Savior Syndrome - Yesani, Kodi Ndinu Wozunzidwa?

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Savior syndrome: ndichiyani?

Savior syndrome: chodabwitsa chomwe chingasinthe moyo wanu!

Dziwani momwe khalidweli, lomwe nthawi zambiri silikudziwa, limakhudzira ubale wanu ndi moyo wanu. Kodi mumakopeka nthawi zonse kuti muthandize ena powononga thanzi lanu lamalingaliro? Matendawa, onse abwino komanso owononga, muyenera kuwaganizira. Dzilowetseni munjira zamaganizidwe kumbuyo kwake ndikuphunzira kuzindikira zizindikiro zake. Kaya mukuda nkhawa kapena mukungofuna kudziwa, kufufuzaku kukupatsani makiyi ofunikira kuti mumvetsetse bwino nokha ndikusintha mayanjano anu. Musaphonye mwayi uwu kuti mukule bwino!

Kodi zimayambitsa syndrome?

Savior syndrome imachokera ku zovuta zokhudzana ndi maganizo ndi chilengedwe. Kaŵirikaŵiri, zimayambira paubwana, pamene munthu anayenera kutenga mathayo achichepere kapena anali kulemekezedwa makamaka chifukwa chothandiza ena. Zochitika zomvetsa chisoni, kudzikayikira, kapena kufunikira kwakukulu kwa kutsimikiziridwa kwakunja kungathandizenso kuti chitukuko chake chikhalepo.

Nthawi zina zitha kukhala zolumikizidwa ndi zovuta za m'mabanja pomwe kudziwika kwamunthu kumalumikizidwa kwambiri ndi ntchito ya 'wopulumutsa'. Miyambo ndi chikhalidwe cha anthu zomwe zimalimbikitsa kudzimana zingalimbikitsenso khalidweli. Kuphatikiza apo, ntchito zina, makamaka m'magawo osamalira ndi chithandizo, zimatha kukopa ndikukulitsa izi. Kumvetsetsa zomwe zimayambitsa izi ndikofunikira kuti muzindikire ndikuthana ndi matendawa.

Kodi mungadziwe bwanji ngati muli ndi savior syndrome? Zizindikiro

Savior syndrome imawonetsedwa ndi zizindikiro zingapo. Mutha kudwala ngati mutadzizindikira nokha muzizindikiro izi:

  • Chizoloŵezi chokakamizika chofuna kuthetsa mavuto a anthu ena, ngakhale osafunsidwa
  • Kudzimva wolakwa pamene simungathe kudzithandiza
  • Zovuta kunena kuti ayi popempha thandizo
  • Kufuna kunyalanyaza zosowa zanu mokomera za ena
  • Kufunika kokhazikika pakuwongolera pazinthu zothandizira
  • Chizoloŵezi chodzimva kukhala chofunikira kapena chosasinthika;
  • Kukopa maubwenzi komwe mungathe "kupulumutsa" winayo
  • Kudzidalira kumalumikizidwa kwambiri ndi kuthekera kwanu kothandizira; kutopa kosatha chifukwa chodzipereka kwambiri
  • Kukwiyira kobisika kwa omwe mumawathandiza ngati sakuzindikira zoyesayesa zanu mokwanira.

Ndikofunika kuzindikira kuti zizindikirozi ziyenera kukhala zokhazikika komanso zimakhudza kwambiri moyo wanu kuti ziwoneke ngati syndrome.

Mitundu Yosiyanasiyana ya Mpulumutsi

Savior syndrome imatha kuwonekera m'njira zosiyanasiyana, iliyonse ili ndi mawonekedwe ake. Mitundu ingapo ya opulumutsa ingadziwike:

  1. The Martyr: Munthu amene nthaŵi zonse amadzimana ubwino wake chifukwa cha ena, nthaŵi zambiri mwa kudandaula.
  2. The Fixer: Kutengeka ndi kuthetsa mavuto a anthu ena, ngakhale popanda kulimbikitsa.
  3. Mtsogoleri: Yemwe akuganiza kuti amadziwa bwino kuposa ena zomwe zili zabwino kwa iwo.
  4. Wothandizira: Yemwe amathandiza mopitirira muyeso, kulepheretsa ena kukulitsa kudzilamulira kwawo.
  5. The Hero: Yemwe amafunafuna kutsimikizika kudzera muzochitika za ngwazi kapena kupulumutsa modabwitsa.
  6. The Perfectionist: Yemwe amadzitopetsa yekha kuchita chilichonse mwangwiro kwa ena.
  7. Mkhalapakati: Kutenga nawo mbali nthawi zonse pothetsa kusamvana kwa ena.

Mtundu uliwonse ukhoza kukhala wofanana, ndipo munthu akhoza kusonyeza makhalidwe a mitundu yambiri. Kuzindikira mawonetseredwe osiyanasiyanawa ndikofunikira kuti timvetsetse bwino komanso kuwongolera bwino kwa matendawa.

N’cifukwa ciani opulumutsa afunika kudzimana cifukwa ca ena?

Opulumutsa amadzipereka okha pazifukwa zosiyanasiyana zamaganizidwe:

  • Kudzikayikira - kufuna kutsimikizira kuti ndi wofunika pothandiza ena
  • Njira yopewera - kupewa kukumana ndi mavuto ndi malingaliro awo
  • Kusaka kwa chikondi ndi kuvomerezedwa - kulumikiza kufunikira kwawo ndi zothandiza kwa ena
  • Kudzimva wolakwa ndi chikhulupiriro cholakwika cha kukhala ndi thayo la chisangalalo cha ena
  • Kufunika kodzilamulira - kuthandiza ena kumapereka kumverera kwamphamvu
  • Kuyankha ku zowawa zakale kapena kusokonekera kwapabanja

Savior Syndrome mu Ubale

  • Mmodzi amatenga udindo wa mpulumutsi, kufunafuna nthawi zonse kuthetsa mavuto a wina
  • Zimayambitsa kusamvana:
    • Mpulumutsi amadzimva kukhala wofunika
    • Wokondedwa winayo amayamba kudalira kwambiri
    • Mpulumutsi amakopeka ndi anthu kuti “akonzedwe”
  • Zotsatira zoyipa:
    • Zimalepheretsa kukula kwa umunthu wa onse awiri
    • Zimayambitsa mkwiyo ndi kukhumudwa
    • Zingayambitse ubale wodalirana
    • Kuopsa kwa kutopa kwamalingaliro
    • Kutayika kwa munthu payekha
    • Kutha kwa ubale ngati sikuyankhidwa

Kodi kuchotsa Savior Syndrome?

Njira zazikuluzikulu pochita izi:

  • Vomerezani vutolo ndipo vomerezani kufunika kosintha
  • Gwirani ntchito pakudzidalira kuti muchepetse kudalira kutsimikizika kwakunja
  • Khazikitsani malire abwino:
    • Khalani osamala kwambiri
    • Lemekezani zosowa zanu
  • Yesetsani kudzimvera chisoni kuti muchepetse kudziimba mlandu
  • Khalani ndi zokonda zanu ndi maubwenzi oyenera
  • Ganizirani za chithandizo (makamaka chidziwitso-khalidwe)
  • Phunzirani kulola ena kuthetsa mavuto awoawo

Bibliographic reference on savior syndrome

Nawa maumboni asanu ndi awiri pamutu wa "savior syndrome":

  1. Bourgeois, M. (2016). Savior Syndrome: Pamene kuthandizira kumakhala kovuta. Zolemba za L'Harmattan.
  2. Fournier, P. (2014). Zotsatira za Savior Syndrome muntchito zothandizira. Journal of Psychology, 35 (2), 123-135.
  3. Tisseron, S. (2012). Kuthandizira maubwenzi ndi savior syndrome. Mu: Psychology ndi zaumoyo. Presses Universitaires de France.
  4. LĂ©vy, J. (2019). Kumvetsetsa Savior Syndrome: zovuta ndi mayankho. Editions Eyrolles.
  5. Meyer, A. (2015). Savior syndrome: njira ya psychoanalytic. French Journal of Psychiatry, 56 (1), 45-58.
  6. Benoît, C. (2018). Savior syndrome ndi kasamalidwe ka malingaliro. Journal of Clinical Psychology, 37 (4), 256-270.
  7. Renaud, L. (2020). The Savior Syndrome ndi zotsatira zake mu chithandizo. Mu: Psychotherapy ndi njira zothandizira. Dunod Editions.

Maumboniwa akupereka chithunzithunzi chabwino cha mbali zosiyanasiyana za Savior syndrome ndi zotsatira zake pakuthandizira maubwenzi ndi thanzi labwino.

Kutsiliza

Pomaliza, savior syndrome, ngakhale nthawi zambiri imadziwika ngati khalidwe, imasonyeza zovuta zamaganizo zomwe zingakhale ndi zotsatira zowononga pa maubwenzi ndi moyo waumwini. Chifukwa cha zochitika za m'moyo ndi zochitika za m'banja, khalidwe looneka ngati losakondali likhoza kuchititsa kuti munthu asamadzizindikire, asamakhale ndi ubale wabwino komanso atope kwambiri. Ndikofunikira kuzindikira zizindikiro za matendawa kuti tiyambe kusintha. Pophunzira kukhazikitsa malire abwino ndi kuyamikira zosowa zathu, aliyense atha kudzimasula yekha ku zosinthika izi ndikulimbikitsa ubale wokhazikika komanso wokwaniritsa.

Mayeso Ena a Savior Syndrome

Cristina Balan
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