Bambo wopotozedwa wa narcissistic - Makhalidwe oipa a abambo a PN?

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Kudziwa momwe mungachitire ndi abambo omwe ali ndi vuto la narcissistic personality (NPD) kungakuthandizeni kupewa malingaliro olakwika omwe nthawi zambiri amabwera chifukwa cha ubale wotere. M'nkhaniyi, tikambirana zotsatira zomwe abambo omwe ali ndi vuto la umunthu wa narcissistic angakhudze ana ake, ndikupereka malangizo amomwe angayendetsere ndi kuthana ndi ubalewo pakapita nthawi.

Kodi mungazindikire bwanji bambo wopotozedwa wa narcissistic?

Mawu akuti narcissism kapena narcissist amagwiritsidwa ntchito masiku ano. Chowonadi ndi chakuti ambiri aife timawonetsa chimodzi (kapena nthawi zina) cha makhalidwe omwe amagwirizanitsidwa ndi vuto la umunthu wa narcissistic, koma sizikutanthauza kuti tonsefe timakhala ndi NP.

Monga momwe dzinalo likusonyezera, narcissism ndi vuto la umunthu, ndipo kusokonezeka, mwa tanthawuzo, kumasokoneza ntchito zamaganizo ndi thupi. Izi ndizofunikira kukumbukira chifukwa ngati abambo anu akudwala NPD, zingakhale zothandiza kukumbukira kuti khalidwe lake lachipongwe, ngakhale lingakhale lokhumudwitsa komanso losokoneza, silo kusankha kwake.

Zizindikiro za PN bambo

Bambo yemwe ali ndi vuto la narcissistic personality disorder akhoza kusonyeza makhalidwe angapo, kuphatikizapo:

  • Makhalidwe ofala kapena zongopeka.
  • Kuchitapo kanthu podzudzulidwa ndi manyazi, mkwiyo kapena manyazi.
  • Kufunika kosalekeza kwa chidwi kwambiri
  • Kufunika kopanda nzeru kosilira ndi kuyamikiridwa
  • Kusirira mopambanitsa, mpaka kukwiya
  • Kuwonetsa zizindikiro zotanganidwa ndi kupambana kapena mphamvu.
  • Kunyalanyaza malire a anthu ena
  • Kudzitama mpaka kudzikuza
  • Kupanda chifundo kwa ena
  • Lingaliro labodza la ufulu.

Nthawi zambiri, anthu omwe ali ndi vuto la narcissistic sasamala za inu. Iwo amatha kuyang'ana kwambiri zomwe mungawachitire komanso njira yofulumira kwambiri yochitira.

Kodi bambo wopotozedwa ndi ndani?

Makhalidwe odziwika kwambiri a narcissistic mwa abambo ndi kudzikuza, kufunikira koyenera nthawi zonse, ndi malingaliro osayenera kapena onama oyenerera. Ochepa a ife timaganiza kuti makolo athu anachita chilichonse choyenera kutilera. Komabe, kuleredwa ndi bambo wamwano kumadutsa malire amenewa. Amayang'ana kwambiri maonekedwe awo ngati atate ndipo amalamulira makhalidwe ndi zisankho za ana awo ndi anzawo.

Bambo wokhotakhota ndi wonyengerera mopambanitsa: amathera nthawi yochuluka kusamalira maonekedwe ake ndi a banja lake. Amafuna kuyamikiridwa ndipo akuda nkhawa kwambiri ndi mawonekedwe owoneka bwino kuposa momwe zinthu zilili. Amatanganidwa kwambiri ndi kuchita bwino: M'malingaliro mwake, amadziona ngati munthu wochita bwino kwambiri m'chipindamo, ndipo kunyada kwake kwakukulu kumamupangitsa kukhala wosiyana ndi umboni uliwonse wotsutsana ndi malingaliro ake.
Palibe chichirikizo chamalingaliro: Abambo oipa ankhanza samvera ena chifundo pang’ono, ndipo angalephere kuzindikira pamene mwana afunikira chichirikizo chake chamaganizo.

Abambo Opotoka Narcissistic - Amasokoneza Ana Awo Motani?

Nawa njira zisanu zomwe abambo amanyansidwa amagwiritsa ntchito kulamulira ana awo :

1. Zoyipa zamalingaliro: 

Bambo wa narcissistic akuwoneka kuti akupempha, koma kwenikweni ndi kufuna. Ngati mwakana, ikani malire, kapena kuwauza kuti mudzabweranso pambuyo pake, adzakukakamizani kwambiri ndikukuwopsezani ndi zotsatirapo zake kuti muvomereze. Ngati mukukanabe, ndiye kuti angakulangeni mwa kukwiyira, kunena mawu aukali, kukwiya, kubisa kanthu kena kofunika, ngakhalenso kuwopseza chiwawa kapena kusakaza. Uku ndi kusokoneza maganizo.

2. Kudziimba mlandu chifukwa cha mantha, udindo ndi kudziimba mlandu:

Zimakhala zachilendo kwa abambo ankhanza kugwiritsa ntchito mantha, udindo ndi liwongo pa ana awa kudzutsa mtundu wa liwongo womwe ungatipangitse ife kugonja ku zilakolako zawo, ngakhale kuwononga zosowa ndi ufulu wathu.

3. Kulakwa:

Abambo oipa ankhanza ndi oopsa amanyazitsa kapenanso kudzudzula ana awo kuti apitirize kuwanyozetsa ndi kuwachotsera ulemu. Zimenezi n’zothandiza kwambiri chifukwa kafukufuku wasonyeza kuti munthu akakhala kuti ndi wopanda ungwiro komanso wofooka, amangotsatira zofuna za ena.

4. Utatu ndi kufananitsa:

Makolo a Narcissistic amakonda kuyerekeza ana awo ndi abale awo kapena anzawo poyesa kuwatsitsa. Amafuna kuti ana awo omwe amangoberedwa azimenyera nkhondo kuti awavomereze ndi kuwasamalira. Amafunanso kuwapangitsa kudziona ngati osafunika.

Ubale pakati pa bambo wopotoza wa narcissistic ndi mwana wake wamkazi 

Atsikana omwe abambo awo ali ndi FN nthawi zambiri amanena kuti abambo awo sanathe kuwapatsa zomwe amafunikira kukula. Nthawi zambiri amaona ngati ubale wawo sukuyenda bwino. Ndi zachilendonso kuti akumbukire kupikisana ndi abale awo pa nthawi yolera ana kapena chikondi kuchokera kwa atate wawo wankhanza.

Ana ena aakazi achikulire amati ubale wapoizoni umakhudzabe kwambiri miyoyo yawo. Ambiri amadzimva kuti ali pachiwopsezo ndipo nthawi zonse amakakamizidwa kuti achite bwino, ngakhale atakhala achikulire. Anthu amene amadwala matenda ovutika maganizo nthaŵi zambiri amakhala osalakwa, ndipo atate angapangitse ana awo achikulire, makamaka ana awo aakazi, kudzimva kukhala osasungika ndi osakwanira, osakhoza kukondedwa ndi osayenera.

Makhalidwe a PN Bambo kwa mwana wawo wamkazi

Bambo woipa wankhanza nthawi zonse amakhala wankhanza, amasokoneza mwana wake wamkazi pomuimba mlandu kapena kumuwopseza. Angamugwiritsire ntchito ngati chiwongola dzanja pamasewera ake kapena kumupangitsa kuti azidzimva kuti ali ndi udindo womusangalatsa, ndipo amamumana chikondi ndi chikondi ngati sakwaniritsa zomwe iye amafuna. Kupatula apo, iye sangazengereze kumuwonetsa iye ku gaslight ngati izo zikuyenera iye.

Abambo ambiri ankhanza amachitiranso nkhanza, kaya kumenya, kumenya mbama, kapena chiwawa china chilichonse. Nthawi zambiri iyi ndi njira yolimbikitsira mwana wanu wamkazi. Ndipo nthawi zambiri, ana ambiri okhala ndi abambo a PN, amasanduka narcissistic wachinyamata wopotozedwa.

Abambo Osokoneza Narcissistic - Makhalidwe Apoizoni ndi Owopsa kwa Ana Ake?

Abambo oipa ankhanza nthawi zambiri amavulaza ana awo. Mwachitsanzo, angaphwanye malire, kusokoneza ana awo mwa kuwamana chikondi (mpaka atachita), ndi kunyalanyaza zosoŵa za ana awo chifukwa chakuti zosoŵa zawo zimadza patsogolo.

Popeza kuti zithunzi n’zofunika kwambiri kwa anthu okondana narcissists, angafune kuti ana awo azikhala angwiro. Mwana wa bambo wamwano amatha kumva kukakamizidwa kuti awonjezere maluso ake, mawonekedwe, luntha kapena chidwi. Zingawawonongere ndalama zambiri ngati achita zofuna za atate wawo ndipo zingawawonongere ndalama zambiri ngati alephera. Palibe chigonjetso chotheka.

Narcissistic Pervert ndi Banja Lake

The narcissist ali ndi lingaliro losiyana la umunthu: anthu mwina ndi magwero a narcissistic supply (ndipo, ndiyeno, okhazikika komanso okwera mtengo), kapena samakwaniritsa ntchitoyi (ndipo, ndi opanda pake, opanda mtengo). Narcissist amalandira chikondi chonse chomwe amafunikira kuchokera kwa iye. Kuchokera kunja, amafunikira chivomerezo, kutsimikiziridwa, kusilira, kupembedzedwa, chidwi - mwa kuyankhula kwina, ntchito zakunja zamalire a Ego.

  • Iye sasowa – ndipo safuna – chikondi cha makolo ake, abale ndi alongo ake, kapena kukondedwa ndi ana ake. Amawaona ngati omvera a zisudzo za ukulu wake wokulirakulira.
  • PN ikufuna kuwasangalatsa, kuwadabwitsa, kuwawopseza, kuwasangalatsa, kuwalimbikitsa, kukopa chidwi chawo, kuwagonjetsa kapena kuwasokoneza.
  • Imatsanzira ndikutengera malingaliro osiyanasiyana ndipo imagwiritsa ntchito njira iliyonse kukwaniritsa izi. Amanama (onama (narcissists ndi abodza) - iwo okha ndi abodza).
  • Wopotoza wa Narcissistic amasewera zomvetsa chisoni kapena, kumbali ina, zotsutsa komanso zodalirika. Iye amadabwa ndi kuwala ndi luso lapadera laluntha kapena thupi ndi zomwe wapindula, kapena ndi makhalidwe omwe amayamikiridwa ndi mamembala a gululo. banja lopotoka la narcissistic.

Ubwana wa Narcissistic Pervert

Opotoza a Narcissistic amadziwika ndi chithunzi choyipa cha iwo eni. Amanamiza ena ndi kuwaika pansi kuti awonjezere ulemu wawo. Amakhala ngati kuti ndi abwino kuposa ena, amafunika kuyamikiridwa, ndipo amazindikira luso lawo lachinyengo, pomwe samamva chisoni akaona ena akuvutika.

Nthawi zambiri, opotoza a narcissistic ndi amuna. Akhoza kuvulaza wokondedwa wawo, koma angakhalenso wogwira nawo ntchito, bwenzi, kapena wachibale. Zomwe zimayambitsa khalidweli sizinadziwike, koma akatswiri a zamaganizo amakhulupirira kuti ubwana wotetezedwa mopitirira muyeso, ndi kuyembekezera kwakukulu, ukhoza kukhala chifukwa. Kumbali ina, opotoza a narcissistic akanathanso kuchitiridwa nkhanza kapena kunyalanyazidwa ali ana.

Bambo Wopotoza Narcissistic - Chokani Kapena Khalani?

Kukula ndi kholo lonyozeka kapena kudzimva ngati mwana wosakondedwa kungakhalenso kowawa. Ngati mukukumana ndi zimenezi, n’kwachibadwa kusokonezeka maganizo ndiponso kukayikira zoti muchite kenako n’kumadzifunsa kuti mungatani ndi bambo amene amangofuna kuchita zinthu mwachinyengo. Pali njira zowonera bwino momwe zinthu zilili, kukhazikitsa malire ofunikira, ndikusankha momwe mungapitirire patsogolo ndi ubalewu.

Njira yothetsera vutoli ndiyo kuchepetsa kulankhulana kapena kuthetsa kukhudzana ndi bambo wamwano. Kupanga ndondomeko ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo kungakuthandizeni kupeza njira zotetezeka.

Zimathandiza kwambiri kuchepetsa kukhudzana pang'onopang'ono, zingakhale zowawa kuti nonse musiye kulankhulana mwadzidzidzi. Kuonjezera apo, angakhale achisoni ndi kutayika mofanana ndi inu.

Angakhale alibe mphamvu zosonyeza chisoni chimenechi moyenerera, koma sizikutanthauza kuti sakumva chisoni.

Buku la Bibliographic kuti mumvetsetse khalidwe la abambo olakwika

Nawa maumboni osankhidwa a m'mabukhu okhudza za abambo opotozedwa:

  1. Fleming, J. (2013). The Narcissistic Pervert - Editions de l'Atelier.
  2. Marty, P. (2014). Abambo Poizoni: pamene bambo ndi wopondereza wankhanza - Zosindikiza za Le Courrier du Livre.
  3. Lévy, J. (2017). Psychoanalysis ndi narcissism - Editions L'Harmattan.
  4. Bouchard, M. (2018). The Narcissistic Pervert ndi omwe adazunzidwa: Kumvetsetsa kudziteteza bwino – Health Editions.
  5. Charpak, G., & Grégoire, L. (2016). Kusokoneza Maganizo Anzanu - Zolemba za Albin Michel.
  6. Sargueil, J. (2019). Mwana ndi Wopotoza Narcissistic: Kumvetsetsa bwino kuti achite bwino - Editions L'Esprit du temps.
  7. Kahane, S. (2020). Narcissism: choipa chobisika - Editions Eyrolles.

Mabuku amenewa adzakuthandizani kufufuza makhalidwe a abambo oipa a narcissistic ndi zotsatira zake pa ana ndi zochitika za m'banja.

Kutsiliza

Kusiya kulankhulana ndi munthu wina ndi njira yonyanyira ndipo iyenera kugwiritsidwa ntchito ngati njira yomaliza, makamaka ngati ikukhudza wachibale. Ndikofunikira kuyesa kulankhula ndi munthuyo, kukhazikitsa malire, ndikupanga ubale womwe sudzasokoneza moyo wanu.

Koma ngati kukumana ndi wokondedwa kumakhala kowawa kwambiri kapena kovulaza, kudula maubwenzi ndi kuchoka kungakhale njira yabwino yothetsera thanzi lanu la maganizo. Kumbukirani: "Mumachita izi chifukwa thanzi lanu, kudzidalira komanso kukhala ndi moyo wabwino ndizofunika kwambiri kwa inu kuposa kukhalabe paubwenzi ndi wachibale wankhanza.".

Kufunsira:

Cristina Balan
Nkhani zaposachedwa kwambiri za Cristina Balan (onani zonse)

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