Iindlela ezi-9 zokuziphatha ze-manipulator emva kokwahlukana

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Ukuziphatha kwe-manipulator emva kokuphuka : lo mntu uyityhefu wenza njani xa ubashiya? Ngaba izinto ziya zisiba nzima? Iimpendulo zinokwahluka! Ukukunika umbono, nantsi i-9 impendulo enokwenzeka ye-manipulator xa umyeka.

Ukuziphatha kwe-manipulator emva kokuphuka - ukuphendulwa kwe-9

Nantsi eminye imizekelo :

1. Ulijonga kakhulu ixhoba lakhe

Enye yezinto ezingama-20 a i-narcissistic egqwethiweyo ye-manipulator inzondo kukuyishiya ungayihoyi. Into yokuqala aya kuyenza emva kokwahlukana kukugcina iliso kuwe. Kanye njengokuba irhamncwa lixhakamfula ixhoba lalo, liya kukulandela kwaye lijonge ukuba unxulumana nabani na.

2. Uziva edanile

Le ndlela yokusabela ngokuyintloko ibonisa ukuba akakwazi kukulawula, kungekhona ngenxa yokuba ephulukene nomntu amthandayo. Kwakhona ukuphoxeka kubangelwa kukuba ebengayi kuphumelela ekufikeleleni usukelo lwakhe, olokukwenza uxhomekeke kuye ngokupheleleyo. Esi sigaba sokuthula se-PN emva kokuhlukana siphawulwa ngumsindo omkhulu kuye kunye nakuwe.

3. Akanaluvelwano

La ukusabela kwe-manipulator xa umshiya yiyo nantoni na ngaphandle kwesithandwa okanye umntu onemfesane ngabanye. Ayikho indlela anokuqonda ngayo intlungu okanye ukubandezeleka kwakho, singasathethi ke ngokuba novelwano. Yiyo loo nto enye yeendlela zokuziphatha zomqhekezi emva kokwahlukana kukuba uya kuzama ukwenza ukuba ukholelwe ukuba uyachatshazelwa kukuhamba kwakho. Ngokwenyani, i-PN manipulator ibonakala inomtsalane kwaye inenkathalo ekuqaleni kobudlelwane ngelinge lokukulawula.

4. Uyingcaphephe kuMdlalo oMbini

Ngelixa ucinga ukuba i-PN iyabandezeleka, i-manipulator icinga ukukukhohlisa kwakhona. Uyi-ace kumdlalo ophindwe kabini, indoda enobuso obubini egqwesileyo kule ndawo. Enyanisweni, i-PN ayikhathaleli ngabanye, ngokuchaseneyo, iyayisebenzisa. Ngoko ke kusenokwenzeka ukuba uya kukwenza ukholelwe ukuba owona mnqweno wakhe mkhulu kukukwenza wonwabe.

5. Uya kujongana nawe ngemilinganiselo yakho

Ukuba ngumkhohlisi omkhulu, injongo yakhe kukukwenza ukholelwe ukuba awunto yanto kwaye uhlengahlengise ixabiso lakho. Kuya kudala ukuziva uphantsi okuya kukhokelela ekuphulukaneni nokuzithemba. Ukujongana neenqobo zakho kumnika ithuba lokophula ikratshi lakho.

6. Ubeka ityala kuwe

Ukufuna ukuguqula imeko ibe yinzuzo yomntu yindlela eqhelekileyo yokusabela kwii-FNs. Ekugqibeleni, uya kuzama ukwenza ukuba uzive unetyala, akugwebe, ahlambele umfanekiso wakhe kwaye azibonakalise njengexhoba. Ngaphezu kwakho konke, musa ukuphendula kule mania, kuba umphumo wokuthula kwi-manipulator awunakunqandwa.

7. Ufuna ukoyikisa ixhoba

Uloyiko luvakalelo olunika amandla amaninzi kwii-manipulators kwaye bayayazi. Yiyo loo nto, ukuba bayasilela ukufezekisa injongo yabo, baya kuzama ukukoyikisa. Indlela yokuba bakubonise ukuba ngabo kuphela abanokukhusela. Qaphela kwaye ngaphezu kwakho konke sebenzisa isibindi ukujongana nabo.

8. Uya kubhenela kubundlobongela ngokwasengqondweni

Emva koloyiko, uya kutyhubela izoyikiso kwaye ukuba ithuba livela, unokude akwenze ukuba uwele kuxinzelelo. Ngokwenene, ubundlobongela ngokwasengqondweni bubonakalisa enye yempatho-gadalala oya kubandezeleka ngayo kubudlelwane bothando nomntu onama-narcissistic. Yiyo loo nto kufuneka uhlale unenkxaso yengqondo-ngokweemvakalelo ecaleni kwakho emva kokwahlukana ne-PN.

9. Ukuziphatha kwe-Manipulator emva kokuhlukana: Ufuna ukuxoxisana

I-narcissistic manipulator ihlala ibuyela ebomini bexhoba layo emva kokwahlukana ukuzama ukumenza ukuba anikezele kwisigqibo sakhe. Uya kuzama ukufumana ulungelelwaniso loxolelwaniso olunokwenzeka. Akwenzeki ukwazi ngokuthe ngqo ukuba kuthatha ixesha elingakanani ukuba i-PN ibuye, kodwa iya kuhlala izibonakalisa ekugqibeleni.

Zeziphi iindlela zobuchule bokukhohlisa?

Ukuseka amandla ayo okukhohlisa, i-PN yenza ngobuqili ukufihla amehlo exhoba layo:

  1. Uqikelelo lwengqondo: nanku ke umjikijelwa uzakwenza ufane nebhokhwe akusole ngokwenza izinto azenzayo ngokwakhe. Njengomntu olixoki oya kuthi ulixoki, okanye umntu onobukhwele, oya kukutyhola ngokuba nomona, nobutyebi;
  2. Ukuguqulwa: ekwabizwa ngokuba siqhinga lendoda yomququ, umbhexeshi ufumana uyolo olukhulu nokuba kukugqwetha amagama akho okanye ukuwenza mandundu. Uyabaguqula nangayiphi na indlela emfaneleyo kwaye usebenzisa iingxoxo zakho ngokuchasene nawe ukusa kwinqanaba lokuba uzive unetyala.
  3. Ukuziphatha kakubi ngokweemvakalelo: obu buchule buyaziwa kwi-PN kwaye busebenzisa xa kuziwa ekugcineni ixhoba phantsi kweempembelelo zayo. Ukuba uyaqaphela ukuba uxhomekeke kuye, awuyi kuqonda xa u-manipulator ekushiya kwaye ebuya, kuba le yinxalenye yesicwangciso sakhe sokuziphatha kakubi.
  4. I-Bluff okanye ubuxoki: ukufihla inyani, ukufihla ngabom iingcamango zakhe kuwe, umxhasi uya kukwenza ubone icala lakhe eliphosakeleyo ngokupheleleyo. Uyi-ace yomdlalo ophindwe kabini.
  5. Ukusetyenziswa kakubi okanye ukukhanyiswa kwegesi : I manipulator ikwenza uzithandabuze ude ubonakale ngathi usisibhanxa. Uya kusebenzisa amagama afana nala " Akunjalo! Yintelekelelo yakho! Uphambene! » Sihlala sithetha malunga nokuqweqwediswa kwengqondo.

Ngaba ii-manipulators zingatshintsha?

I-narcissistic manipulator ngumntu ongazange azibuze. Ke, ukuzitshintsha kuba ngumsebenzi ophantse ube yinto engenakwenzeka, nokuba iimpawu ezithile zinokuphucuka. Ukwenza oku, kufuneka wazi kakuhle ukuba yintoni na indawo ebuthathaka ye-manipulator?

Ngokwenene, ukuze i-PN itshintshe, kufuneka idlule kwimeko enzima kakhulu apho iya kubona ukuba ibethe ngokwenene ilitye ukuya kwinqanaba lokuwa. Oku kufanele kumenze ayiqonde ihambo yakhe aze afune ukutshintsha ngokupheleleyo ukuze abe ngumntu omtsha. Oku kuhlala kunzima ukumisela kunye nokufezekisa, kuba lo ngumntu ovuyayo xa ebona abanye bebandezeleka.

Ireferensi yebhayibhilografi malunga nokuziphatha kobuqhetseba

Nazi iireferensi ezisixhenxe zebhayibhilografi kumxholo wokuziphatha ngokukhohlisa:

  1. Sénécal, J. (2013). Ukukhohlisa: Ukuqonda kunye nokuqaphela ukuziphatha okukhohlisayo. Iintlobo ze-l'Homme.
  2. Vermot, J. (2015). Ukulawulwa ngokweemvakalelo. IiPress Universitaires de France.
  3. Lalande, J. (2016). ISikhokelo soKhohliso: Ufunyanwa njani kwaye ukhusele njani ngaManipulators. Iinguqulelo Eyrolles.
  4. Bourcier, S. (2014). IPsychology yokukhohlisa: Ukuqonda ukwenza. Iinguqulelo L'Harmattan.
  5. Bouchard, G. (2018). Ukulawula uluntu: phakathi kwempembelelo kunye nokuxhatshazwa. Iintlelo zikaDe Boeck.
  6. Cohen, M. (2017). Ii-manipulators: Ungazibona njani kwaye uzikhulule kuzo. Larousse Editions.
  7. U-Rico, C. (2019). IPsychology yokukhohlisa: Uhlalutyo kunye neembono. Ushicilelo lweDunod.

Ezi mbekiselo zibonelela ngeembono ezahlukeneyo ngalo mbandela kwaye zinokukunceda uqonde ngcono ukuziphatha okukhohlisayo kunye neziphumo zako.

Ukuziphatha kwe-manipulator emva kokuphuka - Isiphelo

Ngamafutshane, olu lwazi luya kukuvumela ukuba ube nentloko ekuziphatheni kwe-manipulator emva kokuphuka. Nokuba ngamanye amaxesha luncedo ukwazi ukuba i-manipulator ikushiya njani, kodwa ukuba inyathelo livela kuwe, yazi ukuba umthuthumbisi wakho akayi kukuyeka inyathelo elinye.

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