I-Narcissistic Perverse Family-Isebenza Njani Le Clan?

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Ukuba kufutshane nomntu ogqwethekileyo we-narcissistic akukho lula, ngoko ke ukuhlala nosapho lonke olugqwethekileyo lwe-narcissistic kuncinci. Kodwa imalunga nantoni ngokwenene? Isebenza njani i-narcissistic egqwethekileyo yosapho kwaye wazi njani ukuba ukwimeko entle xa ujongana nosapho olunjalo? 

I-Narcissistic Perverse Family-Yintoni?

Akusoloko kulula ukuchaza ngokuchanekileyo usapho olugqwethekileyo lwe-narcissistic. Kodwa eyona meko ixhaphakileyo yeyokuba omnye wabazali ungumgqwethi we-narcissistic. So noba ngutata okanye umama unale ngxaki yokuziphatha and he or she will exert their evil on family yabo. Kwezinye iimeko, le ngxaki idluliselwa kwamanye amalungu entsapho. Nangona kunjalo, kusapho olubi lwe-narcissistic, kuhlala kukho ubuntu obulawulayo kwaye usapho lujikeleza ngobu bubi bulawulayo. Iqabane kunye nabantwana bexhoba baya kufuna ukukholisa lo mntu kwaye baya kuthobela olu luhlu. 

Isebenza njani iNarcissistic Perverse Family?

  • Usapho olukhohlakeleyo lwenarcissistic lusebenza phantsi kobomi obungqongqo obulawulwa ngumgqwetheki olawulayo. Ezi isenokuba zizithethe ezifana nokuthanda imali, ukuthiya abanye abantu, ukubukulwa kwabemi basemzini, ukukhutshelwa ngaphandle kwabo bangengabo abendlu. 
  • Igqwirha livuthela kushushu nokubanda kolu sapho. Eneneni, umtyholi obalaseleyo entsatsheni usebenzisa igunya elikhohlisayo kumalungu esizwe sakhe. Ulibandeza iqabane nabantwana bakhe ukuze bangabi nabuntu. L Ukuphela komntu obalayo kukuba umgqwethi we-narcissistic.
  • Njengoko egqalwa “njengentloko” yentsapho, umtyholi uyaqinisekisa ukuba intsapho yakhe iyamkhonza yaye iyalihlonela igunya lakhe. Amaxhoba akayi kuba nakhetho. Uyalulawula usapho lwakhe, ukusa kwinqanaba lokulususa eluntwini lonke, kubahlobo okanye kwamanye amalungu osapho. 

Umlingane we-narcissistic pervert

Kufuneka iqondwe into yokuba umntu ogqwethekileyo we-narcissistic uziva esemngciphekweni othile ngaphakathi kwakhe athi abonakalise kwabo bamngqongileyo ngokuziphatha kwakhe. Umntu wokuqala ukuchatshazelwa sisiphithiphithi somntu ogqwethekileyo uya kuba liqabane labo. Zimbini iimeko ezinokuvela kubudlelwane phakathi kwe-PN kunye nenkosikazi yakhe: 

  1. Iqabane liwela kukungabikho kwangoku okanye kwizenzo ezimbi : Kule meko, iqabane alizithobi ngokupheleleyo kumntu ogqwethekileyo, wanelisa nje ukuhlala engenzi nto. Iyaphela kancinane kancinane ize iphulukane nobuntu bayo. Ekuqaleni kobudlelwane, iqabane le-narcissistic pervert ligqithiswa ngamagama amnandi kunye nengqalelo ehlawulwa ngumlingane wakhe. Kwaye uya kuwela kumlutha kwaye uya kuhlala efuna ukufumana le miqondiso kwakhona. 
  2. Kwimeko yesibini, i iqabane liya kuzama ukuthomalalisa imeko ngazo zonke iindlela ukukholisa kunye nokukhonza igqwethe narcissistic. Uya kuthobela yonke iminqweno kunye neemfuno zakhe. I-narcissistic pervert iya kulawula iqabane lakhe kwaye iya kusebenzisa amandla apheleleyo ebomini bakhe, ubudlelwane bakhe kunye neemvakalelo zakhe. Ukugcina ulawulo phezu kweqabane lakhe, uguqula ubunyani kwaye abuyisele ubuthathaka bakhe kuye. Ungazithembanga kangangokuba uzama ngokungazi ukubonisa oku kusilela kwiqabane lakhe.

I-PN kunye nosapho lwakhe: Ubuntwana obonakele ngokwasengqondweni

Abantwana bomntu ogqwethekileyo we-narcissistic banokuba ziiNP ngokwabo okanye baya kuba ngamaxhoba exesha elizayo yenye i-PN kubomi babo bexesha elizayo. 

1. Umntwana uphinde abe ngumntu omdala ogqwethekileyo

Kuyinto eqhelekileyo ngokupheleleyo ukubaumntwana wePN naye unokuba ngumntwana umgqwethi we-narcissistic. Ke ngoko wayizuza njengelifa indlela yokuziphatha kukayise ogqwethekileyo we-narcissistic okanye yakhe narcissistic umama ogqwethekileyo. Umntwana uya kuba ngumntu we-PN kwaye uya kufuna ukusebenzisa amandla awabonile kumzali wakhe ngexesha lakhe ebuntwaneni. Akazange aphile nje kusapho olungasebenziyo lwe-narcissistic, kodwa uya kudala ngokungazi nto indawo efanayo. Esi siphumo sifumaneka nje ngenxa yokuba umntwana uzalwe kwaye ukhulela kwindawo engazinzanga kunye netyhefu kwaye kuye oku "yinto eqhelekileyo".

Ke, ukuba akukho ngenelelo okanye ulwazi lwenzeka, ufana nje noyise okanye umama wakhe u-PN. Uphuhliso lwakhe luya kuphawulwa kakhulu ngokuziphatha okugqwethekileyo kwe-narcissistic, ukuzingca okucacileyo kunye nokungabi novelwano kuyo yonke into. Xa eqonda ukuba akasenguye umntwana, uya kuthabatha kwaloo hambo yobubi kuba wayeyazi loo nto.  

2. Umntwana we-PN: ixhoba elizayo le-PN

Kwakhona kuyenzeka ukuba umntwana oye wahlala kwintsapho egqwethekileyo ye-narcissistic akafani nabazali bakhe. Noko ke, xa sele ekhulile, uya kutsaleleka ngokulula ukuba adibane nomntu wePN kuba nguye lowo ebemazi. Uya kuzama ukufuna uthando nengqalelo eyayisoloko ivinjwa kuye esengumntwana. Uya kuzijonga njengento, kuba abazali bakhe bahlala bemgqala njengonjalo. 

Imekobume phakathi kosapho olukhohlakeleyo lwenarcissistic inetyhefu kakhulu kwaye abantwana abaze basinde bengonzakalanga. I-PN kunye nabantwana bakhe abanalo unxibelelwano lokwenyani. Umntwana ozelwe ngumzali ogqwethekileyo udla ngokuba lixhoba lokuswela uthando, ngoko xa ekhulile, uya kufuna ukwanelisa oku kungabikho kothando. 

IPN kunye nentombi yakhe

Umzali we-FN kunye nentombi yakhe abanalo uthando olubalulekileyo. Ukuba ungumama we-PN, uya kuyibona intombi yakhe njengembangi kwaye uya kuhlala efuna ukumdlula kwiiprojekthi zakhe, ukutshabalalisa ubudlelwane bakhe bothando okanye nokubawela. Intombazana evela uyise narcissistic egqwethekileyo ngokufuthi uya kujongana namadoda anesimilo esifanayo nesikayise ebudaleni bakhe. Ubudlelwane bakhe buya kuba yityhefu kwaye butshabalalise ade aqonde ingxaki yakhe kwaye athathe amanyathelo aqatha. 

I-PN kunye nonyana wakhe

Kwimeko ye iprofayili yomama onama-narcissistic kunye nonyana wakhe, kuyenzeka ukuba ubudlelwane bombulo wenziwe phakathi kwabo. Enyanisweni, umama akacingi ubuthathaka bomntwana wakhe kwaye amdibanise neqabane. Oko ke kudala umlutha ebuntwaneni. Kwimeko apho ngutata we-PN kunye nonyana wakhe, ubundlobongela, ukungahoywa kunye nokuthotywa kobuntwana zezona mpawu zibonwa rhoqo. Yaye ngokufuthi umntwana uya kutyekela ekuxeliseni isimo sengqondo sikayise.

3. Iimpawu eziqhelekileyo zomntwana we-PN 

  • Ndiyaxoka mna / ndizenzele: Oku kuziphatha kuya kwamkelwa ngokufanelekileyo ngumntwana, kuba xa ebonisa ubuntu bakhe kunye nobuntu bakhe bokwenene, ufumana ingxelo engalunganga kunye nokugxeka okuphazamisayo. Uya kwandula ke aphawule ukuba ubuntu bakhe bokwenyani abamkelwa yaye uya kuzama ukuzenzela isigqubuthelo sobuso. Ukongezelela, wakha igobolondo kwaye ngoko ubuntu bobuxoki. 
  • Aba bantwana abazithandi (bazithiye) / okanye bawele kwi-narcissism yabo: Izinyeliso kunye nokungaqondwa komzali ogqwethekileyo kumntwana wakhe kuya kunika lo mva ingcamango yokuba akabali. Okanye ukuba “akwanele” okanye “akunaxabiso” nto. Umntwana uya kuziva enetyala malunga nokuba ungubani yaye oku kuya kukhokelela ekubeni azithiye kakhulu. 

Ngaba singaphuncuka kuSapho lweNarcissistic? EWE

  1. Inyathelo lokuqala liqulathe ngaphezu kwazo zonke qonda ukuba sikhulele kusapho olugqwethekileyo lwe-narcissistic. Oku kuqonda kunokuthatha ixesha kwaye kudla ngokuba buhlungu kakhulu ukukwamkela. Amaxesha amaninzi, siphawula kuphela imeko xa umntu omdala. 
  2. Into yesibini onokuyenza kuku misela imida : Inqaku apha kukufumanisa ukuba yintoni enokunyanyezelwa kwaye yintoni emayichanelwe. Xa ujamelene nemeko ongayithandiyo nongekakulungeli ukuyamkela, ngoku lixesha lokuba uyiveze. 
  3. Ukuphelisa isihogo kunye nosapho lwe-narcissistic, ukusika ukudibana kubalulekile. Awunako ukuzikhulula kusapho olubi lwe-narcissistic ngaphandle kokugcina umgama wakho. Ngokuqhawula amaqhina, kuya kuba lula ukuphilisa kumonakalo owenziwe kwiminyaka kwaye uzakhele.
  4. Iyafuneka lawula ubomi bakho kwaye uxolele izinto ezimbi zangaphambili. Ukuze uphile ubomi bakho obungcono, kufuneka ukwazi ukulibala kwaye uqhubeke. Asiyonto ilula, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo inokwenzeka. Kungathatha ixesha, kodwa ngonyango oluchanekileyo kunye nendlela yokuvuselela, kunokwenzeka ukuba ufumane indlela yakho yokubuya. Kwaye uphile ubomi obutsha ngaphandle kweemvakalelo ezinzima.

Ndinabazali beNarcissistic-Mandenze ntoni?

  • Into yokuqala omawuyenze xa uqonda ukuba unabazali abanengxaki kukuzixolela. Eneneni, ngokufuthi, umntwana womzali ogqwethekileyo utyekele ekubekek’ ityala aze akholelwe ukuba lityala lakhe ukuba abazali bakhe abanelisekanga. Kuya kufuneka uqonde ukuba oku akulotyala lakho nangayiphi na indlela kwaye ulixhoba nje. 
  • Amaxesha amaninzi, ukunxibelelana nabazali be-narcissistic kufuneka kunqunyulwe. Ngamanye amaxesha, abayamkeli into yokuba umntwana wenze isigqibo sokuzikhulula kulawulo lwabo. Yaye wenze isigqibo sokumenza umntwana azive enetyala ngakumbi. Izinto ziba nzima ngakumbi kwaye kule meko kufuneka unqumle unxibelelwano ngokupheleleyo.
  • Nje ukuba ekhululwe emthwalweni wakhe, umntwana wendoda egqwethekileyo uya kukwazi ukuphilisa kwaye aphile ubomi bakhe obungcono. Akululanga ukudlula kwiziphumo zasemva kobuntwana obungqongwe lusapho olunenkani, olugqwethekileyo. Ukufumana uncedo, kudla ngokufuneka ukuba udibane nogqirha wengqondo oyingcali kwii-narcissistic perverts. Unceda amaxhoba ukuze aphile ubomi bawo obungcono. 

 

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