Mbiri ya Amayi a Narcissistic: Momwe Mungadziwire Amayi a PN?

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Moyo uliwonse umachokera kwa mayi. Nthawi zambiri amakondedwa ndipo nthawi zina amadedwa, koma amayamikiridwa nthawi zonse. Amayi ndiye maziko a nyumba. Nanga bwanji mbiri ya mayi wokonda narcissistic ?

Mayi ndi munthu wachifundo, wachikondi, wachikondi komanso waulamuliro. Pankhani ya mayi wopotozedwa wa narcissistic, chithunzi ichi cha chikondi palibe. Mwana amene amakhala ndi mayi wopondereza sadziwa kumverera uku kwa chiyanjano ndi chikondi kwa amayi ake. Kukhala ndi mayi wopotoka wa narcissistic kumawononga kwambiri maganizo, chifukwa amayi amagwira ntchito yofunika kwambiri pakukula kwa maganizo a mwanayo.

Kodi mayi wa narcissistic ndi chiyani?

Mayi woyipa wa narcissistic akudwala a narcissistic yosasinthika komanso chisokonezo chopotoka.

  • Njira yake yolumikizirana ndi ena imawoneka yosagwirizana, ya pathological komanso poizoni.
  • Kwa mayi wokonda narcissistic, moyo ndi masewera pomwe amalamulira.
  • Ndi wodzikonda komanso wokonda kuchita zinthu mwachinyengo.
  • Kufunika kopambana ndikofunikira kwa iye.

Amayi a PN akuganiza mwana wake ngati foil kapena chinthu chomwe amagwiritsa ntchito kuti akwaniritse zolinga zake. Komabe, iye amafuna kusunga chithunzi chake. Ichi ndichifukwa chake nthawi zonse amasonyeza chithunzi cha mayi wokhudzidwa ndi mwana wake komanso wokhudzidwa.

Payekha, mayi wa narcissistic ali wankhanza. Amapangitsa mwana wake kulephera ndipo amadziimba mlandu. Nthawi zina amachitira nsanje mwana wake. Motero amapanga mkangano woopsa wotsutsana naye.

Mbiri ya mayi wamwano: Kodi mayi wankhanza amatani?

Les zizindikiro za narcissistic wopotoza Zotsatirazi zikuthandizani kudziwa mbiri ya mayi wamatsenga. Zolondola, zikuwonetsa khalidwe la mkazi wamwano :

1. Poizoni

  • Mkazi woipa wankhanza amakana kudziwika kwa ana ake. Amawaika pachiwopsezo ndikuwanyoza chiwawa chake cha m’maganizo ndi m’makhalidwe.
  • Mayi wamwano amazunza ana ake kuti atsimikizire ndikukwaniritsa narcissism yake.
  • Iye amachita njiru ndi zowononga kwa mwana wake.
  • Amabera chinsinsi chake ndipo amamulepheretsa kukhala ndi ufulu wosankha.

2. Kulamulira

Mayi wamwano amafuna kulamulira moyo wake wonse. Imawongolera:

  • migwirizano yake;
  • masewera ake;
  • zokonda zake;
  • kavalidwe kake...

Mkazi woyipa wa narcissistic salola palibe zachinsinsi kwa mwana wake. Amamvetsera pakhomo. Amawerenganso diary yake ndi makalata ake mosazengereza. Zimenezi zimam’thandiza kukhala ndi ulamuliro wonse pa mwanayo, motero zimam’lepheretsa kukhala ndi ufulu wodzilamulira.

3. Narcissistic ndi chinyengo

Mayi wa narcissistic amalimbitsa ulamuliro wake pogwiritsa ntchito:

  • kusintha;
  • chinyengo;
  • kutsika mtengo;
  • kulakwa.

Amakondanso kutero kudzizunza kupanga chithunzi cha mayi wosauka, yekha komanso wopanda thandizo. Kunena zoona, iye ndi wolungama wonyenga ndi kukhala nazo zonse zimene ali nazo.

Mayi wamwano amalamulira kudzidalira kwa mwana wake. Amamunyoza pa mpata uliwonse kuti amulamulire. Akhoza ngakhale kumubera chimwemwe chake kuti awonjezere kukhumudwa kwa mwanayo.

 

Kodi zotsatira za kukhala ndi mayi wankhanza ndi zotani?

Mayi narcissistic amapanga weniweni zimalepheretsa kukula kwa mwana wanu.

  • Kusatetezeka komanso kusowa pokhala

Khalidwe la mayi wa narcissistic limayambitsa kusatetezeka kwina kwa mwana wake, pathupi, m'maganizo ndi m'maganizo. Maonekedwe ake amabweretsa kusowa mgwirizano wapoizoni ndi kusalinganika. Mayi wonyenga uyu mmalingaliro osapezeka.

  • Kusowa chidziwitso

Mayi wonyenga wankhanza amalepheretsa mwana wake kupanga chidziwitso. M’malo momuthandiza kukulitsa umunthu wake, iye amamunyozetsa ndi kukana chimene iye ali. Amamukakamiza kuti achite zomwe akufuna.

  • Kusayankha mlandu

Kumverera kwa udindo kumakhalanso pafupifupi kulibe mwa mwana wa narcissistic mayi. Wotsirizirayo alibe chidziwitso cha maudindo. Nthawi zonse amaimba mlandu ena choncho si chitsanzo chabwino.

Kodi mungakhale bwanji ndi mayi wamatsenga?

Kaya ndinu okondedwa kapena mwana wa mayi wamatsenga, musakhale osayanjanitsika ndi khalidwe lake.

1. Monga wachibale wapafupi kapena wina aliyense

Kodi ndinu m'gulu la gulu la amayi okondana? Muyenera kuzindikira chinthu chimodzi: Ndinu nokha kholo lathanzi kapena wokondedwa. Choncho mukhoza perekani maziko olimba zomwe mwanayo amafunikira, koma amayi ake sangamupatse:

  • kumva kukhala wotetezeka;
  • munthu payekha;
  • umunthu…

Muwonetseni kuti ali ndi ufulu wokhala ndi zofuna zake komanso kuti akhoza kukhala yekha.

Pewani kudzudzula amayi kapena kuwatchula. Zimenezi zingaike mwanayo m’mkangano waukulu wa kukhulupirika. Iye alinso palibe chifukwa chotsutsana ndi amayi ako. Izi zitha kukubwezerani.

2. Monga mwana wa mayi wamwano

Kukhala ndi mayi wonyenga sikophweka. Matendawa ndi osachiritsika ndipo amatsatira moyo wake wonse. Akadzakula, mwana wa mayi wa narcissistic ayenera kuchoka kwa amayi ake, kuchokera ku chikhalidwe chawo komanso ku mabala ake.

Choyenera ndichoti funsani dokotala kudzimanganso ndikuchotsa ubale woyipawu. Therapy imatithandiza kuyang'ana nkhani ya mwanayo ndi amayi ake kuchokera ku lingaliro lina lopanda kuweruza ndi kumvetsetsa. Kuthaŵa ndi kumanganso kumakhalabe njira zothetsera kudzimasula nokha ku chikoka cha mayi wa narcissistic.

Khalani Mayi Wopotoka Narcissistic

Kodi mungawazindikire bwanji amayi a Perverse Narcissistic?

Muyenera kudziwa kuti amayi a PN, mamembala a banja lopotoka la narcissistic sizili zofanana. Ngakhale kuti ena amatha kudziletsa, ena amatha kusonyeza khalidwe laukali kwambiri. Komabe, pali mikhalidwe yodziwika bwino yomwe amayi opondereza amatha kudziwika: 

Mayi PN: kusowa chikondi ndi kunyalanyazidwa

Chikondi chaumayi sichipezeka mwa mayi wopotoka wankhanza: Sakonda kukhala mayi ndipo samva chisangalalo posamalira ndi kusamalira ana ake. Mayi wopotoka wa narcissistic sakhalapo kwambiri kwa mwana wake, samamumvera kapena kuganizira momwe akumvera. Kwa iye, mwana wake ndi wolemetsa, wolemetsa ndipo amadya nthawi yake. Kupanda chikondi ndi kunyalanyazidwa ndi mikhalidwe yomwe nthawi zambiri imawonedwa mwa amayi oponderezedwa. Ana nthawi zambiri amanyalanyazidwa ndikusiyidwa kuti achite zofuna zawo paubwana wawo. Pamene akukula, amayi opondereza amawapangitsa kumvetsetsa kuti akusokoneza.

Zizindikiro Za Amayi Narcissistic

Pakati pazikhalidwe zomwe zimatilola kuzindikira mayi wolakwika wa narcissistic, timapezanso kuchotsera umunthu wa mwanayo kapena lingaliro la chinthu cha mwanayo.

  1. Iye samaona mwana wake woteroyo ndipo samaona kufooka kwake.
  2. Adzakhala ndi ndemanga zazikulu ndi mwana wake ndipo mwanayo akhoza kukhudzidwa kwambiri. Ichi ndi chifukwa chake ana a amayi oponderezedwa nthawi zambiri amasokonezeka m'maganizo ndi m'maganizo.
  3. Komanso, kwa mayi wopotoka wa narcissistic, ana ake salingana pamaso pake. Nthawi zonse padzakhala mwana mmodzi amene amamukonda kuposa wina. Amayerekezera ana ake ndipo sabisa.
  4. Ngakhale iye sindimakonda mwana, adzaonetsetsa kuti apangitsa ena kukhulupirira kuti mkangano ndi nsanje zibuke pakati pa anawo. Cholinga chake chidzakhala kupangitsa ana kupikisana kuti amusangalatse.
  5. Iye atero kugawanitsa kuti agwiritse ntchito mphamvu ndi kulamulira.
  6. Mayi woyipa wa narcissistic amafuna chisamaliro ndi kusilira. Chifukwa chake adzafuna chosowa ichi kuchokera kwa mwana wake.
  7. Pankhani yomwe ali ndi mwana wamkazi, mayi wolakwika wa narcissistic adzakhala wotanganidwa ndi kuwononga maubwenzi ake, adzafuna kutenga malo ake ndipo adzamva kuti akupikisana naye.

Ubale Pakati pa Mwana ndi Amayi Wopotoza Narcissistic

Ubale pakati pa mayi wolakwika ndi mwana wake si wabwinobwino. Ngakhale mayi angachite bwino kwambiri pamaso pa omwe ali pafupi nawo kuti apangitse anthu kukhulupirira kuti amakonda mwana wake ndipo amamusamalira, timatha kuzindikira zizindikiro zoonekeratu za narcissism ndi chinyengo mwa iye. Koposa zonse, mwanayo amadziona ngati wopanda pake komanso wosafunika pamaso pa amayi ake. Adzamanga umunthu wosiyana kotheratu kapena chigoba kuti asangalatse ndi kumva kukondedwa. Mwanayo adzakhulupirira kuti wachepetsedwa kukhala chinthu ndi kuti ayenera kutsatira zofuna za mwini wake.

Mayi nayenso adzagwiritsa ntchito mphamvu, chinyengo china pa mwana wake. Adzamulamulira kuti akwaniritse zokhumba zake. Kuyambira ndi devaluation, izo zimapanga bwalo loipa la liwongo mwana. Mwanayo nthawi zonse amafunafuna chivomerezo m'zochita zake zonse. Popeza palibe mgwirizano wachikondi pakati pa mayi wa FN ndi mwana wake, mwanayo adzakula ndi mantha, kusowa kudzidalira komanso kusowa kwakukulu. 

Mayi narcissistic: chithunzi chakupha komanso kuwongolera

Nawa machitidwe a mayi woyipa wa narcissistic:

1. Kugwira kolimbikitsidwa ndi kusintha

Mayi wa narcissistic amagwiritsa ntchito njira zosiyanasiyana kuti akhazikitse mphamvu zake pa ana ake. Mwa iwo:

  • kuyatsa gasi : amakayikira maganizo, maganizo ndi maganizo a mwanayo, kupanga chisokonezo ndi kukayikira zenizeni zake.
  • Kulakwa : kumapangitsa mwana kukhala ndi thayo la tsoka lake, kumupangitsa kukhala ndi mlandu wa zolephera zake kapena mkhalidwe wake wamalingaliro.
  • Zoyipa zamalingaliro : Ziwopsezo zobisika kapena zowonekera, monga kudzivulaza kapena kusiya mwana, zimamupangitsa kuti azichita zomwe akuyembekezera.

2. Kufuna kudzilamulira

Mayi wa narcissistic amafuna kulamulira mbali iliyonse ya moyo wa mwana wake:

  • Maubwenzi ake ndi maubwenzi.
  • Zochita zake, zosangalatsa ndi masewera.
  • Ngakhale maonekedwe ake ndi kusankha zovala.

Kusinthasintha kumeneku kumafika polepheretsa mwanayo kukhala wodzilamulira, kumupangitsa kukhala wodalira maganizo kuti akwaniritse zosowa zake zamaganizo.

3. Kupanda chifundo

  • Mphwayi : Zosowa za mwana zamaganizo, zamaganizo ndi zakuthupi zimanyalanyazidwa kapena kuchepetsedwa.
  • Chikondi chokhazikika : chikondi chimaperekedwa kokha ngati mwanayo akwaniritsa zomwe mayi ake amayembekezera.
  • Kudalira maganizo : mwanayo amalephera kuchita bwino popanda chilolezo cha amayi.

4. Ubale wapoizoni ndi wowononga

Mayi wa narcissistic nthawi zambiri amachita zinthu zowononga:

  • Amagwiritsa ntchito nkhanza zamaganizo ndi zamakhalidwe kuti achepetse mwana.
  • Amadzikakamiza yekha zofuna zake, kupanga mwana galasi kapena chida cholimbikitsira kudzikonda kwake.
  • Zimamubera chinsinsi chake ndipo zimalepheretsa ufulu uliwonse wosankha.

5. Kudzikonda ndi kugwiritsa ntchito mwana

  • Egocentrism : Mayi wamwano amafuna kusangalatsidwa ndi chidwi, nthawi zonse amaika zosowa zake pakati.
  • Kugwiritsa ntchito mwana : imakhala chida chowongolera, kudzutsa chidwi kapena kukhutiritsa zokhumba za munthu.

6. Kupanda malire ndi ulemu

Mayi wa narcissistic salemekeza malire a mwanayo kapena zosowa za mwanayo kuti akhale wodziimira payekha:

  • Kusokoneza : amalowerera m’mbali zonse za moyo wa mwana wake, ngakhale atakhala wamkulu.
  • Kuphwanya Malire : amanyalanyaza malo kapena maganizo a mwanayo.

7. Zowopsa za banja

  • Kukondera : amakonda mwana mmodzi kuti azilamulira ena bwino, kumayambitsa mikangano m'banja.
  • Division : pofesa mikangano, amalimbitsa ulamuliro wake pa ubale wabanja.

8. Maganizo osadziŵika bwino komanso osokonekera

  • Maganizo amasintha : kuchoka pa chikondi chopambanitsa kupita ku kukanidwa mwankhanza, kumalowetsa mwanayo m’kukayikakayika kosakhazikika m’maganizo.
  • Ambivale : imasakaniza chikondi ndi nkhanza, kumawonjezera chisokonezo ndi kudalira kwa mwanayo.

9. Kugwiritsa ntchito zolakwa

  • Kudziimba mlandu kwambiri : zimakankhira mwanayo kukhulupirira kuti samachita mokwanira, kumalimbitsa kudalira kwake.
  • Kunyoza zopambana : zomwe mwana amakwaniritsa zimachepetsedwa kapena kunyalanyazidwa.

Mauthenga a m'Baibulo kuti azindikire amayi opotoka

Buku lofotokoza za mbiri ya mayi wankhanza

  • Blog ya SOSPN: "Amayi Wopotoka Narcissistic: Tanthauzo ndi Makhalidwe"
    (sospn.fr)
  • Katswiri wa Zamaganizo: "Narcissistic Personality Disorder: Zizindikiro ndi Chithandizo"
    (psychologist.fr)
  • Psynat: "Amayi a Narcissistic: Kodi zimakhudza bwanji ubale wa amayi ndi mwana wamkazi"
    (psynat.fr)
  • Dérive-sectaire.fr: "Mbiri ya mayi wankhanza"
    (derive-sectaire.fr)
  • Kulankhula za chikondi: "Kusanthula kwa mayi wamatsenga"
    (parlerdamour.fr)
  • Imagyna: "Momwe Mungachiritsire kwa Amayi a Narcissistic"
    (imagina.fr)
  • Makolo.fr: "Narcissistic Kholo: Momwe Mungawazindikiritse"
    (makolo.fr)

Nkhanizi zikupatsirani poyambira kuti mumvetse bwino za khalidwe la narcissistic mwa amayi ndi zotsatira zake pakukula kwa maganizo a ana.

Cristina Balan
Nkhani zaposachedwa kwambiri za Cristina Balan (onani zonse)

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