La ikhwele labagqwethekileyo benarcissistic kuxhomekeke kwindlela abaziva ngayo ngeziqu zabo. Kunzima kwaye ngamanye amaxesha akunakwenzeka ukuba i-narcissist ithembe nabani na ongomnye. Enyanisweni, okukhona ulwalamano lwenu lusondela ngakumbi, kokukhona engayi kukuthemba ngakumbi. Narcissists boyika nabuphi na ubuhlobo obusondeleyo okanye sesichengeni kuba boyika ukuba uya kubona ukungafezeki kwabo kwaye bagwebe okanye babalahle.
Kutheni i-Narcissistic Pervert inekhwele?
Utyekelo lwamaNarcissists lokuba nomona lunokuxhomekeka kakhulu kwimeko yabo yeemvakalelo.
Ngelishwa, njengoko usenokuba uqaphele, imeko yeemvakalelo ye-narcissist yinto eguqukayo. Abantu abanengxaki yobuntu be-narcissistic banokugxeka kwizinto ebezingenanjongo yokubalimaza - ngokuqhelekileyo xa umsantsa ophakathi kwe-facade abawubekayo kunye nobuntu babo bokwenyani ivezwa.
Oku kubizwa ngokuba yi-narcissistic injury, ebeka emngciphekweni ukushiya i-narcissist kwimeko yokungazithembi. Emva kokulimala kwe-narcissistic, ngoko ke sinokulindela ukuba ii-narcissists zibe nomona ngakumbi.
Indlela yokuqonda i-PN enomona?
Nazi ezinye iimpawu zokuqaphela ikhwele le-narcissistic pervert:
1. Banomona ngento yonke
Akukho siqinisekiso sibonakala senza umahluko, kuba ii-FNs zikuthiyile ngokunzulu kwaye ziyakugatya okwazo ukungafezeki okulihlazo.
Abagqwethi beNarcissistic abakhe babonakale beluthemba uthando lwabanye kwaye bahlala bekuvavanya ngokuziphatha okubi kunye nokubi ukuzama ukufumana indawo yakho yokwaphuka.
Ukungazithembi kunye nokuzithemba kusentliziyweni ye-narcissism. Oku kungabikho kokuzixabisa ngokwemvelo kubavumela ukuba babe nomona ngokulula, umona kakhulu. Kwaye hayi nje kuye nabani na onokuba nomdla wothando kuwe, kodwa kuye nabani na okanye nantoni na enokutsalela ingqalelo kude kuye. Lo mona uya kubangela ukuvutha komsindo kunye nokuziphatha okuyingxaki.
2. Imidlalo ye-PN
Ukuba ukhe waba neqabane elidlala ngothando phambi kwakho, lincokole nabantu ongabaziyo abanomtsalane, lizame ukwenza ukuba uzive ngathi awulunganga, usenokuba uthandana nothile.
Kwaye mhlawumbi babeyenza ngabom. Uphando olutsha lubonisa ukuba abantu ababonisa amanqanaba aphezulu eempawu ze-narcissistic ngobuchule babangela umona kumaqabane abo ukuze bafezekise iinjongo ezithile: Ukulawula, kwezinye iimeko, okanye ukunyuka kokuzithemba.
Imiba yomona weNarcissistic Pervert
Izizathu zale midlalo yentloko yothando ziyahluka, nangona kunjalo, kuxhomekeke kuhlobo lwe-narcissism. I-Grandiose narcissists ibike ukuba ikhuthazwa ngumnqweno wabo wokufumana amandla kunye nokulawula kubudlelwane. Ama-narcisists asesichengeni, kwelinye icala, azama ukuvuselela umona ngenxa yezizathu ezininzi.
Ulawulo lunye, njengokuvavanya amandla obudlelwane, ukufuna ukhuseleko kubudlelwane, ukubuyisela ukuzithemba okuphantsi, kunye nokuphindezela oko bakubona njengokuziphatha kwabo okubi. Oku kunokuqwalaselwa njenge umona ogulayo.
Kutheni i-Narcissistic Pervert ifuna ukwenza iqabane lakhe libe nomona?
Kwimeko ye-narcissistic perverts, olu hlobo lokuziphatha komona ludla ngokuyilwa ukwenza ukuba ukholelwe ukuba banomdla komnye umntu.
Uya kuchitha ixesha kunye nomhlobo wakhe omtsha, phambi kwakho okanye akunjalo, kwaye uya kuthetha ngaye ngokufudumeleyo kunye nokuncoma. Iziphumo zabonisa umahluko phakathi kwezi ntlobo zimbini zeenarcisists. I-Grandiose narcissists yenza amaqabane abo abe nomona ukuba abe namandla ngakumbi kunye nokulawula phezu kwabo.
Abagqwethi beNarcissistic nabo bayayenza ukuze bafumane amandla kunye nolawulo, kodwa banezinye iinjongo:
- Impindezelo: Ukuba wenze into yokubacaphukisa (enokuba lula ukuyenza), basenokuzama ukukwenza ube nomona njengendlela yokuziphindezela.
- Ubuwena: ukuba unomona ngomntu, kufuneka abaluleke kuwe ngandlela thile. Ke ikhwele lakho libanika ukonyusa kancinci ukuzithemba kwabo.
- Vavanya ubudlelwane: Kuba iinarcissists zihlala zingenaluvelwano, kunzima kubo ukwazi ukuba uziva njani. Ukufumana oku kuqonda, banokufuna ukubangela ukusabela okucacileyo kuwe.
- Ukhuseleko: usenokuba uzama ukukuqinisekisa malunga nokuqina kobudlelwane bakho. Kufana nokungena eludongeni ukuze ubone ukuba imoto yakho ikhuselekile na. Kodwa izenzo zoochuku ngokufuthi zingokweemvakalelo kunokuba ziqiqe ngokuzolileyo.
Umahluko phakathi kweNgqwetheko yeNarcissistic kunye neNekhwele eligulayo
Un I-PN ngumntu one-ego ephakanyisiweyo kunye nomqondo ongekho ngqiqweni wokuziphakamisa. Unokubangela isiphithiphithi kubudlelwane bakhe ngenxa yomnqweno wakhe wokubonakalisa amandla akhe okanye ukongama phezu kweqabane lakhe kunye nokungakhathali kwakhe ngeemvakalelo okanye impilo-ntle yakhe. I-Narcissism ngokwenene inxulunyaniswe nayo ubundlobongela ngokwasemzimbeni kunye/okanye ngokwasengqondweni kubudlelwane, oko kukuthi, kwiindlela zokuziphatha ezinjengokulawula iqabane lakho, ukuzihlukanisa, ukugxeka kunye nezinye iintlobo zokuziphatha kakubi ezinokubangela umonakalo omkhulu ngokwasengqondweni.
Konke oku kunokukwenza ucinge ukuba kulula ngokwenene okanye kucacile ukuba uhlale kude nabagqwethi be-narcissistic kubudlelwane, kodwa ayizizo zonke ii-NPs ezibonisa ukuziphatha kwabo okugwenxa kwe-narcissistic ngokucacileyo, ngakumbi ekuqaleni kobudlelwane.
Ukuxhatshazwa kunye nomona we-narcissistic pervert
La umona du umgqwethi we-narcissistic idla ngokunxulunyaniswa ngokusondeleyo nendlela ubani aziphethe ngayoabus. Olu hlobo lobuntu luyakhula kwisidingo esiqhubekayo sokulawula kunye nokulawula abo bakungqongileyo. Umona ke uba yindlela yokusebenzisa olu lawulo, ngakumbi xa ebona isoyikiso kwimvakalelo yakhe yokuphakama okanye ukunyaniseka kweqabane lakhe.
Ngokungafaniyo nekhwele eliqhelekileyo, elo le-narcissistic pervert ligqithise kwaye alinangqiqo. Izibonakalisa kwizityholo ezingenasihlahla, kwiindlela zokuziphatha zokubekw' esweni kunye neenzame eziphindaphindiweyo zokuzahlula abanye. Ezi zimo zengqondo zidla ngokukhokelela ekuxhatshazweni ngokweemvakalelo okanye ngokwasemzimbeni, okujoliswe ekumiseleni kwakhona ulawulo olupheleleyo kwixhoba. Ukuxhatshazwa ke ngoko kuba yimpendulo ngokuthe ngqo kwikhwele le-narcissist, ongenakukwazi ukuthwala ingcamango yokulahlekelwa kolawulo lwakhe.
Iimbekiselo zeBibliographic malunga nomona we-narcissistic pervert
- Miller, A. (1983). Idrama yomntwana onesiphiwo. EParis: PUF.
- UKernberg, O. (1975). Iimeko zeBorderline kunye nePathological Narcissism. ENew York: uAron.
- Vaknin, S. (2001). Ukuzithanda Okubi: I-Narcissism iphinde yaqwalaselwa. EPrague & Skopje: Narcissus Publications.
- Akhtar, S. (2009). Isichazi-magama esiBanzi sePsychoanalysis. ELondon: Iincwadi zeKarnac.
- Grilo, CM, & McGlashan, TH (2001). "Uzinzo kunye nekhosi yokuphazamiseka kobuntu: Isidingo sokuqwalasela ukuzinza kweempawu. » Ijenali yeZiphazamiso zobuntu, I-15 (4), 300-312.
Isiphelo - Ngaba i-Narcissistic Pervert ithembekile?
I-PN ayikathembeki kodwa basadlala umdlalo apho kufuneka abonakale engcono kuneqabane lakhe. Woyise umona inokuba nzima ngokufanayo kumntu ogqwethekileyo we-narcissistic. Khumbula ukuba i-narcissists idinga indawo yokugcina ingqalelo kunye nokuncoma ukugcina ukuzithemba kwabo, yiyo loo nto benomona kakhulu.
Bahlala bejonga ubudlelwane ngokwembono yentengiselwano, oko kukuthi, malunga noko banokukufumana kubo.
Ke ngoko, ukuba bakubudlelwane nawe, kusenokwenzeka ukuba kungenxa yokuba basatsala izixhobo zabo zokuzonwabisa kuwe. Ukuba uyawushiya, uyawunqumla loo mthombo. Kwaye ukuqonda le meko, umntu ogqwethekileyo we-narcissistic akanakuthembeka kuba kuye lukhuphiswano.
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