Le ukulahla syndrome inxulunyaniswa ngamandla nexhala lokulahlwa. Le meko ineempembelelo ezininzi kubudlelwane bomntu, nokuba bathandana, banobuhlobo okanye bosapho ngendalo. Nantsi into ebalulekileyo ukwazi ngayo.
Yintoni i-abandonment syndrome okanye uloyiko lokulahlwa?
Abantu abane-andonment syndrome banoloyiko oluqhubekayo lokulahlwa okanye ukuhlukaniswa. Ukubonakaliswa ngeempawu ezifana nokungakhuselekanga kunye nokuxhomekeka, i-syndromes yokulahla ayilona ukuxilongwa ngokusemthethweni kwengqondo.
Ukuba umntu ufumana ubunzima obukhulu ebomini bakhe ngenxa yokoyika ukulahlwa, ingcali yezempilo yengqondo inokumxilonga ngemeko ehambelana nayo, ezifana nokuxhalaba okanye ukudakumba. Bobabini abantu abadala kunye nabantwana banokufumana le mvakalelo, enokubangela uxinzelelo lweemvakalelo kwaye ibe yingozi kakhulu ekwakheni ubudlelwane.
Ivela phi i-abandonment syndrome?
I-Abandonment syndrome ihlala ivela kumava abuhlungu obuntwaneni, ngokutsho kweengcali ezininzi zengqondo. Le mvakalelo inamandla yokushiywa ngasemva, yokukhatywa okanye yokungabandakanywa inokuba ifunyenwe ngenxa yokuvezwa ixesha elide kumntu ongathembekanga, oxhaphazayo okanye ongekhoyo (umzali, nanny, njl.).
Nangona kuyinyani ukuba uloyiko lokulahlwa lunokuthi lube lula kwimiba enxulumene nomama kunye / okanye noyise, naluphi na ulwalamano lunokuba yimbangela ye-syndrome yokulahla. Umzekelo, ukufelwa ngumntu omthandayo nangaliphi na ixesha ebomini bethu kunokuboleka kuphuhliso lwe-syndrome yokulahla. Ukongezelela, ukuba iqabane okanye iqabane lothando lithatha isigqibo sokuphelisa ubudlelwane, oku kunokukhokelela kuloyiko lokulahlwa.
Izigulo zonyango nezengqondo, ukuchaswa ngothando, ukuphathwa kakubi emsebenzini okanye ukungabikho kwamathuba omsebenzi, okanye uxinezeleko lwezemali lunokuba ngomnye umthombo we-andonment syndrome. Kwimeko nganye, umntu ochaphazelekayo unokuziva enomsindo okanye engakhuselekanga, nto leyo enokuchaphazela ubudlelwane bexesha elizayo.
Ziziphi iziphumo ze-abandonment syndrome?
I-Abandonment syndrome inokubakho kunye iimpawu zeemvakalelo kunye nokuziphatha. Nangona zingabonakalisa ngokwahlukileyo kwabanye abantu, iimpawu eziqhelekileyo ziquka:
Ixhala lokulahlwa kudla ngokunxulunyaniswa nokungabikho kwe-inshorensi. Ngokungazithembi, abantu abanoloyiko lokulahlwa abaziva bezolile kwiimvakalelo zabo kunye nolwalamano lwabo lobuhlobo, lwentsapho okanye lothando. Baya kuziva bengaxabisekanga kwaye bakholelwe ukuba abafanelanga ukuba nobudlelwane nomntu.
- Ukuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo
Ukuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo kukwayenye yeempawu ezinxulunyaniswa nayo uloyiko lokulahlwa. Enyanisweni, umntu ochatshazelwa sesi sigulo unokuziva efuna ngamandla ubukho babanye. Kuye, lo bukho bunempembelelo eqinisekisayo kwaye inceda ukuphepha ukuxhalaba.
- Ubudlelwane besibini obungalinganiyo
Le ukulahla syndrome kunokubangela ukuba umntu atyhale abanye kude, kodwa kunokwenzeka ukuba kube nemiphumo eyahlukileyo. Umntu owoyika ukulahlwa unokwala ukushiya iqabane lakhe, nokuba sele edibene nobudlelwane obungenampilo. Usenokoyika ukuba akasayi kukwazi ukufumana omnye umntu okanye akholelwe ukuba akafanelwanga lunyango lungcono.
- Ulwalamano lwentsapho luphazamisekile
Kumntu onesifo sokulahla, ubudlelwane bentsapho bungumthombo wokukhathazeka. Ngokuqhelekileyo unobunzima bokuthemba abanye. Oku kuya kuba negalelo ekudaleni umoya onzima kunye netyhefu kwintsapho. Umntu owoyika ukulahlwa akayi kukwazi ukuzibamba. Uya kuziva ephoxekile, esoyikiswa, engafunwa kwaye edanile. Ngenxa yoko, kunokwenzeka ukuba abe kude, okanye abe ndlongondlongo.
Indlela yokoyisa ixhala lokulahlwa?
Ukoyisa i-abandonment syndrome kunokuba nzima. Kodwa alikafiki ixesha lokuba uqale ukwenza umzamo. Ngokukodwa kuba kunokwenzeka ukuba ufunde iindlela eziya kukunceda.
Ngeendlela ezifanelekileyo, unako philisa kwaye woyise ixhala lakho ukuze ukwazi ukukhuthaza kwaye ugcine usempilweni, ubudlelwane obuhle ebomini bakho.
- Qinisekisa isimbo sakho sokuncamathisela
Siphuhlisa izitayile zokuncamathelisa ngexesha lobuntwana. Zixhomekeke kwindlela abazali bethu abasiphatha ngayo. Banokuyiphembelela indlela esisabela ngayo ebantwini kubomi bethu bonke emva kokuba sibadala.
Ukuchongwa kwakho isimbo sokuncamathela inokukunika ukuqonda kuloyiko lwakho kwaye ikwenze wazi ngakumbi ngokuziphatha kwakho. Ngokuhamba kwexesha, unokufunda ukunxibelelana nabanye ngeendlela ezisempilweni. Nazi i-4 i-attachment styles eziphambili: i-attachment exhalabileyo, i-attachment ephephekayo, i-attachment engalungelelanisiweyo, i-attachment ekhuselekileyo.
- Hamba uye kuzifumanisa
Nangona iqhelekile abantu aboyikayo ukulahlwa ukuziva uneentloni, ukucinga malunga noloyiko lwakho kunokwenza kube lula ukulawula. La maxhala ahlala endele yaye akunakufane kwenzeke ukuba aphele ukuba awuwahoyi. Ukujongana neemvakalelo zakho kunokukunceda wenze utshintsho oluhle ebomini bakho.
- Funa uncedo kugqirha
I-Abandonment syndrome yi ububi obuntsonkothileyo kwaye kunokuba nzima ukuzilawula ngokwakho. Ngoncedo lonyango, unokufunda ngakumbi malunga noloyiko lwakho kunye nemvelaphi yabo. Ngokomzekelo, i-psychotherapist iya kukwazi ukukunceda ukuba ukhulule kwimpembelelo ye-internalized traumatic past.
Biza ingcali yezempilo
Uza kuqala ukuba ukuqonda izizathu zokulahla i-syndromes ukuba udibene. Oku kuya kukunceda uqalise ukujongana nokwenzakala kwakho okudlulileyo kunye nokwakha ubudlelwane obunempilo ngoku nakwixesha elizayo.
I-Bibliographic reference kwi-abandonment syndrome
Nazi izingqinisiso ezisixhenxe zebhayibhilografi kwisiFrentshi kumxholo we-abandonment syndrome:
- Bowlby, J. (1983). Ilahleko: ukudakumba kunye ne-melancholy. Imibutho yoHlelo.
(Nangona u-Bowlby engumbhali wase-Anglo-Saxon, umsebenzi wakhe wokuncamathela ubalulekile ekuqondeni ukulahlwa kwesifo.) - Kernberg, OF (1999). Ukwahlula ukuxhalaba kunye nesifo sokulahla, e I-Psychoanalysis kunye ne-psychopathology. EParis: Iinguqulelo Dunod.
- Roussillon, R. (2005). Ubudlelwane obuncamatheleyo: iziphumo kubuntu kunye ne-psychopathology. EParis: Editions Erès.
(Lo msebenzi uphonononga iimpembelelo zokuncamathela kwangoko, ezinxulunyaniswa nesifo sokulahla.) - Favez, N. et al. (2009). Ubudlelwane bomzali nomntwana kunye nesifo sokulahla: imiba kunye nokungenelela. Ijenali yesiFrentshi ye-psychoanalysis, 73 (2), 203-218.
- Guérin, E. (2010). I-Abandonment syndrome: iindlela zonyango kunye neklinikhi. I-French psychiatry, 85 (4), 299-312.
- Bourguignon, M. (2013). Impembelelo yokulahla i-syndrome kubomi beemvakalelo kunye nobudlelwane, e Isayikholoji yokuncamathela. EParis: Iinguqulelo zePUF.
- Mourot, G. (2017). I-Abandonment syndrome kunye nokuqina: isifundo semeko kunye neendlela zonyango. Uphononongo lwePsychology, 62 (1), 45-58.
Ezi zikhombisi ziya kukunika isiqalo esihle sokuphonononga isihloko sokulahla i-syndrome kwiimbono ezahlukeneyo.
isiphelo
Ukuqukumbela, i-abandonment syndrome yinyani entsonkothileyo echaphazela kakhulu ubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu, nokuba yeyothando, yobuhlobo okanye yosapho. Ukuqonda imvelaphi kunye nokubonakaliswa kwayo kubalulekile ukuqala inkqubo yokuphilisa. Ngokuzihlola ngokunyanisekileyo nangenkxaso yengcali, kunokwenzeka ukoyisa olu loyiko luphazamisayo nokwakha ubudlelwane obuphilileyo nobulungeleleneyo. Ngokusondela kwi-syndrome yokulahla ngovelwano kunye nokuvuleleka, wonke umntu unokuba nethemba lokufumana indlela eya kubudlelwane obunentsingiselo kunye nobunyani.
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