Ethandweni, ayisiyiyo yonke into eyenzekayo njengentsomi. Izenzo ezimbi ziqala ukubonakala kubudlelwane bothando kule mihla. Uthando lwebhombu okanye ubudlelwane bothando obugqwethekileyo. Ngaba ufuna ukwazi ngakumbi? Funda kude kube sekupheleni.
Yintoni uthando ibhombu?
Uthando ibhombu, ngokoqobo kunjalo "uthando" et du "ibhombu", okanye ukuthanda iibhombu. Bubuchule obusetyenziswa ngumgqwetheki we-narcissistic kule meko ukuba alawule ngokupheleleyo ixhoba lakhe. Uthembele kuye ngokupheleleyo kwaye ukholelwa ngokuqinileyo ekuzinzeni kobudlelwane babo. Oku ukuzithemba okulahlekisayo xa sele imisiwe, uya kubamfamekisa ixhoba kwaye abakhokelele ukuya ukuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo engenasiphelo.
Thanda iBombing, iGhosting entsha
Ezi ndlela zigqwethekileyo kudla ngokuthethwa ngazo ngokwahlukileyo omnye komnye, kodwa ekugqibeleni ziyadityaniswa.
- Ibhombu yothando sele iqalile, umntu uyahamba kwaye akabuyi. Imiyalezo kunye neetekisi ziyeka ngokukhawuleza. Emva kokuncamathela okunzulu kuza a umgama ongachazwanga evela kwigqwetha le-narcissistic. Umoya uyasebenza.
- Le ndlela yesiporho ibonakala kule meko kwiintanethi zentlalo, iisayithi zokuthandana apho imiyalezo "shushu" kwaye ezaliswe luthando wagqabhuka. Ukusebenzisana kulula kunye nokusetyenziswa kwe-emoji yentliziyo, amagama amnandi kulula ukuwabhala.
Abantu abakhohlakeleyo bayayazi indlela yokusebenzisa ezi ndlela zimbini zidityanisiwe ukutshabalalisa zabo isisulu, uthando olukhulu kunye noxolo olufileyo.
Uthando lweBombing, iqhinga leNarcissistic Pervert
Sinako ukuba sele ufanelekile umntu onetyhefu njengogqwetheki we-narcissistic kubudlelwane. Ngoko ke yamkela iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokukuvalela ixesha elide. Ubudlelwane obuyityhefu buya kuba sisiphelo sexhoba. Izizathu zezi:
- Ukuqala kobudlelwane bakho kunokuba yinto engathandekiyo, phantse intsomi eya kuphela ngomtshato kunye nabantwana abaninzi;
- uya kuxutywa ngothando, kwaye ewe, ugxininiswe njenge-goose ukuba ngamanye amaxesha uya kuziva ngathi "incinci" ibonakaliswe;
- esi sichazi "kakhulu" siya kukutsalela kwi-infernal spiral of phantse uthando lokwenyani kunye nokukhohlisa okuthe ngqo;
Uthando lwebhombu lubonakala njani?
Kufuneka nje ube nentloko epholileyo kwaye uphaphe kakhulu ukuze uyibhaqe.
- Umntu uya kukufuthanisela uthando et ingqalelo. Ngokuqinisekileyo uya kwaneliswa ziimvakalelo ezakhayo kunye nenkolelo yobuxoki;
- izipho, izibhengezo ezigqithisileyo zothando, izithembiso zobomi bonke, iprojekthi eqhelekileyo yexesha elizayo, umshado kwaye inzala ikwiprogram, unokuvuyiswa kuphela;
- xa sele uza kudilika, uya kubuya egadula ngamaza amatsha othando nokuthantamisa;
- umthuthumbisi ukuthiyile ukucaphuka kwaye uya kuqinisekisa ukuba uthi ewe kulo naluphi na uhlobo lwempatho akunika yona;
- Emva koko kuya kufika ixesha apho umbulali eqala ukuba kude, ebanda kwaye engathandeki. Uya kulamba uthando lwakhe lobuxoki nengqalelo;
- Uthando ibhombu kunokukhokelela ukuphatha ixesha elizayo
Kwaye kulapho aya kuba ephumelele kwi-Love bombing kunye ne-Ghosting.
Uthando lwebhombu: ukuhenda okanye ukukhohlisa?
Le ndlela ilandelayo esetyenziswa ngumbulali:
- Le injongo ye-narcissistic pervert kukukuhenda ngendlela ethandekayo, ukuze ube likhoboka ngokukhawuleza;
- Apho kuwe ebethelwa ngamazwi othando, izijekulo zothando ezigqithisileyo;
- Uya kuqinisekisa ukuba uphambene eluthandweni naye ukuze uqiniseke ukuba awuyi kubaleka;
- Ucwangcisa kunye nawe kwixesha elizayo, ebonisa ukuba zonke iiprojekthi zeminyaka ezayo zibekwe ngokukhawuleza;
- Ukubetha kwakho amaxesha ngamaxesha awulibaleki, kwahluke ngokupheleleyo kwinto obuyiva phambi kwakhe, nangona mhlawumbi yimvakalelo nje;
- xa sele ukhoboke ngokupheleleyo, uya kukushiya udidekile kwaye ngokulula uya kuguqukela kwelinye ixhoba;
- emva kokuvuka ephupheni lakho, uya kuqonda ukuba iiparamitha aziqhelekanga, kodwa uya kubuyela kuwe njengangaphambili, ekweyisela ukuba uliqabane lomphefumlo wakhe;
Ukuba udibana neminye yemiqondiso yakhe, hlala uphaphile ngezenzo zakhe, kukukhohlisa nje. Ukuba ucinga ngokuhenda, kuphela inkohliso elilize.
Reverse Love Bombing
Le reverse uthando ibhombu, ibhekisa kwimeko apho abantu abangengobantu be-narcissistic bazifumana betyala imali ngokugqithisileyo kubudlelwane nomntu one-narcissistic. Ngokuqhelekileyo, "ibhombu yothando" inxulunyaniswa nama-narcissists agqithisa iithagethi zabo ngothando olugqithisileyo kunye nengqalelo. Ukubuyisela umva ibhombu yothando ichaza indlela yokuziphatha kwabantu abathi, ngenxa yesidingo esinzulu sokuqinisekiswa nothando, bahambe umgama omde bekholisa kwaye bachukumise iqabane le-narcissistic. Oku kuziphatha kunokubandakanya ukuzincama okubalulekileyo, utyalo-mali lwemali, kunye nomzamo weemvakalelo, okubonisa inkolelo yokuba kufuneka "bazuze" uthando kunye nokuvunywa kwe-narcissist. Ungaze uyenze le nto! Ugqibelele kanye ngendlela oyiyo kwaye akukho sizathu sokwenza yonke into ukukholisa i-PN. Ufanelwe ngcono!
Iimbekiselo zeBibliographic
Nazi iimbekiselo ezisixhenxe zebhayibhili kumxholo “wothando lokuqhushumba”:
- Umculi, uM. T. (2003). Amahlelo aphakathi kwethu: ukuqonda kunye nokulwa namandla abo okuhenda. EParis: Iinguqulelo ze-l'Homme.
- Demers-Morabito, M.-E. (2020). "Yintoni uthando lokuqhubhisa ibhombu?" ". Psychologist.net.
- Rozenblum, J. (2023). Isibini: "Ibhombu yothando isetyenziswa ngabantu abanqwenela ukuthoba omnye." Kutheni Gqirha.
- Strutzenberg, CC, Wiersma-Mosley, JD, Jozkowski, KN, & Becnel, JN (2017). "Ukuqhunyiswa kwebhombu: indlela ye-narcissistic yokwakhiwa kobudlelwane." Ukufunyanwa, Ijenali yoMfundi yeDale Bumpers College of Agricultural, Food and Life Sciences, 18, 81-88.
- Beri, R. (2024). "Uphononongo malunga neBombi yoThando, i-Narcissism kunye nokuphathwa gadalala ngokweemvakalelo phakathi kwabantu abadala abancinci kubudlelwane kunye nemeko." Ijenali yaMazwe ngaMazwe yeNdlela eziPhakamileyo kwiiNdlela zeNgqondo, 2(6).
- "Uthando lokuqhushumba-i-Wikipedia".
- "Uthando lokuqhushumba: Lumkela esi sixhobo sokukhohlisa." Anahana.
Le mithombo ibonelela ngokuqonda okunzulu malunga nokuqhunyiswa kwebhombu yothando kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo, kubandakanywa ubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu kunye nokukhohlisa ihlelo.
isiphelo
"Uthando lokuqhunyiswa kwebhombu" licebo lokukhohlisa elidibanisa ukuhenda kunye nokuxhatshazwa ngokweemvakalelo. Emva kokugqithiswa kwengqalelo kunye nothando, oluhlala luhlelelekile ekuqaleni kobudlelwane, lufihla ipateni enetyhefu ejoliswe ukubambisa ixhoba ekuxhomekekeni ngokweemvakalelo. Lo mcimbi, uhlala unxulunyaniswa nokuziphatha kwabagqwethekileyo be-narcissistic, kunokubangela umonakalo omkhulu ngokwasengqondweni. Ukuphaphile, ukuphulaphula iimvakalelo zikabani nokuluhlolisisa ngokufanelekileyo ulwalamano lwakhe kubalulekile ukuze uzikhusele kubuchule obunjalo. Khumbula, uthando lokwenyani alufuni ukukhohlisa okanye ukulawula.
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