1. Kukhazikitsidwa kwa kudalira pamalingaliro komwe wozunzidwayo wavutika:
Njira imeneyi ndi mmene onse ubale woopsa. Wophayo adzatsimikizira kuyambira pachiyambi kuti wophedwayo ali kwathunthu "oledzeretsa" kuti asatulukenso. Adzasinthana pakati pa chikondi ndi kuperekedwa, mabodza ndi mawonekedwe a chowonadi kuti wozunzidwayo akhale mumdima.
2. Mavuto muzolinga zake:
Mudzaona kuti mawu ake nthaŵi zina amakhala osagwirizana, ngakhale otsutsana, ndi zolinga zake zenizeni. Mudzakhala mukukayika nthawi zonse chifukwa kutsutsana uku kumatha kukutembenukirani mwachangu. Iye samamveka bwino m'mutu mwake.
3. Chinyengo chobisika, mawu ongoyerekeza:
Kodi munawonapo kuti amakunyozani panthawi yokangana? Chabwino, simukulota, ndi zenizeni. Amadziwa kugwiritsa ntchito mawuwo "Ndikupita ngati sundifuna" kukufooketsani, ndipo ichi ndi chitsanzo chimodzi chokha. Kusintha mkhalidwewo kuti ukhale wopindulitsa ndiye wapadera kwambiri.
4. Egocentrism, narcissistic makonda:
Kudzikuza yekha, kudzitamandira chifukwa cha zomuyenereza, luso lake ndi zomwe akuchita pano. Amanyoza ena, makamaka mwamuna kapena mkazi wake amene amazunzidwa kuti adzimve kuti ndi womuposa, ndipo amachita zimenezi nthawi zonse. Kudzitamandira ndi kunyozetsa ena kumakhalabe mphamvu zake zabwino kwambiri.
5. Nsanje yowoneka ngati kukhala ndi chuma chochulukira:
Wozunzidwayo adzaganiza kuti nsanje yawo ndi yachibadwa, mwachikondi, koma iwo akulakwitsa kwambiri. Kukhala ndi mkazi wokhotakhota wa narcissistic nzosamvetsetseka chifukwa amakonda kuwongolera, kupangitsa nyama yake kukhulupirira kuti malo ozungulira si abwino kwa iye kapena malingaliro ake.
6. Mabodza okakamiza:
Mkazi wokhota monyodola amagona ngati munthu akupuma. Zowonadi, kuwongolera nthawi zonse kumadutsa mabodza kulamulira wozunzidwayo. Izi zitha kuwoneka mumphindi zochepa za moyo watsiku ndi tsiku, mudzawona kuti zimabisa zowona, zimabisa zinthu, ndi zina.
7. Amawomba kutentha ndi kuzizira:
Sasowa mphamvu yakukondani ndipo nthawi yomweyo amakuzunzani. Zimakupangitsani kukhala wodekha komanso wankhanza nthawi yomweyo. Mawu achipongwe, achipongwe ndi opweteka ali ofala pakati pawo.
8. Amawakopa omwe ali nawo pafupi kuti afotokoze momveka bwino komanso motsimikiza popanga chisankho:
Mosiyana ndi zimene amachita moipitsitsa, iye sapewa kulimba mtima kwake pamaso pa ena mwa kuwakakamiza, mwachindunji kapena mwanzeru, kuti azichita zinthu mwangwiro. Amamukakamiza kuti azichita zinthu moona mtima, momasuka komanso momveka bwino pa zomwe amachita naye, zomwe samachita.
9. Imabalalitsa maganizo a anthu kuti alamulire bwino:
Malingaliro wamba sangasangalatse mkazi wopotoka wankhanza. Amakonda kugawanitsa anthu, kunena zomwe wina wanena ndikubwereza kwa mnzake.
10. Amanenedwa monyoza:
Popeza amadziŵa kuoneka bwino, ngakhale pamene palibe, anthu amalankhula pambuyo pake. Makamaka popeza nthawi zina amalimbikitsa mantha ndi chete kwa omwe ali pafupi naye, amakonda kulankhula za zochita zake ndi mawu ake kamodzi msana wake watembenuzidwa.
Zizindikiro Zavidiyo Zosokoneza Narcissist
Makhalidwe a mkazi wonyenga
Kuti mumumvetse, muyenera kudziwa kuti sanakhale a narcissistic wopotoza kwa chisangalalo chenicheni. Mwina kholo lomwe palibe komanso losasamala, mayi wodekha komanso wodekha ndiwo zimayambitsa zazikulu.
- mkazi uyu amakhala ndi mbali zingapo: ali ndi nkhope zingapo zomwe zimasintha malinga ndi zofuna zake kapena chilengedwe chomwe chimamuzungulira. Dziwani kuti amawonetsanso zizindikiro za bipolarity. Nthawi zina amakhala wolongosoka, wokoma komanso wokoma mtima ndipo nthawi zina amakhala wosapiririka.
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- Ndilo lalikulu: kukhazikika kwa kupotoza kwa narcissistic sikungapindulidwe mwachisawawa popanda kuwongolera. Womalizayo amadziwonetsera yekha mwa kulamulira wozunzidwayo ndiyeno kumusiya m'manja mwake.
Kodi mungapangitse munthu wokonda narcissist kuti azikondana?
Funso lodziwika bwinoli limafunsidwa movutikira ndi amuna kapena akazi omwe amazunzidwa mwankhanza. Yankho n’lakuti ayi, chifukwa chakuti chotsiriziracho ndicho choyamba ndiponso chachikulu cha matenda amene amapeza mpata pakati pa wakuphayo.
Choncho nkovuta, kapena kuti n’kosatheka, kwa mkazi wokhota wankhanzayo kumva chikondi kwa mnansi wake. Amangowona kunyengerera kwa wozunzidwayo, amadya zowawa zawo, mantha awo ndi kukayikira kuti apeze mphamvu, osaganizira za chikondi chomwe chingakhalepo.
Kumverera ngati chikondi kumangoyerekeza ndipo sikubweretsa chilichonse chokhalitsa.
Kodi mkazi wonyenga amachita bwanji m'banjamo?
Pamaso pa aliyense, amachita ngati mkazi ndi a mbiri ya mayi wokonda narcissistic chitsanzo. Imawonetsa chithunzi cha banja langwiro pamene ikubisala kumbuyo.
M’chenicheni, ana ake ndi amene anangovutika ndi chiwembu chakecho. Panyumba ndi mayi wopanda chikondi komanso wopanda chikondi, ndipo ana ake amaumirira kuchita zomwe akufuna kuti aziwakonda.
Wozunzidwayo amavutikanso chimodzimodzi chifukwa zochita zawo zili pachifundo chawo.
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Ndi njira yothandizanso anthu, popeza ineyo ndakhala ndikutha kupeza chithandizo kwa anthu osawadziwa pamoyo wanga wonse. Palibe anthu opotoza a narcissistic padziko lapansi pano komanso mwamwayi! Pano tikuthandiza anthu kumvetsetsa zomwe zikuwachitikira ndikupita kumoyo wopanda anthu onyoza - moyo wanu wabwino kwambiri! Simuli nokha ndipo mutha kusintha kuti mukhale ndi moyo wokhutiritsa, wodzaza ndi mtendere, mgwirizano ndi chikondi!
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