwa ukuba ukugcina unxibelelwano nomntu omthandayo kubuhlungu kakhulu okanye kuyingozi, ukuqhawula amaqhina kunye nokuhamba kunokuba sesona sisombululo silungileyo kwimpilo yakho yengqondo. Khumbula: "Uyenza ngenxa yokuba impilo yakho yengqondo, ukuzithemba kwakho kunye nempilo yakho ibaluleke kakhulu kuwe kunokugcina ubudlelwane nelungu losapho olune-narcissistic.".
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