1. Ukusekwa kokuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo elixhatshazwa lixhoba layo:
Obu buchule buyinto eqhelekileyo kubo bonke ubudlelwane obunetyhefu. Umbulali uya kuqinisekisa kwasekuqaleni ukuba ixhoba lakhe liphelele "likhoboka" ukuba ungaphinde uphume. Uya kutshintshana phakathi kothando kunye nokungcatsha, ubuxoki kunye nokubonakala kwenyani ukuze ixhoba lakhe libe sebumnyameni ngokupheleleyo.
2. Iingxaki kwiinjongo zakhe:
Uya kuphawula ukuba amazwi akhe maxa wambi akangqinelani, ade angqubane neenjongo zakhe zokwenene. Uyakuhlala ukwintandabuzo kuba oku kuphikisana kunokujikela kuwe ngokukhawuleza. Akacacanga entlokweni yakhe.
3. Ubuxoki obufihliweyo, amabinzana akhohlisayo:
Ngaba ukhe wayiqaphela into yokuba uyakutyhola ngexesha lengxabano yenu? Ewe, awuphuphi, yinyani. Uyayazi indlela yokulisebenzisa eli binzana "Ndiyahamba xa ungandifuni" ukukutyhafisa, kwaye lo ngumzekelo nje omnye. Ukutshintsha imeko ibe yinzuzo yakhe yeyona nto ibalaseleyo yakhe.
4. I-egocentrism, utyekelo lwe-narcissistic:
Uzicingela ngokugqithiseleyo, eqhayisa ngokumfanela kwakhe, italente yakhe kunye nento ayenzayo ngoku. Ubajongela phantsi abanye, ingakumbi iqabane lakhe elixhatshazwayo ukuze lizive libhetele kunabanye, yaye oko usoloko ekwenza oko. Ukuzincoma kunye nokuhlazisa ummelwane kabani kuhlala kuyeyona nto iphambili kuye.
5. Umona owenziwe wagqithisa ukuba nobutyebi:
Ixhoba liya kucinga ukuba ikhwele labo liqhelekileyo, ngothando, kodwa liphosakele kakhulu. Ubunini be narcissistic umfazi ogqwethekileyo ingaphaya kokuqonda kuba ithanda ukukhohlisa, ukwenza ixhoba layo likholelwe ukuba indawo eyingqongileyo ayilunganga kuye okanye kwimpilo yakhe yengqondo.
6. Ubuxoki obunyanzelekileyo:
Umfazi ogqwethekileyo ulala ngathi uyaphefumla. Ngokwenene, ukukhohlisa kuhlala kuhamba nge amanga ukuze ngaloo ndlela alawule ixhoba lakhe. Oku kunokubonwa kwiinkcukacha zemizuzu yobomi bemihla ngemihla, uya kuqaphela ukuba ifihla iinyaniso, ifihla izinto, njl.
7. Uvuthela kushushu nokubanda:
Akasweli mdla wokukuthanda kwaye kwangaxeshanye uyakutshutshisa. Kukwenza ube mnene kwaye ube ndlongondlongo ngaxeshanye. Amazwi ahlabayo, athob’ isidima nanyelisayo aqhelekile phakathi kwayo.
8. Ucenga abo bamngqongileyo ukuba bacace kwaye bazimisele xa besenza izigqibo:
Ngokungafaniyo neyona nto imbi kakhulu ayenzayo, akakuyeki ukuzingisa kwakhe phambi kwabanye ngokubanyanzelela, ngokuthe ngqo okanye ngobulumko, ukuba baziphathe ngokugqibeleleyo. Unyanzelisa ukunyaniseka, ukuthetha ngokuphandle kunye nokucaca kwinto ayenzayo naye, izinto angazenziyo ngokupheleleyo.
9. Lusasaza uluvo loluntu ukuba lulawule ngcono:
Imbono eqhelekileyo ayimkholisi umfazi okhohlakeleyo. Uyathanda ukwahlula abantu, axele into ethethwe ngomnye umntu aze ayiphinde komnye.
10. Kuthethwa ngaye ngendlela embi:
Ekubeni ekwazi ukugqama, naxa engekho, abantu bathetha ngasemva. Ngokukodwa njengoko ngamanye amaxesha ekhuthaza uloyiko kunye nokuthula kwabo bamngqongileyo, badla ngokuthetha ngezenzo zakhe kunye namazwi xa umqolo wakhe ujikiwe.
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Ukuze umqonde, kufuneka wazi ukuba akazange abe umgqwethi we-narcissistic ngenxa yolonwabo olunyulu. Mhlawumbi umzali ongekhoyo nongakhathaliyo, umama obandayo nozolileyo ngoyena nobangela.
- Lo wasetyhini uphuhlisa iinkalo ezininzi: unobuso obuninzi obuguqukayo ngokweminqweno yakhe okanye okusingqongileyo okumngqongileyo. Qaphela ukuba ukwabonisa ezinye iimpawu ze-bipolarity. Ngamanye amaxesha uyathetha, umnandi kwaye unobubele kwaye ngamanye amaxesha akanyamezeleki.
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Ngaba unokwenza ukuba i-narcissist ekhohlisayo ithandane?
Lo mbuzo udumileyo ubuzwa ngamandla ngamaqabane angamaxhoba okugqwetheka kwe-narcissistic. Impendulo nguhayi, ekubeni le yamva iqala kwaye eyona nto iphambili yi-pathology efumana indawo phakathi kombulali.
Ngoko ke, kunzima, okanye akunakwenzeka, ukuba umfazi okhohlakeleyo azive emthanda ummelwane wakhe. Ubona kuphela ukukhohlisa kwixhoba lakhe, uyondla ngokubandezeleka kwabo, uloyiko lwabo kunye namathandabuzo okufumana amandla, ngaphandle kokuqwalasela uthando olunokubakho.
Iimvakalelo ezinjengothando zikulinganisa kuphela kwaye zikhokelela ekubeni akukho nto ihlala.
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Enyanisweni, abantwana bakhe bangamaxhoba nje alishwa eqhinga lakhe. Ungumama ongakhathaliyo nongenaluthando ekhaya, kwaye abantwana bakhe bancama ukwenza oko akucelayo ukuze bafumane uthando lwakhe.
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