Banja Loyipa la Narcissistic - Kodi Gululi Limagwira Ntchito Motani?

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Kukhala pafupi ndi munthu wokhotakhota sikophweka, kotero kuti kukhala ndi banja lonse lopotoka lachipongwe n'kochepa. Koma kwenikweni ndi chiyani? Kodi banja lachipongwe limagwira ntchito bwanji ndipo mumadziwa bwanji ngati muli ndi vuto pochita ndi banja lotere? 

Banja la Narcissistic Perverse Banja - Ndi Chiyani?

Sikophweka nthawi zonse kufotokozera bwino banja lopotoka lachipongwe. Koma chochitika chofala kwambiri ndi chakuti m’modzi mwa makolowo ndi wopotoka mwankhanza. Kotero mwina bambo kapena mayi ali ndi vuto la khalidwe ili ndipo iwo adzachita zoipa zawo pa banja lawo. Nthawi zina matendawa amafalikira kwa anthu ena a m’banjamo. Komabe, m'banja loyipa la narcissistic, nthawi zonse pamakhala umunthu wolamulira ndipo banja limazungulira choyipa chachikulu ichi. Mwamuna kapena mkazi wake komanso ana ozunzidwa adzafuna kukondweretsa munthu uyu ndipo adzatsatira ulamulirowu. 

Kodi Banja la Narcissistic Perverse limagwira ntchito bwanji?

  • Banja loyipa la narcissistic limagwira ntchito mokhazikika molamulidwa ndi wopotoza wamkulu. Izi zitha kukhala chizolowezi monga kukonda ndalama, kudana ndi ena, kudana ndi anthu ochokera kumayiko ena, kupatula omwe si a fuko. 
  • Wopotoza amawomba kutentha ndi kuzizira m'banjali. Zoonadi, wopondereza wamkulu m’banjamo amakhala ndi mphamvu zopondereza anthu a m’banja lake. Amapondereza mkazi wake ndi ana ake kuti asakhalenso ndi umunthu uliwonse. L Munthu yekhayo amene amawerengedwa ndi wa narcissistic wopotoza.
  • Popeza iye amaonedwa kuti ndi “mutu” wa banja, woponderezayo amaonetsetsa kuti banja lake limam’tumikira ndi kulemekeza ulamuliro wake. Ozunzidwawo adzakhala opanda chochitira. Amalamulira banja lake, mpaka kuwachotsa pakati pa anthu ena onse, mabwenzi kapena achibale ena. 

Mnzake wa narcissistic wopotoza

Ziyenera kumveka kuti wopotoza wamatsenga amamva kuti ali pachiwopsezo mkati mwake momwe amawonera anthu omwe amamuzungulira kudzera muzochita zake zankhanza. Munthu woyamba kukhudzidwa ndi vuto la wopotoza adzakhala mkazi wake. Zochitika ziwiri zitha kuchitika muubwenzi pakati pa PN ndi mkazi wake: 

  1. Mwina mwamuna kapena mkaziyo agwera m’kusoŵa kwanthaŵi ino kapena kuipa : Pamenepa, mwamuna kapena mkazi sagonjera kwathunthu kwa wopotoza, amangokhutira kukhalabe chete. Zimazirala pang’onopang’ono ndipo zimataya umunthu wake. Kumayambiriro kwa chiyanjano, wokondedwa wa wopotoza wamatsenga amagwedezeka ndi mawu okoma ndi chidwi choperekedwa ndi mnzake. Ndipo iye adzagwera mu chizolowezi ndipo nthawi zonse ayenera kupeza zizindikiro izi kachiwiri. 
  2. Mu chochitika chachiwiri, a mwamuna kapena mkazi adzayesetsa kuthetsa vutoli mwa njira zonse kuti asangalatse ndi kutumikira wopotoza narcissistic. Adzakwaniritsa zofuna zake zonse ndi zofuna zake. Wopotoza wa narcissistic adzalamulira mnzakeyo ndipo adzakhala ndi mphamvu zonse pa moyo wake, maubwenzi ake ndi malingaliro ake. Kuti apitirizebe kulamulira wokondedwa wake, amasintha zenizeni ndikuchotsa chiwopsezo chake pa iye. Amadzikayikira kwambiri moti mosazindikira amayesa kusonyeza kusowa kwake kumeneku kwa mnzake.

PN ndi banja lake: ubwana wosokonezeka m'maganizo

Ana a narcissistic wopotoza akhoza kukhala NPs okha kapena kungokhala ozunzidwa mtsogolo PN wina m'moyo wawo wamtsogolo. 

1. Mwanayo amasandukanso munthu wamkulu wopotoka wankhanza

Ndi zachilendo kutimwana wa PN nayenso akhoza kukhala mwana narcissistic wopotoza. Chifukwa chake adatengera khalidwe la abambo ake opotoka kapena ake narcissistic mayi wopotoka. Mwanayonso adzakhala munthu wa PN ndipo adzayesetsa kugwiritsa ntchito mphamvu zomwe adaziwona kuchokera kwa kholo lake panthawi yake ubwana. Osati kokha kukhala m'banja losagwira ntchito narcissistic, komanso mosazindikira adzalenga malo omwewo. Chotsatirachi chimapezeka chifukwa chakuti mwanayo amabadwa ndipo amakulira m'malo osakhazikika komanso oopsa ndipo kwa iye izi ndizo "zachibadwa".

Chifukwa chake, ngati palibe kulowererapo kapena kuzindikira komwe kumachitika, amangokhala ngati abambo ake kapena amayi ake a PN. Chitukuko chake chidzadziwika kwambiri ndi khalidwe lopotoka la narcissistic, kudzikonda koonekeratu komanso kusowa chifundo pa chirichonse. Akazindikira kuti salinso mwana, amatengera khalidwe loipa lomwelo chifukwa ndi zimene ankadziwa.  

2. Mwana wa PN: wozunzidwa ndi PN

Zimachitikanso kuti mwana yemwe adakhala m'banja lopotoka mwankhanza sakhala ngati makolo ake. Komabe, akadzakula amangokopeka kuti akumane ndi munthu wa PN chifukwa ndi amene amamudziwa. Adzayesa kufunafuna chikondi ndi chisamaliro chimene nthaŵi zonse anali kukanidwa kwa iye ali mwana. Adzadziona ngati chinthu, chifukwa makolo ake amamuganizira nthawi zonse. 

Chilengedwe m'banja loyipa la narcissistic ndi poizoni kwambiri ndipo ana samathawa osavulazidwa. PN ndi ana ake alibe mgwirizano weniweni. Mwana wobadwa kuchokera kwa kholo lopotoka lachipongwe kaŵirikaŵiri amakhala mkhole wa kupanda chikondi koonekeratu, chotero akadzakula, adzafuna kudzaza kusoŵa kumeneku. 

PN ndi mwana wake wamkazi

Makolo a FN ndi mwana wawo wamkazi alibe mgwirizano wachikondi. Ngati ndi mayi wa PN, amawona mwana wake wamkazi ngati mdani ndipo nthawi zambiri amafunafuna kumuposa pamapulojekiti ake, kuwononga maubwenzi ake achikondi kapena kusirira. Mtsikana wochokera tate wopotozedwa wa narcissistic nthawi zambiri amakumana ndi amuna akhalidwe lofanana ndi abambo ake akakula. Maubwenzi ake nthawi zambiri amakhala oopsa komanso owononga mpaka atazindikira vuto lake ndikuchitapo kanthu mwachangu. 

PN ndi mwana wake

Pankhani ya a mbiri ya mayi wokonda narcissistic ndi mwana wake, zimachitika kuti pakati pawo pali chigololo. M'malo mwake, mayi samaganizira za kufooka kwa mwana wake ndipo amamupanga kukhala mnzake. Zomwe zimapanga chizolowezi muubwana. Pankhani yomwe ndi bambo wa PN ndi mwana wake wamwamuna, chiwawa, kunyalanyaza ndi kunyoza ubwana ndizo zomwe zimachitika kawirikawiri. Ndipo nthawi zambiri mwanayo amatengera maganizo a bambo ake.

3. Zofanana ndi mwana wa PN 

  • Ine / fake ndekha: Khalidwe limeneli lidzalandiridwa mwachidziwitso ndi mwanayo, chifukwa pamene akuwonetsa umunthu wake ndi umunthu wake weniweni, amalandira malingaliro oipa ndi kutsutsidwa kosokoneza. Kenako adzawona kuti umunthu wake weniweni sunavomerezedwe ndipo adzayesa kudzipangira chigoba. Kuphatikiza apo, amamanga chipolopolo ndipo motero umunthu wonyenga. 
  • Ana awa samadzikonda okha (amadzida okha) / kapena amagwera m'zao zawo: Chitonzo ndi kusadziŵika kochitidwa ndi kholo lopotoka lachipongwe pa mwana wake kudzapatsa wotsirizirayo lingaliro lakuti samaŵerengera. Kapena kuti "sakukwanira" kapena kuti "safunikira" kanthu. Mwanayo amadziimba mlandu ponena za yemwe iye ali ndipo izi zidzatsogolera ku chidani chachikulu. 

Kodi tingapulumuke m'manja mwa Banja la Narcissistic? INDE

  1. Gawo loyamba lili pamwamba pa zonse kuzindikira kuti tinakulira m’banja lopotoka mwankhanza. Kuzindikira kumeneku kungatenge nthawi ndipo nthawi zambiri kumakhala kowawa kwambiri kuvomereza. Nthawi zambiri timangoona mmene zinthu zilili tikakula. 
  2. Chinthu chachiwiri kuchita ndi khalani ndi malire : Mfundo apa ndikuzindikira zomwe zingaloledwe ndi zomwe ziyenera kutsutsidwa. Mukakumana ndi vuto limene simulikonda ndipo simuli wokonzeka kuvomereza, ino ndiyo nthawi yoti munene. 
  3. Kuthetsa gehena ndi banja lachipongwe, kudula kulumikizana ndikofunikira. Simungathe kudzimasula nokha ku banja loyipa la narcissistic popanda kukhala patali. Podula maubwenzi, kudzakhala kosavuta kuchiza ku zovulaza zomwe zachitika kwa zaka zambiri ndikudzimanga.
  4. Ndizofunikira sunga moyo wako, ndi kukhululukira zoipa zakale. Kuti mukhale ndi moyo wabwino, muyenera kudziwa kuyiwala ndikupitilira. Sichinthu chophweka, koma ndizotheka. Zingatenge nthawi, koma ndi chithandizo choyenera ndi njira yomanganso, ndizotheka kupeza njira yobwerera. Ndipo kukhala ndi moyo watsopano popanda zowawa.

Ndili ndi Makolo a Narcissistic - Ndiyenera Kuchita Chiyani?

  • Chinthu choyamba chimene mungachite mutazindikira kuti muli ndi makolo osamvera ndi kudzikhululukira nokha. Zowonadi, kaŵirikaŵiri, mwana wa kholo lopotoka lachigololo amakonda kudziimba mlandu ndi kukhulupirira kuti ndi vuto lake ngati makolo ake sakukhutira. Muyenera kumvetsetsa kuti iyi si vuto lanu ayi komanso kuti ndinu wozunzidwa. 
  • Nthawi zambiri, kulumikizana ndi makolo osalankhula kuyenera kudulidwa. Nthawi zina, savomereza mfundo yakuti mwanayo wasankha kudzimasula yekha ku ulamuliro wawo. Ndipo ganizani zopangitsa mwanayo kudziimba mlandu kwambiri. Zinthu zimakhala zovuta kwambiri ndipo pamenepa muyenera kudula kukhudzana kwathunthu.
  • Atangomasulidwa ku mtolo wake, mwana wa munthu wopotoza wankhanza adzatha kuchiritsa ndi kukhala ndi moyo wabwino kwambiri. Sichapafupi kusuntha zotsatira za ubwana wozunguliridwa ndi banja lachipongwe, lopotoka. Kuti mupeze chithandizo, nthawi zambiri pamafunika kukaonana ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo wokhazikika pa opotoza a narcissistic. Amathandiza ozunzidwa kuti akhale ndi moyo wabwino kwambiri. 

 

Cristina Balan
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