Kuwombera Mabomba: Kodi njira yopusitsira iyi ndi chiyani?

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M'chikondi, sikuti zonse zimachitika ngati nthano. Zochita zoipa zikuyamba kuonekera mu maubwenzi achikondi masiku ano. Kukonda kuphulitsa bomba kapena chibwenzi chopotoka. Mukufuna kudziwa zambiri? Werengani mpaka kumapeto.

Kodi kuphulika kwachikondi ndi chiyani?

Chikondi kuphulitsa, kwenikweni ndi "chikondi" neri du "bomba", kapena kukonda kuphulitsa mabomba. Ndi njira yogwiritsidwa ntchito ndi wopotoza wa narcissistic pankhaniyi kuti amulamulire wozunzidwayo. Ali ndi chidaliro chonse mwa iye ndipo amakhulupirira kwambiri kukhazikika kwa ubale wawo. Izi chidaliro chosocheretsa Akakhazikika, adzachititsa khungu wozunzidwayo ndikuwatsogolera kudalira maganizo zosatha.

Kondani Mabomba, Mzimu watsopano

Njira zopotoka izi nthawi zambiri zimanenedwa kuti ndizosiyana, koma pamapeto pake zimalumikizana.

  • Mabomba achikondi atayamba kugwira ntchito, munthuyo amachoka ndipo sabwerera. Mauthenga ndi malemba amasiya mwadzidzidzi. Pambuyo pa chiyanjano chozama pamabwera a kutalikirana kosadziwika bwino kuchokera kwa wopotoza wa narcissistic. Ghosting imagwira ntchito.
  • Njira iyi yamatsenga ikuwoneka mu nkhaniyi m'malo ochezera a pa Intaneti, malo ochezera a chibwenzi kumene mauthenga "kutentha" ndipo wodzazidwa ndi chikondi unaphulika. Kuyanjana ndikosavuta ndikugwiritsa ntchito emoji yamtima, mawu achikondi ndi osavuta kulemba.

Anthu oipa amadziwa kugwiritsa ntchito njira ziwirizi pamodzi kuti awononge awo wovulalayo, kuchuluka kwa chikondi ndi kungokhala chete.

 

Kukonda Mabomba, njira ya Narcissistic Pervert

Titha kuyeneretsedwa kale munthu wapoizoni monga wopotoza wa narcissistic mu ubale. Choncho utenga njira zosiyanasiyana kukumanga m'ndende nthawi yaitali. Ubale wapoizoni udzakhala mathero a imfa kwa wozunzidwayo. Zifukwa zake ndi:

  1. zoyambira za ubale wanu zitha kukhala zopanda pake, pafupifupi nthano yomwe imatha ndiukwati ndi ana ambiri;
  2. mudzadzazidwa ndi chikondi, ndipo inde, mudzazengereza ngati tsekwe kuti nthawi zina mumamva ngati pang'ono "naonongeka";
  3. mawu omasulira awa a "mochulukitsa" adzakukokerani ku chikondi chenicheni ndi chinyengo;

Kodi kuphulitsa kwachikondi kumawonekera bwanji?

Mukungoyenera kukhala ndi mutu wozizira komanso kukhala tcheru kwambiri kuti muzindikire.

  1. Munthuyo adzakusokonezani ndimakukondani et chidwi. Ndithu mudzakhutitsidwa ndi malingaliro abwino ndi malingaliro abodza;
  2. mphatso, kulengeza chikondi mopambanitsa, malonjezo a moyo wonse, ntchito yodziwika bwino yamtsogolo, ukwati ndipo ana ali pa pulogalamu, mukhoza kukondwera;
  3. pamene mutsala pang'ono kusweka, adzabweranso akuthamanga ndi mafunde atsopano achikondi ndi kukoma mtima;
  4. wozunzayo amadana ndi kukwiya ndipo adzaonetsetsa kuti mwayankha kuti inde ku mtundu uliwonse wa chithandizo chimene akupatsani;
  5. Ndiye idzafika nthawi yomwe wophayo ayamba kukhala kutali, wozizira komanso wopanda chidwi. Mudzamva njala ya chikondi ndi chisamaliro chake chabodza;
  6. Kuwombera kwachikondi kungayambitse kusamalira mtsogolo

Ndipo apa ndipamene akachita bwino kuphulitsa kwa Love ndi Ghosting.  

Kuwombera kwachikondi: kunyenga kapena kunyengerera?

Njira yogwiritsira ntchito mankhwalawa ndi iyi:

  • Le cholinga cha narcissistic wopotoza ndiko kukunyengerera m’njira yokondweretsa, kotero kuti ukodwa msanga;
  • Pamenepo inu adagwidwa ndi mawu achikondi, manja achikondi kwambiri;
  • Adzaonetsetsa kuti mukukondana naye mopenga kuti mutsimikizire kuti simudzathawa;
  • Akukonzekera nanu zamtsogolo, kusonyeza kuti ntchito zonse zazaka zomwe zidzatsatidwe ndizokhazikika;
  • Zovuta zanu ndizosaiwalika, zosiyana kwambiri ndi zomwe mudamva pamaso pake, ngakhale mwina ndikumverera chabe;
  • mukangoledzera kotheratu, adzakusiyani m’kayikiro ndipo mopepuka adzatembenukira ku nyama ina;
  • mutadzuka ku maloto anu, mudzazindikira kuti magawo ndi achilendo, koma adzabwera kwa inu monga kale, nadzakutsimikizirani kuti ndinu bwenzi lake;

Mukakumana ndi zina mwa zizindikiro zake, khalani tcheru ndi zochita zake, ndikungopusitsa. Ngati mukuganiza zokopa, ndizokha chinyengo chabe.

Reverse Love Bombing

Le reverse chikondi mabomba, amatanthauza nthawi yomwe anthu omwe si a narcissism amapeza kuti akugulitsa ndalama zambiri paubwenzi ndi munthu wamatsenga. Nthawi zambiri, "kuphulitsa kwachikondi" kumalumikizidwa ndi anthu onyoza omwe amasokoneza zolinga zawo ndi chikondi komanso chidwi kwambiri. Mabomba achikondi obwerera kumbuyo amafotokoza machitidwe a anthu omwe, chifukwa chofuna kutsimikiziridwa ndi chikondi, amapita kutali kuti asangalatse ndikusangalatsa mnzake wankhanza. Khalidweli litha kuphatikizira kudzipereka kwakukulu, kuyika ndalama, komanso kulimbikira, kuwonetsa chikhulupiriro chakuti ayenera "kulandira" chikondi ndi kuvomerezedwa ndi wolankhula. Osachita izi! Ndinu wangwiro momwe mulili ndipo palibe chifukwa chochitira chilichonse kuti musangalatse PN. Mukuyenera bwino!

Maumboni a m'Baibulo

Nawa maumboni asanu ndi awiri a m'Baibulo pamutu wa "kuphulika kwachikondi":

  1. Woyimba, M. T. (2003). Mipatuko pakati pathu: kumvetsetsa ndi kulimbana ndi mphamvu zawo zokopa. Paris: Éditions de l'Homme.
  2. Demers-Morabito, M.-E. (2020). "Bomba lachikondi ndi chiyani?" ". Psychologist.net.
  3. Rozenblum, J. (2023). "Awiri: "Kuwombera kwachikondi kumagwiritsidwa ntchito ndi anthu omwe akufuna kugonjetsa winayo." Chifukwa dokotala.
  4. Strutzenberg, CC, Wiersma-Mosley, JD, Jozkowski, KN, & Becnel, JN (2017). "Kuwombera kwachikondi: njira yosokoneza pakupanga ubale." Discovery, The Student Journal ya Dale Bumpers College of Agricultural, Food and Life Sciences, 18, 81-88.
  5. Beri, R. (2024). "Phunziro Lokhudza Mabomba a Chikondi, Narcissism ndi Nkhanza Pakati pa Achinyamata Achikulire mu Ubale ndi Situationship." International Journal of Interdisciplinary Approaches in Psychology, 2(6).
  6. "Kuwombera kwachikondi - Wikipedia".
  7. "Kuwombera kwachikondi: Chenjerani ndi chida ichi chopusitsa." Anahana.

Magwerowa amapereka chidziwitso chozama cha kuphulitsa kwachikondi m'malo osiyanasiyana, kuphatikiza maubwenzi pakati pa anthu ndi kusokoneza miyambo.

Kutsiliza

"Kuwombera kwachikondi" ndi njira yonyenga yomwe imaphatikiza kunyengerera ndi kuzunza. Kumbuyo mopitirira muyeso ndi chikondi, nthawi zambiri idealized pa chiyambi cha ubwenzi, amabisa poizoni chitsanzo msampha wozunzidwayo kudalira maganizo. Chodabwitsa ichi, chomwe nthawi zambiri chimakhudzana ndi machitidwe a anthu osokoneza bongo, amatha kuwononga kwambiri m'maganizo. Kukhala tcheru, kumvetsera maganizo a munthu payekha ndiponso kuunika bwinobwino ubale wanu n’kofunika kwambiri kuti mudziteteze ku zinthu zoterezi. Kumbukirani kuti chikondi chenicheni sichifuna kuti anthu azichita zinthu mwachipongwe.

Cristina Balan
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